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Outgrowing Porn From A To Z (Part 2)

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

N is for Ninety DaysO is for OutgrowP is for PlasticityQ is for QuestionsR is for Redemptive RiskS is for Supernormal StimuliT is for Trauma & Tra...

Outgrowing Porn From A To Z (Part 1)

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll learn 13 key concepts for outgrowing porn based on the first 13 letters of the alphabet. Check out the list below for fur...

Neglect: Hidden Trauma (with Stephen Thomas)

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do I know if I was neglected? And what can I do about it? Stephen Thomas unpacks 6 types of neglect, why neglect fuels shame and addiction, and wh...

Redeeming Heartache (with Cathy Loerzel)

27 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Heartache has a pattern, and so does healing. Author and therapist Cathy Loerzel explains the 3 types of heartache, and a powerful path to healing for...

The Five Types Of Intimacy

20 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is intimacy? How can I find it? Most intimacy is not sexual. Most intimacy is spiritual, social, emotional, mental, and physical. Learn why each ...

Get Your Man Cards (with Henry Brown)

13 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Men are lonely. How can we develop deeper friendships?  Introducing Man Cards: a card deck of conversation starters for men designed by Drew Boa and ...

Why Porn Is A Solution (with Matt Dobschuetz)

06 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You'll never outgrow porn if you believe it's the problem. In this episode, Matt Dobschuetz explains why porn is a solution, and the surpris...

Long Distance Friendship (with Drew, Stephen, Marcus, and Mike)

30 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever wish your friends lived closer? In today's world, long distance friendship is more possible and pervasive than ever. What are the ble...

Becoming Emotionally Mature (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

23 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is emotional maturity? How can we increase our emotional intelligence? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci explains the three components of emo...

Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

16 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is the difference between sexual arousal and sexual desire, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter powerfully explains this ...

Should I Count The Days Since I Last Used Porn?

09 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Let me help you decide if “counting the days” is right for you. In this episode, you'll learn 2 bad reasons to count, 3 good reasons to count...

Porn And Centering Prayer (with Matthew Lyda)

02 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is centering prayer? How can it help us when we're triggered or preoccupied? In this episode, Matthew Lyda explains the 4 Rs of centering pr...

The Gospel And Trauma (with Matt Wenger)

25 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How does the gospel interact with trauma? In this episode, Matt Wenger explains a Christ-centered and clinically innovative approach to healing trauma...

How To Heal Your Inner Child: Older Brother Coaching

18 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What if you could become a loving older brother to your inner child? In this episode, you'll discover how to do this through Older Brother Coachi...

The Blessing Of Being Reported (with Rich Moore)

11 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What if being reported for criminal sexual activity can be a blessing? In this episode, Rich Moore explains how being reported saved his life and prop...

Healing Racial Trauma (with Sheila Wise Rowe)

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is racial trauma? How does it affect us all, and what does healing look like? In this episode, Sheila Wise Rowe shares insights and stories about...

Why Didn’t I Like Vaginas?

28 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re not attracted to typical porn, have you ever wondered why? In this episode, I explore the roots of my negative association with female sex...

How Does God View My Body? (with Matt Cline)

21 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What does God think about my face, my gut, and my penis? In this episode, Matt Cline unpacks what the Bible says about our bodies—why they have valu...

Toxic Shame vs. Healthy Shame (with Dr. Jake Porter)

14 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is there such a thing as healthy shame? How can we heal from toxic shame? In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter shares eye-opening answers to these questio...

Vulnerability 101 (LIVE)

07 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is true vulnerability? Why is it so important? When is it safe? And how can I get better at it? In this episode, I answer all these questions and...

The Power Of Identity (with Sathiya Sam)

28 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Who are you? What defines you? Performance? Porn addiction? Sexual attraction? In this episode, Sathiya Sam reveals the power of having a secure ident...

Rags To Riches To Ruin To Redemption (with Dr. Joe Martin)

21 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"You can't possibly hate yourself more than I love you. You can try, but it ain't gonna happen. You can try, but I have until eternity....

How To Reframe A Porn Relapse

14 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What's the best way to respond to a relapse into porn, either for yourself or for a friend? In this episode, you'll learn the power of viewi...

Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 2 (with Mike Chapman)

07 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is "normal" for survivors of sexual abuse? And what does healing look like? Mike Chapman offers validation and wisdom based on years of...

Healing From Sexual Abuse, Part 1 (with Mike Chapman)

31 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You have to hear Mike's story. Mike Chapman is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), trafficking, and sexual assault as an adult by clergy....

Was I Sexually Abused? (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

24 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How can I know if I was sexually abused, and why does it matter? In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter answers these important questions while opening u...

Introduction To Healing Prayer (with Leslie Weinzettel)

17 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is healing prayer? What is it (not) about? What can we expect from it? This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is interested in healing pray...

Building A Porn-Free Body: Momentum (with Alex VanHouten)

10 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Alex VanHouten shares wisdom about exercise, nutrition, and physical fitness while keeping God at the center of it all. Alex VanHoute...

Building A Porn-Free Body: Motivation (with Alex VanHouten)

03 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How can physical fitness help you outgrow porn? In this episode, professional trainer Alex VanHouten explains why and how strengthening your body can ...

The Beauty Of Elephant Seals

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Find out why northern elephant seals are my favorite animal, and how they have helped me unlearn self-contempt.More About Elephant Seals:"Seven T...

How To Make Sex Great (with Sheila Wray Gregoire)

20 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What if everything you’ve been taught about sex has set you up for disappointment? In this episode, Sheila Wray Gregoire explains how sex can become...

Appropriate Nudity Between Men (LIVE)

13 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When is nudity appropriate for men outgrowing porn? How can nudity become healing rather than harmful? In this episode, I will be vulnerable about my ...

Healing Sports Wounds (with Stephen Thomas)

06 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We live in a sports-centric culture. Have you ever felt like less of a man because of this? If you sometimes measure your masculinity based on athleti...

Solutions For Stress (with Marcus Spaur)

29 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress? In this episode, Marcus Spaur explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy stress, why self-care is...

Five Truths About Forgiveness

22 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Forgiveness is crucial to healing, but so often misunderstood. Get clarity about what forgiveness is (not) with these five truths: 1. Forgiveness is ...

The Orphan Spirit (with Dr. Eddie Capparucci)

15 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever felt like an orphan? Do you long to belong, but have difficulty trusting others? In this episode, Eddie Capparucci unpacks "the orp...

The Image Of God In You (with Jenna Riemersma)

08 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The image of God in you is good. In this episode, author and therapist Jenna Riemersma beautifully explains how the image of God can bring healing and...

How Jesus Reverses The Curse

01 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you feel unworthy or unlovable, please listen to this. It's a sermon—the same one I preached at the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa...

Why Men Need To Play (with Dr. Michael Crocker)

25 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Play is not optional for outgrowing porn. It's essential! In this episode, Dr. Michael Crocker explains why play supports sexual recovery, and wh...

The Power Of Unfiltered Poetry (with Matthew Ray Lyda)

18 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want to feel loved? Then you must remove your filter. Matthew Ray Lyda is here to help us do that... through the power of unfiltered poetry!Mat...

The Cure For Comparison (with Dr. Michael Tso)

11 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we compare ourselves to others? What is the cure for comparison? In this episode, my dear friend and mentor Michael Tso and I talk about our st...

Porn Is An Abusive Teacher

04 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How does porn (mis)educate us? What exactly does it teach? In this episode, I'll share the 5 As of porn, the 2 core messages, and how to experien...

Sexual Discipleship (with Dr. Juli Slattery)

27 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Sexual discipleship is teaching people HOW to think about sexuality, not WHAT to think about sexuality." In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery...

Overcoming Enmeshment (with Dr. Ken Adams)

20 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How does enmeshment with a parent lead to sexual brokenness? And how can we heal from it? In this episode, Dr. Ken Adams will inspire you to break fre...

How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies

13 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do your sexual fantasies ever feel confusing or disturbing? Have you ever wondered why they are so powerful, or how they work? In this episode, you wi...

Why Attachment Is The Key To Healing (with Dr. Jake Porter)

06 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Attachment is at the core of who we are, why we struggle, and how we heal. Dr. Jake Porter explains attachment in a way that is powerful, practical, a...

How To Form A Triad (LIVE)

23 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Get wisdom on how to practically build brotherhood with 2-3 other men. At Husband Material, we call groups of 3 men "triads." In this episod...

Healthy Male Friendship (with Drew, Stephen, Marcus, and Doug)

16 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why is it so hard to make friends with other men? How can we go deep and get close without getting inappropriate? What about physical touch? Many of u...

Your Brain Off Porn (with Greg Oliver)

09 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why is it so difficult to stop using porn? What brain chemicals are involved, and how do they work together? Listen to recovery coach Greg Oliver answ...

The Pirate & The Monk (with Nate Larkin)

02 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One of my all-time favorite storytellers is Nate Larkin. In this episode, Nate tells his whole story. You'll hear how he failed as a Pharisee, ho...

Theology of the Testicles

26 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is God's design for the testicles? How do testicles uniquely reflect the image of God? You might be surprised! This episode is a follow-up t...

What Is Spiritual Bypass? (with Dr. Craig Cashwell)

19 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever met someone who over-spiritualizes everything? In this episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell introduces the concept of spiritual bypass: how spiri...

From Crisis To Closeness (with Clinton and Charity Muñoz)

12 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This is the story of a couple who nearly divorced 4 years into marriage due to chronic sexual betrayal. They got a lot of bad advice and made a lot of...

Bullying And The Inner Critic (with Dr. Doug Carpenter)

05 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The voice in your head that constantly criticizes you, saying you're weak, ugly, stupid, or not good enough is the voice of a bully. Bullying can...

Master Your Nervous System (LIVE)

28 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is the autonomic nervous system and why should I care? Because freedom from porn depends on it. Being able to notice, name, and navigate your ner...

Healing Mother Wounds (with Dan Hitz)

21 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is a mother wound? How do you know if you have one? And how can mother wounds be healed? In this episode, Dan Hitz tells the story of his mother ...

Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson)

14 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is God's purpose for the penis? How does it reflect the image of God? And how can I reclaim the goodness of my penis? Join me and Jeremy Wil...

Emotional Times And Seasons

07 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why are certain times of the day, week, or year more difficult? Because emotions fluctuate. In this episode, I'll help you prepare for emotionall...

Psychology And Spirituality (with Dr. Ken McGill)

31 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How does psychology relate to spirituality? How does therapy relate to theology? Dr. Ken McGill is a Christ-centered clinician who has been answering ...

How To Measure Freedom From Porn (LIVE)

24 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Measuring freedom from porn usually produces self-contempt or self-righteousness. How can we avoid these two pitfalls? Is there a better way? Yes, the...

Porn As Re-Enactment Of Sexual Abuse (with Wendell Moss)

17 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we return to porn even though it harms us? What if we return to porn precisely because it harms us? The answer is often re-enactment. "Re-...

Healing Brother Wounds (with Marcus Spaur)

10 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever been hurt by a sibling or close friend? Sometimes porn is used as a pacifier for painful peer relationships... or in some cases, the lac...

Unwanted Sexual Attraction

03 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Let's change the way we talk about sexual attractions and desires. No matter who or what you're sexually attracted to, this episode is for y...

The Truth About Erectile Dysfunction (with Shawn Bonneteau)

26 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is more common—and curable—than you might think. Hear Shawn Bonneteau's story of PIED/ED, why he continued ...

Embrace Conflict (with Jay Stringer)

19 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Porn is a pacifier for conflict...with God, with others, and even with ourselves. Learn to embrace conflict in a redemptive way with author and therap...

BONUS: Drew's Spiritual Warfare Song

12 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Listen to this short clip on repeat to memorize Ephesians 6:10-17.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast...

Seven Strategies For Spiritual Warfare (LIVE)

12 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We are not in a war against sexuality (which is good); we are in a war against evil. Come learn 7 strategies for spiritual warfare based on the Tempta...

Rebuilding Sexual Intimacy After Porn (with Adam King and Karissa King)

05 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In a marriage devastated by porn, when and how should sex come back into the picture? In part two of this two-part series, Adam King and Karissa King ...

Rebuilding Emotional Intimacy After Porn (with Adam King and Karissa King)

29 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In a marriage devastated by porn, how do you rebuild trust? In part one of this two part series, Adam King and Karissa King share the 5 steps every co...

The Art Of Affirmation (with Stephen Thomas)

22 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We believe practicing verbal affirmation is absolutely essential to outgrowing porn. In this episode, Drew and Stephen will tell you why, and share pr...

Healing Father Wounds (with Chris Bruno)

15 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How does porn relate to your father? If you have been under-fathered, what does it look like to be re-fathered? And how can we become fathers who reve...

Transform Your Thought Life (with Sathiya Sam)

08 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Let's change our brains. How can we take back control of our thoughts and transform our core beliefs? My fellow Canadian friend Sathiya Sam is he...

Nine Tips About Triggers

01 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What are triggers? How do triggers work? And most importantly, how can we take back control when we get triggered? This episode will answer each of th...

Holy Sexuality & Singleness (with Dr. Christopher Yuan)

23 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hear Dr. Christopher Yuan's amazing story of coming to Christ, surrendering same-sex attraction, and embracing the gift of singleness.Dr. Christo...

A Pastor Finds Freedom From Porn (with Bernie Anderson)

15 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Outgrowing porn can be especially difficult for pastors and ministry leaders. Hear how Pastor Bernie Anderson got found out, but found a way out...and...

What Should I Do With My Sexual Desires?

08 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What should I do with my sexual desires—my attractions, urges, impulses, cravings, fantasies, aches, longings, and yearnings? I've been on a qu...

Blind Spots In Relationships (with Eddie Capparucci and Stephen Thomas)

01 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all have blind spots. But what are they? If we knew, they wouldn't be blind spots! Listen to a lively conversation between 3 leaders as we tal...

Jesus Is Our Pure Hope (with Jasper Hall)

25 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Let's redefine purity: it's a relationship, not an accomplishment...it's about presence, not performance...and according to Jasper Hall...

When Porn Seems Like The Only Option...

18 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever feel trapped? Let me give you 5 empowering choices when it feels like porn is the only option...and along the way, I'll tell a story ...

What Is A Sexually Healthy Man? (with Andrew Bauman)

11 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us grew up without a clue about what it means to be a sexually healthy man. That's why I'm so grateful for Andrew Bauman and his new...

Fight The New Drug (with Clay Olsen)

04 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The global anti-porn movement is gaining momentum. In this episode, you'll hear about it directly from Clay Olsen, co-founder of Fight The New Dr...

How To Relate Like An Adult

28 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Learn the two styles of relating you need to outgrow in order to enjoy the freedom of life as an adult.Interested in outgrowing porn? Learn more at ou...

Marnie Ferree: Meet The Three Bears

21 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Within each of us, there are three bears in three chairs. Listen to Marnie Ferree explain why, and you'll understand yourself in a whole new way....

Greg Oliver: Prepare For A Porn-Free Christmas

14 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It's the most triggering time of the year! Have yourself a healthy little Christmas with tips from Greg Oliver as shares the 4 challenges we all ...

Stephen Thomas: Shame Is A Terrible Friend

07 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Shame sucks. In this episode, Stephen Thomas shares a childhood story of humiliation, his struggle with porn and same-sex attraction, and how he found...

The Gospel For Sexual Sinners (Live)

30 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How does the gospel speak into sexual brokenness? This episode is all about who Jesus is and who we are as sexual beings in Christ.Free resource: chec...

Josh Glaser: Lust And Love

23 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What's the difference between lust and love? Hear from Josh Glaser as he shares his story of healing and we talk about what it means to not just ...

How To Fall Asleep Without Porn

16 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

If lust is your lullaby, this episode is for you. Learn the unique reasons why porn serves as a sleep aid and how to find a better solution. Support ...

Laurie Krieg & Matt Krieg: Same-Sex Attraction In Marriage

09 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

People say Matt and Laurie's marriage is impossible. Laurie's same-sex attraction and Matt's addiction to pornography almost led them t...

Dr. Eddie Capparucci: Porn And The Inner Child

02 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Behind the scenes of sexual addiction, the inner child is running the show. Porn is his pacifier and lust is his lullaby. So who is this kid, and how ...

Dr. Doug Carpenter: Trauma And Masculinity

26 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to "be a man"? What is true masculinity? Dr. Doug Carpenter cuts through the clutter and defines masculinity in a way that...

Six Skills To Help Men Outgrow Porn (LIVE)

19 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Learn the G.R.O.W.T.H. model for helping men outgrow porn:G = Going FirstR = Repeating & RephrasingO = ObservingW = Weaving & WaitingT = Telli...

Rodney & Traci Wright: How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex

12 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How can we help the next generation develop healthy sexuality in a pornographic world? That's the question Rodney and Traci Wright answer on toda...

Why You Should Treat The Sabbath Like Sex

05 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Does the Sabbath seem like a boring, outdated obligation? It's not when you treat it like sex!Download the free “Design Your Day Of Delight” ...

Crystal Renaud Day: Women Struggle With Porn Too

28 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Guys, we're not the only ones who need to outgrow porn. Shout out to all the ladies following Husband Material even though it's meant for me...

How To Outgrow Porn (Intro to HMA)

18 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this presentation, I'll share the most powerful way to change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship without fighting an exha...

Bless The Boy Within You (LIVE)

14 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Men don't get hooked on porn...boys do. In this episode, I'll guide you through an exercise to help you build trust with the young boy in yo...

Three Proven Power Tools To Prevent Porn Relapse

07 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Outgrowing porn is about so much more than eliminating unhealthy behavior. At the same time, preventing relapse is a necessary short-term skill, which...

Healing Sexual Bulimia

24 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you binge on porn and then purge it all from your devices, promising to never look again? In this episode, you'll learn 2 ways to stop the cyc...

Rosie Makinney: Help Your Girlfriend Heal

17 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What if you're dating someone while outgrowing porn? How can you support each other effectively? Join us for a conversation with Rosie Makinney o...