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Episodes
Let It Go or Confront It?
18 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
As I sit here, gazing at a picture of my handsome husband, I am asking myself the question, “Should I talk to him about it? It has been bugging me f...
Valentine’s Day. Love It or Hate It?
11 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
It’s Valentines Day this weekend! Happy Valentine’s Day! We specialize in marriage and love so we’re supposed to be all enthused about Valent...
Distraction is Killing Your Marriage
04 Feb 2015
Contributed by Lukas
In 2015, couples are saying that communication is their biggest struggle. Why, when we’ve never had so many ways to communicate and keep in touch as...
Infidelity Starts Long Before The Affair
28 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
What does faithfulness, or fidelity, mean in your marriage? What does it look like? Are your boundaries strong enough to protect your marriage from an...
Four Critical Habits to Deepen Your Love
21 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Ahhh...the science of love. It’s pretty cool that something as amorphous as love can be studied. And even cooler when you find research that iden...
How Are You Enriching Your Marriage This Year?
14 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
One of the things we want to get you thinking about at the very start of this year is what you are going to do, with deliberate purpose, to enrich you...
Sleep Your Way To A Better Marriage – Shawn Stevenson Interview
07 Jan 2015
Contributed by Lukas
Here’s a fresh thought for fixing or just strengthening your marriage this year: try improving your sleep quality. Really? Yes, really. In this epis...
Differences in Sexual Desire: A Checklist for Your Marriage
31 Dec 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes after a long day, you just want to climb in bed and go to sleep… but your spouse has other ideas! Differences in sexual desire are ...
How Jesus Almost Grew Up With A Single Mom
24 Dec 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Christmas is supposed to be a time of joy and cheer with everybody bubbling over with joy. Sometimes it is, but sometimes it just plain hurts. It’s ...
How To Repair After A Fight
17 Dec 2014
Contributed by Lukas
After a fight, you basically have four options: you can exit the relationship, you can be patient and loyal by waiting for your spouse to change, you ...
Ground Rules For A Good Fight
10 Dec 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Most of us have the wrong idea about conflict in marriage. We fear the conflict could lead to the disintegration of our marriage. That’s a rea...
What Is Your Fighting Style?
03 Dec 2014
Contributed by Lukas
“How couples argue and disagree about issues appears to be more consequential to the success of marriage than what they argue about or how often the...
Why Fighting is Good For Your Marriage
26 Nov 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Fighting is something I am passionate about. Probably because I was so bad at it when we first got married… I would get mad and come across as ho...
3 Ways To Make Your Marriage Happier Today!
19 Nov 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Ahhhh, marital bliss! Socrates himself apparently once said, “By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy. If you get a bad on...
Womanspeak
12 Nov 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Ever have a conversation that goes something like this? Hubby: So are we all good then, honey? Wifey: Yup. Hubby: You’re sure. Wifey: Ye...
Two Tips To Manage Your Defensiveness
05 Nov 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Maybe you’re not like me. Maybe you don’t REACT to everything. Maybe you should be writing this post about defensiveness… In this w...
Have You Tried The Miracle Question?
29 Oct 2014
Contributed by Lukas
If you woke up tomorrow and a miracle happened so that you had a thriving, passionate marriage, what would you see differently? What would be the firs...
If You Really Loved Me, You Would…
22 Oct 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Guilt is an effective motivator. It’s also a great way to make you an unbearable spouse. If you’ve ever had someone lay the, “If you reall...
Triangles — How Trigonometry Impacts Your Marriage!
15 Oct 2014
Contributed by Lukas
I found the topic of triangles in marriage to be fascinating. How often do I get my nose out of joint by something my husband does? And then try to ge...
Does Homeschooling Wreck Marriages?
08 Oct 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Does homeschooling actually wreck marriages? Absolutely! But no more than sending your kids to public school… No matter what situation we find ou...
Hug Your Way To A Better Marriage!
01 Oct 2014
Contributed by Lukas
I certainly hope reading this is going to make you want to find your spouse right now and give them a GREAT BIG SQUEEZE! And don’t be fooled – we’...
Speaking Well Of Your Spouse Affects Your Health?
24 Sep 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Ladies, isn’t it an awesome feeling when you overhear your husband talking to one of his buddies and he says something nice about you? If you hav...
Get Out! Real Ultimatums in Marriage!
17 Sep 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Christians have been trying to figure out for centuries: is divorce and remarriage ever the right thing to do? For some, that’s an intellectual disc...
Interview with Tyler Ward
10 Sep 2014
Contributed by Lukas
We had the privilege this week of interviewing Tyler Ward, author of Marriage Rebranded: Modern Misconceptions & the Unnatural Art of Loving Another P...
3 Ways To Affair-Proof Your Marriage
03 Sep 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Who ever starts their day by thinking, “Hey, I’m going to have an affair today?” Doesn’t happen! But, how many people do you know – or maybe...
Three Tips For Rocking Your Vacation
27 Aug 2014
Contributed by Lukas
After going on a vacation, have you ever noticed the fact that oftentimes your family and friends are more excited about your vacation than you are? S...
3 Types of Negativity That Will Ruin Your Marriage
20 Aug 2014
Contributed by Lukas
You know, even if you are committed to your marriage, you can still make it a miserable experience. Today, we will look at three negativity traps you ...
Why Comparison Makes You A Miserable Spouse
13 Aug 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we spend so much time comparing ourselves to others? Is it a fear of rejection? Of not being good enough? Making comparisons is never health...
How to Use Your Marriage for Stress Relief!
06 Aug 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Where do you go with your stress? Do you take it out on your wife or husband? Or do you take it to your spouse? I know, I know, there are a lot...
Listen to Understand
30 Jul 2014
Contributed by Lukas
How awesome does it feel to be completely understood by someone – to feel that they ‘get’ you when you are explaining a problem!? Do you want to...
5-for-5! A Quick and Easy Way to Rock Your Marriage!
23 Jul 2014
Contributed by Lukas
A Ritual of Emotional Connection This is a quick episode again as we are still vacationing in South Dakota! Dr. John Gottman, a leading researcher...
Is It Ever OK to Say, “If you do XYZ, I’m gonna divorce you?”
16 Jul 2014
Contributed by Lukas
I know we all can come out with some doozies in a rip-roarin' marital. However, one of the most important rules of fair fighting is: the threat of div...
What’s the Point of Sex, Anyways?
09 Jul 2014
Contributed by Lukas
In your marriage, is sex more about quantity or quality? One stereotype we always hear is that men just want it all the time and women do not. But ...
Stop Hiding From Your Spouse! Fears of Intimacy (Part 3 of 3)
02 Jul 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes it is just too scary to let someone else make the decisions. Other times the fear of losing someone is so powerful we won’t even let ou...
Stop Hiding From Your Spouse! Fears of Intimacy (Part 2 of 3)
25 Jun 2014
Contributed by Lukas
If you've ever come up against some really strong feelings - either your own or someone else's - then you've probably felt yourself freaking out a lit...
Stop Hiding From Your Spouse! Fears of Intimacy (Part 1 of 3)
18 Jun 2014
Contributed by Lukas
When you hesitate and find yourself stopping just before sharing something very personal with your spouse, how do you make sense of that? Shouldn’t ...
Eyes-Open Sex — Fully Engaged Intimacy
11 Jun 2014
Contributed by Lukas
So, if you’ve been married more than a week, you know there’s a difference between intimacy and sex. You can have either one without the other, bu...
Six Dynamics That Influence In-Law Relationships, Part 2
04 Jun 2014
Contributed by Lukas
We started with the subject of in-laws in Episode 6 and learned that there are some powerful but subtle psychological mechanisms that can come into pl...
Six Dynamics That Influence In-Law Relationships, Part 1
28 May 2014
Contributed by Lukas
I was at a magic show, when after one particularly amazing trick, someone screamed out, “Wow, how did you do that?” “I would tell you”, answer...
The Strongest Predictor of Divorce Is…
21 May 2014
Contributed by Lukas
We all know that one sure-fire way to get cancer is by smoking cigarettes. What if there was one thing that is cancerous to marriage? Today we’re go...
5 Reasons Why You Need to Tell Your Wife You Appreciate Her
20 May 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever caught your spouse doing something right? Haha, that’s right: so often we’re quick to get at each other when things don’t go well....
Why Receiving Influence is a Skill Every Husband Needs to Learn
18 May 2014
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever wonder why your wife just isn’t getting on board with your decisions? Whatever your idea or plan was, it made perfect sense. But your wi...
When Did You Divorce Your Husband and Marry the Kids?
16 May 2014
Contributed by Lukas
In our Internet world of picture-perfect mommy bloggers, Facebook updates about how cute our toddler’s latest saying was, and family-fun photos on I...
Introduction to the OnlyYouForever Podcast and Your Hosts, Caleb & Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele
16 May 2014
Contributed by Lukas
The Origins of OnlyYouForever: Only You Forever is actually a love song… written by Caleb for Verlynda. It was written on a highway in Montana w...