A child psychologist’s guide to working with difficult adults | Dr. Becky Kennedy
episodePreviously titled “Dr. Becky on the surprising overlap between great parenting and great leadership” — renamed by the publisher on Aug 2, 2026
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Why do adults in the workplace behave like babies and how does that relate to the “good inside” principle?
Most adults in the corporate environment are really just babies in disguise.
All humans need the same things, whether we're one or five or forty-five or eighty-five. When you look at bad behavior, the actual problem is someone doesn't have the skill they need to manage something happening internally.
Love your advice. It works not just for kids, it works for adults.
Our whole parenting philosophy is resilience over happiness. When we're thinking about a resilient work culture, we want people who can say, This is hard and I can do hard things.
You teach kids are good inside, no matter their behavior. Is that useful in work?
The idea of being good inside inherently requires us to separate behavior and identity. We infer a lot from people's behavior. Someone's late to work a lot, oh, that person's lazy. The quickest way to have an unproductive conversation is to lose sight of the fact that someone's good inside.
I definitely wanted to ask you about this idea of boundaries.
Boundaries are what you tell someone else you will do, and it requires the other person to do nothing, making a request. It's not a boundary.
Is there a corollary to adult work environments in potty learning? Today, my guest is Dr. Becky Kennedy, a clinical psychologist, author, and CEO of one of the most popular parenting books, podcasts, communities, and apps called Good Inside. Why would I have a parenting expert on this podcast? Because if you think about it, many of the people that we work with in the workplace act a lot more like babies than adults. And I'm half joking, but I'm half not. Think about coworkers that got really mad when they had to share their stuff. That always need to be the center of attention, that get really upset about not getting their way, that need other people to fix things for them. These are just a few examples, and there is a lot that we can learn about how to effectively deal with people at work from a parenting expert like Dr.
Becky. I have never heard a conversation like this anywhere that bridges the gap between parenting advice and leadership advice, and you will leave this conversation both a better Leader and a better parent. We talk about the power of repair, the importance of building long-term resilience versus short-term happiness, why your goal as a leader is to become sturdy, the power of curiosity over judgment, a framework Dr. Becky calls the most generous interpretation, also a ton of really specific phrases that work really well with kids and adults who you're having a hard time with, and so much more, I am so So honored to have Dr. Becky on this podcast, and I hope you have as much fun listening to this conversation as I had recording it.
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Chapters
4 chapters
1
Why do adults in the workplace behave like babies and how does that relate to the “good inside” principle?
0:00–21:01
2
What is the power of repair in relationships and how can it be applied at work?
21:01–40:25
3
How does “connecting before correcting” improve cooperation and trust in teams?
40:25–49:47
4
Why is consensus important for leaders and how does it differ from making unilateral decisions?
49:47–1:31:52
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