Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life
Episodes
Episode 350: Dr. Lorri on Building Trust in Yourself
10 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Lorri Sulpizio joins us to talk how modern “therapy speak” can sometimes make people second-guess themselves. What's the difference between tr...
Episode 349: Meet Abby Nissenbaum
03 May 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Singer-songerwriter Abby Nissenbaum joins the show to share her story of growing up in a Jewish-Catholic household, being outed as a teenager by a nei...
Episode 348: Lesbian Visibility Week
26 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa talk about what it means to be a "visible" lesbian and how that image has evolved since we came out. And how friendships with couples ...
Episode 347: Meet Jennifer and Mary
19 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Our friends Jennifer and Mary join the show to share their coming out stories, how they've navigated life as a couple over the last five years -- blen...
Episode 346: Dr. Mallory's Firefly Study Results
12 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Mallory Hanfling joins the show again to share the results of The Firefly Study -- which analyzed compulsory heterosexuality and how it impacted t...
Episode 345: Instant Enmeshment
05 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli talk how dating looks today compared to 25 years ago before smart phones encouraged near constant contact. We also address how to appr...
Episode 344: In Defense of "Baby Gays"
29 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Alli joins us from Mexico City as she celebrates her niece's wedding -- and we talk about how therapy is finally paying off in the form of lessened an...
Episode 343: Sophia Spallino on Lesbian Matchmaking
22 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
The Luxury Lesbian Matchmaker Sophia Spallino joins the show to talk dating apps, age gaps, long distance, catfishing scams, and dating etiquette. Als...
Episode 4: The Murder of Katie Janness and Bowie (Part 4)
17 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week we share audio clips from an interview Katie's wife did with Atlanta News First in July 2021. You can watch the full interview with Emma h...
Episode 342: Rebecca Kordecki on Breath Work
15 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week we talk about the importance of breath work with Relationship Coach Rebecca Kordecki. Rebecca's work has been featured in The New York Times...
Be Gay, Solve Crime: Episode 3: The Murder of Katie Janness and Bowie (Part 3)
10 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Former detective Stef Huertas joins the show to give her take on the investigation into the 2021 murder of Katie Janness and her dog Bowie. If you'd ...
Episode 341: Coping with Aging
06 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa talk aging and how signs of it creep up so fast -- and how to embrace the gift of time passing. Also, The Pitch! Our attempt at connec...
Be Gay, Solve Crime: Episode 2: The Murder of Katie Janness and Bowie (Part 2)
03 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Retired Homicide Detective Vincent Velazquez joins the show to give his take on the Katie Janness case. He answers our questions about how DNA, cell p...
Episode 340: Grieve the Blueprint
28 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa talk grieving the blueprint of your life -- mourning the life events you thought would happen but just aren't coming to fruition -- an...
Be Gay, Solve Crime: Episode 1: The Murder of Katie Janness and Bowie (Part 1)
25 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
In our very first episode of Be Gay, Solve Crime, we dive into the details of the 2021 murder of Katie Janness and her dog, Bowie. The crime occured i...
Episode 339: Meet Becca (Part 2)
22 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Buckle up for part two with our friend Becca where we share some icks and "friend of the pod" Robin joins us for a conversation that goes very off the...
Episode 338: Meet Becca (Part 1)
15 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Becca joins the show for a long overdue interview seeing as Melisa and Becca go way, way back. Becca shares her story of experiencing multi...
Episode 337: Mother Knows Best?
08 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
All and Melisa discuss how healing can feel like an endless cycle -- and address Alli's mom's question of "Are we just trying too hard to find the 'pe...
Episode 336: Toxicity in Dating
01 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa discuss the Blake and Taylor drama, the 10-hour drive date that went viral on TikTok -- and how this all relates to toxicity in dating...
Episode 335: All Mixed Up
25 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This week's episode is a bit of a mixed bag as Melisa and Alli discuss evolving emotional regulation, choices we would make when we first came out ver...
Episode 334: Dr. Lorri Sulpizio - Leadership & Mindset Coach
18 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Leadership and Mindset Coach Dr. Lorri Sulpizio joins the show to talk about the ups and downs of dating later in life, attachment styles and why it's...
Episode 333: Relationship Lessons with Charlie
11 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Charlie shares how her relationship patterns have continued to teach her lessons about people with narcisstic traits -- and what it was like to come o...
Episode 332: Raw Inventory
04 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Rachel shares a piece she wrote about how conflicting feelings can exist in ourselves, what that means and how to show up for yourself in t...
Episode 331: Your Trauma Isn't an Excuse
21 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa discuss a topic relationship coach Sabrina Zohar touched on -- using your trauma as an excuse. It's ok to name your trauma, but it's y...
Episode 330: 9 Habits of People Who Protect Their Energy
14 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa chat about how the seemingly innocent move of talking about friends can grow into hurtful gossip and setting the intentions of how to ...
Episode 329: Shifting Perspectives
07 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa chat about their Thanksgiving holiday with family and how we've shifted perspectives on our childhoods over the years. Also, how to tr...
Episode 328: Rae on Living Apart Together
30 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Rae is back to share how her relationship with her wife was impacting her children -- and the decision they've now made to "Live Apart Together."Beco...
Episode 327: Meet Shelley
23 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Shelley joins the show to talk about the years she spent ignoring her own sexuality and how she began to discover her true self in her late...
Episode 326: Evolution of Therapy
16 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa talk the benefits of professional therapy and how it's an evolving process to uncover the layers of what makes us tick. Also, mark you...
Episode 325: Meet Alicia
09 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Content creator Alicia joins the show to talk about her weight loss journey that she is actively sharing on TikTok, her life growing up in Kentucky an...
Episode 323: Lindsay Perrin's Life Out Loud
26 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
As seen in People magazine, Lindsay Perrin joins the show to talk about her journey as a surrogate for a gay couple, working as a photographer for Rol...
Episode 322: Do The Thing!
18 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa talk about the LIVE event in Seattle, Oct. 18th. They also discuss the importance of showing up and doing the hard thing. 5 seconds ...
Episode 321: Key to Connection
11 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa talk the importance of doing the work. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming...
Episode 320: Is Being Gay a Choice?
05 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa explore the question: "Is being gay a choice?" Also, how do your background, sexual fluidity and the spectrum of sexuality play a role...
Episode 319: Rachel from Seattle
28 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Rachel from Seattle joins the show to fill-in as co-host for Melisa. Alli and Rachel talk dating, long distance situations and how to buil...
Episode 318: Meet Anna (Part 2)
21 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode touches on religious trauma.Anna joins the show to share part two of her coming out story following her experience as a ...
Episode 317: Meet Anna
14 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode touches on religious trauma, conversion therapy and grooming. Our friend Anna joins the show to share how she went from...
Episode 316: We Never Go Out of Style
07 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
After leaning into our own shift in style over the years, Alli and Melisa share some fashion tips -- basics to buy, good places to splurge and stores ...
Episode 315: Mixed Signals
31 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli chat about signals -- how do you know when someone is interested and how to handle things when you're getting mixed signals.Secure tic...
Episode 314: Ready or Not?
24 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa give their take on the new film, "Honey Don't," staringMargaret Qualley and Aubrey Plaza... and discuss a listener dilema of being not...
Episode 313: Gimme That Dopamine
17 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Are you surviving off dopamine? Through Instagram, TikTok, even dating apps? Alli and Melisa talk about how this addiction can impact other parts of y...
Episode 312: Life is Gonna Life
10 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Birthdays suck. So does perimenopause and PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) -- but at the end of the day, life is gonna life. Join us August 19t...
Episode 311: Sit with the Space
03 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa speak on the importance of diving deeper on healing -- and how beneficial it is to just sit with the space, not seek out the next best...
Episode 310: Meet Jane Does Comedy
27 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Jane Does Comedy joins the show to share her coming out journey and how she embraces her chosen singlehood. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode mentions s*...
Episode 309: Emotional Resonance
20 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli talk "emotional resonance" and why some people feel more comfy emotionally than others. Also, our top tools for emotional regulation. ...
Episode 308: Are Dating Apps Disappearing?
13 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa discuss how some dating apps are struggling -- for instance, Bumble is cutting 30% of its workforce -- and why some app users are not ...
Episode 307: Sabrina Zohar's No BS Relationship Advice
06 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Dating coach Sabrina Zohar joins the show to drop some major knowledge on how our brains work in relationships -- limerence, mistaking attachment for ...
Episode 306: Slow Burn
29 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In honor of 4th of July -- we talk the difference between relationships that start off as fireworks versus the slow burn. Become a supporter of this ...
Episode 305: How To Be A Baby Bird
22 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Heather joins the show to share how she keeps that "baby bird" energy despite experiencing heartbreak in the past. We also talk about that ...
Episode 304: Meet Chelsea and Kady: Into The Woods
15 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Chelsea and Kady share their story of how grief brought them together after they both lost siblings. And how Chelsea didn't realize her sexuality unti...
Episode 303: Shades of Gay
08 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Is JoJo Siwa done with the wlw life? Alli and Melisa chat about sexual fluidity and how sexuality can shift and evole over timeBecome a supporter of t...
Episode 302: Levels of a Relationship
01 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa discuss dating expert Matthew Hussey's theory on the levels of a relationship. Also, how to have those hard, "defining the relationshi...
Episode 301: Meet Brooke Eden!
25 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Country music singer Brooke Eden shares how she went from never wanting to get married -- to ready to U-Haul with her now wife -- and how her career h...
Episode 300: Meet Alexi Melvin
18 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alexi Melvin joins the Lesbian Chronicles for our 300th episode!!! Alexi shares how her affinity for Gillian Anderson (aka FBI Special Agent Scully) l...
Episode 299: The Firefly Study
11 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Mallory Hanfling, MSW, LCSW, and PhD Student of Human Sexuality joins the show to share her "firefly" journey and the study she's currently working on...
Episode 298: Shock and Awe
04 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa talk internalized homophobia and the ways it still shows up for us today. And how we were definitely the elephants in the room at a pr...
Episode 297: Shed The Pain
27 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli discuss the importance of shedding your past pain to allow yourself to be open to new relationships. We also share quotes about heartb...
Episode 296: Meet Sexual Health Journalist Bianca Alba, MPH: "Decant your lube"
20 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
New York Times "Wirecutter" sexual health journalist Bianca Alba, MPH joins the show to talk sexual positivity, feeling safe in your body and topics l...
Episode 295: Meet Robin!
13 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Robin shares her take on kissing techniques -- her story of coming into her own as a mother of three, and her life now co-parenting/"nestin...
Episode 294: Meet Anna
06 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Anna shares her coming out journey, her feelings around imposter syndrome as a newly out queer person and the life-changing news she got shortly after...
Episode 293: Shifting From Lust to Love
30 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa discuss how to handle things when your relationship starts to get a little boring and how to push through from the lust phase to long-...
Episode 292: Hush The Noise
23 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you were the main character in the movie of your life, what would the audience be screaming at you to do? Melisa and Alli share how they think the ...
Episode 291: The Optimism of a Baby Bird
16 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli discuss how some people have the optimism of a baby bird -- and address if there is a "mean girl" mentality from lesbians towards bise...
Episode 290: Living In Your Marriage
09 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa reflect back on what life was like during the transistion of knowing they were gay and figuring out what to do about their marriages. ...
Episode 289: The Wonder That Is Loretta Bush/Introducing Your Person to Your Kids
02 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa cover a wide variety of topics this week...-Melisa's co-parenting trip to Colorado-The internet's infatuation with Loretta Bush (the F...
Episode 288: Hot Pursuit!
23 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How do you pursue someone you're interested in? Do you slide into their DMs? Or send a hot pic right out the gate? Melisa and Alli explore this topic ...
Episode 287: Long Distance Dating
16 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Meredith are in the hot seat to talk the reality of dating long distace -- with Melisa in Atlanta and Meredith in Austin.Become a supporter...
Episode 286: Age Gaps in Relationships
09 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa discuss age gaps in romantic relationships and what factors to consider when it comes to moving forward with an age gap relationship. ...
Episode 285: Time is Currency
02 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa discuss questions you should ask yourself about your relationship... If someone said, "You're just like your partner," would that fee...
Episode 284: Meet Kayla/ Finca to Filter
26 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kayla Bellman, Owner and Founder of Finca to Filter, joins the podcast to share her coming out story and how she started her very own coffee shop in A...
Episode 283: Meet Julie Birke
19 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Actress and comedian Julie Birke joins the show to share her Loves, Lies, Lesbians story from TikTok. Buckle up for gaslighting, breadcrumbing and a r...
Episode 282: 32 Flavors (of FUN)
12 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Vanilla ice cream is fine... but what if you never tried anything else? Alli and Melisa dive into the misconception that it's a prerequiste to be repu...
Episode 281: Meet Kristin "Throw a Boulder in Your Pond"
05 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Kristin shares her coming out story that includes undoing deep religious trauma, internalized homophobia and how she's keeping a positive relationship...
Episode 280: Don't Feed the Big Bad Wolf
22 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa address the Native American parable, the Tale of Two Wolves and how that weaves into life today. Feed the good wolf!Become a supporter...
Episode 278: Holiday Mental Prep
08 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are a tough time... and they haven't gotten any easier for us over the years. Alli and Melisa talk about how to prepare for the hard mome...
Episode 277: Meet Meredith/Baby Gays ATX
01 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"You can't be the cause and the cure."Meredith (Baby Gays ATX) joins the show again to talk about how sex therapy and EMDR helped uncover her true sex...
Episode 276: Full On Favreau/Baby Gays ATX
24 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli chat about how we're all a little weird when we're first coming out. We all have our own Answering Machine Meltdowns a la Jon Favreau ...
Episode 275: Choosing People Who Don't Choose You
17 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa deep dive on the Big vs. Aidan dynamic in Sex and the City (random, yes... but relevant) and how people often choose partners who aren...
Episode 274: Be Like Bex
10 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Bex (known her killer karaoke skills) joins the show to share her coming out story -- her journey to find the perfect name, and how she bui...
Episode 273: Meet Sue and Paige: It Could Happen to You
03 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Sue and Paige share their stories of coming out later in life, finding love over 50, and how they make things work blending 5 kids!Become a supporter ...
Episode 272: Relationship Hopping
27 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you truly know yourself? Or do you only know the version of yourself in a relationship? Alli and Melisa discuss "relationship hopping" and how it ...
Episode 271: Pride 2024 Wrap
20 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli chat about their epic Pride 2024 weekend -- from Second Friday to a party at Alli's house to the Pride Parade! Resources to build com...
Episode 270: Meet Joy!
13 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"You don't know the weight you're carrying until it's gone."Joy joins the show to share her experience growing up in Ohio, the daughter and granddaugh...
Episode 269: The Science of a Breakup
06 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We touch on lessons learned from Relationship Expert, Amy Chan and give it a lesbian twist. We mistakenly refer to Amy Chan as a doctor in this episo...
Episode 268: Stacey and Christin on Finding Your Soulmate
29 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Past guests Stacey and Christin join the show to share their love story and how they're helping others to heal from the past and find love! Get Off t...
Episode 267: Let's Bro It Up!
22 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We discuss Melisa's newfound bromances and talk the evolution of masculinity within ourselves. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreak...
Episode 266: How Your Inner Child Shows Up Today
15 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week Alli and Melisa talk about how your inner child wound may show up in your adult relationship. This topic was sparked by an Instagram post ...
Episode 265: Meet Mandi
08 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Mandi joins the show to talk about rediscovering her sexuality later in life after the loss of her husband. Become a supporter of this pod...
Episode 264: Sext Me Up!
01 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa chat about the endless possibilities sexting has to offer -- and how to level up your sexting game. And how our feminine and masculine...
Episode 263: Meet Ginny
25 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa chat with Ginny, a late in life lesbian who initated the start of a virtual support group based in Boston. Ginny shares how the group ...
Episode 262: Lessons From Gen Z
18 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa take note of how Gen Z has the ability to not care about the things we cared so much about... specifically appearance and other people...
Episode 261: The Truth About Kids and Divorce (and SEX!)
11 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli talk the truth about divorce and how it impacts kids (fun fact, it's not creating the damage you think it is...) -- then we change gea...
Episode 260: Nourish and Flourish with Christine and Anne
04 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Christine Sellers and Anne Brendle join the show to talk all things perimenopause and how it impacts so many aspects of women's lives. Learn more abo...
Episode 259: What I Know Now
28 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Melisa and Alli talk about coping with their respective breakups -- and Melisa shares what she wishes she could have told herself on Day 1 of the brea...
Episode 258: Meet Claire Holt
21 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Claire Holt joins the show to talk about how she became a queer fashion influencer with 350k+ followers on TikTok. She also shares her own coming out ...
Episode 257: Broken Hearts Club
14 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Alli shares a life update -- and we discuss the importance of healing from heartbreak. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/p...
Episode 256: Meet KT from Stonewall Sports
07 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend KT joins the show to talk about how she got involved with Stonewall Sports and went on to become the National Director of Diversity, Equity...
Episode 255: Meet Danie The Sexologist
30 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week we chat with Danie, a Sapphic Sexologist living in Denver, Colorado. We discuss how shame and guilt from a religous upbringing can continue ...
Episode 254: Using Alcohol to Numb
23 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend Ally joins Melisa and Alli to talk about how alcohol is often used as a coping mechanism and tools to get your life back on track. Books m...
Episode 253: More Unsolicited Advice
16 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Alli and Melisa take on more unsolicited advice -- offering opinions on if she should tell a date it's your first time kissing another woman to if you...