Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE
Episodes
How Do I Regain Her Trust and How Do I Trust Her?
27 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Two of the BIG questions we hear a LOT from recovering porn/sex addicts is: "How do I get her to trust me again?" and "How do I trust...
How Do I Ever TRUST my Porn/Sex Addicted Spouse Again?
21 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Discovering your spouse has a porn/sex addiction triggers Betrayal Trauma and SHATTERS trust! HOW can you ever get to the place where you can "tr...
"Boundaried" Relationships Last—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma!
14 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
For any relationship to last and thrive, there must be "boundaries." This is especially true when you're dealing with Porn Addiction an...
Todd Tells His Sex Addiction Recovery Story—Part Two
07 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is "Part Two" of the interview with Todd, a former Mark and Steve client, who tells his raw and real story of recovery from Sex...
Let Go of the "Sexual Beast' and Embrace REAL Intimacy in your Marriage!
30 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Mark and Steve address an issue submitted by a PBSE listener— Hi Guys! My husband loves your podcast. It's the only he wi...
Todd Tells His Sex Addiction Recovery Story—Part One
24 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Todd, a former Mark and Steve client, tells his raw and real story of recovery from Sex and Porn Addiction. Todd also talks about how being convinced ...
Healthy Sex vs. Toxic Sex in Marriage
16 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode Mark and Steve openly discuss the differences between healthy and toxic sex in marriage—What are the differences between a healthy s...
How do you keep going in Recovery and Healing when you're Burned Out and just plain "Done"!
08 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Mark and Steve know from personal experience and helping others, just how heavy, difficult, exhausting and discouraging addiction recovery and betraya...
Is it OK to Occasionally "Lie" if its in the Best Interest of Your Recovery or Healing?
01 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We live in a world where honesty is a steadily shrinking virtue! Many in politics, sales, advertising and the media send a subtle or even blatant mess...
Those Darn Thinking Errors!—"Emotional Reasoning" and the "Unreal Ideal"
25 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Addiction and Betrayal Trauma both have a dramatic impact on the brain and the heart! And one of the primary barriers to our recovery and healing is o...
Pulling Out a Chair for God at Your Marriage Table
18 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you want your marriage to truly be ALL that it can be, we HIGHLY recommend pulling out a chair for God at your marriage table. But that can be easi...
For the Spouse of an Addict—How to "Let Go and Let God."
11 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The devastating pain and confusion caused by your husband's porn addiction can easily create a distance or wall between you and God. In this epis...
The "Addict" vs. "God"
04 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In the midst of your struggles with pornography, can you also have a relationship with God? Mark and Steve talk open and raw about their personal expe...
We Made All the Marriage Mistakes so YOU Don't Have To!—Part TWO
25 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Mark and Steve come back to talk SUPER raw about even MORE marriage mistakes they and their clients have made--and HOW YOU DON'T HAVE TO KEEP MAK...
We Made All the Marriage Mistakes so YOU Don't Have To!—Part One
20 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
During their deep addiction years, Mark and Steve made all the marriage mistakes you can imagine! Now they offer you a great gift—the opportunity to...
Two Former Porn Addicts—"If I Could Go Back in Time, WHAT Would I DO different?"
13 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Mark and Steve get VERY raw and real about the struggles during their deep addiction years. Knowing what they know now—if they could go back in time...
Here's EXACTLY HOW to Use the "Surrender Tool" as an Addict, Spouse and Citizen
07 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Mark and Steve walk you through three REAL LIFE examples of HOW to use the "Surrender Tool" in times of overwhelming emotio...
How to Practice the Essential "Art of Surrender" in a Scary World!
30 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Our natural tendency in addiction, betrayal trauma and current scary world events is to attempt to INCREASE the CONTROL we have over our lives! This i...
How to Get Out of Your "Coronavirus Brain" and TAKE CHARGE!
23 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Right now a lot of people across the world are feeling pretty "powerless"! But, those of us who have suffered from addiction, betrayal traum...
Managing Your Emotions & Triggers in These Trying Times!
17 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
During times of HIGH emotional stress, like the COVID 19 pandemic, "triggers" go up for the population as a whole, and especially for those ...
Are My Sexual Behaviors a Problem?
09 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to sexual behaviors, we live in a world where there is a very broad spectrum about what people consider to be "healthy" and &q...
Unraveling the BIG Mystery of Porn Addiction—"Why do I keep going back to it?!"
03 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone who gets trapped in porn addiction struggles with the "big mystery"--why do I keep going back to this crap? Why can't I just s...
Battling Through Trauma Together!
25 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Trauma is ALWAYS part of a marriage relationship—either trauma we bring with us from childhood or trauma created while we're married. Either wa...
Conflict Isn't Bad—Fighting the Real Enemy, NOT Each Other!
15 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Most of were raised to believe that "conflict is bad" and to be avoided at all costs! The truth is, in healthy relationships, conflict shoul...
What is Betrayal Trauma—Part Three—Setting Sexual Boundaries
06 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In order for a porn addict to move into "real" recovery, AND a spouse to begin healing her betrayal trauma, as a couple you MUST begin setti...
What is "Betrayal Trauma"—Part Two—Symptoms and Healing
04 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is for women suffering from betrayal trauma AND their husbands who truly want to understand them. What are the symptoms of Betrayal Trau...
What is "Betrayal Trauma"—Part One
28 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When a spouse finds out about her husband's infidelity through porn use, an affair or other sexual behaviors, a flood of emotions can come rushin...
Porn—Stress Reliever or Stress Inducer?
14 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
A recent article in a popular publication claimed that "porn is the perfect stress reducer." In this episode, Mark and Steve get raw and per...
What is Porn and What is Not? It Might Not Be What You Think!
14 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
There's a big debate about what is pornographic and what is not. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real about how defining "porn&...