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699 - How to persuade others (and yourself)

12 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the power of framing "opinion" vs "advice" and how it holds the power to persuade. I talk about the judgment of your inn...

698 - Do you believe in twin flames?

08 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the true measure of a "twin flame." I talk about one specific area of relationships (energy) and why it's more important...

697 - How to make them obsessed with you

05 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the one thing that draws people in. I talk about two key psychological concepts that help you connect with others.Get yo...

696 - This is why the breakup was necessary

01 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the one true purpose of a relationship and why when it's missing, the breakup is necessary. I ask you to look back on yo...

695 - The Opposite of Settling

28 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about creating a life you love, being in alignment with yourself, and "attracting" the love you deserve. I also talk about my ...

694 - Proof that you're on the right track

24 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about price vs. punishment. I talk about a spiritual agreement that affirms that want you want is just around the corner.Secre...

693 - "Trust issues" guide you, they don't guard you

21 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about rebranding "trust issues" to something more liberating and hopeful. I talk about the power of "discernment."My book, "Th...

692 - The science of "delusional confidence"

17 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what "delusional confidence" really is and how it's the key to creating "ease" in any relationship. I talk about a new w...

691 - Is it anxiety or your intuition?

14 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to tell the difference between an anxious thought and intuitive guidance. I talk about "knowing" vs. "questioning" a...

690 - "Where did all the good men go?"

10 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a powerful reframing for when you feel like the healthy partner you deserve doesn't actually exist. I talk about "where"...

689 - This is what healing feels like

07 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about letting your body release stress and "crash out." I talk about no longer suppressing one of the most important responses...

688 - Are they ready for a relationship?

03 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about an underrated way to tell if someone is ready for commitment. I talk about their relationship with one element of life a...

687 - One. More. Time.

31 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a mindset that says "keep tossing sparks because eventually something will catch fire." I talk about finding an area in ...

686 - People meet you at the depth they’ve met themselves

27 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to know if someone has "met themselves." I talk about how to gauge someone's self-awareness and why this is so impor...

685 - That's none of my business!

24 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, talk about letting go of other people's opinions, timing, and unfair expectations by saying "that's none of my business." I talk abou...

684 - Love should feel like a deep exhale

20 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, talk about the effect a healthy partner has on your nervous system. I break down what love should and shouldn't feel like in your bod...

683 - BEST DAY OF MY LIFE

17 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, talk about the difference between living "day to day" and "day by day." I talk about how to appreciate the life we've been given.My b...

682 - The Truth About Love That Lasts (w/ Yung Pueblo)

13 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I'm joined by #1 New York Times Best-Selling author Yung Pueblo to talk about how to love better. We talk about attachment, "how to a...

681 - Rethinking "right person, wrong time"

10 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "right person, wrong time" and why I say “it was the wrong person for the life you’re meant to have.” I talk about...

680 - The day bad drivers stop bothering you, you’re free.

06 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the areas in our life where we're NOT free. I talk about freedom vs. control and how to find unlimited peace in your lif...

679 - WALK AWAY POWER

03 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why "walk away power" and how it empowers you to be more fully present in life. I talk about self-abandonment and lettin...

678 - Why is everything "sooooo embarrassing?"

27 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why you're never truly free in life until you let go of "embarrassment." I talk about why we keep ourselves small and th...

677 - Are they rare? Or just unavailable on purpose?

24 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why we have to recognize that some people make themselves appear valuable not by actually having substance, but by withh...

676 - Clarity comes AFTER you make the decision (so, make it!)

20 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about TWO underrated mindsets that can simplify your life. I talk about creating your own clarity and using it to guide you fo...

675 - Build a life you love and love will find you there

17 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why I say, "build a life you love and love will find you there." I talk about a mindset of being "open to being found" a...

674 - Why do I think everyone is doing "better" than me?

13 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about my guiding mantra, "There are corners of the world where your soul is already at home, waiting for you to arrive." I tal...

673 - "Does the barista want me to ask them out?" (compatibility)

10 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about two pieces of dopamine we need to stop misreading as romantic chemistry. I talk about why the strongest relationships ar...

672 - We are all time billionaires (w/ Sahil Bloom)

06 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I'm joined by entrepreneur, author, and intentional living expert Sahil Bloom to talk about why scoreboard we use to measure our succ...

671 - "Please Be as Weird as Me" (making friends as an adult)

03 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about making friends as an adult. I talk about "fitting in" vs. "connecting" and a three-stop method for connecting with peopl...

670 - Being direct is the cheat code to life

30 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the power of being direct and straightforward with yourself... and others. I talk about getting out of your own way and ...

669 - Let go of the story that is NOT true (w/ Peter Crone)

27 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I chat with Peter Crone, a thought leader in human potential and performance who helps people redesigns their subconscious mind. We t...

668 - Your renaissance era

23 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what it means to enter your "renaissance era." I talk about expanding your definition of love to be "the energy of life ...

667 - Life is lighter when you let go of "what if"

20 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about worrying. I talk about a mindful way to "simplify" your worry, embrace the idea of "dukkha," and feel lighter.My book, "...

666 - Love fully, but don’t lose yourself (“points of no return”)

16 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "points of no return" - the line in the sand you should draw before going into a relationship. I talk about how to estab...

665 - Detach... and let life surprise you

13 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the art of "detachment." I talk about a mindset that says, "let go of the mirror and open the window."My book, "That's B...

664 - You’re too smart, hot, & ambitious to ignore these red flags

09 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about red flag behaviors that indicate someone is not truly invested in you (friends, partners, business, etc.) I talk about a...

663 - Why am I always disappointed in other people?

06 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why our expectations for others are setting us up to be disappointed. I talk about who deserves our high expectations an...

662 - You are the conduit for miracles (w/ Gabby Bernstein)

02 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I sit down with #1 New York Times Best-Selling author Gabby Bernstein. We talk about Internal Family Systems (IFS), a transformative ...

661 - Peace of mind is wealth

30 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why peace of mind comes from being unrushed in life. I talk about letting go of expectations and timing to find your pea...

660 - A mindset to take their insult less personally

26 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about letting go and the art of becoming self-assured. I talk about why we let other people's insults amplify our own insecuri...

659 - Do they make you feel "safe?"

23 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about emotional safety in a relationship. I talk about why it's not what we think it is, and questions to ask yourself to dete...

658 - The burden of "am I happy enough?"

19 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about happiness as a goal vs. happiness as a result of living life fully. I talk about pressure to be happy and how to escape ...

657 - THEIR mindset shapes your relationship

16 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about positive vs. negative mental filters and how they create the reality of your relationship. Are getting flowers genuine v...

656 - "The Transitive Property of Embarrassing Yourself"

12 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to free yourself from fear of embarrassment. I talk about how to live freely and without any fear of being "cringe."...

655 - Your needs are not an inconvenience (people pleasing)

09 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the root cause of people pleasing. I talk about "fawn response" and how to push back against fear of conflict.My book, "...

654 - It's not already yours, so what do you have to lose?

05 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the antidote to fear of rejection. I talk about our relationship with uncertainty and how a simple mindset can help us e...

653 - You're hot and funny, so why are you stressing?

02 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why it's only a matter of time until the tables turn in your favor. I talk about giving yourself credit for 5 things you...

652 - Forever is composed of nows

25 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why the present is the purpose. I talk about why we don't give the present the respect it deserves.My book, "That's Bold...

651 - Miss them from afar

21 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to appreciate the past but firmly move on from it. I talk about 5 signs of strength you've demonstrated in your life...

650 - What are we doing with the time we've been given?

18 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what I'd do if I woke up in the year 2005 knowing everything I know today. I talk about our perception of time and how t...

649 - What's lost is gone. What’s looking for you now?

14 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why you don’t have to retrace your steps to reclaim what you lost. I talk about honoring who you are today and finding...

648 - The most important promise they must make

11 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the most important (yet often unspoken) promise your partner should make. I talk about why it's so important and what it...

647 - This is why you're out of their league

07 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what it means to be "out of their league." I talk about owning your past mistakes and using them to find alignment in yo...

646 - Freedom is being, not performing

04 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what freedom really is and how it's something you can give yourself. I talk about dropping the mask of needing to "perfo...

645 - Please, don't chase them (is it love or fear of losing them?)

31 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what chasing really is and why we confuse it with genuine effort. I talk about how to check in with yourself to recogniz...

644 - Ask them this question to see who they really are

28 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about one question to reveal who someone aspires to be or what they're insecure about. I talk about surface vs. depth and WHO ...

643 - How to date and love as an "old soul"

24 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how being an "old soul" and craving depth in a superficial world. I talk about how to see your patience, sensitivity, an...

642 - Choose joy over their toxic narrative

21 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how most negativity comes from a tiny minority and why we shouldn't mistake their noise for reality. I talk about refusi...

641 - Enjoy your solitude (take a break from dating)

17 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about when to take a break from dating. I talk about your sense of self, purpose, and what to do if dating feels like a "need"...

640 - Closure isn’t something you get from them

14 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why closure isn’t something you get from them, it’s the decision to stop needing them. I talk about how to reset you...

639 - Please don't "match their energy"

10 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why givers are winners (and generally have higher intelligence). I talk about why leading with your energy and effort (i...

638 - No more "people pleasing"

07 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why we become people pleasers and how to break free. I talk about guilt vs. sacrifice and how to know the difference.My ...

637 - Don't be like them (pessimists)

03 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a new way to think about optimism. I talk about pessimism vs. possibility and why optimism doesn't always require positi...

636 - Do they have "intimacy amnesia?"

30 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the way some people don't appreciate moments of connection/intimacy together. I talk about how to react to this disconne...

635 - It's ok to be the villain in their story

26 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why being the villain in someone else’s story is just the cost of setting yourself free. I talk about what it means to...

634 - HOW do they apologize? (don't overlook the red flags)

23 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the keys to a genuine apology. I talk about how to know if it's a heartfelt apology or just an attempt to avoid accounta...

633 - Are they worth fighting for?

19 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about self betrayal and why we allow ourselves to do it. I talk about why we keep giving without receiving and where to draw t...

632 - Celebrate this season of your life

16 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "seasons" of life and how to honor the one you're actually in. I talk about knowing when to hold on (it's an investment)...

631 - Don't let anyone convince you that you're being "dramatic"

12 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about people who want you to think you're "making a big deal out of nothing." I talk about the type of partner you deserve - s...

630 - Don't avoid this feeling (it's helping you upgrade)

09 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how negative emotions camouflage positive ones. I talk about how embracing the negative is the key to upgrading your lif...

629 - Stop fixing people who don’t want to be fixed

05 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the difference between someone who is a blessing in your life and someone who is a burden. I talk about knowing the diff...

628 - Optimism makes you happier (and earns you more $$)

02 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the science of optimism, and why making trust your default will make you happier and more successful.My book, "That's Bo...

627 - Your life's delays are helping you avoid dead ends

29 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how what's "right" about you is helping you avoid mediocrity in life. I talk about how to remove the idea that there's s...

626 - The one mindset holding you back (forcing things)

26 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the power of opposites when it comes to your existing mindset. I talk about intention and how you might be inadvertently...

625 - Don't romanticize the people who confuse you

22 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why we romanticize past pain and present confusion. I talk about how to stop doing this and what to look for instead.My ...

624 - They don't know the real you (an antidote to judgment)

19 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how people see you vs. how you see you. I also talk about the illusion of someone else vs. who they really are.My book, ...

623 - Why are they becoming distant with you?

15 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I help decipher other people's distant behavior. I talk about what it means and a mindset around interpreting it.My book, "That's Bol...

622 - The case for doing something unhinged

12 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about research around fears and how courage can be contagious. I talk about finding a catalyst to do something scary (unhinged...

621 - Struggling to trust again?

08 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to rebuild trust in others. I talk about two mindsets to help if your trust has been ruined before and you're strugg...

620 - The old you vs the new you (w/ Doug Bopst)

05 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the power of reinvention and the cycle of becoming. I'm join by award-winning personal trainer, author, speaker, and ent...

619 - But did you have fun?

01 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a life of playfulness. I talk about making your own meaning (joy) in life and how to "have fun" even with the weight of ...

618 - Do they bring you peace or problems?

29 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to tell if your partner calms your anxiety or adds to it. I talk about several defining behaviors and how to deciphe...

617 - Advice like "just be yourself" is holding you back

25 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how we get in our own way by only trying to "be ourselves." I talk about why you can’t discover who you are if you’r...

616 - They make promises, but do they keep them?

22 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why you need to hold people to the promises they make. I talk about trust as the foundation of any relationship and the ...

615 - Chasing tomorrow makes you miss today

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about one powerful analogy that will help you be present instead of worrying about the future. I talk about how to embrace the...

614 - Are they wasting your time?

15 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the one sign that someone is wasting your time, energy, and effort. I talk about what consideration really means and whe...

613 - Nothing is a miracle? Or EVERYTHING is a miracle?

11 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why you should never be ashamed of being "naive." I talk about how to live with a sense of lightness and ease in life by...

612 - Are they mad at you or mad at themselves?

08 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about four questions to ask yourself in the face of someone's hurtful behavior. I talk about the concept of a mirror and how t...

611 - Don't be charmed into submission

04 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what to look for in partners and friends. I talk about how to cut through the BS and avoid one specific mindset that lea...

610 - Are you respecting yourself? (4 mindsets)

01 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about 4 ways to ensure you're respecting yourself. I talk about becoming your fiercest advocate for happiness in life.My book,...

609 - Humble strength (w/ Jimmy Queen)

27 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Jimmy Queen about vulnerability, being a man, and a new definition of courage.Support the Purpose Built initiative: https...

608 - The joy of pulling a 180 (reinvention)

24 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a new way to think about your life's timing and how to create more joy. I talk about embracing and creating 180s (reinve...

607 - Be hard to get (don't play hard to get)

20 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the difference between being hard to get and playing hard to get. I talk about a mindset of being hard to impress and wh...

606 - The one thing you have that they don't

17 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the things that are a testament to your character that should remind you of you power. I talk about how to respond to ot...

605 - How to distinguish between someone's potential and reality

13 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to stop "filling in the blanks" and instead hone in on someone's reality vs. their potential. I provide several exam...

604 - What "wrongness" are you tolerating in your life?

10 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why the longer you tolerate what’s wrong in your life, the longer you unnecessarily delay what’s right. I talk about...

Surrender and trust the process (w/ Kasbo)

07 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This is a special bonus music x mindfulness episode featuring producer and musician Kasbo. Join us for a short episode featuring Kasbo's music, his st...

603 - You're not falling behind (don't settle)

06 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why the root of settling is found in the question "Am I making this choice because I truly want it, or because I'm afrai...

602 - Why won't they meet you at your level?

03 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why some people aren't capable of meeting you where you are - aka why certain people can't meet your standards, effort, ...

601 - Their hesitation is a decision (unsure people)

30 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to handle unsure people in your life. I talk about why if they need convincing, they're not worth convincing. I talk...