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600 - Dance with your audacity

27 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode (600!), I talk about why audacity is the key to the life you deserve. I talk about how to break free of expectation and "low common de...

599 - Bitterness is baggage

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about where bitterness in life comes from and how to let it go. I talk about why letting go of bitterness is the key to manife...

598 - Don't let their "self awareness" fool you

20 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "self-awareness" in friends and partners. I talk about why it's an essential quality that makes room for the qualities y...

597 - Stop chasing unavailable people (w/ Matthew Hussey)

16 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with relationship expert and best-selling author Matthew Hussey about chasing unavailable people, the truth about confidence, ...

596 - Do this when you feel overwhelmed

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a psychological strategy to help you when you feel overwhelmed. I talk about how to zoom out and consolidate your life's...

595 - Closure is an inside job

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what closure really is, what it looks like, and how to give it to yourself. I talk about WHY vs. WHAT and how to be your...

594 - Do they like me or hate me? (Attribution Theory)

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the assumptions we make about how people perceive us. I talk about Attribution Theory and why we have two choices to mak...

593 - Act like it! (quiet confidence)

02 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what a healthy ego looks like and why you should have some fire in your chest. I talk about presenting evidence of your ...

592 - Happiness is the absence of desire

29 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what happiness really is and why it's found in balance - not becoming a monk devoid of any desire, and not becoming a ho...

591 - What do you bring to the table? (a lot)

25 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what you actually bring to the table. I talk about why "I'm not interested" is the most powerful phrase you can say and ...

590 - Luck comes from being present

22 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how being unrushed leads to more luck in life. I talk about why "lucky" people are more present and how this attract mor...

589 - Exploring codependency in relationships (w/ Mark Groves)

18 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I'm joined by Mark Groves and we talk about what codependency really is, "The Great Disconnect" in dating (why we sometimes hide aspe...

588 - Your relationship is a mirror

15 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how your relationships are a mirror into yourself and into others. I talk about the two types of mirrors and why they ar...

587 - The universe is giving you a sign. Do you see it?

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the signs all around you that the "universe" wants you to see. I talk about how to see them and what to make of them.My ...

586 - Stability in a relationship is NOT boring

08 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why peace should be the foundation for your relationship. I talk about why drama might make love feel alive, but peace i...

585 - Set a "Freak-Out Deadline"

04 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to avoid unnecessary worry and anxiety. I talk about how to remain in the present instead of the future of "what ifs...

584 - Being unrushed is true wealth

01 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a lifestyle of being unrushed. I talk about how intentional slowness amplifies joy in life and why it's true wealth.My N...

583 - You are too full of life to not walk away

28 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what it means to "walk away." I talk about how to avoid complacency and I dive into two specific things to look for in p...

582 - The truth about being someone you're not (aka faking it)

25 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what happens when you wear a mask or play a role for too long. I talk about how to come back to yourself and the goodnes...

581 - Break all the rules w/ Marie Forleo

21 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I'm joined by best-selling author, entrepreneur, and "everything is figureoutable" advocate Marie Forelo. We talk about breaking the ...

580 - Someone who loves you vs. someone who only loves that you love them

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about avoiding one-sided relationships where one person thrives on the validation you provide them and offers nothing in retur...

579 - Faith & patience

14 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the two keys to a happy life - faith and patience. I talk about why patience isn't about waiting, it's about knowing.My ...

578 - Don't get played by these THREE mind games

11 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about three specific mind games people like to play. I talk about why they're all about misdirection and making you have a "sc...

577 - Not where you're supposed to be in life?

07 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about imposter syndrome, feeling like you're "behind" in life, and self doubt. I talk about why life is about direction, not s...

576 - Texting anxiety? The key to peace of mind

04 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about anxiousness around texting and overthinking. I talk about how to let go of fear-driven narratives and instead find peace...

575 - Don't waste the time you've been given

29 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the root of regret. I talk about indecision and inaction and a mindset to help you move forward, not to stay in place.My...

574 - Are they emotionally unavailable?

26 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about emotionally distant people. I talk about the difference between closeness and distance and how to evaluate your relation...

573 - Stop listening to yourself and talk to yourself instead

22 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about The Pygmalion Effect, internal dialogues, and how to take back your power. I talk about the balance between listening to...

572 - The right person doubles your joy and divides your grief

19 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about letting go of disillusionment or thinking love is pointless. I talk about taking back your power in the face of negative...

571 - The art of "spiraling up" (a response to haters in life)

15 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why trying to simply "cope" with life's difficulties is setting you up to spiral out of control. I talk about "recycling...

570 - Never say these things to a man

12 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why you can't say the wrong thing to the right person. I talk about overthinking what you say and fear of someone leavin...

569 - How to eliminate distraction and win life (w/ Nir Eyal)

08 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to act on your intentions in life, remove distraction, and minimize regret. I'm joined by Nir Eyal and together we t...

568 - Are you a "narcissist magnet?"

05 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why qualities that can be taken advantage of (kindness, empathy, eagerness) are NOT a disadvantage. I talk about how to ...

567 - Power moves (The Self Efficacy Theory)

01 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "taking your power back." I talk about the Self Efficacy Theory and some small ways to fight back against feeling powerl...

566 - Clarity, not confusion

29 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what it means for someone to offer you clarity, not confusion. I talk about the things someone should bring out of you a...

565 - Surrender your seriousness

25 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about hiding "weakness" and why it only serves to create resentment in life. I talk about how to "surrender your seriousness" ...

564 - The four types of single people

22 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about four different mindsets you can have during your single phase in life. I talk about what each means and how to make the ...

563 - Never wish to "fast forward" time

18 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why wishing to "fast forward" time is really just wishing for less time in life. Never wish for less time. I talk about ...

562 - The case for embracing your weirdness in dating

15 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the power of non-conformity in dating. I talk about how embracing your weirdness in dating is more attractive than you t...

561 - Don't waste your sanity on their insanity

11 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about acceptance. I talk about how to move past someone's hurtful act by "letting go of the piece of coal" and why "you are no...

560 - Joy, hidden in plain sight

08 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a powerful mindset that balances MORE with the present. I talk about the reality of being an ambitious and driven person...

559 - Don't date from expectations, date from standards

04 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the theory that "women start potential partners at 100" and "men start them at 0." I talk about how expectations get in ...

558 - The power of open-mindedness

01 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the one quality you should look for in others and yourself. I talk about the power of seeking light in the dark, curiosi...

557 - Your partner should grow you (The Michelangelo Phenomenon)

28 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "The Michelangelo Phenomenon," the difference between a companion and a catalyst, and why a relationship isn’t just ab...

556 - Don't put it down, put it away

21 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a practical approach to mindfulness and finding peace within yourself. I talk about how to end inner chaos with the mant...

555 - The one thing strong men aren't afraid to do

18 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what it means to be a "strong" man. I talk about the mask of masculinity, "being a man," and mindfulness.My NEW journal,...

554 - What is the universe trying to upgrade for you?

14 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a mindset that helps you affirm life is happening FOR you. I talk about letting go, releasing expectations, and welcomin...

553 - You deserve "more" than grand gestures

11 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "consideration" and why it's the true foundation for any relationship. I talk about what it looks like and the differenc...

552 - Silence now, resentment later

07 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the real reason we need to speak up in life. I talk about what speaking with honesty gives you that has nothing to do wi...

551 - The ONE and ONLY quality that matters in a man

04 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the difference between a man's fixed mindset and his growth mindset. I talk about two words - SO vs. BUT and how they re...

Never Give Up (w/ Matoma)

01 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a special music x mindfulness episode of the podcast where I team up with DJs and producers to bring music and mindfulness to life in exciting...

550 - Stop comparing yourself (the reality of "selective envy")

30 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the illogical reality of comparing your life's entirety to someone else's highlight reel. I talk about how to take back ...

549 - The "Down to Clown" Approach to Love

27 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "bids for emotional connection," specifically the power of laughter and playfulness in a relationship.My NEW journal, "T...

548 - The power of prayer (not religious)

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the power of non-religious prayer and why the quote "there are years that ask questions and years that answer” is the ...

547 - Don't mistake drama for passion

16 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the difference between passion and drama, why we're quick to confuse the two, and how to shake free of a cycle of drama ...

546 - Choose happiness, not history

13 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how we can stop letting "what if" talk us out of what we really deserve. I talk about the "Screw It Philosophy."My NEW j...

545 - Men don't want to chase (they want to earn)

09 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about chasing vs. earning in a relationship. I talk about the difference between the two and why I say chasing is about showin...

544 - How to go against the grain (and why)

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about The Abilene Paradox, how to stop conforming, and the value of going against the grain.My NEW journal, "The BOLD Journal"...

543 - They want a partner, but do they want to be a partner?

02 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why people say they want a partner but they don't want to BE a partner. I talk about dating for outcomes vs. dating for ...

542 - Stop being subtle (the art of being bold)

30 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the mindset behind being bold in life. I talk about why peace = being bold and you need to say your name outloud. My NEW...

A Moment of Calm (meditation w/ Mike Einziger of Incubus & Ann Marie Einziger)

27 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a a special music x mindfulness episode with Mike Einziger, co-founder and guitarist of the band Incubus alongside world renowned violinist An...

541 - Add more "side quests" to your life

26 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the value of "side quests" and how to slow down time. I talk about a life of predictability vs. a life of joy.Want more?...

540 - Why someone chooses to hurt you

23 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the psychology behind someone choosing to hurt you. I talk about a freeing mindset to have that will set you free from t...

539 - You can't build a relationship with someone who...

19 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about THREE behaviors to pay attention to and how to put them on "on trial." I talk about how to avoid chasing someone who wan...

538 - A life of beautiful chaos

16 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a mindset that will help you receive more "happy accidents." I talk about asking yourself "what is this giving me?" inst...

537 - Love is not about keeping score (let go of 50/50)

12 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a version of love that doesn't keep score. I talk about letting go of the idea of 50/50 and in the process, letting go o...

536 - Don't blame yourself for their behavior

09 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about NOT making someone's poor behavior about you. I talk about how to view it objectively and to realize that their poor beh...

535 - "Just because you love me doesn't mean I feel loved"

05 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the difference between being loved and feeling loved and when you need to say "just because you love me doesn't mean I f...

534 - Are you being honest with yourself?

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about letting go of attachment to "happiness" and replacing it with something you can control. I talk about one question to as...

533 - What men say vs. what they mean

28 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I provide mindful translations for what men say but mean something else. I translate: "We should hang out sometime." "My ex was crazy...

532 - Feeling down? Here's a better way to react to your emotions

25 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why feeling bad does not necessarily means it's bad for you. I talk about acceptance and how to take your power back whe...

531 - Don’t be strung along by “I’m so busy”

21 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what to do when someone gives you the excuse "I'm so busy." I talk about what it really means and how to avoid being str...

530 - When someone judges you unfairly...

18 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why people "think they've read your entire book based on one paragraph they skimmed." I talk about how to respond to peo...

529 - Choose someone out of love, NOT loneliness

14 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk love born of loneliness. I talk about finding power in being alone so that you can truly discern between love by choice and lo...

528 - Is it worth getting upset about?

11 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about ONE question to ask yourself that will help you find clarity when you feel triggered. I talk about how to avoid being un...

527 - Don't play a role in your own suffering

07 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the difference between pain and suffering. I talk about one question to ask yourself in order to stop playing a role in ...

526 - The sexiest thing about you

04 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the source of your inner peace... and what makes you attractive. I talk about the phrase, "You've hurt people, now can y...

525 - They’re not your type, they’re your pattern

31 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about your type vs. your pattern. I talk about how to break free of a pattern, why we rationalize bad behavior from partners, ...

524 - How to stop talking yourself out of trying

28 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to find the motivation to at least try "that thing" you've been talking yourself out of. I talk about Rick Rubin, hu...

523 - Unsure about them? Ask yourself this question

24 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to find clarity in your relationship by asking yourself ONE question. I talk about how to break free of potential an...

522 - Surround yourself with these 6 kinds of people

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about six qualities to look for in the people in your life. I talk about why these qualities matter and what they look like.My...

521 - Is it compatibility OR love?

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the difference between compatibility and love. I talk about why the difference is importance, how to spot it, and what e...

520 - Don't take their BS personally

14 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the key to not taking everything personally in life. I talk about what it means to "give someone the benefit of the doub...

519 - Let them feel your absence

10 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why we need to stop keeping tabs on certain people. I talk about how to trust yourself again and still recognize the val...

518 - Left-handed anger (be patient with yourself)

07 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about "left-handed anger" and how we can be a bit more patient with ourselves. I talk about WHY we're unfair to ourselves and ...

Listener Q&A: Right person, wrong time; "why are you single?"; self forgiveness

04 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a bonus listener Q&A episode where I answer questions live on the podcast. In this episode I answer questions about "right person, wrong time,...

517 - Are you in "Raccoon Mode?"

03 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about what it means to be in "Raccoon Mode," bare minimum, and how to answer the question "what is worth fighting for" in rela...

516 - Don't let them bullsh** you

31 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about how to no longer allow anyone to BS you by no longer BSing yourself. I talk about an interesting study about "bullsh**ti...

515 - "He should just know that"

27 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why "communication doesn't undermine sincerity." I talk about why someone can't read your mind and why asking for more i...

514 - The case for being a hot mess

24 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why you should "add some chaos" to your life. I talk about the value of uncertainty and the one thing you can give yours...

513 - Love should bring you peace, not chaos

20 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the peace and calm the right person should bring to your life. I talk about the purest expression of love and why it's n...

512 - Cringe, but free

17 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about why you shouldn't let go of the part of that is cringe, but rather let go of the part of you that cringes. I talk about ...

511 - When life is unfair...

13 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about a mindset to help you when you feel that life is unfair. I talk about the two choices you can make and how to find your ...

510 - Do your boundaries help you or hurt you?

10 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the true purpose of your boundaries. I talk about how to avoid "protecting your peace" too much to the point where you'r...

509 - People like you more than you think (The Liking Gap)

06 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the "Liking Gap"- why we tend to underestimate how liked we are by others. I talk about why we're overly critical of our...

508 - "Settling Down" vs "Settling Up"

03 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the true purpose of a relationship. I talk about  the difference between "doing life together" vs. "building life toget...

507 - When you feel like giving up...

29 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about TWO ideas to help you try one more time. I talk about how to find pride in your effort getting you to this point and how...

506 - Can you trust them (or is it "trust issues")?

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk about the FOUR specific elements of trust. I talk about how to address "trust issues" and the red flags to look for when judgi...

Listener Q&A: overthinking, cheaters, and the purpose of dating

23 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a bonus listener Q&A episode where I answer questions live on the podcast. In this episode I answer questions about the purpose of love, micro...

505 - Rachel Hollis x Stop being a “good girl”

22 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, I talk with Rachel Hollis - NYT Best-Selling author of "Girl, Wash Your Face." We talk about "good girl syndrome," should you date fo...