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Episodes
368 - Instagram Audit
16 Apr 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Like a tax audit for your Instagram usage — 11 questions to reveal what the app is actually doing for (or to) you. Get the full show notes here: htt...
367 - Me Without Beer One Year
19 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
This past January marked a new type of sobriety milestone for myself: one year alcohol-free. In this episode, I share why I gave up drinking and what ...
366 - My No Ghosting Policy for 2026
29 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been "ghosted?" You know that feeling you get when someone blows you off or doesn't respond to your text. It's confusing. It got me to t...
365 - The ONE Thing That Made 15-Years Porn Free Possible
15 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Kick off 2026 with Matt Dobschuetz as he celebrates 15-years porn free. In this episode, Matt looks back with his brother (Sam) and identifies the ONE...
364 - What do you get out of being bored?
20 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, you will discover how your emotional state is a choice, not something that happens to you. For more, listen to my three-part Personal...
363 - Owners, Not Renters
14 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The core of recovery is about taking 100% ownership for your needs and choices. This episode is about shifting away from a renter mindset and embracin...
362 - Integrity Gaps
06 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we learn how integrity gaps in our lives can be useful—much like a car's dashboard light—by alerting us toward the places that re...
361 - Advanced Recovery pt. 3: How Men Build Friendships Beyond Recovery
24 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This is part 3 of our 3-part series on advanced recovery. In this episode, we talk about the need for creating deeply supportive friendships that go b...
360 - Advanced Recovery pt. 2: Identity and Performance w/ Dick Ryan
17 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Author Dick Ryan, joins us for part 2 of a 3-part series on advanced recovery. In this episode Dick, a musician by trade, shares from his experience m...
359 - Advanced Recovery Pt. 1: D.I.R.E. Traits w/ Hope Ray
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Hope Ray, L.P.C., joins us for part 1 of a 3-part series on advanced recovery. In this episode, Hope discusses her new program for men, called Getting...
358 - Real Guys Living Porn Free 3 Yrs And Beyond (Roman, Steve, & Nathan)
24 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Matt is joined in-studio for a conversation with three PFR listeners who are all living porn free; Roman (3 Years), Steve (7 yrs), and Nathan (8yrs.) ...
357 - The 2025 NFL Preview Show
03 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Back for year 5! The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2025 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Sam Dobschuetz, and your host Matt...
356 - Expense vs. Investment (Updated)
07 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Lee Cockerell was Disney World's Executive Vice President of Operations for over a decade There he oversaw the daily operations and guest experience f...
355 - Intention Vs. Commitment
16 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Steve Chandler from episode 274 wrote this, "Many people I work with make the mistake of confusing commitment with intention. They think they're the ...
355 - Intention Vs. Commitment
16 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Steve Chandler from episode 274 wrote this, "Many people I work with make the mistake of confusing commitment with intention. They think they're the ...
354 - Don't Just Change What You're Doing. Change Who You're Being.
02 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
The whole point of this podcast is not just to change what you're doing. It's to change who you are being. For that, we look at repetition and beliefs...
353 - The Surprising Way To Meet Almost Any Need
27 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We often say that porn is not the problem, it's the solution. And when we let go of porn we are left with one thing: our needs. But just how do we get...
352 - Potential Vs. Capacity
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt guilty that you have not lived up to your potential? That because of your past something you were destined for will never be achiev...
352 - Potential Vs. Capacity
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt guilty that you have not lived up to your potential? That because of your past something you were destined for will never be achiev...
351 - Freedom Questions
15 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is a fast follow-up to PFR 350- Pure Freedom, where we discuss Rich Litvin's "three distinctions around freedom." In this show, Matt asks...
350 - Pure Freedom
12 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In the episode, we are going to focus on the concept of pure freedom. Master coach, Rich Litvin describes pure freedom as "the freedom to make decisio...
349 - When are you going to stop living like you're never going to die?
04 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
We're back on PFR asking the question, "when are you going to stop living like you're never going to die?" Get the full show notes here: https://rec...
348 - High Bottom Porn Use
10 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we explore the idea of "high bottom" porn use—when your life isn't falling apart, but you're still stuck and it's costing you. We d...
347 - Dan Miller's 15% Rule for New Year Goal Setting
01 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
One of my podcast heroes, Dan Miller, had a goal setting practice which I love. "When I set my goals for the new year, I ruthlessly eliminate 15% of...
346 - What's The Difference Between a Relapse and a Slip?
05 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm joined by my brother Sam Dobschuetz, as we open the Porn Free Radio mailbag answering questions like… What percentage of guys ...
345 - Confessions of a Recovered News Junkie
08 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We just picked a new president here in the States. Maybe you heard? This season, I noticed my news consumption went way up. As I look back now at my f...
344 - Diagnose Any Relapse and Get Better Faster
30 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When solving a crime, detectives use motive, means, and opportunity to catch the criminal. In recovery, after a troubling episode, we can use the same...
343 - The 2024 NFL Preview Show
03 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2024 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Sammy D. (Sam Dobschuetz) and your host, Matt "The ...
342 - How to Avoid Getting Addicted to Porn
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
A favorite trick of value investor Charlie Munger was inverse thinking. It's where you reverse the problem you're trying to solve. In this episode, we...
341 - Examining Our Thoughts w/ Dr. Amy Johnson
29 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode, I invite Dr. Amy Johnson, author of Just a Thought, to help us start examining our thoughts in a new way. Get the full show notes he...
340 - 90% Of Your Relapses Are Predictable
12 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Most relapses are predictable. So why are so often surprised by them? On this episode, Matt shares an episode from his Coffee with the Dobber series f...
339 - Are You Still In the Porn Bubble?
04 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Men use porn because they like the effect produced by it. The elusive sensation changes our state while we are using it. It provides a timely escape f...
338 - I'm not a bad person getting good, I'm a sick person getting well (a PFR Listener Story)
27 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On this episode, Matt shares a PFR listener story from Aaron C. who got hope from Porn Free Radio and took action by joining a 12-step fellowship. Get...
337 - My 12 Provocations Pt. 2 with Vern Tompke
18 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In the second of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as we complete this list of 12 provocations designed to challenge you...
336 - My 12 Provocations Pt. 1 with Vern Tompke
11 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
My book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn, is known for its provocative statement, "Porn is not the problem for us. It's ...
335 - PFR 10th Anniversary Show
30 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Join Matt and Sam Dobschuetz as they read listener letters celebrating 10 years of Porn Free Radio. Take hope and take action! Get the full show notes...
334 - Whole vs. Broken
29 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Do you see yourself as broken or an addict? Then this episode is for you. Over the last 10 years, I have had a shift in my thinking; I have moved aw...
333 - Honesty vs. Hiding
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Before recovery, I lived a divided life. I hid anything I found unacceptable from my friends and family including my problematic porn use. On the surf...
332 - Fact vs. Fear
19 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We've all heard the phrase, "Fact vs. Fiction." But a friend of mine said it should be "Fact vs. Fear." It's fear that often leads us to our escapism ...
331 - Calm vs. Stress
11 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is stress based on our perception or is it objective? That was question we discussed in a recent REV group. The stressful situations guys described ha...
330 - Recovery vs. Relapse
03 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"You're either working on recovery or you're working on relapse" ― Old guy at my recovery meeting Coach Vern Tompke sits in on Porn Free Radio to ...
329 - Consistency vs. Intensity
28 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
MMA coach, Firas Zahabi, emphasizes that consistency in training beats intensity. Consistency is where we build skill and endurance without burning ou...
328 - Skills vs. Willpower
22 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
When you started recovery, the challenge was overwhelming (high) and your skill level was low. And chances are if you have not significantly changed y...
327 - Solution vs. Problem
15 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
"Porn is not the problem for us," I write in my book. "It's the solution." It may feel like the problem in your life that needs to be fixed. But if yo...
326 - Owner vs. Victim
07 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Author Steve Chandler often says there are two types of people in the world; owners and victims. Victims see themselves as victims of their situation ...
325 - Don't Call It A Comeback: 13 Years Porn Free
02 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Matt Dobschuetz is back with a fresh episode of Porn Free Radio. Sam Dobschuetz joins in-studio to discuss Dobber recently reaching 13 years porn free...
324 - Is Your "Personality" Blocking Your Recovery?
30 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
"What we call personality," Steve Chandler writes. "Is just a history of habits." Fixed beliefs about who we are can block us from making the commitm...
323 - PFR Classic: 5-Minute Self Care Habits
20 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, we break down 15 self care habit...
322 - Eliminate Your Weakest Link
13 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I asked a group of coaching clients recently, "what is your weakest link in your recovery?" Answers ranged from objectifying women to old iPads, from...
321 - 17 Porn Free Pro Tips
05 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sam Dobschuetz joins Porn Free Radio for a super-sized episode. In this show, you'll learn Matt's 17 Porn Free Pro Tips. These powerful tips will help...
320 - Help, I'm Sick! How Do I Stay Porn Free?
28 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Being sick brings many situations that can lead to slips. For example, feeling fatigued, out of routine, being alone, bored, entitlement, need to rest...
319 - PFR Classic: The 12 Commitments That Led To Mastery
18 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this classic PFR episode, I share the 12 commitments that led to mastery in my journey to quit porn. Originally published January 24, 2018. Get t...
318 - It Takes Less Work To Succeed Than To Fail (Punk Episodes Pt. 4)
11 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
New to PFR... its our PUNK episodes. A four-part coaching series. Part 4 is reducing the effort and sacrifice required. It takes less work to succe...
317 - The 2023 NFL Preview Show
04 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2023 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Matt "The Dobber" Dobschuetz and your host, Sammy D...
316 - 10 Ways To Speed Up Your Recovery (Punk Episodes Pt. 3)
28 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
New to PFR... its our PUNK episodes. A four-part coaching series. Part 3 is about decreasing the time it takes for you to see progress and get to yo...
315 - Maximize Your Success (Punk Episodes Pt.2)
21 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
New to PFR... it's our PUNK episodes. A four-part coaching series. Part 2 is about increasing your perceived likelihood for success and building you...
314 - Maximize Your Dream (Punk Episodes Pt.1)
14 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
New to PFR... it's our PUNK episodes. A four-part coaching series. Part 1 is about maximizing your porn free dream. Getting more clarity about where...
313 - 2 Years Porn Free with Michael and Aaron
26 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Michael and Aaron visit PFR to celebrate 2 years porn free. Both listeners reached this milestone earlier this Summer. In this episode, the guys share...
312 - PFR Classic: Automatic Thoughts
19 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In recovery we focus a lot on triggers. Avoiding them. Reducing them. Anticipating them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic, of...
311 - Assessing Problematic Porn Use w/ Bill Herring
14 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In recovery circles we often use labels rather than descriptions. Words like sex addict or porn addiction are hastily applied or adopted. But often we...
310 – PFR Classic: The 7-Day Porn Free Plan
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, you'll learn how to create a hyper-focused 7-day recovery plan. Originally published March 1, 2017. Get the full show notes here: htt...
309 - Is There Hope For Me?
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast. This time with Vern Tompke from Finding Traction. In this episode we talk about hope for two types of guys:...
308 – Finding Your Harmonious Passions (Updated)
23 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In PFR episode 307, we looked at problematic porn use through Dr. Robert Vallerand's passion framework. Dr. Vallerand proposes two types of passion; o...
307 - Obsessive Passions and Harmonious Passions
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sam Dobschuetz, cohost of Coffee with the Dobber and the 2 Ramblers Podcast, joins PFR this week. On this episode, we discuss looking at problematic p...
306 – PFR Classic: How Successful Guys Overcome Edging
25 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share how successful guys overcome edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns w...
305 - All Progress Starts By Telling The Truth w/ Jay Pyatt
18 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Coach Jay Pyatt, from The Couple Cure, returns to Porn Free Radio for a discussion about lying. Matt has often said that lying was the "second addicti...
304 - Recovery Lessons From a Golf Pro
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Golf season is officially here in the U.S. and Texas golf pro, JR Bohn, joins us on Porn Free Radio. We discuss the parallels between golf and recover...
303 - Excuses Pt. 2: Overcoming Denial (Updated)
04 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In part 2 of our Excuses series, Matt shares some powerful questions to challenge the negative and distorted thinking revealed in our excuses. If you ...
302 - Excuses Pt. 1: The Top 50 Revealed w/ Vern Tompke and Jason George (Updated)
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In part one of a two-part series, Vern Tompke and Jason George join Porn Free Radio. In this episode, we discuss the top 50 excuses guys make for keep...
301 - Relapse is a State, Not An Event
09 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Guys often see relapse as an event where a bottom-line behavior in engaged in. In this scenario recovery is measured by the absence of relapse events....
300 - Be Your Future Self Now with Dr. Benjamin Hardy
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We celebrate episode 300 of Porn Free Radio with the return of Dr. Benjamin Hardy, author of Be Your Future Self Now. In this episode you'll learn abo...
299 - What can you do to guard yourself against temptation?
02 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this SUPER-SIZED episode, I'm hitting the Porn Free Radio mailbag and answering questions like... How do I watch TV during recovery? What can you d...
298 - 10 Keys to Long-Term Sobriety
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Getting long-term sobriety is similar to getting your car to go 300,000 miles. It's going to take really good maintenance habits. On this episode, ...
297 - Silicon Valley Success, Porn Addiction, and the Road to Healing w/ Jason Portnoy
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Jason Portnoy, author of the memoir, Silicon Valley Porn Star, shares his road to healing from porn and sex addiction in the midst of silicon valley s...
296 - Should We Track Porn Free Days?
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In recovery, we often measure success with days, streaks, and sobriety dates. But should we? What's the value? On today's episode, Matt Dobschuetz is ...
295 - PFR Classic: My 10 Porn Rules
14 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share my 10 porn rules for my recovery. Now your rules may look different, but if you see one that could...
294 - The 2022 NFL Preview Show
06 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2022 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., and your host Matt Dobschuetz. Join three coaches f...
293 - Janice Dobschuetz Tells Her Story with Hope Ray
31 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Porn Free Radio is full of Matt's porn and recovery stories. But for 292 episodes, one voice has been conspicuously absent; Matt's wife, Janice Dobsch...
292 - PFR Classic: The 5 Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn (Updated)
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share 5 common lies I hear from guys trying to quit porn and 5 powerful truths to overcome them. Get the...
291 – Winning with Coach Eberflus' HITS Principal
17 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In early 2022, the Chicago Bears hired a new head coach. Matt Eberflus, previously the defensive coordinator for the Indianapolis Colts, has a philoso...
290 - PFR Classic: Unwanted with Jay Stringer (Updated)
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share my interview with Psychotherapist Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals ...
289 - Recovery Happens Best When You're All In w/ Nick Stumbo (Updated)
27 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Nick Stumbo, Executive Director for Pure Desire, sits in on Porn Free Radio Today. In this episode, Matt and Nick talk about being all in with recover...
288 - The Road to Earned Secure Attachment w/ Dr. Jake Porter (Updated)
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dr. Jake Porter, Founder & President of Daring Ventures, sits in on Porn Free Radio today. In this conversation, Dr. Jake shares about the powerful co...
287 - PFR Classic: The Most Satisfactory Years of Your Existence Lie Ahead
14 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share a vision for you. The hard work you're doing to be porn free today WILL lead to more satisfaction ...
286 - Questions Partners Ask w/ Hope Ray (Updated)
29 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hope Ray returns to Porn Free Radio today and asks Matt the questions partners want to know. Questions like: What do you teach men about accountabil...
285 - How To Understand Your Sexual Fantasies w/ Drew Boa (Updated)
22 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Drew Boa from Husband Material, is sitting in on Porn Free Radio today. He shares how understanding your sexual fantasies can lead to greater freedom ...
284 - Questions Porn Free Men Ask About Their Partners w/ Hope Ray
16 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Hope Ray, is sitting in on Porn Free Radio today and answering questions porn free men ask about their partners. Questions like: How can I build the s...
283 - 10 Ideas To Electrify Your Summer (Updated)
02 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We often think Summer is a time for kicking back and taking it easy. But that kind of thinking flows towards our weaknesses. Building on PFR 282 - Ref...
282 - Reframing Summer (Updated)
27 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Summer often brings with it challenges for guys in recovery. People wearing less clothes, triggering situations like beaches or pools, and changes to ...
281 - Why Nice Guys Recover Last
19 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you consider yourself a nice guy? Do you care a lot about what people think of you? Do you often put people's needs and wants before your own? Do y...
280 - Aaron: 1 Year Porn Free (a PFR Listener Story)
12 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Aaron, a 38 year-old married man, from South Carolina (by way of Staten Island, NY) joins us on the 1 year anniversary of being porn free. We talk abo...
279 - Craig Perra Straight From Coachella
21 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Craig Perra, coach and founder of the The Mindful Habit, joins PFR for his record-setting 6th episode. Craig shares about his recent trip to Coachella...
278 - The Power of Groups w/ Trevor Winsor and Nick Stumbo
31 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The hits keep on coming. It's another EPIC PFR crossover with the Pure Desire Podcast. Trevor Winsor and Nick Stumbo joined me back in PFR 233 for a g...
277 - Return of the Pirate Monks
24 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's another EPIC PFR crossover with the Pirate Monk Podcast. Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter joined me in PFR 214 for a great discussion about recovery....
276 - Unleashing The Man Within w/ Sathiya Sam
17 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On today's show it's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast with Unleash the Man Within with Sathiya Sam. Sathiya is a former pastor, coach, and author of...
275 - The Opposite of Addiction
14 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Twice a month, I have a REV Coach Meet-Up with Vern Tompke (ep. 266) and Chris White (ep. 270.) I learn a lot from these guys as we discuss leading ou...
274 - The Creativity That Comes in Recovery w/ Steve Chandler
22 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Author and Master Coach, Steve Chandler, shares some of his biggest ideas for tranformation and growth. His own recovery from addiction became a sprin...
273 - PFR - Beyond the Battle w/ Noah Filipiak
06 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
On today's show it's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast with The Flip Side with Noah Filipiak. Noah is a pastor and author of Beyond the Battle: A Man...
272 - Porn is Not the Problem. It's the Solution.
11 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I share one of the biggest take-aways from my new book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn (visit https://...
271 - 10 Bold Recovery Ideas for 2022
16 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
New Years' resolutions generally fail for one of two reasons; they are either too BIG or too BORING. BIG resolutions often fail due to lack of commitm...