On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Sadia Khan: Stop Ignoring Red Flags! (How to Train Your Brain to Know When To Walk Away)
26 May 2025
Chapter 1: How Can I Stop Fearing Conflict in Relationships?
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Chapter 2: Why Do We Fall for Emotionally Unavailable People?
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Chapter 4: What Are the Early Signs of a Healthy Relationship?
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the moment you heal your self-esteem you'll have a natural distaste towards things that are bad for you people who don't love you people who don't treat you right how you know your self-esteem is improving is at the moment those people start treating you badly you lose attraction to them the psychologist teacher and relationship expert what would be your advice to someone who feels like they've got ghosted
Chances are they're hiding information. Ghosters, regardless of their reason, they're still poor communicators. The best predictor of future relationships is their past relationships. People are their patterns. My number one client is a man who's just been cheated on. The women are cheating on the men. No. A lot more than I ever expected.
What's the worst thing to say to someone who's just gone through a breakup?
Well, you knew he was like that anyway, so what's the problem?
What can a woman do to make sure a man doesn't cheat on her?
have a willingness to walk away when she's being disrespected.
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Chapter 5: Why Do Women Cheat on Good Men?
Thank you so much for having me. I'm so unbelievably honored to be sat opposite you. And I know I've been gushing since I've arrived, but I can't express how grateful I am.
Well, Sadia, the feeling's mutual. I've been loving following you for the past couple of years. And I can't wait to have this conversation with you because I think you present such a counterintuitive, refreshing, challenging view on love. And I appreciate it. So let's dive straight in.
Perfect.
I want to ask you, if someone applied... your teachings that you're about to share with us in the next couple of hours, what would they overcome?
first thing that they would overcome is their fear of conflict. One of the things that keeps people stuck in relationships is that they have a fear of conflict because it boils down to they have a fear of walking away.
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Chapter 6: What Are the Three A's Women Need to Fall in Love?
And if people understood that the quality of your relationships will vastly improve the moment you exercise the ability to walk away when you're being heartbroken, when you're being disrespected, and when you're being dehumanized, it actually brings out the best in your partner when they know that you have that strength.
When you remove that strength from your relationships, what ends up happening is that you attract people who will use and abuse you and treat you terribly because they see that your kindness is going to be your downfall.
So I think if you really apply my teachings, the only thing that will happen is that you will have the self-esteem to simply attract people who are good for you and develop a disdain towards people who treat you badly. And because of that, you can select better and you can maintain your relationships in a healthier way.
I love that. So people are going to select better. They're going to attract better and they're going to stay in the right relationship. Let's start with the first one. Most people I speak to feel like they keep attracting people who are unavailable, people who don't want to commit, people who don't have the emotional capacity for connection. Why is it?
it's not what we attract, it's what we entertain. Most people can attract pretty much everybody. Yeah, if we try hard enough, we can pretty much attract everybody.
But when we have low self-esteem, we have these personal prophecies that people are supposed to be a bit unavailable, people are supposed to pay hard to get, or it's normal that he doesn't text back, or it's normal that he doesn't really ask me how my day is. It's normal that he only texts me at 12 a.m. on a Friday night.
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Chapter 7: What Are the Three L's Men Need to Stay in Love?
And because they believe that that's normalized to themselves, they start to accept what's actually not going to lead to a healthy relationship.
The moment they figure out not what they're attracting, but what they're entertaining, they can take their power back and say, I'm actually attracting all types of men, but the ones I keep forming an attachment to are the ones that leave me a bit anxious and the ones that leave me worrying what this is and where this is going.
Instead of being attracted to that, I start to learn that that is a signal that they've got commitment issues and all it's going to do is delay my time. delay my ability to get married, delay my ability to have a family and so on and so forth. So we can attract all types of men, but we only entertain the ones that will enable you to start a family and a relationship or whatever your goal is.
They enable that. And if they don't enable that, try and lose attraction for them.
Why do we feel more attracted to people who make us anxious and who are unavailable? Why is it that we think that they're the ones worth chasing?
Firstly, if we have low self-esteem, we kind of see as that this is supposed to happen. Nobody's supposed to just overly adore and love us. That's probably not going to happen. It's normal that we get treated like this, if that's your low self-esteem. But the other thing is unavailable men, sometimes they demonstrate the idea of having options and alternatives.
Their mystery makes them seem more desirable. And because of that mystery, we assume that they've got something interesting going on. They've got alternatives. There's something about them that's making them busy and making them dismissive. When we really realize that it's actually, they're just emotionally immature.
They're not this special guy that's got a million things going and his work is taking over and he's so, so busy. Actually, he's just emotionally mature. He doesn't know how to commit. He doesn't know how to ward off alternatives and just focus on one person at the time.
When you realize that it's actually a signal of emotional immaturity and desirability, we actually won't be so attracted to that person who can't communicate in a healthy way.
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Chapter 8: How Do I Recognize When Iām Being Disrespected?
Or am I just comparing them to a dream idea or a partner that I haven't actually been able to access? I always just think the more you like the person you are, the higher your self-esteem, the more you like people who like you. The fact that the person that are matching you, automatically you start to like them more because they've matched you, because you like you and they like you as well.
When you've got low self-esteem, you chase after people that you can't access. So my advice to people is always start with who likes you. Always start with that pool and then home in on that pool and see if you've got similar demographics, values, so on and so forth.
But where people go wrong is they glorify the people that they're not matching with and wanting a love that they've never been able to access. And then comparing who they do get matched with, with these alternatives that aren't really real. So the better thing is to focus on who does and maybe adapt your standards to those people who are actually invested in you.
It's so true. And I feel like what I'm thinking people are going to say is, well, why do I have to settle?
If similarity feels like settling, then maybe your standards are too high. And what I mean by that is I sometimes will meet men who are maybe in their 40s on their second divorce and saying, I don't want a woman with baggage. So I need somebody 25 years old. I don't want women with baggage.
Or sometimes I'll meet women who are not working and they say, I want a man that's an entrepreneur and got six figures. But I always just say, shouldn't you be looking for someone similar to you? And if similar to you, it starts to feel like you're settling, then maybe your standards are a bit inflated.
If what you're bringing to the table and what you're receiving, if you're asking for that, you're not asking for too much. But if you're asking for people to fill the gaps in your self-worth, maybe you do need to adapt your standards a little bit. So ask yourself, does similarity feel like settling?
If it does, then maybe we need to work on ourselves to be able to access people that we're actually craving.
Yeah, it's so much of what you're talking about is just having awareness and honesty.
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