Master Your Relationship Mind Drama
Episodes
84. How to talk to your partner about your relationship anxiety
17 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you want to open up to your partner about what you're going through but don't really know how?Whenever you discuss your anxiety, does it ...
83. Does their bad mood impact your mood?
10 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel overly impacted by other people's bad moods?Like if your partner is grumpy after work - YOU automatically feel annoyed or irritated?O...
82. 5 signs you’re giving away your power
03 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself feel resentful in your relationships?Feeling like you need other people to change so that YOU can feel better?If so - you need to...
81. It’s not your job to stop them cheating on you
26 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself worrying about what your partner might do on a night out? Or getting paranoid and anxious about their new co-worker?Or ruminatin...
80. Dating mind drama - A conversation with Talia Koren
19 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode - listen to me chat with dating expert, Talia Koren - host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, about all things dating & ...
79. Scarcity mindset keeping you terrified of your relationship ending?
12 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you terrified of your partner cheating on you or leaving you... because you're convinced you could NEVER be happy with someone else?Does your...
78. How to validate yourself
05 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We're often told we need to validate ourselves - and not rely on our partners or friends to validate us.But.... how do we actually do that?In thi...
77. "Am I being reasonable?"
29 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself wondering if what you're asking of your partner is 'reasonable' or 'unreasonable'? And asking 10 friends t...
76. How to think and feel differently
22 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you continuously feeling pretty terrible in your relationships, knowing you need to change the way you think, but have no idea where to start?Are ...
75. Navigating a breakup - with relationship coach, Lucy Price
15 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you going through a breakup right now? In this episode, I chat with amazing break-up coach, Lucy Price, on all things HEARTBREAK.We talk about:Th...
74. Anxious about what they do on social media?
08 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself getting anxious about...Who your partner follows on social media?How often they like your pictures?Whether they like certain othe...
73. What to do when you feel triggered
01 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like everything is going fine - then something happens and suddenly it's like a mist has fallen over you?You feel overwhelmed with nega...
72. You always have a choice
23 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel powerless and resentful in your relationships?Believing you have to feel miserable and frustrated until they change?Or do you have ar...
71. Are they the ONE? - Conversation with Sarah Yudkin, Relationship Anxiety Coach
16 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you often find yourself spiraling in fearful thoughts about whether your partner is... THE ONE?!Do you question whether they're the 'righ...
70. 7 love lessons for Valentine's Day
09 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode - I'm talking about some of the most common mind dramas that come up around Valentine's Day... And 7 key truths about love ...
69. Listener Q&A - Flirty partners, parenting mind drama, and red flags
02 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode - I'm answering 5 questions written in by listeners!Topics include:Dealing with a partner's flirty personalityAnxiety about ...
68. Is your brain a bit of a drama queen?
26 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I'm talking about the dramatic stories and thoughts our brains love to tell us - and why believing them isn't always useful....
67. Let's talk about sex - with sex & intimacy coach, Morgane Horn
19 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I chat with sex & intimacy coach - Morgane Horn.We're going to cover things like:Navigating differences in sex drive...
66. Overthinking hacks and thought defusion
12 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself thinking over and over the same thing - and struggling to get a handle on your thoughts?Does it almost feel compulsive? And like ...
65. Intuition vs Anxiety
05 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself wondering what is just an anxious story in your head and what is your intuition at play?Does debating this back and forth make you ...
64. What if you COULD handle it? (Facing your deepest fears)
22 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I talk about one of my all-time favourite books - 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' by Susan Jeffers - and some of t...
63. 6 mindset shifts for creating security in your relationships
15 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode - I'm outlining the 6 key shifts in thinking we have to make in order to create lasting security and confidence in our relationsh...
62. Should I stay after they cheated?
08 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If your partner has cheated or behaved in a way that goes against your expectations of them in your relationship - it is bound to be extremely painful...
61. People-pleasing, boundaries and saying no at Christmas
01 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling a sense of dread about the Christmas season as we enter December?And a looming feeling of pressure about the expectations of your loved ones? ...
60. You can't predict the future (so how to make decisions)
23 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever find yourself in decision paralysis? Unsure what the 'right' thing to do is?And wishing you could just know for sure everything ...
59. If they really loved me they'd....
16 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself saying, 'If they really loved me then they'd.... [insert thing]'Maybe it's - they'd take out the recycling...
58. Mind drama about their ex?
09 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you having a lot of anxiety or frustration about your partner's ex?Whether they're in the picture in some way, or you're just obses...
57. The DO's and DON'Ts of managing your mind
03 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode - I talk about some of the most important aspects of thought work and the biggest errors I see my clients making when learning...
56. Knee-jerk rejection
27 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you guilty of acting out and rejecting other people when you feel hurt and rejected yourself?Do you often feel like simple misunderstandings or di...
55. Love intolerance
20 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like it doesn't matter how much 'love' you receive from others, you just can't help but feel unworthy and unloveable?Lik...
54. Breakups (romantic & friendship)
06 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Going through a breakup? Or have you struggled a lot with them in the past?This episode is for YOU!We're going to discuss:The one thing that make...
53. Sick and tired of dating?
29 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Currently dating and getting fed up? This episode is for YOU! We will be looking at why managing our thoughts around dating is so important, and the s...
52. Challenging your brain's story about THEM
22 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Struggling in one of your relationships right now?I can guarantee, whoever the person is, your brain likely has a story about them. A narrative about ...
51. Fighting the urge to check their phone?
15 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you want to show up as a trusting, present partner - but feel this urgent need to check your partner's phone?Or maybe it's in their Insta...
50. Listener Q&A (Thoughts about exes, uncooperative husbands, angry colleagues - AND MORE)
08 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So in this week's episode - I have asked people on my email list to send in questions and relationship problems for me to answer and coach on.If ...
49. How to stop being so needy
25 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever get called needy?I used to as well! And the truth was... I was needy. I needed other people's attention, approval, and affection so badly - ...
48. Owning your actions & the thoughts and feelings driving you
18 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
How we show up in our relationships is pretty damn important.And yet, when we're operating from an unmanaged mind - we end up acting in ways we d...
47. Other people's thoughts about you
11 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you spend a lot of your time worrying about other people's thoughts about you? What if they're mad at me?!What will they think of me?!Wha...
46. Their brain does not think like yours (and that doesn't make them wrong)
04 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you and your partner just see things differently? And can't seem to get on the same page?Ever find yourself feeling hurt, offended...
45. Stop trying to buy an iPhone from McDonalds
28 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling like you just WISH your partner or friends or family members would behave differently? Do you wish they'd give you more affection, or tex...
44. When everything sucks
21 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you going through a tough time right now? And feeling like you're struggling to deal with all the negative emotion you're experiencing? ...
43. Am I justified in feeling this way?
14 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel really justified in feeling angry or hurt by something someone has said or done?Sometimes we can feel justified in thinking about things in ...
42. Lessons from 3 years sober
07 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I'm talking about my journey being alcohol-free for 3 years and the lessons I've learnt while giving up alcohol. If...
41. Why avoidant people trigger you
30 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Feel like you can feel totally calm and secure when around certain people - but then that one slightly more avoidant partner or friend sends your anxi...
40. When to compromise
23 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We are often told that compromising is important in any healthy relationship.But what does that really mean? Is it always true?When is it okay to not ...
39. Regret is optional (decision making)
16 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself thinking about things in the past and feeling a lot of regret?Or do you find yourself trying to make a decision and feeling paral...
38. Your loveability (& your thoughts about you)
09 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What is your relationship like with yourself?Do you find yourself loveable? Likeable? Do you not like yourself very much?In this episode - I'm go...
37. Is this a want match?
02 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When two people want the same things in a relationship - that's a want match. But often in our relationships we build so much resentment and fru...
36. Friendship mind drama
19 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Having some friendship drama?Is one of your friends not behaving in ways you like? Or do you find yourself feel anxious and insecure within your frien...
35. Stepping out of victim mindset and finding your power
12 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you currently blaming somebody else or a situation in your life for the way you feel?There's nothing more disempowering than believing we are...
34. Parenting your fearful brain
05 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a very fearful, anxious voice in your brain? One that's constantly looking out for danger on the horizon and ways everything could go...
33. Question everything you think you know
28 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We think all our thoughts are just accurate interpretations of the world around us.A healthy relationship looks like [this]If they like me they'd...
32. 7 important lessons (when tackling relationship anxiety)
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I talk about the 7 lessons I had to learn to overcome my relationship anxiety and I share some personal stories from my own experience...
31. When to end a relationship
14 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering if you should end a relationship in your life?The truth is... I don't have the answer. But this episode will help you work through your...
30. Listener Q&A - Cultural differences, responsibility for people's emotions, external validation, and more!
07 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I answer 6 questions from listeners on a range of juicy thought work topics. Connecting with a partner with a different cultural bac...
29. Black and white thinking & resisting the reality of other humans
31 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you often label the people in your life as 'good' or 'bad'?Do you feel like your either feeling madly happy with somebody or in...
28. The Validation Vending Machine
24 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like the behaviour of the people in your life has the power to make you feel TERRIBLE about yourself or AMAZING? Do you find yourself feel...
27. Stop beating up your past self
17 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever reflect on the past things you've done and said and feel immense shame?Do you feel scared of making decisions because of how mean you...
26. Why you don't need to 'see it coming'
10 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you constantly feel on red alert for signs something might go wrong in your relationship?Do you tell yourself its important you spot all the red fl...
25. Jealousy
03 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself often feeling jealous in your relationships? And does it result in you showing up in ways you don't like?This episode is g...
24. Managing your mind is for YOU not them
24 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel a little resistant to the idea of taking responsibility for your own emotions? As if that means letting the people in your life 'off ...
23. Hypocritical thinking in relationships
17 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you tend to assume the worst of other people? And maybe expect them to behave in ways you aren't always perfect at doing yourself? Do you eve...
22. Valentine's Day - Expectations and being single
10 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This two part episode looks into the expectations we have of our partners and how to manage our minds around them. AND how to manage our minds if we&...
21. 7 tips for creating connections
03 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Looking to increase the number of friendships or relationships in your life? But feel like the mean voice in your head always stands in your way?This ...
20. Dealing with other people's manuals for us (people pleasing)
27 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself feeling anxious when you want to do something you know someone else won't be happy about?Do you feel like you're consta...
19. Do they care enough?
20 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Are you constantly finding yourself debating whether your partner or friends care ENOUGH.If so, tune into this episode!We'll be discussing the an...
18. 4 steps to STOP taking things personally
13 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you often hear people say 'Don't take it personally'... but struggle to take it anything BUT personally? Do you find yourself feelin...
17. Scary 'What if...' thoughts and how to handle them
06 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Does your brain often offer you terrifying WHAT IF thoughts that leave you spiralling for hours?And does trying to convince yourself that thing won&ap...
16. Your brain is NOT a reliable narrator
22 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that voice in your head is actually not YOU? And did you know that a lot of the time it's actually full of sh*t? In this episode, we...
15. Getting better at arguing
16 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Arguments in relationships happen. But often our primitive brains can create SO much unnecessary drama and disconnection - preventing us from reconnec...
14. Comparing yourself to others
08 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself getting stuck in a cycle of comparing yourself to others?Are they prettier? Richer? Funnier?Is there relationship 'better&ap...
13. If it’s not my partner’s job to ‘make me feel good’, what’s the point of relationships?
01 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Once we learn that other people don't exist to 'make' us feel good and validate us, some clients tend to ask... 'so if my partner ...
12. How to set and uphold boundaries
24 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode - I look at some of the common errors we make when trying to set boundaries, what a boundary actually is, and why it doesn't requ...
11. Are you on red alert for people being upset with you? (How to handle other people's negative emotions)
17 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you often find yourself feeling anxious if you sense a change in mood in your partner, friends, co-workers, or family members?This was probably one...
10. All circumstances are neutral (until you have a thought about them)
11 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do the things that happen in your life just constantly throw you and leave you feeling like an emotional boomerang? Feeling like you need things to c...
9. Don't get mad, get curious
04 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Find yourself feeling angry about the way other people act? Or maybe you feel rejected, hurt or disconnected when people don't behave in the ways...
8. Your relationship to your thoughts
28 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you're trying to improve your relationships in any way - DO NOT SKIP THIS EPISODE.Your thoughts are what create the way you feel, which drive ...
7. Wishing you could change their behaviour? (Manuals & expectations of others)
20 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself wishing you could just get your partner or friends or family members to just STOP doing that thing, or START doing something else...
6. Listener Q&A - Breakups, cheating, and is he a narcissist?
14 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, I answer six questions written in by people on my email list. If you're not on my email list already - head to www.rebec...
5. How to handle your anxiety (and other negative emotions)
07 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you HATE feeling anxious? Do you often react to your emotions in ways that create more drama in your relationships? Do you feel like your brain and...
4. When somebody doesn’t like you
30 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Does somebody not liking you fill you with fear? Does the idea that they might be mad at you make you extremely anxious?Do you try and people please e...
3. Can I trust them?
26 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you struggle with trusting your partner? Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust...
2. They do not MAKE you anxious - How to take responsibility for your emotions
15 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I believed for most of my 20's that other people were the source of my negative emotion. Thank god I was wrong! Listen to this episode to find ...
1. What is mind-drama?
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
My very first podcast episode is here! This is a quick introduction to me, what I do, and how this podcast is going to help you finally master your re...