Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Quiet Connection: How to Find Deeper Meaning Without Words | John R. Miles - EP 720
23 Jan 2026
Chapter 1: What personal story does John R. Miles share about his sister?
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Coming up next on Passion Struck. It's the moment we all chase. The conversation finally happens. The legacy is named. The words are spoken. But as the path ends and the lake glints in the fading light, a strange, quiet realization sets in. You had the talk, but the real meaning wasn't in what was said. You had the sentences, but they felt loose, unanchored.
Tämä on silmäturvallisuus. Se on se, mitä tapahtuu, kun yritämme käsitellä tarkoituksia sanat yksinkertaisesti, ilmoittamalla näkyvän liikunnan, joka käsitellään niiden välillä. Tänään menemme takaisin yhdestä viikonloppuun, ja löydämme, mitä on vaikuttanut. Yhdistämme, miksi asioita, joita käsitellään vaikeimmin, ovat usein asioita, jotka jättävät meidät tyhjäksi, ja miksi todellista tarkoituksia ei löydä sanat, joita puhumme, vaan silmät, joita osallistumme niiden välillä.
Tervetuloa PassionStruckiin! Olen sinun järjestäjäsi, John Miles. Tämä on esiintyminen, jossa tutustumme ihmisoikeuteen ja siitä, mitä se todella tarkoittaa elämään niin kuin se on tärkeää. Joka viikko minä asun muodostajien, luomajien, tutkimustietojen ja päiväkirjojen kanssa, jotta voidaan käsitellä ihmisen kokemus ja ymmärtää tuotteita, jotka auttavat meidät liittymään tarkoituksiin, vahvistamaan sitä, mitä vaikuttaa ja pysyä täydellisessä esityksessä siitä, minkä voimme olla.
Joko suunnittelemaan tulevaisuutta, kehittämällä asiantuntijana tai haastatteluun, tämä ilmaisu on sinun pystymäsi kasvamaan tarkkaan ja toimimaan tarkkaan. Koska yksityiskohtainen elämä tarkkaan tarkkaan, yhteyden ja vaikutuksen elämässä on valita elämään niin kuin olet tärkeä.
Hello friends welcome to episode 720 of passion struck we're deep in our series the meaning makers earlier this week we explored the raw materials the human bond with two extraordinary voices on tuesday shauna pearson joined us to unpack invisible adhd in women the hidden cost of being unseen the emotional chaos that can
ja kuulemme vahvasti tunteemme arvoa ja kuulemme, miten näkökulma ja tuottaminen kestävät ympäristöä. Sitten viikonloppuna Robin Kaslewitz tuotti meidät posttraumaattiseen perintöön, joka rikkii kylmyksiä ympäristön painoa ja luo eläminen turvallisuuteen.
and forging belonging for our children and our inner child through intentional presence and repair. Together they point to a profound truth. Significance is the architecture we reveal in silence, but meaning is the binding agent we apply together, often without ever saying a word.
Yleensä ajattelemme tarkoituksen kuin jotain, jota käsittelemme. Puhumme olemisesta vastauksistamme. Olemme yrittäneet jättää suuret suunnitelmiamme, jota olemme yrittäneet jättää. Pidämme vuosia rakentamassa näitä sanoja, rehoitamassa niitä, puhumassa niitä äänellä, ajattelemme, että jos voimme nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan nimenomaan
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Chapter 2: How does silence contribute to deeper connections?
I had no idea, none of us did, that this would be one of our last walks together. She died three days later. In that moment, the words were just the surface. The real inheritance was happening underneath, the rhythm of our footsteps.
The stillness of the lake was a transfer of meaning that didn't need a dictionary. She passed on belonging, inheritance and love through the simple fact of being there together. It was a knowing soaked into the body and the silence between sentences. The lake, the path.
brushing hand these things acted as the glue holding it all the words were the surface the real passing happened underneath that walk showed a basic truth the strongest meaning often comes without words it adjusts itself through being present through relationship through the quiet spots where words fade something deeper connects right to us carolyn's attention to my nephew was a living example
of making sure I would last long after she was gone. The meaning steadied itself in the sense of ongoing care, the unspoken promise that someone would keep going what mattered. This is what Dr. Lisa Miller calls the awakened brain. When I interviewed her in episode 532, she spoke about her fMRI research at Columbia University, where she discovered that we have a built-in sensing system of significance.
When we are in that state of deep connection, like that walk by the lake, our brain bypasses the narrow paths of regular language and activates a higher powered neural circuit that handles stress and hope differently. When this link turns on, the system handles stress in a new way. Hope holds steady during tough times. A life feels full of purpose, even without words to back it up. Two people can do the same thing, yet feel totally different levels of purpose.
based on whether the sensing path stays clear and gets blocked by clutter. The reset starts purposely cutting back that clutter. When presence does the passing, when the silence between sentences holds what words by themselves can't keep up, meaning steadies the whole setup from the inside. That kind of quiet, wordless passing shows up in everyday life more than we think. Lisa's work points to why it happens.
our brains have this built-in way to pick up on connection and purpose often completely outside of language when it kicks in stress eases up hope holds steady and life starts feeling like it matters even on tough days the same situation can feel empty to one person and full of meaning to another it comes down to whether that inner channel is clear
The brain is wired to notice threats first. That's what kept our ancestors alive. So it tends to amplify negatives and let positives slide by. That default setting creates a lot of inner noise. Endless thinking, comparing, worrying.
Suuri ääni rauhoittaa rauhoittumisen ja huolehtiminen. Silloin rauhoittuminen alkaa. Se tuntee, että kaikki näyttää hyvältä ulkona, mutta sisällä se tuntuu huonolta. Carolynin kävely on täydellinen esimerkki toisistaan. Hän osallistui huolehtiminenni viime aikoina, ja huolehtiminen tuli hänelle, hänen näkökulmastaan, hänen läheisyydessään. Ei ollut tarpeeksi tarkoitus. Tämä tarkoitus loppui, koska kanava oli avattu. Kysymys hänen kertoistaan
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Chapter 3: What is the significance of Dr. Lisa Miller's research on the brain?
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You're listening to PassionStruck on the PassionStruck Network. Now, back to our conversation. Stories like Carolyn's show up in ordinary life all the time. There's a classic one about three bricklayers working on the same wall. Someone asks the first guy what he's doing, and he says, I'm laying bricks to earn a paycheck and put food on the table. For him, it's just a job, something to get through. The second worker says, I'm building a wall. It's good work, but it's getting me ahead. She sees it as a career step.
Mutta kolmas työntekijä katsoi ja sanoi, että minä rakennan kathedraalin. Tämä paikka on olemassa vuosikymmeniä, antaa ihmisille turvaa ja toivoa, kauan kun olen lähtenyt. Sama rikki, sama puoli, sama päiväkohde. Mutta kolmannella rikkaläjällä tarkoitus on täysin erilaista. He näkevät työskentelyn osana jotain paljon isommasta. Jotain, joka kestää heitä. Ei tarvitse antaa heille puheenvuoron tai antaa heille missioitusten.
Chapter 4: How can we reset our internal 'noise-to-signal' ratio?
The shift happens outside them. They just felt the work in a new light, and suddenly it felt connected to something lasting. That's so close to what Carolyn was doing in those last days. She was talking about the things that she cared about the most.
and loved long after she was gone. She didn't need to explain why it mattered. She lived it. A care came through her voice, her look, the way we walked together. She was building something that would last, even if she wouldn't be there to see it. The meaning settled in quietly, the way it did for that third bricklayer. We see this in small ways every day. A mom changing diapers might feel tired, but somewhere inside she knows she's helping raise someone who'll make a difference.
A nurse cleaning a room knows she's making space for healing. A quick smile or nod in the hallway can remind someone they're seen. These moments don't need big explanation. They just happen, and something inside them registers this matters.
Tärkeintä on se, että tarkoitus ei tule itse asiasta, vaan siitä, miten näemme asiaa. Kun saamme itseämme tuntea yhteyttä jotain suurempaan, kuitenkaan perheellisen huoltoa tai vain auttavan yhden henkilön tunteeksi vähemmän yksin, koko asia muuttuu, ääni kääntyy, kanava alkaa aloittaa ja tarkoitus alkaa tunnistaa uudestaan.
So how do we make that shift more often? That's where the simple, everyday practice comes in. That's where the real power lies. In letting meaning find us instead of always trying to chase it with words. The good news is you can practice this. You don't need big changes or complicated routines.
Just a few small, repeatable things that quiet the noise and open the door to what's already there. One simple place to start is what I call a presence pause. Take two or three minutes a day. Just stop. Put your phone down. Notice what's around you. The feel of your chair. The sound of your breath. The light coming through the window. Don't try to think about anything. Just be there. Let your mind settle. Caroline and I did this without knowing it on the walk.
Moving step by step, letting the lake and the path hold the moment. Those pauses help you notice what's already present. They cut the chatter so the quiet signals of connection and care come through. Another easy step is one small act of connection each day. It doesn't have to be big. Hold the door for someone and really look at them. Give a quick smile or nod to a co-worker. Touch a loved one's arm when they say hello. These moments send a signal. You matter to me. They're like the brushing of Carolyn's hand against mine.
Pienet eivät kuuluvat, mutta ne kestävät oloa. Kun teet tätä yleensä, elämä alkaa kirjoittaa sen todellisena. Ympärillinen kanava pysyy avoimena ja tarkoitukset kasvavat huonosti. Lopulta päivänä käsittele yhden minuutin, jotta muistat jotain, mikä tuntui merkittävältä, vaikka se olisi pieni. Ehkä se olisi se, mitä kertoisit.
A kind word you heard, or just the way the light looked at sunset. Write it down or say it to yourself. Don't judge it, just notice it. This is what reflection does. It helps the brain hold on to the good signals instead of letting them slide away. Over time, these little deposits strengthen the sense that life matters. The same way Carolyn's care for my nephew left a lasting mark, even though she's gone.
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Chapter 5: What is the 'Presence Pause' and how can it help us?
I'll wrap up with a few final thoughts and a way to carry this forward in your life. We began today with a quiet walk by Lake Austin. One of the last with Carolyn were words about legacy and care flowed, but the real meaning settled in the silence between them. The footsteps, the brushing hand, the lake holding the sky. That day wasn't about declarations or perfect sentences. It was about showing up, walking side by side,
sharing care for my nephew, the time she had left. The words mattered, but the belonging lived in her voice, her gaze, simple nearness. That's where love passed forward, without needing to be explained. That's the truth we've been circling today. Meaning doesn't always arrive through language. It comes through presence, through relationship, through the small, wordless moments,
They remind us we're connected to something bigger. A shared step, a lingering look, a quiet act of care. These things keep continuity and purpose in ways words sometimes can't touch. And so we end today with a simple invitation, a commitment to the silence, a commitment to make space for what's already present. Quiet the chatter, show up fully, let the quiet moments do their work. This isn't about saying more, it's about listening more, right?
where the words of your life are already spoken.
If you're listening right now, you feel like you've been filling every silence with noise. Or if the quiet spaces in your days feel a little empty, hear this. You are one small pause away from letting meaning settle in. Tonight, tomorrow, this week, take one quiet step. Slow down for a presence pause. Reach out with a simple touch or look. Remember one wordless moment that felt real. That's how meaning rebuilds. One ordinary moment.
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Chapter 6: What small acts can enhance our sense of connection?
Kiitos, että katsoitte. Next week I'm joined by Jim Murphy, author of the number one bestselling book, Inner Excellence, for a conversation on inner stability, self-mastery, and sustaining performance under pressure. We'll explore the inner tools that keep you steady when the world pulls hard, how to build focus and calm without chasing external winds.
Why true excellence starts by its center, who you are. Because meaning isn't just learned in silence. It's sustained there, even when the pressure builds. Fear is where you're in self-protection. You're concerned with what other people are thinking and will I fail.
Ja se elokuvana sanoo, että kohdalla on se, että jos et tee mitään, niin menet huoneeseen. Se on ihmisen luonto. Aloit miettiä itseäsi. Mietit kaikkea, mitä haluat, mutta et voi kontrolloida. Aloit muuttaa itseäsi toisistaan. Yksityiskohtaisuus muistaa sinulle kaikkia vaikutuksia.
You're going to move towards anxiety and fear. So you need a clear intentional plan and path to live an extraordinary life. And that path is based on the three most powerful resources, I believe, in the universe is love, wisdom and courage. Until next time, let the silence speak. Presence hold. Live like the white spaces where your real meaning awaits. I'm John Myles. You've been PassionStruck. Until next time.