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Loving BDSM
Episodes
Green Flags in Power Exchange Relationships
24 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We spend a lot of time talking about what goes wrong in a power exchange relationship and what to watch out for. This week, we’re talking about the ...
Kinksters React to Vanilla Relationship Reddit
17 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Consider this another experiment. We enjoy doing the BDSM Reddit reactions, but we wondered what it would be like to react to vanilla relationship que...
Minisode 33: Face Slapping
14 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s minisode, we’re discussing a favorite kink of ours: face slapping! If you’re new to it and want to explore with a partner, these ...
Minisode 32: Asking Your Dominant for What You Want
07 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
A common struggle of many submissives is learning how to ask for what they need and want. It’s especially hard when you believe that a Dominant is a...
Vulnerability and Power Exchange
03 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve mentioned this topic so many times in the past, but we’re finally talking about it: the importance of vulnerability in power exchange. Our d...
Minisode 31: Tips for New D/s Relationships
31 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In a new D/s relationship? Feel a bit overwhelmed and not sure what to do or where to begin? Here are a few tips to keep in mind as you navigate this ...
Funishment
27 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve mentioned funishment many times in the past, but we’ve never devoted an episode to it. And it’s probably a good thing we’re doing this n...
Minisode 30: Orgasm Control
24 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Curious about orgasm control? Here are a few things you need to know about it first! A massive thanks to our Patreon community for making these shorte...
Following a Submissive’s Lead in Power Exchange
20 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Yes, the hallmark of power exchange is that the Dom leads (or controls or has power, pick your term) and the submissive follows (or submits or serves)...
Minisode 29: Should I Give Up Kink for a Partner?
17 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The answer to that question is, as always, it depends. But we’ve received the question before from someone who really liked this vanilla partner but...
Revisiting Love Languages in Power Exchange
13 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re talking about love languages again — but instead of the original, we read Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love b...
Minisode 28: Subfrenzy
10 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Subfrenzy hits many submissives at some point in your kink life, from new and excited kinksters to experienced subs who think it won’t happen to the...
Our Experience with Exhibitionism and Voyeurism
06 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve mentioned exhibitionism and voyeurism as kinks of ours multiple times of the years, but we’re FINALLY giving it a standalone episode. As alw...
Minisode 27: Submissive vs. Bottom
03 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What’s the difference between a submissive and a bottom? For some people, not very much. For others, everything. In this week’s minisode, we attem...
Responding to BDSM Reddit Posts
30 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We received enough positive feedback from a previous episode where we responded and reacted to questions asked on BDSM subreddits that we thought we’...
Minisode 26: What is Dominance?
27 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As we see it, dominance is about three different elements: power, control, and leadership. So that’s the lens we use to define it in this week’s m...
BDSM Q&A
23 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we answered BDSM questions kinksters asked on Instagram (at that handle I hate) and on YouTube. The topics were wide-ranging, and there’s...
Minisode 25: Do You Have to Open Up Your Relationship? | BDSM Q&A
20 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s mini podcast episode, we discuss a question we get asked a lot: Do I have to open up my relationship now that we’re kinky? A massiv...
Servant Leadership and Power Exchange
16 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We believe dominance is about leadership just as much (if not more) than it’s about power and control. John Brownstone considers himself a servant l...
Minisode 24: 3 Positive Reinforcement Methods
13 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Call it submissive training or behavior modification (or something else) but trying to change someone’s behavior (yours or a partner’s) isn’t al...
What is Impact Play
09 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Can anyone else believe we reached episode 273 before devoting an entire episode to impact play?! Neither can we! But here we are! Warning, this is a ...
Miniside 23: BDSM Checklists
06 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
BDSM checklists are great for figuring out what kinks you want to try, what you don’t want, and what you’re not sure about. Because they get recom...
How to Know When It’s Time to Break Up
02 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We want everyone to have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. But we also know that not every relationship is meant to last. Staying in one th...
Minisode 22: How to Actually Prove Yourself in D/s
29 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Spend any amount of time online or in some local kink communities, and you’ll come across someone with an opinion of what makes you a “real” kin...
Our Thoughts on Your Unpopular BDSM Opinions
25 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s episode, we’re taking inspiration from YouTube — and reacting to your unpopular opinions! We asked for these opinions on Instagra...
Minisode 21: Humiliation Play Tips
22 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Humiliation play is a mutual kink of ours, though we tend to stick with the lighter end of the spectrum. We’ve discussed it in detail in past episod...
Reacting to a Survey on Secret Desires
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s episode, we’re reacting to survey results on the secret desires and kinks of 2000 Americans. We thought it would be different and f...