Mindfully Masculine: Personal Growth and Mental Health for Men

Merry Christmas and Get Off The Couch!

25 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You thought wearing a custom "cat dad" sweater would be just a funny holiday gimmick? Turns out, it sparked an entire episode filled with la...

Supplements That Are Worth The Money

17 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we discuss how Dan got cupped and poked. We also review some of the products purchased for our "Self-Care Go Bag". Then we ...

Stick a Pin In It

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we continue discussing "Self-Care for Men" by Garrett Munce. We'll discuss the effectiveness of acupuncture, and also ...

"Self-Care for Men"

03 Dec 2023

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In this episode, we address final thoughts on "Atomic Attraction", and move on to the first part of "Self-Care for Men: How To Look Goo...

Some of the Worst Advice

29 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

OK, in this episode, we finally close the book (ha!) on "Atomic Attraction" by Christopher Canwell.To say this book is a "mixed bag&quo...

Rerun! Episode 57: Talking Sleep and Tiny Habits

20 Nov 2023

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Due to some really fun technical difficulties, we'll be releasing our new episode (audio and video) a couple of days late this week, but as we ge...

Pop Quiz, Hot Shot

13 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Let's talk about "testing"! Not the boring kind from school--the exciting kind from relationships. Throughout romantic relationships, p...

Can You "Win" Arguments With Your Partner?

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Every time you have conflict with your partner, you make a choice whether to fight *against* the person you love, or fight *alongside* the person you ...

The New Jersey Hike and More About Space

30 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ever found yourself on a gruelling 30-mile hike, trading tales with a bell-clad hiker and wondering how to keep your sanity intact? Or maybe, you foun...

Your Relationship With Your Mom Might Be The Problem

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Ever pondered about the complex dance between men's expectations in romantic relationships and their bonds with their mothers? We'll take yo...

Hello, Barbara!

19 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We saw "Barbie", and we have thoughts! If you haven't heard enough men sharing their opinions on culture, art, and feminism, have we go...

How NOT To Show Up In Your Relationship

05 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In our 101st episode, we continue to offer review and analysis on "Atomic Attraction" and attempt to clarify some of the terms and ideas the...

Giving What You Want vs Giving What They Need

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join us as we unpack a wild case study in our latest episode, using it as a launchpad to delve into the dynamics of relationships and communication. W...

"She's My Person!" Great, But She Still Needs Space...

27 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this (late because video editing is hard) episode, we'll discuss the importance of space and having other interests in your life and relations...

We Don't Want to Talk About Sex

18 Sep 2023

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The next chapter in "Atmoic Attraction" talks about sex in a way that feels weird to us, so we talk about it in a way that will probably fee...

You Chase, She Runs

11 Sep 2023

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In this episode, we discuss how the relentless pursuit of your dream girl will probably make her head for the hills. When you chase too hard, she feel...

Touching Ladies--Without Being Creepy

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you're going to date, marry, and mate with a lady, at some point, you'll probably have to touch her. Initiating physical touch can feel l...

Learning to Talk—Again

14 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we cover some of the dos and don'ts of speaking to women that you're interested in--including some ways to build attraction,...

Updates, Opinions, and Controversies!

08 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

After pre-recording a few episodes, we came back to recording new episodes last Friday (August 4, 2023) and mostly talked about what's been going...

Calm Down, You’re Not In Love

01 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re like us, sometimes you struggle with feeling too much, too soon in a new relationship. And then you say too much, too soon, and make it we...

Grown-ups Use The "No Contact" Rule

24 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When a partner wants "some space", "a break", or a straight-up break up, the most respectful thing you can to (to them, and to you...

Do This When Your Date Cancels

17 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we discuss pre-date communication, and what it means (and how to deal) if/when your date cancels on you.Support the show

First Date Dos and Don'ts

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

OK, in this episode we talk about getting, planning, and executing a first date! We'll cover asking them out, days, times and venues, greetings, ...

Is Your Phone Killing Your Chemistry?

03 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we discuss the common mistake (common to us, at least) of leaning too heavy on texting in a way that kills the chemistry of new relat...

Put Your Best Face Forward: A Social Media Discussion

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is your social media a chilling documentary, or a public relations puff-piece?Social media is one of the many ways we can make an impression on people...

Dating Apps Can (Probably) Work For You!

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Dating apps can provide unique challenges and opportunities for men to meet the kinds of women they’d like to date, but… you may be bringing some ...

If You Want Women to Like You, Should You Act “Broody” or Act Happy?

16 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

OK, we are post-business trip, post-COVID, post-moving day, and back to the podcast!In this episode we'll talk about what kind of attitude women ...

What Are You Saying When You Aren't Speaking?

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you're a human (and odds are good that you are), then you are communicating VOLUMES through your body language--far more than through your wor...

Is She Sending Signals That You're Missing?

17 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Most of the romantic interactions that men have with women are initiated by women--but not because she walks up and compliments you, or introduces her...

Cold-Approaching Women, Friend-zones, and Other Terrifying Things

10 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you walk up and introduce yourself to a pretty girl? Do you try to become her friend first, and then try to transition to a dating relationship? In...

You Create Attraction

05 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Some myth-busting in this episode! What have your parents and/or the media taught you about attraction and sexuality that might be dead wrong--or at l...

Good vs Bad, Strong vs Weak, and Alpha vs Beta

25 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There are a ton of loaded terms tossed around for male behavior, and the impact it has on attraction. "Nice Guys", "Bad Boys", and...

We Can't All Be "10s"

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We frequently use a 10-point number system to describe how attractive people are. This number often refers to our "sexual market value"--the...

Wealth, Status, and Attraction

05 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Wealth and status factor into how attractive you are, but maybe not in the way you think. In this episode, we'll talk about what money and reputa...

"Clothes Make The Man", Part 2

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

On this week's episode, we start with a bit of a deep-dive on Charles's health and nutrition, and then we continue discussing clothing, incl...

Apparel Oft Proclaims The Man

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Or, in slightly more contemporary language, "the clothes maketh the man". Join us as we start to discuss fashion and style, and the part tha...

Your First Impression Includes Your Scent

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Memory is so often triggered by smell, that to be positively memorable, a man should not neglect to curate his entire presence, including his smell.In...

The Tempting Timbre: Everyone Loves a Deep Voice...Right?

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We're all stuck with the voice we've got, right? Maybe not. There are behaviors you can learn to sound more attractive when you speak, and w...

No, Your Age Isn't Stopping You From Dating

04 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Over the hill? Past your prime? Nonsense! Your age (much like your height and hair status) isn't getting in the way of successful dating. In this...

OK, Let's Talk About Penis Size

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A topic that many men spend considerable time thinking about, joking about, and worrying about, is the size of their penis. In this episode we'll...

What Hairstyle Communicates Masculinity, Strength, and Dominance?

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hair is good. No hair is good. Time spent in between these two choices is not so good. We'll talk about going bald, dealing with your options, an...

Grey Matters: A Man's Hair and His Attractiveness

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The furry stuff on the top of your skull can either be a source of strength or weakness,  depending on your mindset. In this episode, we'll talk...

Look Strong, Be Strong

04 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

"Fitness: an organism's ability to survive and reproduce in a particular environment."Biology and culture agree that being "in sha...

How Not To Creep Out a Woman At Starbucks

30 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode (number 69), we continue laying down the foundation of how men attract women, and explore a case study about two guys, one woman, and ...

Gentlemen, You Can--And Should--Be More Attractive

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Attractive men experience richer lives because they have more options. Your genetics and childhood determine some of your attractive traits, but so ma...

End a Book, Start a Book!

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We've finished "Tiny Habits" by BJ Fogg! Join us as we discuss our final thoughts, and what we hope to carry with us, and we introduce ...

Creating Change In Others?

10 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we cover the final full chapter of Tiny Habits, by BJ Fogg, and talk about how we can use our knowledge to create change in others--a...

Stop Trying to "Break" Your "Bad" Habits

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

BJ Fogg's Behavioral Model applies to all behaviors and habits--even the ones we don't want. In this episode, we'll talk about how we c...

From "Tiny" to "Life-Changing"

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

OK, so you've gotten to the point that you do two push-ups every time you pee... now what? In this week's episode, we discuss how to take yo...

Good News/Bad News: Emotions Create Habits

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Your success in creating new habits depends on your ability to train your brain--to train its decisions, thoughts, AND feelings.In this week's ep...

Do The Thing, After The Thing

13 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We do what we do because we are prompted to--prompted by a thought, or a feeling, the context of what is happening around us, or by a system.In this e...

Figure Out How To Make It Easy

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you want to reach an important goal, by creating new habits, you MUST figure out how to make those habits small and easy. In this week's episo...

The Motivation Monkey is a Fickle Friend

29 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Motivation is a factor in every thing that we do, but we all over-estimate how motivated we'll feel in the future. In this episode, we discuss ho...

The Equation of All Human Behavior

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Coming at you two days late (because Charles has the flu)! This week we'll cover chapter one of "Tiny Habits" by BJ Fogg--where he (qui...

Change Your Behavior--The Easy Way!?

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we cover the introduction to "Tiny Habits" by BJ Fogg. BJ suggests that the cliche of "Change is Hard" is just a myth, ...

Only The Tiniest of Habits

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

OK, we're getting ready for the New Year, and that means New Year's Resolutions. Between now and the end of 2022, we'll be talking abou...

The Four Agreements

01 Nov 2022

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Join us, as we introduce The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz.Support the show

When Your P3n!s Doesn’t Work…

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s talk about erectile dysfunction—why it happens, and what to do about it.Here’s the video we reference in the episode: https://youtu.be/imQ...

Sports, Women, Politics, and... Your Health?

17 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we discuss some some ways that men  are being encouraged to think and talk about their health. Here are the videos that we watch and discu...

You Should Hire A Doctor

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we interview our friend, Richard Wetterman. We dive further into the Direct Primary Care model of health management, and discuss the advant...

What's Up, Doc(tor Muzzi)?

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we speak to Dr. Toni "Muzzi" Muzzonigro. Dr. Muzzi is a Board-Certified Family Practice Physician. She is a South Florida native a...

Own Your Body

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Men, we have an obligation--to ourselves, and the people that depend on us--to stay as healthy as possible, for as long as possible.In this new series...

"Woke" Words That Scare Men

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for our 50th episode--hopefully not our last! For this one, we chose to explore some words and concepts that can often be difficult to hear an...

Kurt is Back!

13 Sep 2022

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In this special BONUS episode, we invite our friend Kurt back to continue talking about "Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?" by Dr. Julie S...

Unmasking Masculinity

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The title of these week's reviewed video is "Unmasking Masculinity - Helping Boys Become Connected Men" by Ryan McKelley, and can be fo...

Why I'm Done Trying To Be "Man Enough"

05 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we're back home and discussing a Ted Talk from Justin Baldoni, titled, "Why I'm Done Trying To Be 'Man Enough'&quo...

How to Be a Man, A Woman's Guide

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we hit the road, and record live from Podcast Movement 2022! We'll review and discuss a Tedx Talk by Liz Plank, titled, "Ho...

Why Has No One Told Kurt This Before?

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we are joined by friend of the show Kurt Wettermann to discuss his history, hobbies, career, and the valuable insights that he got fro...

Can You Decide to Just "Be Happy"?

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In our review of the final section of "Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?" we'll discuss the pursuit of a happy life, and the steps to...

Can You Decide to Have a Stress-free Life?

08 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"Just reduce your stress" is not really a serious suggestion, when it comes to improving your life. "Learn about stress, and develop pe...

Can You Decide Not To Fear The Future?

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Anxiety (in my definition, "a fear that the future might not be OK") is easily one of the most common mental health challenges that we all f...

Can You Decide Not To Care What They Think?

26 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this better-late-than-never episode, we get into topics like disapproval, criticism, and self-confidence.Support the show

Can You Decide Not To Hurt After A Loss?

18 Jul 2022

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Losses and endings of all kinds cause our minds and bodies to respond in painful ways. Maybe we can't do much to make the pain of grief go away, ...

Can You Decide Not To Experience Painful Emotions?

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I wish! While you can't simply decide not to experience the pain with certain emotions, you can learn to change your relationship with emotions--...

Can You Decide to Be Motivated?

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Section two of "Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?" addresses the topic of motivation. Is motivation just a tool to use, or is it more comp...

Can You Decide Not To Feel Bad?

27 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Section one of "Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?" addresses the topic of low mood. Do we have the capacity to decide not to feel bad? Whi...

New Book, New Series!

21 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

For our next series, we'll be doing a deep-dive into another great book. This time, it's "Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?" by ...

Be Your Best: Get Busy Learning, or Get Busy Dying

13 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One of the ways to constantly improve your life, is to always look for new information and new ways to see yourself, and the world. In this episode, w...

Be Your Best: Make Your Body Do More

06 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we talk about the challenging, energizing, and sometimes unpleasant things we do to make our bodies (and minds) do more tomorrow than...

Be Your Best: Pay Attention!

30 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Your mind will benefit from being exercised, just like your body. In this episode, we discuss our experience with meditation, and share some of the th...

Be Your Best: Clean Your Room, Make Your Bed, Blah Blah Blah

22 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we discuss the great reasons why to keep your space clean, and share some great tips we found how to go about doing it.Here are some ...

Be Your Best: Long Walks and Short Piers

16 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

“It is only ideas gained from walking that have any worth.” -- Friedrich Nietzsche"The moment my legs begin to move my thoughts begin to flow...

Be Your Best: Journaling, Part 2

09 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In part 2, we share some great info about journaling, found at Daily Stoic:https://dailystoic.com/journaling/Also, here are some of the journals that ...

Be Your Best: Journaling, Part 1

02 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Join us as we begin the discussion on one of our most important practices: journaling.Support the show

Be Your Best: Series Introduction

25 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're back with a new series! In the coming episodes, we'll be discussing the habits and practices that we engage in to function at your hig...

Pet the Cats!

21 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're done! We've covered all "12 Rules for Life", with this final episode, focused on the rule, "Pet a cat when you encounte...

Live a Little

18 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our penultimate episode about "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan Peterson! In this episode, we'll discuss Rule 11, "Do Not Bother Child...

Use Your Words

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We're in the homestretch! In this ante penultimate episode, we discuss Rule 10 from "12 Rules for Life": "Be Precise In Your Speec...

They Don't Know Nothing

11 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You don't know everything, and everyone knows something. In this episode, we discuss Rule 9, from "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan Peterso...

Pants on Fire

07 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we cover Rule 8 from "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan Peterson, which is "Tell the truth – or, at least, don’t lie.&qu...

Dr. Angry and Mr. Political

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you like angry, tired, frustrated men who won't stop talking about their political opinions? Well, this is the episode for you! OK, mostly we ...

Rebuild Society--After You Do The Dishes

31 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Another episode, another rule from "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan Peterson! This episode covers Rule 6, "Set Your House in Perfect Order...

Will Smith: Mindless or Masculine?

28 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

At last night's Academy Awards, Chris Rock told a joke about Jada Pinkett Smith, and then got smacked by Will Smith. Surprise! In our first bonus...

Your Kids Are Bumming Me Out

28 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When your kids behave in a way that makes you dislike, it's a pretty sure bet that we'll all dislike them, too. If adults don't like in...

Destroy Your Competition

24 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Destroy your competition... with other people! Stop comparing yourself to others, and start comparing yourself to who you were yesterday.Here are a co...

Friends in Low Places

21 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we take on Rule No. 3 from "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan Peterson: "Make friends with people who want the best for you...

Just Take Your Medicine

17 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we take on Rule No. 2 from "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan Peterson... "Treat yourself like someone you are responsible ...

Explain the Rules

14 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our first episode of the new "season"! Join us over the next six weeks as we cover "12 Rules for Life" by Jordan Peterson. We will...

I Can Fix Him!

07 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Probably my (Charles) favorite episode! When you interview your own therapist, making the conversation all about you is so easy! In this exciting, new...

Who's Your Daddy?

28 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Finally, we get a little into Dan's origin story! Please join us as we welcome, Mark Littman, a licensed counselor, and Dan's father.This we...