I Think I Like You
Episodes
On life coming into bloom post-divorce with Melisa Russo | Ep 167
06 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
These days, I find myself with an insatiable hunger for stories (meaning, real-life human stories) of unexpected outcomes. Of having life go one way w...
And one day, her husband just left (at the start of the pandemic). On Belle Burden's memoir "Strangers" | Ep 166
29 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Did you read Strangers? The memoir that blew up....idk, everywhere...over the past few months. Here's the down-and-dirty, which is really not a s...
When you wanted kids — and the time passed. On life now, as a woman. | Ep 165
22 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Call it turning 40, call it the state of the world, call it....just life (?), but lately, all I am hungry for is deep, real, can't-put-a-bow-on-i...
The friend zone isn't where someone put you. It's where you put yourself — and there's a very good reason why. | Ep 164
08 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Register for my May 7th Event in NYCRecently, a beloved follower DM'ed me and said, without any mincing of words, "I need an episode on the ...
Oooooh ok this is how you ACTUALLY surrender, even when you still want something | Ep 163
01 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Private Coaching Spaces OpenRegister for my Dating Workshop in NYCA few weeks back, I was perusing Instagram as one does, and I was fed Nikki Heyder...
On bringing back the genuine fun, whimsy and romance of dating (seriously) | Ep 162
25 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in DatingWork with Me PrivatelyLike many of you, I've been completely...
I love my friends, but I’m also jealous that they’re married and have kids | Ep 161
18 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in DatingHere's something I hear a lot from my clients:"I know t...
When Everything Starts to Feel Like It Doesn’t Fit (and what to do about it) | Ep 160
05 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Ever since I turned 35, my sense of self — who I know myself to be — has undergone a continuing, and in some ways quite rapid, evolution. Now, at ...
The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest, whether she's single or in a relationship | Ep 159
25 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest. Not because no one wants her — but because she's spent years making herself so easy,...
When your marriage starts to shift in your early 40s | Ep 158
19 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In the last few years I've started to notice something in my peers, colleagues and clients who are a few years deeper into their 40s — and a fe...
On the ups and downs of dating, and now, a new, blooming relationship post-major breakup | Ep 157
11 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Nearly four years ago, my friend and colleague, Diana Davis, went through a life-altering breakup. She and her then-boyfriend of over six years decide...
On choosing your hard in life, the power of your ability to tolerate uncertainty and more with Megan Hellerer | Ep 156
04 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week I've invited my dear friend and colleague, Megan Hellerer, back on the podcast. Megan was on the podcast in the fall of 2024 for the la...
On the comfort of being single (a fresh take) | Ep 155
28 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Years ago, back when I first started this podcast, I shared an episode entitled "The comfort of being single." I will link to that podcast b...
How social media has bastardized the meaning of "blocks," a whole new way to look at codependency, and more with Bea Victoria Albina | Ep 154
21 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Quick videos with quippy captions, over-simplified sound bites and energy influencers claiming they understand your body better than you do your own, ...
On falling for colleagues and bosses who make us feel really 'seen.' | Ep 153
14 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Years ago, I fell hard for a boss. Initially, I might have used the word love. That I fell in love with him. Now much older, knowing what love actuall...
Here's what 2026 is asking of you with psychological astrologer Dani Beinstein | Ep 152
07 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Psychological astrologer and general fountain of wisdom, Dani Beinstein returns! In this episode we talk about:How the struggles, obstacles and gener...
Two things I wish I'd done when past relationships, situation-ships, and flings came to an end | Ep 151
17 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tis the season, or so it seems, to reflect on all I wish I'd done differently. While these breakups and ruptures I speak of are from a few years ...
A former client of mine has a baby on her own, by choice, but still plans to "find love on her timeline." Here's her story. | Ep 150
10 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Many of the women I work with fall into their late 30s and early 40s, that spot when if one desires children, things can feel a bit precarious. Will I...
Let your (dating) life hurt. Like really, really hurt.| Ep 149
03 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
It always astounds me how often clients will say to me: "I know, I know. I just need to get OVER this." To which I reply, "It sounds li...
How to mine your past or current (I do this in my marriage!) relationships for limiting patterns | Ep 148
26 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Tis the season to REFLECT. That's the heart of today's episode. I love this time of year for getting cozy, sipping something delicious, and ...
The thing(s) we miss when we're stuck in feelings of "I'm behind..." | Ep 147
21 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The fear of running out of time or feeling behind (of peers, friends, societal perceptions) is valid, to be sure. But our focus on that feeling blinds...
How taking everything on at work, ignoring the dissatisfaction in your job, and just going through the motions of life influences the quality of your relationships | Ep 146
19 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you the planner, the doer, the one who takes on everything? Maybe it's really hard for you to delegate, or you fear if you aren't the on...
On men being intimidated by your $$ career $$ and clients who make more money than their partners | Ep 145
05 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Often women will come to me and say:Men are intimidated by my career/how much money I makeI don't know how to meet someone who doesn't feel ...
Letting people go, pausing dating apps, saying 'no' — all ways of actually bringing *more* momentum to your pursuit of partnership | Ep 144
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the past few weeks clients of mine have:Let go of people they really liked but ultimately weren't the right fitSlowed down their dating pract...
3 ways overachievers can remain chronically single or struggling in relationships | Ep 143
22 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I'm discussing how our propensity to work hard and get things done, and specifically the way we:Place high value on something tha...
Preparing for a relationship is not about knowing what you want and need. Here's what is. | Ep 142
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A client will often say to me, "I've finally figured out what I want and need in a relationship," with the sentiment that the figuring ...
On going down ex boyfriend rabbit holes. And should I reach out? | Ep 141
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In late August, whilst driving my 10 month old around, furiously throwing "organic" teething crackers in the back seat in hopes he would bot...
Ep 140 | How I would meet someone if I were single, right now, at nearly 40, that I know would absolutely work.
01 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In about 6 weeks, I turn 40. I often meet clients on the precipice of 40. There, or a little ways after, and there are always (naturally), lots of fee...
2 on the surface helpful ways we can bypass the truth of our (romantic) lives | Ep 139
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The obsession with healing ourselves is real, and these days, more often than not, I find myself guiding clients to pull back on all the materials and...
On being chronically single | Ep 138
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is one of those episodes that came in like a force — it started with a simple question from a follower, then ballooned into like 45 more, with ...
Ep 137 | This is what healthy dating actually looks like (Pssst we're back!)
27 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What if everything you think dating should look like is actually keeping you single? Or constantly thinking you're doing something wrong or that ...
How to know when it's time to take a break...from dating, hanging with a certain friend, or running a podcast | Ep 136
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today's decision is something I've been noodling on for the past month. I've decided to take a break from running this podcast. But I d...
The practitioner that healed my gut, but really, changed the trajectory of my life | Ep 135
12 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Eight years ago, I landed myself in the office of a nurse practitioner/functional medicine specialist who specialized in gut health. I had been inexpl...
The exact advice you need when you're tired, frustrated and feel like nothing is advancing in your life | Ep 134
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
March was a rough month for me. I found myself fighting the tail end of sleep training with Jude, my son. I was in a constant state of frustration aro...
An argument for swiping left more. Yes, more. | Ep 133
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In a recent Instagram post, I spoke about how many of my clients hold a fear that a relationship will swallow them whole. This isn't a misconcept...
The season in life where I thought "Maybe I just don't want a relationship" | Ep 132
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
There was a moment about five years ago, around age 34, where I thought to myself: Maybe I just don't want a relationship.Clients will say a sim...
This is where the feeling "I'm never going to meet someone" comes from | Ep 131
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Private coaching spaces are open.Here's something I hear from clients all the time:I'm never going to meet someone.There's no one left....
If you want something new (the new job, the new partner), you're going to have to let something go| Ep 130
11 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Private coaching spaces are open.When we want to acquire something new, be it a new job, a new relationship, a new home, a new life experience, we ten...
This might be my go to marriage + dating advice for all of 2025 | Ep 129
04 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The other week a friend sent me a clip from Instagram, and despite not being the biggest Logan Ury fan, I really got down with what she was saying her...
I've been in therapy for years but I'm still single. What gives? | Ep 128
28 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Here's where I meet most of my clients: They've been in therapy for years, they have a tremendous amount of awareness around their stuff —...
Why you don't need to (and shouldn't) go on a million dates to meet someone in 2025 | Ep 127
21 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Work with me privatelyTake one of my online coursesJanuary tends to be a month rife with a lot of "I'm going to do this and that and goals g...
Embracing a slow start to 2025 and my first few weeks as a mom | Ep 126
14 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How are you all? It's been a minute! I'm slowly coming out of my cocoon of maternity leave. I'm only working part time, if that in Janu...
Why is sex with the people who are so wrong for us so good w/ therapist, Julia Zwerin | Ep 125
21 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We've all had the guy (or....guys ; )) who don't communicate well, who leave us in the dark, who aren't looking for commitment or exclu...
How overachievers shoot themselves in the foot with their careers, and what we can do about it | Ep 124
25 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How in touch are you with your curiosity? How much do you listen to it and let it guide you? In life, but especially in your work?Like many of you lis...
*Podcast Update* What's coming, where I've been, new courses, my maternity leave, etc.
14 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Hello friends — it's been a minute since we've had a new episode! I'm popping in here with some updates to the podcast, my coursework...
How do we sit with the desire for a relationship while also not knowing when it will happen? | Ep 123
20 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This is a question I dance with, and often, with clients. How do we sit with our desire for something, and attempt to work towards it, but not know if...
We don't necessarily need our partners to come fully therapized, our confusion around settling, and the emotional labor necessary for us all in relationships w/ Kara Loewentheil | Ep 122
13 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A few months prior, I caught the wedding announcement for my friend and colleague, Kara Lowentheil, in the NY Times. It wasn't the flowers or her...
Do you believe yourself to be desirable? Do you expect to be asked out? A sneaky way you could be self sabotaging your dating life | Ep 121
23 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What's your perception of yourself? How do you view yourself? Based on that, what do you believe is or isn't available to you? What do you t...
Part III: How our drive to be good, to be high achievers, to put other people's needs before our own keeps us single or stuck in unhealthy relationships | Ep 120
16 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode marks part three in our series exploring patterns of the eldest daughter/hero child, and how that either leaves us chronically si...
Part II: Why eldest daughters/hero children can remain chronically single or just have so much resistance to dating | Ep 119
09 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
New Offerings!The Situation-ship SootherThe Breakup / Post-Divorce ReviewWe're back with part II of our eldest daughter/hero child series, and th...
<Mini Ep> Why do women who don’t do the work, who are are just as messed up as the rest of us, find great people? Why does it just never happen for me?
05 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
I love this question and even more so, this listener for asking it. In this quick mini ep, I'm expanding upon the following points below — i.e....
Part I: How Eldest Daughters/Hero Children Struggle in Relationships | Ep 118
02 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today kicks off a three part, maybe four (lots to discuss!), that goes deep into a subject I broached on Instagram a few weeks back: Eldest daughters/...
<Mini Ep> Go ahead, be hopeless. You don't need hope for your dating life.
31 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Hello, friends. Popping in with a short and sweet episode — something I plan to do more of — digging into the following question I received from a...
How do we know if we're settling? How did I know my husband was the one? Should I do a prenup? And more in this Q+A Episode |Ep 117
26 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
It's the thick of summer and we're digging into a Q+A episode this week. Thank you so much to those of you who submitted questions!In this e...
My ultimate goal with clients isn't marriage | Ep 116
12 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Private Coaching Spaces are OpenJoin the Big Dating Nap // Dating Sanity Capsule combined programOne might assume from the nature of the work I do, th...
Dealing with MONEY in relationships | Ep 115
04 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ya'll we are digging into all things MONEY today. This is a real doozy of an episode, so settle in for a long walk, a batch of laundry or whateve...
On Making, Maintaining and Letting Go Of Friends In Our 30s and 40s | Ep 114
28 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On the heals of a very significant friendship ending for me in the last few years, the nature of friendship — what drives our friendships, what they...
On trusting the (divine) timing of our lives + What's behind *feeling* behind | Ep 113
24 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Private Coaching Spaces are OpenDo you feel behind in life? It's a question I face and contemplate with clients (and often myself) all the time. ...
The career conversation I'm having with all my 38ish friends | Ep 112
12 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Over the last few months I've had a series of conversations with friends/colleagues (some with kids, some without), that have gone:I'm looki...
On being resistant to ease in your dating life — and life in general | Ep 111
06 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Did you grow up learning to work hard, get good grades, get into the best school(s) possible, hit any academic and professional achievement that you c...
You're going to have to f*ck up a lot in your dating + relationship life | Ep 110
30 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Private Coaching Spots are Open"Dating apps have brought the promise of the business-like crispness of falling in love." Sherry TurkleIf you...
How much is enough? In life, money, career, love, etc. w/ Catherine Zack | Ep 109
24 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Private Coaching Spaces are OpenThis week I'm sitting down with Catherine Zack, a beloved friend of the podcast. She's been on numerous time...
A Transparent Look at My Journey Into Pregnancy (1st Trimester) | Ep 108
22 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Private Coaching Spaces are Open In today's podcast I'm sharing what the first few months of my pregnancy have been like. My husband and I...
On being the girl who never got asked out and *now* desiring a relationship | Ep 107
14 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Spring/Summer private coaching spots are open!Available for folks single and seeking partnership, single and seeking space/work to go inward, and folk...
When You Just Need to Put Everything Down | Ep 106
10 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you just hit a hall? What does that 'wall' tend to look like for you? These are questions I'm contemplating and explo...
How did you know you wanted to marry your husband? (Slash how I called in my husband) | Ep 105
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Preview My Upcoming ProgramWork with me PrivatelyA few weeks back a client said to me: "How did you know your husband was the one?"While I d...
When you're not getting any matches on dating apps | Ep 104
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Work w/ MeSneak peek my next program launchGet on my email listIn today's episode, I'm digging into two patterns I witness again and again i...
What do I do when I like someone and I'm not sure if they like me back? | Ep 103
09 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Work w/ MeSneak peek my next program launchGet on my email listThis week we are revisiting the grey area of dating — that sticky, stressful space wh...
How making a list of all the things you want in a partner is working against you, not for you | Ep 102
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I'm digging into a recent question from a listener:Hey Clara! What are your thoughts on a long list of requirements for ...
Why we need to rethink our attachment styles (especially if we're anxious) | Ep 101
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Private Coaching Spots are OpenGet on my email listAre you obsessed with your attachment style and "fixing" it? Perhaps, even more so, if yo...
My fertility journey is feeling like my dating journey — wildly unpredictable | Ep 100
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I'm opening up about my fertility journey, and how the ups and downs, are reminding me a lot of my dating journey. Namel...
What are the "best" places to meet people? | Ep 99
12 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Private coaching spots are now open! Apply here.Oftentimes, in our dating journey, when things aren’t working out or we can’t seem to meet people…...
What if my job/ travel schedule/lifestyle makes it *impossible* to date? | Ep 98
05 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This was the question that slid into my DMs a few weeks back. Well, a portion of it. It was two fold:How do I date when I literally travel all the tim...
The over-therapized nature of social media + how it’s effing with our expectations of life and relationships | Ep 97
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you easily absorbed by therapeutic claims on social media? Do you read a post and then think...I think I have a disorganized attachment styleI thi...
"I don't want to waste time dating" --> How that goal is working against you | Ep 96
20 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Here's something clients say to me all the time:I don't want to waste time dating.I totally get where they're coming from, but that des...
On feeling like you're in a dating coma and wishing for a jumpstart | Ep 95
13 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When I launched my most recent program, the Big Dating Nap, I had a few sweet followers reach out and say:I don't need a nap. I'm in a datin...
I think this is such a cool thing to put in your dating profile. | Ep 94
09 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's short episode, I'm sharing something I love to have my clients add to their dating profiles to mix up the monotony.This episode w...
A way to approach dating when you feel like you're never doing "enough." | Ep 93
06 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself saying.... "I know I should be doing more in dating. I know I need to put myself out there." Most women I speak with do...
What to do with all the feelings of, "I'm behind in life. I'm never going to meet someone." And so forth. | Ep 92
30 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel behind in life? Do you wrestle with feelings of...if I just had:That jobThat houseThat relationshipThat moneyThen I'd be....golden (i...
Dani Beinstein is back with thoughts on the state of the world + what's coming with 2024 | Ep 91
26 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Danielle Beinstein, one of my favorite thinkers and creators is back with a mish mosh of 2024 perspective. Grab a cup of something good and cozy up to...
My husband and I talk about our exes all the time, and here's why | Ep 90
16 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode I'm sharing one of my most prized elements of my marriage: our ability to talk about our past. Specifically, our past rel...
The 3 concepts that are guiding my work, my marriage, and my overall life in 2024 | Ep 89
08 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode I'm sharing three things I recently heard + read that stopped me dead in my tracks, and have really shaped my perspective...
Should I stop dating this person? How do I know? (Plus a SUPER exciting announcement!) | Ep 88
12 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do I stay....or do I go? Do I keep seeing this person...is it worth it? Will things change? Will they develop into more? Ooooh goodness are those ques...
2 clients recently entered relationships — here's what they did that did NOT involve dating that made all the difference | Ep 87
05 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Any opportunity I have to debunk the myth that the fastest way to meet someone is by dating as much as possible, I love. So in today's episode, I...
I'm finally ready to talk about my wedding | Ep 86
28 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, I'm opening up about what went down around my wedding in the fall of 2022. This episode has been a long time coming,...
The holidays are effing hard, a casual chat w/ my husband James | Ep 85
19 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A fun episode for your holiday travels or time in the kitchen. xx ClaraWork with me PrivatelyConnect on InstagramWebsitePodcast Production by James Jo...
Why is friendship so hard + weird right now? | Ep 84
15 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you satisfied friendship-wise? Are your friendships evolving in a way that you didn't see coming? Are you feeling out of sorts when it comes ...
On the fear of driving someone away by saying how you feel | Ep 83
09 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Oh the fear of coming on too strong, or being too much, or being too....something, that ultimately drives our crush, love interest, or partner away.Wh...
The importance of rupture and repair — a client's story on how they broke up and did the necessary work to get back together| Ep 82
03 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We toss around the idea of having to have the breakdown to have the breakthrough, but what does that actually look like? It's the main reason I w...
Why it's so damn hard to build confidence + self trust in dating, relationships + sex (and how we actually go about doing it) | Ep 81
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Recently a listener reach out with the following question:"Hey Clara — I'm 35 and have never been in a relationship or had sex. I find mos...
On not getting asked to the dance + how it's showing up in your love life now | Ep 80
20 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Oooooh adolesence. YEESH. I was recently binging "The Summer I Turned Pretty," and it was giving me all the feels. Namely because. I never h...
This is how I coach my clients to use the dating apps + what does and doesn't matter | Ep 79
10 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the grand scheme of things, I spend very little time on a client's dating profile. Most folks are usually surprised to hear that, so I wanted ...
It’s not your fault. It’s nearly impossible to leave a situation-ship. | Ep 78
03 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
While in more modern times we've coined the term 'situationship,' these types of relationships — ones where our desire something or s...
On stepping into marriage and motherhood in your 40s | Ep 77
26 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's enlightening episode, join me as I have a deep conversation with Kerri Keaton, a corporate executive turned human design specialist, a...
Most dating advice is doing a bang up job of making us feel like we're not doing enough | Ep 76
04 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever read a bit of dating advice, only to implement what it said and have it either a) not work, or b) make you feel worse about yourself? #r...
My husband and I chat about our childhoods, how those experiences show up in our marriage now, and how we navigate the differences | Ep 75
04 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I'm delighted to bring my husband, James, back on the podcast today for an open conversation around what I believe to be one of the most crucial ...
*Fall Teaser* Here's what's coming in Sept! 🍁🍁🍁
01 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A short preview of what's coming this fall.Work with me PrivatelyConnect on InstagramWebsitePodcast Production by James Jorge
When you *know* there's something standing in the way of your growth but you can't put your finger on it | Ep 74
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When my dear friend Katherine came to me a few months back and said "I did mushrooms and I need to tell you what came up," it wasn’t the...
Kris Wylder on Navigating Relationships + Motherhood Not Looking Like What You Thought It Would | Ep 73
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I've had the pleasure of knowing Kris for over a decade, and boy have our lives changed within that timespan. What began as two fellow food blogg...
4 Common Pitfalls in Dating Where I See People Getting Stuck | Ep 72
03 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
On a recent walk with my pups, I was marinating on the shared habits and characteristics of my clients who are now in long term relationships. It got ...