Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

184. Settling vs embracing an imperfect partner

01 May 2026

Contributed by Lukas

The fear of settling, of choosing wrong, or of missing out on a ‘better’ partner is one that plagues so many anxious brains in relationships.So I’...

183. Building self-esteem: What if I become delusional?

24 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wanted to build your self-esteem and think more positively about yourself, but then a little voice in your head says… But what if I be...

182. 7 lessons that transformed my relationship with anxiety

17 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

I have struggled with anxiety for over a decade - since I was a teenager.And finding ways of understanding & managing my own fearful brain, and th...

181. ‘If I was with the ‘right’ person, I wouldn’t feel this anxious’

10 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

How often have you found yourself thinking: Maybe if I feel this anxious, I’m with the wrong person? If I was with right person, I wouldn’t get t...

180. Real-life coaching: Old friendships, saying 'I love you', & texting etiquette

03 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm answering real-life questions from listeners and coaching them on their mind-drama from afar!We cover topics includi...

179. Am I ‘too much’? - When to share your emotions vs when not to

27 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

How often have you asked yourself: Am I too much? Is texting twice too much? Is initiating seeing them again too much? Do you often worry that being...

178. Your brain is lying to you: How your mind determines your reality

20 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all been told a thousand times that our thoughts create our realities...But when life feels hard, our partners seem uncaring, or the world fee...

177. 5 uncomfortable truths about “one-sided” relationships

13 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Maybe it’s a friend you've known for years - and you feel like you’re the one always reaching out to check in or arrange plans. Or maybe it’...

176. How to move forward after betrayal

06 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you’ve ever experienced betrayal in a relationship - you’ll know first hand how painful it can be.And I’m dedicating today’s episode to tal...

175. Becoming the director of your mind: How to handle negative thoughts

27 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Think more positively. Your thoughts create your reality. Just don’t sweat the small stuff.All great advice - but hard to implement when you’re ...

174. Are we incompatible? Or is this just my anxious thoughts?

20 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever wonder if you and the person you’re dating are actually just incompatible? Maybe you know you have some mind drama and insecurities to ...

173. The fear of being cheated on

13 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Are you terrified of being cheated on? If so - today’s episode is for you. I’m talking all about the deeper beliefs fuelling the fear of being ch...

172. How to actually feel more secure

30 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us are familiar with what it’s like to feel insecure. And you may find yourself wishing or saying out loud that you want to work on feeling...

171. "Triggered by my partner watching porn" (Real-life coaching)

23 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

I want to give you a little insight as to what coaching can look like for real life people - with real life relationship struggles. And so I’m usin...

170. Are you stuck in the Validation Cycle?

16 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself becoming obsessed with people that are hot and cold towards you - while ignoring the people that are consistently available and t...

169. How to actually change your patterns in 2026

09 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When you feel anxious or insecure, do you jump straight to action?Perhaps re-reading your messages? Checking when they were last online? Or messaging ...

168. Signs of self abandonment in relationships

02 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Do other people’s happiness tend to get put before your own?Does the thought of being alone terrify you? And do you feel like you cling to relations...

167. You don't need a new you in 2026 (What you need instead)

26 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you set some goals or resolutions for 2026? And are you filled with hope for the year ahead?Or do you kind of think resolutions are pointless.. B...

166. How to actually care less about what other people think

19 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you constantly worrying about what other people think?Are they mad at you?Do they like you?Did they think what you said at dinner was stupid? Or i...

165. Embracing uncertainty - How to feel okay knowing your relationship might not last forever

12 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Does the idea that your relationship could one day end send you into a spiral of anxiety? Do you tend to ruminate over worst case scenarios - panicki...

164. "Why can’t they just change!” - Resisting the reality of other people

05 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

‘Why can’t they be more sensitive?!’‘Why can’t they be more affectionate’‘Why can’t they just do what they said they’d do!’‘They...

163. ‘If they wanted to they would’ / When you’re obsessing over them

28 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How often have you heard the phrase ‘If they wanted to they would’? Well in today’s episode, I’m talking about that well used advice and how ...

162. Anxiety in long distance relationships (BLAST FROM THE PAST)

21 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!We're going to cover:Emotional perma...

161. Creating self confidence (BLAST FROM THE PAST)

14 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?Did you know that, despite what a lot...

160. Real life coaching: Inappropriate friendships, dating rejections, and unruly mother-in-laws

07 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode I’m answering questions from listeners on their real life relationship struggles. Covering topics including:What to do when yo...

159. Dealing with dismissive, defensive or emotionally immature partners

31 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You’re all listening to this podcast because you’re perhaps aware your anxious mind is causing a lot, or some, problems and you want to take back ...

158. How to handle triggers in the moment

24 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ‘get’ this work - but still find yourself reacting badly when you’re triggeredDo you know your thoughts aren’t likely true, but can’t...

157. Are we having enough sex? (And other fears)

17 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever get anxious about how often you and your partner are having sex? Do you question whether you’re having ‘enough’ sex? Keeping score...

156. Am I gaslighting myself?

10 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever worry that if you start to do this work to clean up your own thinking you might end up accidentally gaslighting yourself or becoming okay with ev...

155. Needs vs wants: And communicating for connection

03 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Is this a want or a need?Why does my partner get so defensive when I tell them what I need in the relationship? And is this relationship just not rig...

154. 5 questions for when you're feeling rejected (BLAST FROM THE PAST)

26 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today, I’m sharing a blast from the past in the form of a previous episode I released in 2024 - offering you 5 questions to ask yourself when you fe...

153. Stop projecting your insecurities (Cleaning up your side of the street)

18 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you blaming your partner, friends or family members for how you feel?Saying they ‘make’ you feel bad, insecure, anxious or rejected?'Shou...

152. Dating & building rejection resilience

12 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you dating but finding the experience pretty miserable?Are you constantly afraid of rejection and does the idea of getting ghosted again make you ...

151. Is this my anxiety or a real issue?

05 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever find yourself wondering: is this just my anxiety or is this actually a real issue in my relationship?In today’s episode - I’m talking ...

150. Generating real self-trust in your relationships

29 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You might be spending a lot of time wondering if you can trust your partner, the person your dating, your co-workers, or any other human in your life....

149. Creating meaningful friendships - Conversation with Jewel Hohman

22 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I chat with the amazing Jewel Hohman - expert in all things friendship, connection and social anxiety - to talk about what it...

148. Playing games, black cat energy, and authenticity

15 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often search for dating tips - wanting to find the right way to text, show up on dates, the right amount of time to wait before having sex with...

147. Transparency vs privacy in relationships

08 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How much information should you expect your partner to be sharing with you?Should you know each others phone passwords? Have your locations on?What if...

146. Coaching Queen B (How I would coach Blair Waldorf on perfectionism, fear of rejection and jealousy)

01 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a friend that everyone just seems to LOVE - and so you end up feeling a little overshadowed?Do you have parents that are overly critical a...

145. Radical self acceptance (BLAST FROM THE PAST)

25 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today - I'm resharing one of my older, popular episodes - all about radical self acceptance.Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you?Do you ...

144. Signs you're fetishizing romantic love

18 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often obsess over your romantic relationship? OR are you currently single and find yourself obsessing over when you’re next going to BE in a ...

143. Love languages (What to do when they don't speak your language)

11 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you and your partner or the person you’re dating have different ways of showing love and care?And is it something that can cause a problem in you...

142. Relieve anxiety with one simple thought

04 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode - I’m sharing a magic sentence that has helped me shift out of anxious spirals on so many occasions, and has been a huge help t...

141. Dealing with other people's negative emotions

27 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you instantly feel anxious and on edge when your partner or friend is in a bad mood? Do you find yourself feeling so uncomfortable that you just w...

140. Your value as a partner (building your self worth)

20 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you perceive your value as a partner? Or a friend? Or perhaps a member of your family?Do you often doubt your value? Or does your self worth te...

139. 4 reasons you struggle to feel emotionally safe

13 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it take to feel emotionally safe in a relationship?Emotional safety is a word that is being used quite a lot these days...So in today’s ep...

138. Is being unwilling to get hurt ruining your relationships?

06 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

I just don’t want to get hurt - have you ever said that before? It’s something I’ve heard a lot in client sessions - and it makes total sense. ...

137. The rejection & reassurance cycle

30 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often find yourself feeling disconnected in your relationships - having unnecessary arguments that seem repetitive?Or do you feel like you’re...

136. The MYRMD Society is OPEN! (And I'm talking to past clients about their coaching journeys)

23 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Today The Master Your Relationship Mind Drama Society is officially OPEN!For just £99 a month - you can get weekly live coaching, monthly masterclass...

135. Healthy boundaries vs control attempts

16 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever wonder what the difference is between a healthy boundary and a control attempt coming from a place of insecurity? If so - this episode is...

134. Creating secure responses to avoidant behaviour

09 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a partner or friend that exhibits some of the signs of an avoidant attachment style?And do you find your own anxiety being triggered by th...

133. The most important relationship you'll ever have is with YOU

02 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We all talk a lot about self-love and being compassionate to ourselves.But what does that actually mean or look like?In hundreds of coaching sessions ...

132. How to turn any trigger into an opportunity for growth

25 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So many of us spend our lives trying to avoid being triggered. We blame other people for triggering us.We try and convince people to change their beh...

131. Most common limiting beliefs in relationships (Part 2)

18 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, I'm continuing on from last week's episode on the most common limiting beliefs I see coming up in my client sessions!I'll be...

130. Most common limiting beliefs in relationships (Part 1)

11 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm discussing some of the most common beliefs I see coming up time and time again for my clients.And the impact they ha...

129. Perfectionism and black & white thinking in relationships

04 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships?You either did it perfectly or you're terrible.You&a...

128. Relationship doubts - Am I in the ‘right’ relationship & fear of choosing 'wrong'

28 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about relationships doubts and anxiety - something which is often referred to as ROCD (Relationship OCD).For...

127. Lying in relationships - Why do we lie? And is it ever okay?

21 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection.And yet... sometimes humans lie!In today's...

126. The reality of changing your brain

14 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often find yourself thinking:'Why am I still thinking this?!''What's wrong with me!''I shouldn't STILL feel ...

125. Listener Q&A (Feeling guilt, missing a 'sign', busy partners, partner w/ female friends - AND MORE)

07 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode - I'm answering questions written in by some of you lovely listeners.We're going to cover a wide range of topics, in...

124. Dealing with jealousy in relationships

28 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often feel jealous in your relationships?Maybe your partner mentions a new co-worker, or a friend you're a little insecure about, or maybe...

123. How to stop feeling controlled by your anxious brain

21 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for anyone that's tired of feeling like a slave to their anxious brain.One of the biggest shifts for me was changing my relations...

122. What are your values? (in and out of your relationship)

14 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm talking about how knowing our core values can help guide us in and out of our relationships.We'll be covering:W...

121. Navigating the challenges of a partner's addiction - Interview with Mariah Kay

07 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, I'm interviewing one of my past clients and amazing friends - Mariah Kay. Mariah speaks openly about her journey naviga...

120. Listener Q&A (Fear of falling out of love, when to break up, and MORE)

31 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

As promised - in today's episode I'm answering 6 questions from listeners on a variety of topics.Including:The fear of falling out of love w...

119. Trust in the digital age

24 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel terrified about what your partner may or may not be doing online...Here's a snippet from a question I received from a listener:"...

118. Turning relationship fears into courage

17 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Anyone who has ever felt anxiety in their relationships will know what it's like to feel constantly afraid. To fear what other people might be t...

117. The 4 types of responses we can get when we make a request (and how to handle each)

10 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever make requests of your partner (or friend / family member) and maybe they agree to do it... but they don't really do it the way you hoped?May...

116. Stop letting your story about the past ruin your relationships

03 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Our brains are always constructing a narrative. We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and d...

115. Dealing with unmet expectations

27 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now?Maybe you had expectations of how certain relat...

114. Boundaries and regressing around family (Holiday special)

20 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered?Have you done a lot of work on yourself ...

113. If it's not my partner's job to 'make me feel good', what's the point of relationships? (BLAST FROM THE PAST)

13 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't...

112. Our obsession with ‘red flags’ (and why it’s unhelpful)

06 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach?Are you often worried about missing the signs that...

111. Breaking the pattern (navigating reoccurring issues)

29 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over?Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - ...

110. Codependent thinking

22 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all!But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on...

109. What NOT to do when you're anxious

15 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us...And certain things that aren't... In today's episode, ...

108. Why we worry and how to stop - a conversation with Emilie Leyes

08 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category? In today's epi...

107. Becoming the partner / friend you'd want to have

01 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently?If it's quite a lot... you're not alone!Our brai...

106. 30-phobia and milestone anxiety - A conversation with Kate Berski

25 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age?Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner...Buy a ho...

105. Self-soothing when they need space

18 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you?Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - a...

104. Am I making excuses for them?

11 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself?Do you want to make sure yo...

103. How responsible am I for their feelings?

04 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel?Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to ...

102. BLAST FROM THE PAST: Can I trust them?

20 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded.Do you struggle with trusting your partne...

101. 5 questions for when you're feeling rejected

13 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships.If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - the...

100. But WHAT IF [insert scary thing] happens? (Facing your deepest fear)

06 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts...- What if they break up with me?- What if they're mad at me?- What if ...

99. 7 symptoms of fear of rejection (how it f*cks with your relationships)

30 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you tend to take things personally?Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable?Do you anxiously...

98. Creating self-confidence

23 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?Did you know that, despite what a lot...

97. Thoughts about how you look (the ‘good enough’ trap)

16 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism? Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' somet...

96. Getting your needs met

09 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs.But how do we actually go about ...

95. How to have a difficult conversation

02 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones?Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug ...

94. Maybe they're just not that into me?

26 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you?Whether your partner loves you as much as you love the...

93. How to stop criticising your loved ones

19 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life?Your partner, your friends, your family members...Feeling frustrated and negativ...

92. Navigating friendship mind drama - A conversation with Sarah Siegert

12 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I chat with the lovely Sarah Siegert - Expat Friendship Coach, on all things FRIENDSHIP.We talk about:The manuals and expectations we...

91. Anxiety in long distance relationships

05 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!We're going to cover:Emotional perma...

90. What were you taught to think about love and relationships?

28 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this week's episode, I'm talking about how our upbringing, society, and external influencers can shape and determine the way we think abo...

89. Surface level thoughts vs the problem thought

21 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you try to use the tools and concepts I teach to manage your mind - but sometimes struggle to actually feel better?Do you struggle to understand wh...

88. The 'They don't care' trap

14 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you often feeling disappointed, hurt, and rejected in your relationships?And like the people in your life just don't make you feel loved and ...

87. People pleasing & risking rejection

07 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself often doing what others want you to do, without giving much thought to your own preferences and desires?Do you tend to make decis...

86. My partner doesn't help around the house - HELP!

31 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have some issues in your relationship where household chores are concerned?Do you just WISH you could get them to do their washing up faster......

85. Radical self-acceptance

24 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you?Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you yo...