Is it Me or is it Them? with April Boyd
Episodes
What If I'm the Problem? When Growth is Isolating
16 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
What if the question isn’t “What’s wrong with me?” — but “What if I’ve outgrown the room I’m in?”In this episode, April explores a q...
When Saying No Isn’t Respect: They Want Control, Not Connection
08 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Is there someone in your life who doesn’t take no for an answer? No matter how thoughtful, flexible, or accommodating you try to be, you still end u...
Why Talking It Through Isn’t Working
30 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As the holidays wind down, many women are realizing that despite having the conversations, choosing their words carefully, and doing their inner work,...
The Third Way: Between Doormat and “Difficult Woman”
11 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Episode DescriptionMost women are taught there are only two ways to move through conflict and relationships:Be nice → swallow your feelings, smooth ...
Between Self-Abandonment & Explosion, Softness = Power
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We’re taught to toughen up, care less, harden ourselves. But you probably already know that none of that actually works. It doesn't make us safer or...
How to Decide If a Hard Conversation Is Worth It
06 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When something feels off in a relationship, how do you know whether to speak up… or let it go? In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, I walk yo...
The Hidden Weight of Always Holding It Together
02 Dec 2025
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Are your expectations a little unrealistic? If you’ve been feeling that pressure to be endlessly composed, endlessly capable, endlessly “fine” —...
Reconnect or Keep Your Distance? Listen to this Before You Reopen Old Friendship
25 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you been feeling the urge to reach out to that old friend you took distance from? As we move into the holidays it can be tempting to re-connect—...
Should You Go… or Sit This One Out? Navigating Family Gatherings Without Losing Yourself
13 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re wrestling with the choice to go to the family event or finally opt out of the chaos, this episode is for you.Today we explore how to decid...
3 Questions When You Wish You’d Handled it Differently - and How to Stop Punishing Yourself
07 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever replayed a conversation - picking apart what you said, how you said it, or wishing you’d handled it differently? Maybe a mistake ...
3 Ways to get back in Control when Life is Crazy Busy.
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When life is moving a mile a minute, it’ might feel like you just want to get in your car and get away for a few days. But you don’t need to book ...
Anxiety Advice That Might be Keeping You Stuck
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, we unpack one of the most misunderstood ideas about anxiety: the belief that feeling safe is the ultimate ...
What Happens When You See the Worst in the Person You Love.m4a
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
No one warns you about this part of love. One day you look across the table at the person you built a life with—and ask yourself: What if I made a ...
Silence or Truth? Two Times I Bit My Tongue—And One Time I Didn’t.m4a
29 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Want to get better at speaking up? Sign up for the free on-demand workshop that will help you be more confident in standing your ground when you're de...
When Your Partner Won’t Stand Up to Their Family
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when the problem isn’t just your in-laws—but your partner’s refusal to set limits with them?In today’s episode of Is It Me or I...
Silenced, Mocked, Dismissed: The 'Karen' Effect"
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on a cultural trend that might seem harmless, but actually functions as a form of social contro...
When You’re Afraid to Speak Up—Start Here
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome back to Is It Me or Is It Them? After a short break, I’m so glad to be back with you—and today, we’re diving into something that comes u...
Being the 'Good Wife' is Overrated + 2 Reasons Why We Over-Function.
11 Mar 2025
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Send us a textToday we explore two reasons why the heavy burden many women feel when juggling responsibilities in their personal and professional li...
You Want More Support—But Are You Blocking It?
04 Mar 2025
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Send us a textThe episode dives deep into the often-overlooked dynamic where one partner assumes a parental role over the other. We explore the roots ...
Is Your Self-Sacrifice Hurting Your Relationship?
26 Feb 2025
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Send us a textWe all know that building healthy relationships requires open communication- but what when they don't want to hear what you have to...
Turn Anxiety into Purpose
21 Feb 2025
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Send us a textAre you feeling the anxiety & stress that's all around us right now? Me too. That's why I decided to put some energy into ...
The Power of Validation & An Invitation to Create & Contribute
19 Feb 2025
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Send us a textCan a simple act of validation shift our relationships, both personally and professionally? Join me, April Boyd, as I share insights fro...
Is It Just a Rough Patch or a Deeper Relationship Issue?
11 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIs it just a rough patch or a sign of a deeper relationship issue? This is the question I should have been asking during my first marria...
The World Needs More Do-Gooders: A Workshop Invitation
07 Feb 2025
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Send us a textWhen things feel frightening and uncertain in the world around me, I try to go back to what I know for sure. One thing I know for sure i...
3 Questions to Ask When You're Feeling Unappreciated.
30 Jan 2025
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Send us a textIs it needy to want to feel appreciated? Or just a basic relationship need? in relationships? The episode discusses over-giving tend...
Under-Functioning Partners + Balance + Peace + Trade-Offs that Work
14 Jan 2025
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Send us a textAre you in a relationship someone who doesn't seem to carry their weight? Ever found yourself wondering if the trade-offs in your r...
Self-Validation + Finding Peace When They Won’t Meet You Halfway
07 Jan 2025
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Send us a textIn this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, therapist & coach April Boyd explores the tension and frustration that arise in relation...
ONE Question to BOOST your SELF-ESTEEM & RELATIONSHIPS
02 Jan 2025
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Send us a textIf I had to pick the one question that has made the biggest difference in my life, my self-esteem and my social circle- this might be th...
5 Boundaries when Dealing with Difficult People
06 Dec 2024
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Send us a textEver wonder why some individuals persistently disregard your boundaries, or don't seem to care if they are having a negative impact...
You're Not Lazy or Broken. It's the End of the Year! We're all Tired.
20 Nov 2024
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Send us a textHave you been feeling unmotivated, a bit burnt out or low energy lately? Have you been feeling like you just don't want to do any...
Talk it Out or Take Quiet Action? + Conflict & Boundaries with Difficult People
30 Oct 2024
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Send us a textThere seems to be so much advice that tells us to "talk it out," but what we seem to overlook is that talking it out comes wit...
Thoughts from the Bold as Love Retreat
22 Oct 2024
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Send us a textEver find yourself holding back with your friends? Like maybe you shy away of sharing your accomplishments, or you downplay your gift...
5 Ways to Support Someone After Baby Loss
15 Oct 2024
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Send us a textMiscarriage and infant loss are heart-wrenching subjects that are often met with silence in our society. Listen in to this episode to ...
Trusting Your Gut: 3 Lessons from My Taxi Cab Mishap
24 Sep 2024
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Send us a textEver had that gut feeling that something just wasn't right, but you ignored it? I recently ignored my intuition about someone, an...
Disliked & Judged? Asked Yourself This
17 Sep 2024
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Send us a textDoes it weigh on you when someone just doesn't like you? Do you catch yourself questioning your worth and actions? Or trying ha...
Aging Truths + Myths + One Question You Need to Ask if You're Feeling Old
03 Sep 2024
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Send us a textI turned 45 this year! Yay! It was so interesting to notice how frequently people asked me how I felt about getting older, like they ...
How to Deal with a Chronic Complainer.
21 Aug 2024
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Send us a textHow do you handle a friend or loved one who constantly unloads their problems on you, but never seems willing to make any changes? Pe...
Generosity + Boundaries + Avoiding Conflict with Corrine Boudreau
18 Jul 2024
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Send us a textEver found yourself in a difficult situation with someone as you realize that you each had wildly different expectations of each other t...
Less Frustration + More Flow + How One Tiny Upgrade Can Change Your Vibe
24 Jun 2024
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Send us a textIn this episode, I share a piece of advice my sister gave me about how to treat myself better, raise my standards and improve my quali...
When They've Done You Wrong (& They're Not Sorry): Meeting Defensiveness with Clarity & Power
20 Jun 2024
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Send us a textWhat do you do when someone refuses to acknowledge their wrongdoing?Often times, we can find ourselves trying to explain and justify why...
Body Insecurities + Self-Loathing + How to Stop Chasing Perfect and Start Living More Now.
29 May 2024
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Send us a textEver felt like you need to change your body before you can feel free to enjoy your life? Like you go to the beach but hide under a towe...
Creating a Life Without Regret: True Desires vs. Social Expectations & Social Media Comparisons.
21 May 2024
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Send us a textEver find yourself at a crossroads, paralyzed by what your future might hold if you choose one path over another? Or worried that o...
Less People Pleasing, More Integrity
17 Apr 2024
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Send us a textHave you ever found yourself hesitantly mumbling 'yes' when every fiber of your being was screaming 'no'? Welcome to...
the energy of control + when fear & anxiety are in control of your calendar
09 Apr 2024
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Send us a textToday, we pull back the layer of an over-scheduled life to see what is really going on with that part of us that can't slow down,...
Is it Imposter Syndrome or Fear?
27 Mar 2024
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Send us a textWhy are so many women downplaying their brilliance, their skills and procrastinating on their big dreams?Imposter syndrome is a word tha...
The Fear of Judgement + Comparison + One Truth that Changes Everything
20 Mar 2024
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Send us a textEver avoid doing something you really want to do because you're worried you're going to be judged or feel like you're not...
self doubt + trusting your instincts + raising your standards
14 Mar 2024
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Send us a textEver catch yourself doubting your instincts or second guessing your decisions? Ever feel like you've outgrown a relationship or s...
The Courage of to Be Yourself: A Conversation with Tuck Cornelius About Authenticity, Art, Laughter & Surviving Really Hard Things
27 Feb 2024
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Send us a textToday we have a special guest! And I got to tell you, I have never laughed so much while talking about really hard topics. Tuck C...
Slowing Down in a World That Never Stops
18 Feb 2024
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Send us a textHave you ever felt the world spinning a little too fast, leaving you gasping for a moment of peace? I certainly did, and that's why...
Why You Fall Back into Old Habits: How To Do Change that Works
11 Jan 2024
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Send us a textHave you ever noticed how there's a change that you want to make, you make a declaration, you say now's the time I'm go...
The Hat That Challenged My Friendships & When You Outgrow Your Circle
09 Jan 2024
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Send us a textHave you ever felt like a change as small as a new hat could throw your entire circle of friends into a tailspin? In this episode I&ap...
Have You Normalized Being Frustrated, Mistreated & Taken for Granted?
04 Jan 2024
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Send us a textI was working in a coffee shop the other day when I couldn't help but overhear a conversation between the two women sitting next to...
5 Signs it's Time to Expand Your Social Circle
02 Jan 2024
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Send us a textEver felt like conversations with your friends are running on a loop, touching the surface but never getting into the stuff that actuall...
The Pressure to be Pretty: Beauty Standards & Self-Worth
28 Dec 2023
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Send us a textAs I was at the movie theatre last night, I noticed a strange little habit that I was doing mentally, a habit that I've probably do...
You Deserve More Than "Just Getting Through & Just Getting By"
26 Dec 2023
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Send us a textWhat would change if you started treating your own wellness, aliveness and vitality as if they were really important things to nurture a...
Graceful Assertiveness when Someone is Rude, Mean or Inappropriate
19 Dec 2023
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Send us a textEver found yourself tongue-tied when an aunt passes judgment on your career choices or your mother in law shots a passive aggressive arr...
3 Questions to Ask When You're Overwhelmed & Over-Loaded
12 Dec 2023
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Send us a textAre you finding it hard to keep up with the chaos of life, feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list? This time of year is especially crazy...
Feeling Judged & Disliked? 3 Realizations to Help You Care Less
05 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver just try harder when you get the vibe that someone doesn't like you? I used to take someone not liking me as a sign that I j...
5 Changes I Made to Be a More Relaxed Woman & Get Off The Hamster Wheel
28 Nov 2023
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Send us a textEver feel like you're drowning in your to-do list? Let's change that. I’m April Boyd, and I’ll guide you to declutter your...
Navigating Childlessness with Katy Seppi: Friendships, Belonging & Worthiness
21 Nov 2023
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Send us a textHave you ever noticed that the first question we often get asked as women when we're meeting someone new is "so do you have ki...
Cancelling Plans, Energy Management and Self-Care
07 Nov 2023
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Send us a textI recently canceled three commitments within ten days and it felt amazing. Do you ever feel like you'd just love a night to slow ...
Fighting with Your Partner? Try this Perspective Shift
24 Oct 2023
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Send us a textWe've all been there - stuck in an recurring argument with our partner, feeling unheard and misunderstood and never getting to the ...
5 Questions to Ask Before You Break Up with Your Friend
17 Oct 2023
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Send us a textAre you feeling weighed down by a friendship but can't seem to pinpoint why? Are you left drained after every interaction but can&a...
The Habit that Makes You Care Too Much What Other People Think
19 Sep 2023
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Send us a textEver feel like people are judging you or thinking negative things about you? If you often find yourself feeling self-conscious about w...
You're not Lazy or Undisciplined. You're Overworked and Stretched Too Thin
08 Sep 2023
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Send us a text Is there a project, goal or change you just can't seem to find time for? You are not alone. For years I wanted to write my bo...
What Deep Healing Feels Like: Releasing Trauma & Healing with Breathwork
30 Aug 2023
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Send us a textYou know those moments when everything just clicks? That was me during a recent breathwork session – a transformative, 30-minute exper...
The Root of Overthinking & 3 Ways to Heal Self-Doubt
15 Jun 2023
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Send us a textDo you ever find yourself trapped in a cycle of overthinking and second guessing yourself? Like when you have an unpleasant interactio...
Crazy Busy & Over-Committed? 5 Questions to Get More Balance & Ease
06 Jun 2023
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Send us a textDoes it feel like your time belongs more to other people than it does to you? Do you ever feel like you're spending your days just...
The Art of Being Disliked: Embracing Authenticity in a World of Disapproval
01 Jun 2023
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Send us a textDo you feel anxious or stressed when someone doesn't like you? In today's episode, we unpacking the mistaken beliefs that caus...
When You're The Bad Guy in Someone's Story
16 May 2023
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Send us a textBeing disliked and misunderstood is a really unpleasant phenomenon for most of us. As social creatures, we're hard wired to car...
Freezing Up Instead of Speaking Up? This One is For You
16 May 2023
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Send us a textHave you ever been in a situation where someone said or did something that wasn't okay but instead of speaking up and putting them ...
Stop Apologizing To Jerks
09 May 2023
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Send us a textEver find yourself apologizing, even though you weren't the one who did something wrong? Listen in to today's episode to hea...
Imbalanced Workload at Home? This is for you
02 May 2023
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Send us a textIf you've been feeling like you've been doing more than your fair share of the work at home, you are not alone. So today I...
Trusting Yourself When they Make You Doubt Your Needs & Instincts
02 May 2023
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Send us a textOther people often have no idea whats best for you, but that doesn't always stop them from giving their opinion. In today's ...
Grace & Dignity in Unfair Situations
25 Apr 2023
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Send us a textEver had your world turned upside down because of someone else's decision or bad behaviour? In today's episode I'm shar...
Relationship Advice that Made Our Fights Worse
18 Apr 2023
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Send us a textA few years back, my partner and I went through a phase where we were stuck in unresolved fights and unfinished conversations. As some...
When It Looks Like They Don't Care: 3 Reasons Why Your Partner Shuts Down and Won't Talk it Out
06 Apr 2023
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Send us a textIf it ever feels like you're talking to a brick wall when you're trying to resolve an issue with your partner, this episode is...
Can’t Accept What Happened? This is For You
04 Apr 2023
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Send us a textAcceptance doesn't mean I'm okay with what happened. It means I accept what my reality is so that I can begin to do what I n...
Should You Stay or Go? Questions to Help you Decide
28 Mar 2023
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Send us a textNot sure if you should stay or go? This week's episode is for you. I'm walking you through some important questions that w...
When Someone You Love Drinks Too Much
21 Mar 2023
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Send us a textDo you have someone in your life who is drinking too much or into something you're really not okay with?In this week's podcast...
Your Anger is Trying to Serve You
14 Mar 2023
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Send us a textMany of us have been socially conditioned to be really uncomfortable with anger- especially our own. When something happens that upset...
5 Tips for Making Friends as an Adult
07 Mar 2023
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Send us a textHave you outgrown your old circle? Moved to a new town? Maybe you're one of the 36 % of people who report being seriously lonel...
Afraid of Making the Wrong Decision?
01 Mar 2023
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Send us a textEver feel like you freeze up when you have a tough decision to make? Like in one moment, you feel clear on what you need to do, but in...
I’m Not a Perfectionist But…I Should be Doing Better
21 Feb 2023
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Send us a textStop labelling the things you don't like about yourself as flaw and shortcomings. Just because you wish something was different a...
Your Feelings are Valid
15 Feb 2023
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Send us a textEver feel like maybe if you could just toughen up, care less, or be less impacted, that you could totally fix things and everything wo...
Ghosting, Friendship Break Ups and Choosing to Let it Go
08 Feb 2023
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Send us a textWhen do you it owe to someone (or yourself) to try to talk it out or explain your position, and when is it okay to just walk away and ...
Does Loss Change You? 3 Ways Loss has Definitely Changed Me
24 Jan 2023
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Send us a textI believe that you can't control what happens to you but you can change who you become. And this is mostly true for me. Loss ha...
Lessons that Changed my Life in 2022
10 Jan 2023
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Send us a textToday I'm sharing the 4 lessons that had the biggest impact on my life and relationships in 2022. Some of these I've been ci...
Am I the Problem? 3 Questions to Tidy Up Your Side of the Fence
28 Dec 2022
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Send us a textIf you've left a social situation or interaction wondering- is the problem here me? Am I the one causing the tensions here? Am ...
5 Things Shifts for a More Chill & Relaxed Life
20 Dec 2022
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Send us a textThere's a few strategies & questions that have drastically changed the level of stress, overwhelm and frustration that I live w...
Reminders If You're Grieving through the Holidays
14 Dec 2022
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Send us a textIf someone important is missing from your holiday table this year, this episode is for you. Here's a few thoughts and ideas to take...
A Guide to Hosting for the Overwhelmed, Anxious & Introverted
06 Dec 2022
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Send us a textAre you feeling a bit nervous about having guests possibly over staying their welcome or draining your social battery? If so today&apo...
3 Ways to Get More Peace with an Emotionally Immature Person
29 Nov 2022
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Send us a textDo you have someone in their life who makes everything all about them? Who seems to lack consideration or concern for how they're...
5 Reasons You Over-Function & Over-Give
22 Nov 2022
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Send us a textThere's a few reasons we get stuck in over-drive, over-working and over-giving. Once you know your pattern it becomes easier to b...
Calling All Multi-Taskers & Busy Bees
19 Nov 2022
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Send us a textLearn to stop over-thinking and chill out.**NEW GROUP STARTS NOV. 25RESET YOUR MINDSET - A 2 week healing experience for over-thinkers ...
3 Ways to Get Your Partner to Do More Around the House
15 Nov 2022
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Send us a textWant to get your partner to do more at home? Today I'm sharing 3 ways to get your partner to lean in & participate more in th...
A Quick Confidence Boost For You
04 Nov 2022
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Send us a textHow confident have you been feeling lately? In your body, your relationships, your life? Many of us, especially women struggle to fe...
The Surprising Predictor of Divorce
02 Nov 2022
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Send us a textYou maybe saw that I was recently away at a couple's therapy training and man oh man it was so good. I had been wanting to do a ...
Ditching Diet Culture, Body Shame & Burn Out & Claiming ALL of Who You Are with Michelle Stevens
24 Oct 2022
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Send us a textHow well do you listen to the needs & wants of your body? Do you follow your gut instincts, or strict rules from some external sou...
Self-Care vs. Selfishness
19 Oct 2022
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Send us a textWhen should you put other people's needs above your own? When is it over-giving and do you just need to take one for the team?Lis...