My Inner Torch
Episodes
Why we REMAIN.....
10 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThis podcast explores my personal struggle with staying in a toxic relationship with a Cluster B partner despite being aware of her flaw...
"Shock and Sell" Have you fallen prey to this?
03 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn relationships impacted by cluster B personality disorders like borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, and antisocial personality disor...
End of the Line? Where to now?
26 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat happens when you reach the end of your line, your tolerance, your desire to remain in a relationship with your Cluster B?I explore ...
Look Back Listen to 2020 "Emotional Sandcastles"
19 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this week's podcast of My Inner Torch we take a "Look Back Listen" to one of my most downloaded podcasts "Emotion...
Coat of many colors.
12 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat is your coat of many colors? In this podcast I explore the concept of a “coat of many colors” as a symbol for the facade indivi...
A look back on Chutes and Ladders.
05 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHi All,Due to a massive Nor' Easter where I live this week's podcast is a throwback to October 2020. Unfortunately, this podca...
Unmasking Narcissism: Exploring Types and Behaviors
29 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textToday I explore various forms of narcissism, warning against hasty labeling and emphasizing that abusive behavior remains consistent reg...
What does it say about us?
22 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat does our relationship with our Cluster B say about us? In a world where love and care are often equated with sacrifice, it’s easy...
The Kangaroo Court of the Cluster B
15 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this episode of My Inner Torch I explore the concept of a “Kangaroo Court of the Cluster B,” in our relationships. This is a cour...
Distorted Realities of the Cluster B
08 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this Podcast, I discuss the challenging experience of being in a relationship with someone exhibiting traits of Cluster B personality...
Emotional Tidal Pools of the Cluster B
01 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textToday's podcast delves into the dynamics of relationships with individuals having Cluster B personality disorders, discussing emoti...
How Many Times?
23 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textToday's Podcast explores the complex relationship dynamics between empaths and individuals with Cluster B personality disorders, su...
It's Not Okay!
16 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast of My Inner Torch I discuss the challenges of dealing with individuals exhibiting Cluster B personality disorders, empha...
Green Flags...and why we are emotionally color blind to them.
09 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this episode of “My Inner Torch,” I explore the complexities of Cluster B relationships, shedding light on the often overlooked p...
Theatre of the Cluster B
02 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat part do you play in the theatre of your Cluster B? In this podcast of My Inner Torch I finally have the opportunity to explore the ...
Can you identify covert put downs from your Cluster B?
26 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast of “My Inner Torch” I address five covert put-downs used by Cluster B's. I provide examples of these tactics an...
The Gig Is Up!
19 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast of My Inner Torch I recount a personal experience of being in a relationship for 23 years and realizing it lacks fulfill...
Strong words from Anthony Hopkins about your Cluster B
12 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this episode of My Inner Torch, I explore the actor Anthony Hopkins’ recent writing about relationships. Hopkins advises letting go...
Living in the shadow of a disordered mind.
05 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast, I reflect on the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has a cluster B personality disorder like narci...
The pain behind the mirror.
29 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWelcome to My Inner Torch, where I delve into the intricate dynamics of relationships and the masks that people wear. In this episode, I...
Do we expect too much from our Cluster B?
22 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this episode of “My Inner Torch,” I confront the complex dynamics of being in a relationship with partners who have Cluster B per...
Spotting a covert narcissist.
15 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI talk a lot about covert narcissists, as I suspect my wife is one. So how do you spot a covert narc? We take a closer look at some of t...
Can you walk away a winner?
08 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCan you walk away a winner from your Cluster B? I explore this idea in this week's podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Happy Holidays with your Cluster B?
01 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWith the holidays approaching, many of us are already in a state of fear as to how everything is going to play out with family and frien...
Free lunch with a Cluster B? I don't think so!
24 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textYou've heard the saying "There's no such thing as a free lunch"....well, with a Cluster B that is especially so. Eve...
Living in a fog of denial
17 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre you living in a fog of denial? Can you accept your Cluster B for who they are and what they bring to your relationship? Listen to th...
It's okay to hurt!
10 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWe never seem to allow ourselves the luxury of acknowledging the hurt we receive from our relationship with our Cluster B. In this podca...
Take it or leave it?!
03 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textTake it or leave it....? Take it or leave it! Which one is it...and how do we approach that statement in our relationship with our Clust...
Taking inventory with your Cluster B
27 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAfter 23+ years with my Cluster B, I'm stepping back and taking inventory of where I am and where I should be. Should you be? Liste...
Confessions of a Cluster B
20 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf you listen to your Cluster B, they will frequently confess something you may have thought but can now confirm. Have you heard one? Li...
The Hurt Locker
13 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSpecial events....birthdays, anniversaries, and family events can all end up in our "Hurt Locker". Let's explore this ide...
Do you feel safe?
06 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you feel safe in your relationship with your Cluster B? I give some insight on this in this podcast of My Inner Torch. Support the s...
How long do you do?
29 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this 3rd Anniversary Podcast of My Inner Torch, I wonder why we do what we do to serve our Cluster B. Listen and see if you agree. S...
Identifying Hidden Abuse
22 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast, I identify several behaviors that can constitute as Hidden Abuse at the hands of your Cluster B. I also touch on famili...
It's the little things!
15 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt's the little things that remind us that our relationship with our Cluster B is anything but normal and balanced. It's the l...
Do you bite the hook of "baiting" from your Cluster B?
08 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textFrequently the Cluster B will "bait" you into reacting. And if you do, are you left feeling guilty for this "reactive abu...
State of Denial....
01 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCluster B's cannot be vulnerable and we seem to be in a state of denial in our relationships with them. I explore this idea further...
Cluster B's Warning Label
25 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI believe Cluster B's should come with a warning label. Find out why in this week's podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
My theory on vulnerability and the Cluster B
18 Aug 2023
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Send us a textI have been thinking about why my Cluster B is not vulnerable and discuss my theory in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Never Losing Hope
11 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCluster B's take away a lot from us. However, it seems they can't take one thing away from us...hope!Support the show
Living in a world of hurt.
04 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you ever feel like you are living in a world of hurt with your Cluster B? Find out why I do in the podcast of My Inner Torch. Suppor...
Are you being honest?
28 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWe frequently become so involved and absorbed in our Cluster B relationship, we forget to be honest with ourselves. Or maybe we avoid th...
Is Self Love possible with a Cluster B?
21 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCan you love yourself when you are involved with a Cluster B?"Self Love"...is it just a buzzword, or can you practice it?Find ...
The Cluster B Gauntlet
14 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre you continuously being challenged by your Cluster B? Do you feel like they are always throwing down the gauntlet? I share some ideas...
I'm Sorry....
07 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textFor the first time in over two and a half years and over 140 podcasts, I am apologizing to my abuser.Support the show
Why???
30 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo yo find yourself asking "why?" on a daily basis....why do they do this or do that...why?I explore this further in this podc...
What it is...and what it isn't....
23 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCurious about what your relationship is with your Cluster B and what it isn't? You are not alone. I explore some theories in this w...
What to expect from your Cluster B Part 2
16 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThe second in a two-part series "What to expect from your Cluster Part 2" picks up from last week's podcast where we expl...
What to expect from your Cluster B Part 1
09 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this two-part podcast, I explore what you can expect from your Cluster B on a day-to-day basis. WARNING: It's not pretty and wil...
Bonds and Chains with a Cluster B
02 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCan you break those bonds and chains with your Cluster B? Is that even possible? I explore the signs of Trauma Bonding and how we can st...
Bad Relationship Magnet?
26 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you ever felt you are a "bad relationship magnet"? Does your Cluster B speak of their former relationships and frame them...
What's love got to do with it?
19 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a text"I love you"....what does that mean with the Cluster B? I explore some ideas in this podcast of My Inner Torch. Support the s...
Love Addicted?
12 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDid you ever consider the idea that you may be addicted to your relationship with your Cluster B? Find out more in this podcast of My In...
Are you being abused in your Cluster B relationship?
05 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDirect question with a not-so-simple answer. Are you being abused? You may find that answer in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support th...
They are who they are....not who you thought they are.
28 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSounds like a riddle..."They are who they are, not who you thought they are" but in reality, your Cluster B will not or are no...
The Unsinkable Cluster B
21 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWould you board the Titanic if you knew the ship would sink? Probably not. Then why do we enter and stay in relationships with abusive p...
WHY?
14 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you find yourself asking yourself "Why?" on a daily basis in your relationship with your Cluster B? I explore "why&q...
Terms and Conditions of the Cluster B
07 Apr 2023
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Send us a textDo you ever feel like you have to meet "terms and conditions" with your Cluster B to get anywhere with them?I explore "Te...
Is your relationship Terminal?
31 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI have been thinking about my relationship with my Cluster B and during this podcast of My Inner Torch draw a comparison between being t...
Recasting your Cluster B
24 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThey discard and recast us with another, why can't we do the same?I explore this idea in this weeks podcast of My Inner Torch. Sup...
Are you seeking validation?
17 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you listen to this podcast and others for validation? I explore this idea in this weeks podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Finding my inner voice....
10 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a text....it took years of living silently and being accepting of my wife's behaviors to finally find my inner voice and express it. Wel...
I owe you an apology!
03 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI believe I have made some generalizations and universal statements about ClusterB's since the beginning of this podcast and for ...
The Cluster B Discard Pile
24 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHow can you avoid being in a Cluster B's discard pile? Can you avoid it? Find out in this Podcast of My Inner Torch. Support the...
Emotional Intelligence of the Cluster B revisited.
17 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast, I revisit the meaning of emotional intelligence and how it applies to the Cluster B. This piggybacks on a popular podca...
Knights of the Cluster B Table
10 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre you one of the Knights of the Cluster B Table? Find out in this week's podcast of My Inner Torch. Support the show
Put up or Shut Up!
03 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this 120th podcast of My Inner Torch I explore the idea of taking action, not just standing back with your Cluster B.Support the show
The Cluster B Trojan Horse
27 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textLike the old myth of the Trojan Horse, Cluster B's are no different when you enter into a relationship with them. They are not what...
The Gravitational Pull of a Cluster B
20 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEven though you may not think it, it's there, an emotional gravitational pull that at a moment's notice will pull you back in....
A question with a question.....??????
13 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes your Cluster B answer your questions with a question? Not sure? Listen to them the next time you are in conversation and ask a ques...
They Won't Become What They Aren't....
06 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWe all wait for our Cluster B to be the person they were when we met them. Unfortunately "they won't become, what they aren&ap...
Writing the final chapters with your Cluster B.
30 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat happens when we come out of the fog and begin to write the final chapters of our relationship with our Cluster B?I explore my thoug...
Is your Cluster B good enough for you?
23 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textNot a trick question...think it through carefully:IS YOUR CLUSTER B GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU?Listen to this podcast to learn more. Support t...
Being "Bullet Proof" to your cluster B
16 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast, I address an email I received from a listener asking "how do we become bulletproof to your cluster b?"Support...
Don't go to war with your cluster B!
09 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWith the holidays fast approaching, you have to be ready to lay down your emotional arms and not be tempted to go to war with your clust...
Confessions of a Cluster B
02 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre we listening to our Cluster B when they confess their injustices against us?These are confessions of a Cluster B, this weeks podcast...
Minefields and Thought Grenades!
25 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCAUTION: The holiday season presents unique challenges existing around our Cluster B. Find out why in this podcast of My Inner Torch. S...
Black Swans on a pond
18 Nov 2022
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Send us a textWhat are Black Swans in your relationship with your Cluster B? Find out in this Podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Living under the thumb of a Cluster B
11 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre we surrendering our free will with our Cluster B, are we living under the thumb of our Cluster B? Further insights are explored in t...
What they do is not for you!
04 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen your Cluster B does for you, it's not really for you...make sense? Find more insight in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support...
Bullet Proof!
28 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAfter over 20 years of abuse, I can safely write that most of what my cluster B says or does no longer affects me. Can you become bullet...
Love Addicted
21 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre we addicted to love? Are we hooked on our Cluster B? Find out more in this Podcast of My Inner Torch.Hey, Big News! My Inner Torch...
Thoughtless!
14 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWe forgive, we forget, and we rationalize...it does not take away from the fact that Cluster B's are "thoughtless". I d...
Wash...Rinse...Repeat...
07 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt's a common theme in a relationship with a Cluster B...cycles, much like doing a load of laundry. Are you in a wash, rinse, repea...
Where I was, where I am now....
30 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textFor over two years I have hosted this podcast. Where was I then? Where am I now? Welcome to this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the...
Keys to the Castle
23 Sep 2022
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Send us a textOnce you have the Keys to the Castle, once you see the forest for the trees, you see things for what they are which is not always easy a...
The invisible man...
16 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre you being seen in your relationship? What are you getting out of your relationship with your Cluster B...neglect, confusion, abuse? ...
100th Podcast of My Inner Torch!
09 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textFor almost two years I have podcasted about my experiences in my marriage. Welcome to this 100th podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the s...
Paralytic Relationships with a Cluster B
02 Sep 2022
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Send us a textDo you feel trapped in your relationship with your Cluster B?You may be in a paralytic relationship. I explore this idea in this PodCast...
Deal Breakers...what are they in a Cluster B relationship?
26 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat are your deal breakers in your relationship with your Cluster B?Do you have any?I explore this idea in this podcast of My Inner Tor...
The Emotional Con Game
19 Aug 2022
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Send us a textIt's an Emotional Con, and we took the bait!Welcome to PodCast 97 of My Inner Torch.Support the show
No Fault Cluster B
12 Aug 2022
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Send us a textDo we really listen to our Cluster B? Do we take them at face value?i explore this idea in this PodCast of My Inner Torch. Support the ...
Moments
05 Aug 2022
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Send us a textMoments define us, especially those with our Cluster B. Do we remember these moments as they really are, or are we clouded by their real...
Cluster B Miranda Rights
29 Jul 2022
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Send us a textI hope you never experience the reading of the Miranda Rights firsthand, however, you may be living these rights daily as I reinterpret ...
Breaking the Spell!
22 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textYou've come through the fog, you are resolute to start a new life, and then as if by magic, you start doubting yourself, you start ...
Gunpowder Language
15 Jul 2022
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Send us a textDoes everything they say have a negative tone or intention? I explore the idea of "Gunpowder Language" in this weeks podcast o...
Living in La La Land
08 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textLiving in the delusional world of a Cluster B can leave you feeling like you are living in La La Land. I explore this in this Podcast of...
Thermo Nuclear Relationships
01 Jul 2022
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Send us a textAre you in a "Thermo Nuclear Relationship" with your cluster b? I explore this idea in the Podcast of My Inner Torch.Support t...
The Walking Dead
24 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this Podcast of My Inner Torch I explore some parallels between the TV series The Walking Dead and our relationship with a Cluster B....
Are you always wrong when you are right?
17 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre you always wrong, even though you are actually right when dealing with your Cluster B?Find out more in this Podcast of My Inner Torc...