Recommended EpisodesSecret #72: Transforming Guilt and Shame with Dr. Carolyn AllardSecret #47: Living a Meaningful Life with Jenna LeJeuneSecret #30: Wise Effort with Dr. Diana HillDr. Carolyn Allard returns to Life's Dirty Little Secrets to continue her conversation with Emma and Chris about guilt and shame, this time exploring how these difficult emotions can help us identify what truly matters. Carolyn explains how getting stuck in guilt and shame can lead to avoidance, self-punishment, and overcompensation, pulling us further away from the life we want to live.Together, they explore how to reconnect with our values, navigate competing priorities, and distinguish values from goals. They also discuss why living according to what matters isn't always comfortable, and how slowing down to examine our guilt and shame can help us make more intentional choices.Key Takeaways Guilt and shame can provide useful information about what matters to us. Avoidance and overcompensation can pull us away from our values. Values are directions, not destinations. Prioritizing one value doesn't necessarily mean violating another. Living according to our values is often difficult. Avoidance is usually easier. Our values can change as our lives and circumstances change. Small increases in values-based activities can improve wellbeing.View extended shownotes hereORDER Max Cross Gets Unstuck from Anger: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook series for kids)ORDER Justin Case Sits with Anxiety: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)ORDER The Glumm Twins Unhook from Sadness: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for Ages 8-12 (ACT Workbook Series for Kids)

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