Processing Trauma Out Loud

Pause | Episode 186 | 12.11.25

11 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher discusses the concept of taking pauses through pilgrimages and sabbatical. Sher also informs our listeners that there will ...

Becoming More Alive | Episode 185 | 12.4.25

04 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Sher reflects on her discussion with Daniel Herron and what it means to become fully alive. When we desire to true freedom, we need c...

Holidays and Difficult Relationships | Episode 184 | 11.27.25

27 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher talks about how we can navigate the holidays with self-compassion when our family relationships are difficult. Listen in as...

Befriending Negative Emotions | Episode 183 | 11.20.25

20 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher addresses what it means to befriend our negative emotions. Instead of seeing these emotions as negative, what if we could s...

When I Cannot Feel: Part Two | Interview with Daniel Herron | Episode 182 | 11.13.25

13 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher concludes her interview with Daniel Herron, a trauma and transformation coach with The Broken and the Beautiful Collective....

When I Cannot Feel: Interview with Daniel Herron | Episode 181 | 11.6.25

06 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher interviews Daniel Herron, a trauma and transformation coach with The Broken and the Beautiful Collective. Sher and Daniel e...

Overcoming Negative Beliefs | Episode 180 | 10.30.25

30 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher give us a pathway to overcoming the false accusations, judgements and condemnation that comes from the effects of childhood...

Time To Get Unstuck | Episode 179 | 10.23.25

23 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher speaks compassionately about the hope of healing and getting out of feelings of being stuck. When it comes to healing the e...

The Healing Power of Art | Part Two | Episode 178 | 10.16.25

16 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude  a two-part series on how the beauty of nature and art can play a significant role in our healing jou...

The Healing Power of Nature | Part One | Episode 177 | 10.9.25

09 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude a two-part series on sharing where they find themselves on their healing journey. Listen in as Kandace...

Episode 176 | Where We Find Ourselves | Kandace Interviews Sher

02 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude a two-part series on sharing where they find themselves on their healing journey. Listen in as Kandace...

Episode 175 | Where We Find Ourselves | Sher Interviews Kandace

25 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start 2-part series on sharing where they find themselves on their healing journey. Listen in as Sher interview...

Episode 174 | Attachment Wounding Wrap-Up with Sher

18 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s solo episode, Sher concludes a series on attachment woundings and our attachment styles. Having earned secure attachments in our life is ...

Episode 173 | The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Wound

11 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their conversation around attachment styles and woundings. The fearful avoidant wounding puts a person...

Episode 172 | Interview with Therapist Lisa on Attachment | Part 2

04 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their interview on attachment with their dear friend Lisa. Lisa is a licensed therapist in the Chicago...

Episode 171 | Interview with Therapist Lisa on Attachment

28 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview their dear friend Lisa. Lisa is a licensed therapist in the Chicago area. Her understanding of attach...

Episode 170 | Designed For Connection: Anxious Attachment Wound

21 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around attachment wounds that lead us to our attachment styles. Having an anxious att...

Episode 169 | Designed For Connection: Avoidant Attachment Wound

14 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around attachment wounds that lead us to our attachment styles. Having an avoidant at...

Episode 168 | Designed for Connection: Secure Attachment

07 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher make their way back to one of their favorite topics. Understanding our attachment wounds, how they developed, a...

Episode 167 | The Brokenhearted - Blessing Our Good Desires

31 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their discussion on the topic of brokenheartedness. Most often, underneath our broken heart is the pain...

Episode 166 | The Brokenhearted - Anger & Desire

24 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around the topic of brokenheartedness. In a recent experience of brokenheartedness, K...

Episode 165 | The Brokenheartedness We Carry

17 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a three-part series around the topic of brokenheartedness. Often times in life we experience heartbreak f...

Episode 164 | Group Retreat & IFS | Building Relationships

10 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their discussion around the positive impact IFS can have in relationships and group dynamics. When we ...

Episode 163 | Group Retreat & IFS | Sher's Experience

03 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process their time together at a recent group retreat. Through the lens of IFS, we can notice when we get trigg...

Episode 162 | Group Retreat & IFS | Kandace's Experience

26 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process their time together at a recent group retreat. Through the lens of IFS, we can notice when we get trigg...

Episode 161 | The Healing Power of With-ness

19 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher discusses what with-ness means on this journey of healing from childhood trauma. Listen in and be sure to reach out if you ...

Episode 160 | Interview With Laurie Proctor | IFS & Integration

12 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview their friend and mentor Laurie Proctor. Laurie is trained and certified in many different modalities,...

Episode 159 | Interview With Laurie Proctor | IFS & Coping Behavior Patterns

05 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview their friend and mentor Laurie Proctor. Laurie is trained and certified in many different modalities,...

Episode 158 | Interview With Laurie Proctor | IFS Therapy

29 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview their friend and mentor Laurie Proctor. Laurie is trained and certified in many different modalities,...

Episode 157 | Beyond the Shame: Rediscovering Me | Part Two

22 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a two-part series focusing on discovering who we are as the layers of shame are pealed back, and we beg...

Episode 156 | Beyond the Shame: Rediscovering Me | Part One

15 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a two-part series focusing on discovering who we are as the layers of shame are pealed back, and we begin...

Episode 155 | River of Desire: With You Now

08 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss Kandace’s experience with the shame of believing something was wrong with her in her teenage years. U...

Episode 154 | River of Desire: Overcoming Shame

01 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to know that we have everything we need to be okay. If we can just imagine ourselves in a...

Episode 153 | When Shame Brings Dysregulation | Interview with Coach Patria

24 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around the topic of shame. Join Kandace and Sher is their Coach Patria Diehl Rector w...

Episode 152 | A War On Shame | Interview with Coach Patria

17 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around the topic of shame. Join Kandace and Sher is their Coach Patria Diehl Rector w...

Episode 151 | How Shame Lies To Us And the Truth Sets Us Free

10 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their series of war on shame. When the lies of shame come into the light through the power of real lov...

Episode 150 | How Do We Heal Shame?

03 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussions focused on a war on shame. With a desire to heal shame, we have to be able to locate...

Episode 149 | How Shame Feels In Our Bodies

27 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a series of discussions focused on a war on shame. With a desire to heal shame, we have to be able to loc...

Episode 148 | Freedom From the Grips of Shame

20 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher revisit the topic of shame. Can you recall the first time you experienced feelings of being bad, or that someth...

Episode 147 | Reflections On Being A Woman Of Desire

13 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap of their series on being women of desire. Healing from childhood trauma means connecting with our good des...

Episode 146 | Women of Desire: Question Three - Kandace's Answer

06 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of des...

Episode 145 | Women of Desire: Question Three - Sher's Answer

27 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of des...

Episode 144 | Women of Desire: Question Two

20 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of des...

Episode 143 | Women of Desire: Question One

13 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a series of questions to ask their listeners, as well as answer for themselves around the topic of desire...

Episode 142 | On Desire: Needy Women - Pt. 2

06 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a discussion on what it means to be a woman of desire. Before we can know what we desire, we have to c...

Episode 141 | On Desire: Needy Women

30 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher begin a series of discussions on what it means to be a woman of desire. Before we can know what we desire, we h...

Episode 140 | On Being Connected To Our Body | Part Three

23 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher bring their final episode in a three-part series on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we...

Episode 139 | On Being Connected To Our Body | Part Two

16 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher bring part two on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma...

Episode 138 | On Being Connected To Our Body

09 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a three-part series on what it means as women to be connected to our body. When we’ve experienced child...

Episode 137 | Invitation To Wild Womanhood

02 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start off the New Year (And Sher’s birthday) with big hope to lean into what it means to be a wild woman in t...

Episode 136 | End of the Year: Dreaming

26 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up 2024 talking about dreaming. The more we heal, the more we dream. Listen in as Kandace and Sher discuss...

Episode 135 | End of the Year: Grieving

19 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of grieving as they close out the year 2024. Facing our grief, feeling our grief, and releasin...

Episode 134 | End of the Year: Releasing

12 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to release those things in our lives that no longer reflect the truth of who we are. As 2...

Episode 133 | End of the Year: Reflections

05 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a 4-part end of the year series focusing on different topics and questions to take you into the new year....

Episode 132 | Expressing Gratitude

28 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher carve out time to express what they are currently grateful for. Going into the holidays usually holds a mix of ...

Episode 131 | Healing In Groups

21 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss a recent group retreat they attended in Omaha, Nebraska. Though most people start their healing journey...

Episode 130 | Self-Contempt

14 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their group discussion around the topic of self-contempt. Self-contempt is a painful emotion where we ...

Episode 129 | Trauma Bonds

07 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a group discussion around the topic of trauma bounds. Understanding the nature of our connections with...

Episode 128 | What is Differentiation?

31 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher have the privilege of interviewing three women who are on a mission to help other women heal from childhood tra...

Episode 127 | How We Heal Generational Trauma

24 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace interviews Sher about her journey of the healing generational trauma from childhood abuse. Sharing our stories of harm w...

Episode 126 | Why We Heal Generational Trauma

17 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the importance of healing generational trauma. The courage it’s takes to tell the truth is a gift we ...

Episode 125 | Processing the Topic of Power - Part Three

10 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a three-part series on looking at power dynamics within our closet relationships. Understanding our his...

Episode 124 | Processing the Topic of Power - Part Two

03 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion on the topic of power and powerlessness. When we start to express what we need, it ca...

Episode 123 | Processing the Topic of Power

26 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher kick-off a three-part series around what it means to be powerless and feel powerless. If a person feels they ha...

Episode 122 | Am I Resilient or Fragile?

19 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher explore what it means to be fragile or resilient within the context of our relationships. To slow down and noti...

Episode 121 | A Look At How We Process Grief & Loss | Part Two

12 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today's episode, Kandace and Sher continue their conversation around grief and loss. Having the support we need in times of deep loss is essential ...

Episode 120 | A Look At How We Process Grief & Loss | Part One

05 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a two-part series discussing the topic of grief and loss. Though everyone’s journey with grief and loss...

Episode 119 | What Five Years of Healing Looks Like | Part Four

29 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their series on what their healing journey has looked like over the last five years. The impact of chil...

Episode 118 | What Five Years of Healing Looks Like | Part Three

22 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their series reflecting on the past five years of healing from the wounds of childhood trauma. Listen ...

Episode 117 | What Five Years of Healing Looks Like | Part Two

15 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their series reflecting on the past five years of healing from the wounds of childhood trauma. Listen ...

Episode 116 | What Five Years of Healing Looks Like

08 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a four-part series reflecting on the past five years and how life looks as we heal from childhood trauma....

Episode 115 | Dysregulation and Somatic Practices | Part Two

01 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher get into the specifics of what it means to regulate our nervous system through somatic practices. Being aware o...

Episode 114 | Noticing Dysregulation | Part One

25 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss their journeys on learning what it means to notice dysregulation in our bodies and why that’s importa...

Episode 113 | Setting Boundaries | Part Four

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a 4-part series on setting boundaries within our relationships. One of the hardest situations we can be...

Episode 112 | Setting Boundaries | Part Three

11 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion around boundaries. Setting boundaries is a gift we can give in all our relationships ...

Episode 111 | Setting Boundaries | Part Two

04 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the discussion on what it looks like to set healthy boundaries in our lives. One of the hardest things...

Episode 110 | Meet Stephanie & Kate: Upcoming Story Group

27 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace & Sher have the honor of interviewing Stephanie and Kate about their upcoming story group. Stephanie & Kate also...

Episode 109 | Setting Boundaries | Part One

20 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a four-part series on what it means to set boundaries coming from a trauma-informed perspective. When we ...

Episode 108 | When Trauma and Spirituality Collide: An Interview

13 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace continues to tell Sher the story of her recent traumatic experience at a local park in her community. Listen in as Kanda...

Episode 107 | When Harm Happens, Talk It Out | Part Two

06 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace continues to tell Sher the story of her recent traumatic experience at a local park in her community. Listen in as Kanda...

Episode 106 | When Harm Happens, Talk It Out | Part One

30 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher walk through a recent traumatic event Kandace experienced at one of her local walking parks. Traumatic events t...

Episode 105 | Revisiting Attachment Wounds

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher revisit the conversation around attachment styles and healing our attachment wounds. Listen in as Kandace and S...

Episode 104 | Did Your Voice Matter? Part 2

16 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss more on the topic of what it was like to use our voice as a child. Listen in as Kandace engages Sher in...

Episode 103 | Did Your Voice Matter? Part 1

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher embark on a compelling 2-part series delving into the profound impact of childhood experiences on our voices. T...

Episode 102 | Sher Interviews Kandace: Her Memoir

02 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher interviews Kandace about the memoir she has written and will soon publish. Listen in as Sher asks Kandace what her hope is ...

Episode 101 | Kandace Interviews Sher: Her Story Of Violence

25 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace interviews Sher about the violence in her own story, and the further harm of it being witnessed by those who could have ...

Episode 100 | Celebrating 100 Episodes

18 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher celebrate their 100th podcast episode and review their healing journey. Listen in and hear how their podcast ha...

Episode Ninety-Nine | Story Work Themes: Childhood Emotional Neglect

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the theme of childhood emotional neglect. Though childhood emotional neglect can be harder to identify,...

Episode Ninety-Eight | Story Work Themes: Parentification

04 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher tackle the theme of Parentification. Children who experience complex childhood trauma often are placed in famil...

Episode Ninety-Seven | Sher Interviews Kandace - Healing Hurt

28 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Sher interviews Kandace about her recent invitation to speak on healing hurt in the workplace. Listen in as Kandace shares her p...

Episode Ninety-Six | Story Work Themes: Triangulation - Part 2

21 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation about triangulation and how we heal when we discovered we were triangulated as a chil...

Episode Ninety-Five | Story Work Themes: Triangulation - Part 1

14 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher talk about the theme of triangulation within our stories of childhood trauma. Triangulation is particularly pai...

Episode Ninety-Four | Story Work Themes: Complicity - Part 2

07 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s episode comes with a caution as Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of complicity in childhood sexual abuse. Though we know sexual abuse is n...

Episode Ninety-Three | Story Work Themes: Complicity - Part 1

29 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s episode comes with a caution as Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of complicity in childhood sexual abuse. Though we know sexual abuse is n...

Episode Ninety-Two | The Goodness of Story Work - Part 2

22 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue a discussion on the goodness they’ve witnessed from those they’ve worked with as clients. Many tim...

Episode Ninety-One | The Goodness of Story Work - Part 1

15 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the ways they’ve seen Story Work bring healing into the lives of their clients. Until our stories of ...

Episode Ninety | Why We Think Story Work Is The Bomb - Part 2

08 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why they love Story Work as a healing modality when getting help from the effects of childhood trauma. ...

Episode Eighty-Nine | Why We Think Story Work Is The Bomb - Part 1

01 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why they love Story Work as a healing modality when getting help from the effects of childhood trauma. ...

Episode Eighty-Eight | Do You Have A Victim Mindset? - Part 2

25 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a two-part series on what it means to have a victim-mindset. Once we find a safe place to share our sto...

Episode Eighty-Seven | Do You Have A Victim Mindset? - Part 1

18 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher tackle the topic of what it means to have a victim-mindset. If you were once a victim, and have never received ...