Why Making New Friends Feels Exhausting As An Adult (And How to Make It Easier)
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What are the core traits of real friends?
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Why does making new friends get exhausting as we age?
Now, a couple of weeks ago, I posted a TikTok Instagram reel and I was talking about the difference between real friends and fake friends. And it was something I was thinking about for a while now because I started to find that as we get older, we start to think differently about friendships. I remember seeing this quote years ago and it was on a meme and it said, my circle has gone smaller. but grown in value. And it showed a large coin that was thinner moving into a smaller coin that was thicker and worth more. And it's just interesting how I think so many of us think about our relationships that way. So in this TikTok and in this reel, I said, real friends clap the loudest when you win, even if they're still waiting for their turn. Think about that for a minute.
Real friends don't get jealous. They don't get envious. That's one of the core traits of a real friend. When they see you win, they see what's possible. When they see you win, they want to know how they can join in and celebrate, how they can make you feel happy, how they can honor what you've achieved. I then went on to say real friends lift you up even when they're carrying their own weight. I think so many of us have been this friend. So many of us have these friends that show up for us, even when we know it isn't easy for them. I then said, real friends know your success is a reflection of hard work, not luck.
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Chapters
7 chapters
1
What are the core traits of real friends?
1:52–3:10
2
Why does making new friends get exhausting as we age?
3:10–11:16
3
How does age affect our trust and selectivity in friendships?
11:16–16:29
4
What psychological changes make adult friendships more challenging?
16:29
5
How can you reconnect with old friends effectively?
11:57–12:50
6
Why do adults prefer old friends over new ones despite weaker connections?
12:50–13:15
7
What are practical ways to build meaningful friendships as an adult?
13:15–31:01
Speakers
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