On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Stop Confusing Chemistry for Compatibility! (THIS Shift Will SAVE You from Wasting Time in the WRONG Relationships)
15 Aug 2025
Today, Jay reflects on the lessons about love he wishes he had known in his twenties. He examines how movies, media, and cultural narratives have long shaped unrealistic expectations about romance, often equating love with grand gestures, nonstop excitement, and fairy tale endings. Jay challenges these ideas, by showing that true love is not constant fireworks, but a balance of peace, stability, and passion. He explains how the thrill is often mistaken for attraction, and how the calm that comes from trust and consistency is actually the real foundation of a healthy relationship, even if often mistaken for boredom. Jay also explores the critical role of self-awareness and boundaries in fostering meaningful relationships. He discusses how love without boundaries can cause you to lose yourself, and how repeating familiar emotional patterns from the past can keep you stuck in cycles that feel comfortable but are ultimately harmful. Through relatable examples, Jay highlights the importance of defining emotional non-negotiables, paying attention to how a partner handles boredom and conflict, and understanding the influence of attachment styles. Jay emphasizes that successful relationships are not about finding someone perfect, but about choosing a partner who is willing to heal, grow, and face challenges together. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Set Boundaries Without Pushing Love Away How to Handle Conflict Without Ruining a Relationship How to Recognize the Difference Between Lust and Love How to Break Unhealthy Relationship Patterns How to Choose Patience and Healing in Relationships Finding real love isn’t an end goal, it’s an ongoing journey you take with intention, compassion, and patience. It’s something you build over time through quiet moments, healthy boundaries, and a commitment to grow, both on your own and together. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:13 Everything You Need to Know About Love 04:12 #1: Chemistry Does Not Equal Compatibility 09:19 #2: Love Without Boundaries is Self Abandonment 12:25 #3: How They Handle Boredom Tells You Everything 14:25 #4: Conflict Doesn't Ruin Relationships, Avoidance Does 16:44 #5: The Thrill is Temporary, Steady Love is Lasting 20:57 #6: How Does Your Partner's Attachment Style Affect You? 23:01 #7: What Feels Familiar Isn’t Always What’s RightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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