My Inner Torch
Episodes
Death Grip!
10 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhy do we hang on to our Cluster B with a death-like grip?I explore some thoughts in this Podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
What do you do?
03 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat do you do when you know they don't care? Welcome to PodCast #86 of My Inner Torch.Support the show
It's the little things you do...
27 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt's the little things you do that remind me on a daily basis how little I mean to you.Find out more about those little things that...
Labels....labels...labels....
20 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textLABELS- Why do we spend countless hours trying to label our Cluster B? I have some ideas to share with you in this podcast of My Inner T...
Why do we hurt?
13 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhy do we continue to hurt? Why don't we understand their behaviors, even though we know their story and understand their ways.Supp...
Why don't you give up on your Cluster B already?
06 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat is holding you up on calling it quits with your Cluster B? I provide some insight in this Podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the sho...
Identity Theft
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you lost a sense of who you are and what you stand for? You could be a victim of identity theft at the hands of your Cluster B.Supp...
Reframing
22 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textStop blaming yourself for the relationship...REFRAME.Welcome to the 80th podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Pointed Question
15 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThere is a time we have to ask ourselves a pointed question. One that is hard to answer, but in the end, we have to think about the answ...
Silent Scream
08 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you ever had a nightmare in which you tried to scream and nothing came out?Find out more during this podcast of My Inner Torch.Supp...
Addicted and looking for a high?
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThe effect of Trauma Bonding can be compared to that of an addict. See if you agree with this Podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
The Narcissist's Prayer Redefined and applicable to all Cluster B's
25 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast I explore the Narcissist's Prayer and how it applies to any Cluster B in your world.Check out the prayer here!Suppo...
Red Flags in the wind
18 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDid you or do you see any red flags in your relationship with your personality-disordered partner?I explore this idea in this 75th podca...
Ready to move?
11 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre YOU ready to move on? I review a checklist in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Blank Space...Is Taylor Swift singing about a BPD relationship?
04 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textBack in 2014 Taylor Swift released Blank Space. If you listen to the song, is she singing about having a relationship with someone who i...
Trigger Happy Borderlines!
25 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textYou never know when you will step on an emotional landmine and trigger the Cluster B.Welcome to Podcast #72,: "Trigger Happy Border...
What are YOU waiting for?
18 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat are YOU waiting for in your relationship with a Cluster B?Welcome to Podcast #71 of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Are you "waiting to die?"
11 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhy do we stay, why do we endure? Are we just waiting to die?Support the show
Witness to a split.
04 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAfter a while, you know when you see it...a Borderline splitting. When you witness the split happening to another person it's a dif...
Are you a Gazelle?
28 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textNature can be so cruel. It's survival of the fittest out in the wild. I draw some parallels in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Suppo...
You can't fix what you didn't break!
21 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWe've all heard the saying "If it ain't broke, don't fix it"...so why do we try and fix our Cluster B when we d...
From the outside looking in.
14 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat if you took a moment to step outside of yourself to look at your relationship with your Cluster B. What would you see?Welcome to th...
Peeling back the layers of a BPD or NPD onion.
07 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIf BPD was an onion and you peeled back the layers what would you find? Welcome to this podcast of My Inner Torch. Support the show
Sandbagging? Have you been sandbagged by your Cluster B?
31 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSandbagging...ever heard of it? Chances are you have been a victim. I explore "sandbagging" in this podcast of My Inner Torch....
Those who stay and those who go...
24 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThose who say and those who do was a popular podcast about Cluster B's who threaten to leave and those who do. What about us, those...
I see a mirage!
17 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you ever feel like your relationship with a borderline or narc is like living in a mirage?Welcome to this podcast of My Inner Torch.S...
Do you belong?
10 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI was inspired by a quote that I share in this podcast of staying in a situation where we clearly do not belong. Welcome to this podcast...
Just the facts Ma'am...
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSpeaker beware, for what you say to your borderline or narc can and WILL be used against you or at the very least trigger them, if not b...
It's not you...it's the situation!
26 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSo many times we accept the blame for a circumstance that has nothing to do with us. In this 60th podcast of My Inner Torch I explore th...
Soul Suckers....
19 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you ever feel like your soul has been sucked from your body by your borderline?I explore this idea in this Podcast of My Inner Torch,...
Shoulda....Woulda...Coulda...
12 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you spend hours and days ruminating about how you should have handled a situation with your Cluster B? Welcome to this Podcast of My...
Seven Stages of coping with Cluster B
05 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI see seven distinct stages we pass through in our relationship with a Cluster B. I explore these stages in this Podcast of My Inner T...
Excuses...Excuses...Excuses...
29 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you ever feel like you make excuses for your borderline and their behaviors? Accept owness for their abuse?Welcome to Podcast #55 of ...
Bait and Switch!
22 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textNobody likes being a victim of Bait and Switch, but when you think about it, aren't we all victims of this in our relationship with...
Back to the Future!
15 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textBeing with someone with a Cluster B personality disorder can feel like living in a "Back to the Future" movie. Listen to what ...
Are you ready to "Cry Uncle"?
08 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHow much abuse will it take...how much crazymaking and magical thinking will you endure, when will you feel that you have had enough and...
Crazymaking!
01 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textA day in the life of dealing with a Borderline or Narcissist can and does involve crazymaking.Join me for a day in the life of crazymaki...
Are you starving?
24 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this 50th podcast of My Inner Torch I explore the empty hole most of us feel after we have been split and devalued by our BPD SO resu...
Old Movies and Memories
17 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you ever wish that life with your personality-disordered significant other could be like a Hollywood movie with a happy ending?Keep w...
The seven degrees of Kevin Bacon?
10 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textYou may be familiar with a game called "the seven degrees of Kevin Bacon" in which each player tries to see if they have a tie...
No Deposit....No Return...
03 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you ever feel like all you are doing in your relationship is making deposits and getting nothing in return? Welcome to this podcast o...
Looking for that RESET button?
27 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhat if there was a reset button on our disordered loved one...would you push it? Welcome to this podcast of My Inner Torch. Support t...
An Empty Hole
20 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you have a feeling of "emptiness"? A hole that cannot be filled by your disordered partner?Welcome to this podcast of My In...
You are a Saint!
13 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEach day, every day we put ourselves on the firing line with someone who has BPD. We endure, we rise above, we are Saints.Support the sh...
My Emotional Sandcastle Experience Related
06 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textA while ago I talked about "Emotional Sandcastle's" Here's one of my own.Support the show
Breadcrumbing...it is a thing.
30 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a text"Breadcrumbing"...it is a thing and you'll get the full loaf in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Why do WE bother....?
23 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhy do we do what we do with our borderlines? Why do we bother? I give you some insight in this 41st podcast of My Inner Torch. Support...
New beginnings!
16 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textUnderstanding what I now know, I am starting a new journey in this 40th Podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
I have a major announcement!
09 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI may have figured this all wrong...Welcome to Podcast #39 of my Inner Torch.Support the show
How long can a Borderline "Mirror" you?
02 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHow long can a borderline mirror you? We look at this from a borderline's view in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
How do you love a person with BPD?
25 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHow do you love a person with BPD? In this podcast of My Inner Torch I go over a checklist. See if you agree/ Support the show
Building a Better Mousetrap with your borderline?
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCan you build a better mousetrap with your borderline? Find out in this podcast of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Trauma Bond: An important checklist.
11 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast, I revisit "Trauma Bonding" and go over a checklist to see if you are trauma bonded to your borderline. Suppo...
Reality Check....can we do it?
04 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textThere comes a time when you have to take a step back and do a reality check of your relationship with your borderline.This is not an eas...
Relational BPD...how do you deal with it?
28 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI have received numerous questions regarding interacting and surviving with and around a family member who has BPD. This podcast address...
Gaslighting and BPD...an explosive mix!
21 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textGaslighting....accountability...projection and being apologetic are all volatile behaviors your borderline can exhibit. Get a better pe...
Is the grass greener on another pasture?
14 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhen a borderline leaves you, do they find true happiness with another person? Is the grass greener on another pasture? We explore some ...
What to expect with from your borderline on a daily basis.
07 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSilent treatment...Verbal Abuse...? Have you experienced these in your relationship with your borderline? These are only part of a laund...
"Hoovering"...what is it...and will it happen to you?
30 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textHave you ever been "hoovered" by your borderline? Perhaps you don't know what it is, and if you don't, you may have....
Moment of Reckoning
23 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt's emotionally healthy to take a moment and see where you really stand in your relationship with a borderline. I explore this f...
Marriage and BPD-A volatile mix.
16 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this podcast, I share insights of a person who is married to a person diagnosed with BPD. Listen and see if you can draw some paralle...
Cluster B Personality Disorders...Where does BPD fit in?
09 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textYou may have heard of Cluster B. It's a group of personality disorders identified in the DSM-V book of mental disorders. Where do...
Testing....Testing...1-2-3....
02 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes your borderline put you to the "test" on a daily basis? Do you feel that no answer is the "right" answer?In thi...
Let's Talk about ME!
26 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textEver feel like all you talk about is your Borderline and their emotions?Let's talk about ME in today's Podcast of My Inner Tor...
Do you have a "Trauma Bond" with your borderline?
19 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI recently had an epiphany that puts a lot of my relationship with my borderline into perspective. Listen, you may find that you too sh...
F.O.G....what does it mean? Are you in one?
12 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textAre you trapped in the FOG with your borderline? In this Podcast I explore what FOG stands for and what it means in your relationship. ...
Man in the mirror
05 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSometimes we have to look at ourselves and our relationship with the borderline and be honest to see it for what it truly is. Sometimes...
Are you a Lion Tamer?
26 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes it ever feel you are taming a lion as you interact with your borderline?Welcome to Podcast 21 of My Inner Torch.Support the show
Push...Pull....repeat!
19 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIt's an infinite cycle with the borderline...they push you away, then seemingly want to pull you closer. Why?Welcome to this Podcas...
Splitting...how does it feel and why the borderline does it.
12 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSplitting is a strange behavior borderlines frequently subject us "nons" to. Why do they do it? We take a look through the l...
Those who say....and those who do!
05 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI believe there are two types of Borderlines...those who say and those who do. Find out more in Podcast #18 of My Inner Torch.Support th...
Are you a Terminator?
29 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSometimes I feel like a Terminator in my relationship with my borderline.What do I mean?Listen to this Podcast and find out.Support the ...
Grey Rock...what it is and does it work with a borderline?
22 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textYou may not be familiar with the term "Grey Rock" but chances are you've used the technique in your dealings with a borde...
Emotional Intelligence Revisited
15 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textMy previous podcast "Emotional Intelligence" drew a lot of downloads and responses. In this podcast, I revisit the topic. Lis...
Keep the Dragon at bay!
08 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textCan you slay the dragon of BPD? Can you rescue a borderline from their own psyche?Listen to this Podcast of My Inner Torch for some insi...
Do they EVER remember?
31 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes a borderline ever remember their behaviors? Listen to my insight on this New Year special podcast.Support the show
The Elephant in the Room
14 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWe try to ignore it, we try to be normal. In the end, it's always there...the elephant in the room.Welcome to Podcast #12 of My Inn...
To Thine Own Self Be True
07 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI recently received a letter. It was postmarked from 2017 and it held some revelations from the past that remains true today.Welcome to ...
Emotional Self Worth
01 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textSometimes in dealing with our borderline we overlook something very important...our own self-worth. In Podcast #10 of My Inner Torch I e...
Normal Expectations
21 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWhy do we expect the norm from someone with BPD when the borderline exhibits anything but normal behaviors. Listen for further insight i...
A Four Letter Word....
13 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a text...that does not begin with "L". This is a feeling/emotion I have been waking up with these last few weeks.ListenSupport the...
A Thousand Words.....
04 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textA seemingly innocent picture captured a moment years ago, a moment that holds special meaning, explaining so much to me years later.List...
Chutes and Ladders!
23 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDoes your relationship with your borderline feel like a game of Chutes and Ladders? In keeping with a game theme to further explore th...
Emotional Weathervane
15 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you feel like your SO with BPD is like a weathervane? One minute they are pointing North only to swing erratically to the South...
Gun Toting Lunatics!
10 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textWould you argue with a lunatic pointing a gun at you? Join me as I share a tear-jerking listeners email about her family in this episode...
Emotional Intelligence
06 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textIn this Podcast I explore Emotional Intelligence and whether Borderlines have any. Are they really children trapped in an adults body wh...
Emotional Sandcastles
01 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textDo you ever feel like you are building "emotional sandcastles" with someone who has BPD?Join me as I explain the theory of Emo...
Inaugural Podcast
28 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Send us a textI have spent years trying to figure out my wife of almost 18 years as her behaviors were outside of the normal realm. The rages, the &qu...