Not As We Planned

I Was Ghosted 5 Years Into Our Relationship | Not As We Planned Podcast

29 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We go down memory lane with all our previous relationships, you share the BRUTAL ways you were dumped, changing the way we date with the 3 men dating ...

I Found Out He's Been In Prison | Not As We Planned Podcast

22 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we discuss feeling like you have hit rock bottom, we have a look at the calibre of the dating pool and hear a story about a man whose littl...

Turning Pain Into Power | Not As We Planned Podcast

15 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When you think you need the concrete evidence but what you know is enough, when the man you thought was perfect turned out to be your biggest lesson, ...

I Can't Stop Comparing Myself to His Ex | Not As We Planned Podcast

08 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This episode discusses worrying about your boyfriend’s ex moving back into town, feeling on edge around a suspicious colleague who's just disappeare...

My Ex is my Guilty Pleasure | Not As We Planned Podcast

01 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Tash shares her news which is life changing, when you have an affair with your ex and you’re not sure what to do, when going no contact is the only ...

Should I Have an Affair? | Not As We Planned Podcast

26 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Carly shares a deeply emotional update while trying to hold everything together.We hear from a woman in a sexless marriage considering an affair with ...

Colin @loudsingledad: Our First Male Guest! A Man’s Perspective on Separation, Coparenting & Dating! | Not As We Planned Podcast

19 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

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When Hope Ends Up Costing You A Lot | Not As We Planned Podcast

12 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Tash shares the hurdles she’s had to face during her break-up, when you stick by your partner through his addiction, a man shares an extremely movin...

Sabrina Zohar: Everything You Need to Know About Dating & Relationships | Not As We Planned Podcast

05 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Dating can feel confusing, frustrating and at times completely overwhelming. In this episode, renowned dating and relationship expert Sabrina Zohar jo...

I Can’t Stop Sleeping With My Daughters Boyfriend | Not As We Planned Podcast

25 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a dating episode guys and we have delivered the goods! First up, the man that shat himself on a first date, the most shocking affair we have EV...

Poor Excuse of a Man | Not As We Planned Podcast

19 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve had some shocking updates from our listeners. In one case, an affair turned out not to be just one, but two. Another story involved a man desp...

You Need To Leave This Relationship NOW!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

12 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Tash gives us an update on finally going no contact but what occurred beforehand, we share some dating stories just in time for valentines day… the ...

The Worst Affair Story You've Ever Heard | Not As We Planned Podcast

05 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When you realise you’re carrying your whole relationship, when your partner leaves you for someone else, when your baby daddy is mia for a year and ...

Me & My Boyfriend Broke Up | Not As We Planned Podcast

29 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Tash shares the sad update that her and her boyfriend have broken up. When the man you’re with punishes you for keeping your baby, a random Facebook...

Nicole is this me: A Real & Raw Conversation About Her Husband's Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast

22 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We unpack how she found out and how she felt with it only happening 2 weeks ago! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I've Been Sleeping With My Boss... Who's Married

15 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we hear a confession from someone sleeping with her married boss, a long-term boyfriend exposed on an Are We Dating the Same Guy page and o...

Shelley J Whitehead: How to Heal Your Heartbreak, Set Boundaries and Gain Self Worth.

08 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Divorce week has hit us, and this episode is not one you will want to miss if you’re struggling with healing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...

Shelley J Whitehead: How to Heal Your Heartbreak, Set Boundaries and Gain Self Worth.

08 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Divorce week has hit us, and this episode is not one you will want to miss if you’re struggling with healing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...

Don’t Be a Ho Ho Ho!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

18 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We speak about the struggles we can face over xmas, being newly single or not having your children, when staying for the kids is not an option, an ema...

The Neighbourhood Bicycle Where Everyone Had a Ride | Not As We Planned Podcast

11 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Trigger warning: Domestic AbuseWhen your ex partner is using drugs and tries it on with your sister, a very abusive relationship that’s hard to get ...

Jessica Miller: The Truth Behind The Breakdown Of Her Marriage And All The In-Between | Not As We Planned Podcast

04 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jess shares the reasons behind the breakdown of her marriage, behind the camera of OnlyFans and where she sees her life moving forward Hosted on Acast...

The Truth Is They Never Change... | Not As We Planned Podcast

27 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We unpack the lies we’ve told ourselves to stay in an unhappy relationship, when your husband blames your appearance for the reason he left and when...

The Not So Magic Mike Show... | Not As We Planned Podcast

20 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When your ex gives you an unintentional strip tease, the Christmas party affair that eventually comes out, when you’re chasing closure from the wron...

The Messy Wife Swap | Not As We Planned Podcast

13 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We hear about the constant betrayal throughout a marriage with some brutal advice given, a shocking story which left someone homeless, the reality of ...

When Your Situationship Even Lied About His Name!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

06 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We give our brutal opinion on what we believe is bare minimum rather than princess treatment, when the guy you’re dating even lied about his name an...

The Intentional Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast

30 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We hear from a broken listener who we give some much needed advice to, when the trust is broken and if you can really move forward from the deceit, an...

Jessica May: the untold events of her partner's affair and the signs that she ignored | Not As We Planned Podcast

22 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

For the first time ever, Jessica reveals the detailed truths about her partner's affair, the way she found out, and what she did afterwards!!! Not one...

It's Giving Desperate Housewives | Not As We Planned Podcast

15 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We actually beg a listener to take our advice, or she will regret it, the lying boyfriend who made out he ended it to do her a favour, the shocking 9-...

Legally Nik: Answering Your Questions About Coparenting, Dealing With Narcissist's & A 50/50 Split | Not As We Planned Podcast

08 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A very eye-opening episode which will give you an insightful understanding into the coparenting world, how to manage the legal battle with your childr...

Sending A Nude Into The School Group Chat!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

01 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We share the most embarrassing moments when you text the wrong person, Tash shares a mortifying experience, finding out you're the home wrecker only a...

I Got Eaten Alive!! The Dating Episode You Don't Want To Miss! | Not As We Planned Podcast

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We get an update on Carly's dating drama after being ghosted, how she joined dating app Wisp https://wisp.global/ (ad) which bans ghosters, the most g...

Should You Date Multiple Men At The Same Time?? | Not As We Planned Podcast

17 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss whether it’s a good idea to date multiple men at once, swapping stories with the other woman, planning another baby with your ex and how ...

The hack to find deleted messages on your phone!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

11 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Carly gives us a big life update, we have a little scroll on ‘are we dating the same guy’, realising you’ve outgrown your partner and don’t kn...

We’re Back in Our BRAND NEW Studio! Breakups, Divorce & Dating Real Talk | Not As We Planned Podcast

03 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to a brand-new era of Not As We Planned - and our very first episode in the NEW studio! 💖 It’s a total pinch-me moment, and we’re so ex...

100. Unfortunately Men Like This Exist…

30 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss the difficulties of splitting your time with the kids over the holidays, someone who needs some serious tough love from us, a clear compari...

99. He Did Cheat.. But it Was My Fault

23 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We have an honest conversation about the financial pressures of being a single mum, when you catfish your partner by pretending to be the other woman,...

98. I Was The Other Woman But Didn’t Know!!!

16 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Mr British airways by who took so many women for a ride, when the man you’ve been dating lied about EVERYTHING… even his name! And when you compar...

97. He Told Me He Was a Vampire

09 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You guys share your most embarrassing date scenarios, when your partner informs you that he wants to watch you sleep with other men, when his memory o...

96. An Unexpected Turn of Events

02 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We hear from an absolute queen showing just how to handle being cheated on, when you think you’re over your husband but don’t want to leave becaus...

95. The Signs Of An Affair

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When you hear from the other woman who tells you all about the affair, a man who needs our help, and yet another affair with you guessed it… ANOTHER...

94. A Massive Orange Dildo

18 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When your boyfriend has an issue with your baby daddy, an update from a man whose wife cheated, the massive orange dildo, and proof that no consequenc...

93. I Thought He Would Change For Me

11 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When a short situationship does a lot of damage, your partner tells you it’s you or the dog, and when your ex has moved on but you weren’t ready f...

92. Describe Your Ex As a Brand

04 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We share the hilarious comparisons of brands that remind you of your ex, if it’s too early to date an old flame straight after a separation, and wat...

91. She’d Flirt With a Pint Of Milk

29 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We hear from a woman who’s tried everything to make her marriage work, a man who’s wife cheated on him with her best female friend and an update f...

90. You Hooked Up With a Murderer

22 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It’s time for an overdue dating episode and you’ve delivered the goods!!The 15 minute date with a drunk, when your situationship prioritises spide...

89. It’s Giving… Love Bomb

15 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We share a story from a girl who tash met, when you realise you are with a serial cheater and the confessions of a micro penisLink to our shop - www.n...

88. I Tried To Tame a F*** Boy

08 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We speak about being married to an addict and how that can impact your life, when blaming the other woman won’t make your problems go away and reali...

87. Comparing Myself To The 'Other Woman'

01 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We both share our realisations from our previous relationships, we give some rare advice and suggest a reconciliation, and the dangers of comparing yo...

86. Catfish and Chlamydia

24 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss how Staying for the kids and for financial stability doesn’t need to be a thing, finally getting that lightbulb moment and filling for di...

85. Things Just Got Juicy

17 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Finally getting confirmation that your cheating suspicions were correct, being the new partner and having to deal with an uncomfortable coparenting re...

84. How To Text a Guy

10 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss how it’s sometimes better raising a child on your own than allowing a toxic parent to be a part of their life, realising you’re not yet...

83. He Had a Whole Other Family

03 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We talk about how you shouldn’t blame yourself for him cheating, finding out he had a whole other family, we see the definition of bread crumbing an...

82. My Gut Told Me To Look At His Phone

27 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss the danger of staying in a relationship just because there’s no infidelity, when you catch your husband cheating on you, and wanting some...

81. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

20 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We talk about the difference between mums and dads and how men get praised for doing the bare minimum, getting told your marriage is over with a lette...

80. Are They Swingers?

13 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss the clues of trying to spot a swinger, finding out your friend was having an affair with your husband and realising it’s time to call it ...

79. Something Is Wrong With Me

06 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We both deeply reflect on our previous relationships after divorce and how we came to accept they weren’t right for us, and we also discuss why it’...

78. His Accountant Sent Him Vagina Pictures

27 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Finding out your husband is having a fling with his accountant! Having to come clean to your ex about your secret new partner and learning to finally ...

77. Me and My Boyfriend Broke Up

20 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Carly opens up about her break up, we explain how to move forward and let go of feeling attached to your ex, and managing someone with an addiction.Li...

76. Are We Dating The Same Guy?

13 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Carly shares an emotional update, we hear from the woman who cheated, we get a lovely update from a listener and the dreading question of are we datin...

75. Get the F*ck Out

06 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Would you go back to a relationship where there’s no trust? Learning to set boundaries when coparenting, how to help your children handle big emotio...

74. He Was Messaging Other Girls On OnlyFans

30 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We talk about managing your kids emotions and feelings after a break up, having to watch an affair unfold in front of your eyes and catching your part...

73. He Has 6 Girlfriends

23 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Trigger Warning: RapeWhen a man gets caught with 6 girlfriends, hitting rock bottom after finding out about your husbands infidelity and trying to wor...

72. He Cheated On Me With My Midwife

16 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We dive into the daily mundane life with young kids and how that can impact your relationship with your partner negatively, but how it can be improved...

71. We May Be The Villain But They Are The Clowns

09 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tash shares a big update in her relationship, we are hit with a dilemma when you find out your partner cheated on you 2 years ago at the beginning of ...

70. If She Asks, Say I Was With You!

02 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Happy new year you to all our amazing listeners! We kick off our first episode of 2025 seeing cracks beginning to show in a new relationship and if so...

69. He’s Unstable

19 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Our last episode of 2024, we discuss our 2025 goals, we get a final update from the fuck buddy situationship, knowing you should run a mile but can’...

68. And People Say Men Can’t Multitask

12 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you find a new partner but you’re missing the bad boy, a segment of women in male fields, struggling to let go of your abusive ex and we finish...

67. He Would Shag His Mum If He Could

05 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When your partner just ups and leaves for no reason, talking about how divorce doesn’t fuck up the kids, when he leaves you for his ex and hearing f...

66. I’m a Girlfriend

28 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tash makes an announcement about her relationship, Carly has an emotional birthday, we share some epic hacks you’re going to want to know and a fian...

65. I Knew He Was Proposing

21 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

An email that has us disagreeing with the outcome, having someone leave you and blaming it on your weight, how to find hope on dating apps and a confe...

64. You’ve been Exposed!!

14 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We get a response from the woman who got cheated on by the man who wrote in to us a few weeks ago!!! We get such a warm felt update from an OG, we hea...

63. Your Husband Gave You Chlamydia

07 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We reflect on how far we have come in the last year, we have a sneaky peak of the new love honey calendar, when your husband gets caught with the othe...

62. His Thumb Was Bigger Than His D***

31 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We talk about if you would have kids with someone who only wants to have them for you not him, an update where he got two women pregnant at the SAME t...

61. Baby Loss Awareness Month

24 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Trigger warning: we talk in detail about baby loss, having to deal with you partner going back to his ex in your darkest days and stalking your ex on ...

60. I’m One Of Those Men Who Cheated

17 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We hear from the cheating man himself, we share the ultimate instagram hack, finding naked AI pictures of your friends on your partners phone and deci...

59. Green Flag or Bare Minimum

10 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Figuring out if it’s a green flag or just bare minimum, getting the inside scoop at a swingers club, seeing the repercussions of taking back that ch...

58. I Fell In Love With My Friends Husband

03 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We delve into the world of swinging, hotwifing and dogging, when you fall in love with your friends husband and hearing from someone who found out the...

57. What A Mistake I Made

26 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tash talks about Blake’s diagnosis, having your partner stop you going ahead with your planned ivf, having your ex breadcrumb you and the ultimate b...

56. I Met HER

19 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The first encounter meeting the new woman in your children’s’ life, an update about fuck buddy situation, a woman at rock bottom struggling with t...

55. He Had a Porn Addiction

12 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Married to a porn addict with an ending we were not expecting, when he pretends his mental health is the reason for his shady behaviour, and a man’s...

54. A LOT happened this summer….

05 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We are so happy to be back and with a new name and look! We have a big catch up to update you on what you’ve been missing, we hear from the ex husba...

53. My Husband Had an Affair With a Lesbian

25 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When he’s playing away from home with 3 different women, finding out your husband is having an affair with a lesbian, and the continued abuse from t...

52. Not Just Another One… Another 3

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

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51. The Micro Penis Debate...

11 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Learning that sometimes the news we dread is a blessing in disguise, finding love again but losing the naivety of forever, the coparenting dilemma and...

50. All He’s Bringing To The Table Is Chlamydia

04 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A man’s side of the story, the getaway escape, catching your partner paying for prostitutes and do you tell your friend their husband is cheatingPro...

49. Can Women Really Have Casual Sex?

27 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We discuss the coparenting holiday, the fuck buddy dilemma when dating a walking red flag, how many chances you should give before it’s time to leav...

48. Control Your Hapiness

20 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Talking about the challenges of co-parenting, seeing that therapy can make all the difference and infinitely doesn’t always ruin a relationshipProdu...

47. The Hunky Hot Fireman

13 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Our theory on being ghosted, whether a rape fantasy is a red flag and a major breakthrough from a previous story.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by...

46. He Left because I Got Too Fat

06 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you are to blame for your partner cheating, the 29 year old barmaid, and a dog shit blowj*bProducer: Tristan HehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Offi...

45. Gaslighting 101

30 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Talking about getting the snip, when your partner cheats on you with his ex, working out if money can really buy you happiness and phone full of prost...

44. What's That Around Your Ankle?

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you realise you’ve been dating a criminal, trying to catch your sister cheating on her husband and turning lesbian when you’re sick of men!Pr...

43. I Want to Store You In My Basement In a Duffle Bag

16 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic Abuse and RapeWe talk about self sabotaging a good thing after dealing with a toxic relationship, the strangest messages you...

42. A 3 Year Age Gap Between your Daughter and Mistress

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When she finds out her partner is cheating on the other woman with another one, the cheating husband whose dating a 21year old when he has a 19 year o...

41. The Home Wrecking Teenage Work Colleague

02 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When your best friend of 25years starts having sleepovers with your baby daddy, your man finally changes but is it too late and the teenage work colle...

40. The Live Podcast

25 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Marking episode 40 with our first ever live podcast with an audience! We never would have dreamed we could get here and this quickly and that’s beca...

39. He's Literally a Walking Talking Red Flag

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We talk about second chances and if they really work, befriending the ex girlfriend and girl boss energy vibes only.Producer: Tristan HehirCity Lights...

38. One of the Confessions Is Mine!

04 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It's another dating episode and this might be the most shocking one yet! The stories had us on the edge of our seats, in fits of laughter and then a s...

37. Good Luck to the New Woman

28 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We share your bad scenarios in your relationships which you found yourself in but still stayed! Normalising staying and it’s not always easy to leav...

36. You Make Your Bed, You Lay In It

21 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For the first time we share some updates with you from previous stories we have shared and showing that there is light at the end of the tunnelProduce...

35. Apparently I Give Better Blowjobs

14 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of laughs and tears this week as we share some male perspectives on relationships as well as some crazy dating stories, listening to your gut an...