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From ingratiation to opportunity to the brutal truth about self-imposed pressure - and why being an opportunist in friendships means knowing exactly what you want and serving with blood and energy to get it, the deliberate plan to get skin-to-skin close to Emma Morrison the best TV news anchor in Ghana by constantly asking "what are you having for lunch, have you eaten, let me get your water" until she realized this girl wants to be close to me and brought her along, the strategic move of studying Emma's weaknesses without telling her and perfecting them as personal strengths so that when the prime time opportunity came the answer was "yes put her on" because that's exactly what was wanted all along, and why people are so addicted to the successes of others thinking "partner mia mia nisi kanibi" instead of charting their own authentic path, while the real question becomes: why are 28-year-old women pressured into marriage when they're not ready and 35-year-old men taking loans for weddings they'll spend two years paying off when the pressure is mostly self-imposed from watching what others post on social media, because the girl wearing that dress on Instagram didn't buy it - designers made it and gave it to her - so don't go looking for money to buy what you see someone else wearing, and the ultimate truth is this: you cannot allow people to control your narrative, you cannot sit in a meeting for hours waiting because someone thinks they're big, and if you need a favor but the 9am meeting starts at 9:15 and by 9:30 they're still not there - you walk out, because refusing to be put in a box is the only way to protect your potential and your power.
In this raw episode of Konnected Minds, host Derrick Abaitey sits down with Nanaaba, a powerhouse media personality who dismantles the dangerous "wait your turn and be humble" mentality that keeps ambitious women locked out of opportunities they could seize with strategic action, revealing the exact moment when entering the TV newsroom and meeting Emma Morrison - the best TV news anchor in Ghana - triggered the deliberate plan to get skin-to-skin close to her because she had what was needed: expertise, and even though "I am not a very serviceable person, I don't know how to serve," the decision was made to serve Emma with blood and energy by constantly being in her face asking "what are you having for lunch, have you eaten, let me get your water" until Emma realized this girl wants to be close to me and instead of pushing away she brought her along, when Emma would say "this bulletin I wouldn't be available but not the prime time" but the hidden objective was always to share the prime time spot with her - if Emma does Monday to Friday then the goal was to get Thursday and Friday, when studying Emma's weaknesses and not telling her "oh Ms. Mollue I think if you do this it would be good" but instead making those weaknesses personal strengths and perfecting them so that on the day of going on TV Emma said "oh the thing you should put her on the road that's well for the prime time" and the response was "yes I did it, got what you wanted, that's what I wanted," when people would say "oh Nanaaba was washing Emma's feet, she was being an opportunist" and the response is simple: "yes that's what I call negotiation, it was deliberate because I knew what I wanted at the end of the day and I don't care what you say," when a father always said "you're an opportunist" and it's true because "if I'm not getting anything from the friendship trust me it's useless to me, I make friends because I know there is something you have that I would like," when Emma understood the assignment and when she became in charge of the newsroom her recruitments showed it - she was recruiting more women and giving more women opportunities for bigger assignments not just to people she liked but to people she hadn't even engaged with, just giving the opportunity to see what you can do.
This isn't motivational empowerment talk from Instagram influencers - it's a systematic breakdown of why being an opportunist and ingratiating yourself into someone's life to learn from them is strategic not shameful when you know what you want and you're willing to serve to get it, why studying someone's weaknesses and perfecting them as your strengths without telling them is how you position yourself to take the prime time spot when the opportunity comes, why some societal pressure on young girls and women is self-imposed because people are so addicted to the successes of others instead of charting their own authentic path, " and why the ultimate power move is knowing exactly what you want, being deliberate about getting it, and refusing to let anyone - society, friends, or bosses - control your narrative or your time.
Guest: Nana Aba Anamoah
Host: Derrick Abaitey