Processing Trauma Out Loud
Episodes
Episode Eighty-Six | Dreams and Desires: Part Two
11 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the discussion on dreams and desires. When we feel blocked in pursuing our dreams and desires, we can ...
Episode Eighty-Five | Dreams and Desires for 2024
04 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start off the New Year talking about dreams and desires for 2024. If you find it hard to know what you desire a...
Episode Eighty-Four | Let's Talk Arousal Structures: Part Two
28 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In todays episode, Kandace and Sher continue the topic of arousal structures. Understanding our particular arousal structures and how they are connect...
Episode Eighty-Three | Let's Talk Arousal Structures
21 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In todays episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the topic of arousal structures. Understanding our particular arousal structures and how they are connecte...
Episode Eighty-Two | Why It Can Be Hard To Ask For Help
14 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process several reasons why we can find it so difficult to ask for help. Whether it’s feelings of shame, feel...
Episode Eighty-One | Why It’s Important To Ask For Help
07 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why it’s so important to find our courage to ask for help. Though asking for help is a simple request...
Episode Eighty | Honoring Our Losses
30 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher have a conversation around what it means to honor our losses and the importance of grieving to heal. Though gri...
Episode Seventy-Nine | Gratitude on the Healing Journey
23 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher look back on this last year and name a few things they are grateful for. One of the greatest gifts of staying o...
Episode Seventy-Eight | Interview With A Trauma-Informed Mediator: Dawn Kuhlman
16 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher interview Dawn Kuhlman, trauma-informed mediator and director of March Mediation in Liberty, Missouri. Dawn’s...
Episode Seventy-Seven | Cultivating the Trait of Self-Compassion: Part Four
09 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up a 4-part series processing why having self-compassion is a key to healing from the affects of childhood...
Episode Seventy-Six | Cultivating the Trait of Self-Compassion: Part Three
02 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue discussing the importance of having self-compassion in order to heal from developmental trauma. Listen...
Episode Seventy-Five | Cultivating the Trait of Self-Compassion: Part Two
26 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why it can be difficult to develop self-compassion if you’ve grown up believing that you are the prob...
Episode Seventy-Four | Cultivating the Trait of Self-Compassion: Part One
19 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher start a new topic in their cultivation series about what it means to be self-compassionate. In early childhood,...
Episode Seventy-Three | Cultivating the Trait of Self-Awareness: Part Four
12 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Shar discuss the topic of being aware of our dreams and desires. When we’ve experienced childhood trauma, we are t...
Episode Seventy-Two | Cultivating the Trait of Self-Awareness Through Art and Healing
05 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher talk through Sher’s journey of healing through using watercolors and creating her recent online course Art an...
Episode Seventy-One | Cultivating the Trait of Self-Awareness: Part Two
28 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In todays episode, Kandace and Sher discuss specifics on how to develop greater self-awareness. Though we will never be perfectly self-aware, we can b...
Episode Seventy | Cultivating the Trait of Self-Awareness: Part One
21 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their cultivation series discussing the topic of self-awareness. Developing self-awareness can help us...
Episode Sixty-Nine | Cultivating Deep Listening - Part 4
14 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude the topic of cultivating the trait of being a good listener. Though we will never be perfect listeners...
Episode Sixty-Eight | Cultivating Deep Listening - Part 3
07 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss how it feels to be deeply listened to. What does it mean when someone leans in and genuinely desires to...
Episode Sixty-Seven | Cultivating Deep Listening - Part 2
31 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue their discussion on cultivating the trait of being a deep listener. When we’ve experienced complex c...
Episode Sixty-Six | Cultivating Deep Listening - Part 1
24 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher begin a new series looking at how we cultivate specific traits we want to grow in as we heal from the affects o...
Episode Sixty-Five | How To Care For Our Inner-Critic
17 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to have an inner-critic. Critical thoughts that seem to control us can be confronted and ...
Episode Sixty-Four | Is There a Formula for Healing: Embracing Mystery
10 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher process how healing often involves mystery. If we’ve had childhood trauma, we will think we need certainty to...
Episode Sixty-Three | Reclaiming Your Creativity With Sher
03 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode Sher discusses what it means to reclaim our creativity when we’ve experienced complex childhood trauma. Listen in as Sher tells...
Episode Sixty-Two | Hard But Worth It: Healing An Attachment Wound
27 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher reveal their own attachment wound coming from experiencing complex childhood trauma. For those who have experie...
Episode Sixty-One | Hard But Worth It: Identifying Hidden Beliefs & Perceptions
20 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace & Sher discuss another topic in their series on things that are hard to do on the healing journey, but worth doing. ...
Episode Sixty | Hard But Worth It: Believing We Are Loved
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to believe we are worthy of love coming from a history of complex childhood trauma. Thoug...
Episode Fifty-Nine | Speaking the Unspeakable With Sher
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In todays episode, Sher talks about the importance of having someone to tell our hardest stories to. Those stories we feel we can never tell anyone, b...
Episode Fifty-Eight | Step Three Of Healing From Self-Betrayal
29 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their 4-part series of how we heal from the painful experiences of self-betrayal. In this final step, t...
Episode Fifty-Seven | Step Two Of Healing From Self-Betrayal
22 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the importance of listening to our bodies as a means of discovering what we need. Understanding what dy...
Episode Fifty-Six | Step One Of Healing From Self-Betrayal
15 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher further the conversation on what it means to heal from self-betrayal. The first step is naming the truth of our...
Episode Fifty-Five | Three Steps To End Self Betrayal
08 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means to betray ourselves because of the complex childhood trauma we experienced. Self-betrayal...
Episode Fifty-Four | Spiritual Bypassing: Part Two
01 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What To Do Instead of Spiritual BypassingIn today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation on spiritual bypassing and offer ways we can...
Episode Fifty-Three | Spiritual Bypassing: Part One
25 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what spiritual bypassing is and how it has influenced their healing journey. Spiritual bypassing is one...
Episode Fifty-Two | What We’ve Learned After One Year Of Podcasting
18 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss why they keep showing up each week to record Processing Trauma Out Loud and the lessons they have learn...
Episode Fifty-One | Healing From An Abandonment Wound - Part Three
11 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher conclude their series on what it means to have an abandonment wound and how we heal. The hope of healing this w...
Episode Fifty | Healing From An Abandonment Wound - Part Two
04 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher further their discussion on what it means to have an abandonment wound. Listen in as they share stories and des...
Episode Forty-Nine | Healing From An Abandonment Wound
27 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it means when we have experienced an abandonment wound in childhood. Being left alone repeatedly a...
Episode Forty-Eight | Kandace’s Journey With Grief
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what grieving has historically looked like for Kandace and how the recent loss of her brother has impac...
Episode Forty-Seven | If I Could Just Cry - Sher’s Story
13 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Sher discusses her journey from not being able to cry over her own painful stories to now being able to honor her tears of grief...
Episode Forty-Six | What If I Can Say I Have Complex PTSD?
06 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what it could mean if we are able to express what we need when we feel triggered in our closest relatio...
Episode Forty-Five | Habitual Misattunement Is A Big Deal
30 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss the complex trauma we experience when we have habitual misattunement in childhoood. Listen in as Kandac...
Episode Forty-Four | Why Attunement Matters
23 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher discuss what attunement means and why it’s so important for healthy childhood development. Listen is as Kanda...
Episode Forty-Three | Our Epic Story of Glory: Part Three
16 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher wrap up their three part series on looking at how trauma seeks to mar a person’s glory. A person’s God-give...
Episode Forty-Two | Our Epic Story of Glory: Part Two
09 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher continue the conversation about what it means that we have glory and what it looks like to reclaim who we were ...
Episode Forty-One | Our Epic Story of Glory
02 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher give hope to those who have experienced complex childhood trauma by discussing what it means that we have glory...
Episode Forty | Body Hatred: Part Three
23 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, Kandace and Sher talk about what it means to heal from the painful emotional experiences of having body hatred. Listen in as Kan...
Episode Thirty-Nine | Body Hatred: Part Two
16 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode Kandace and Sher discuss how Sher is doing after processing the story she brought last week to our listeners. Listen in as Kandac...
Episode Thirty-Eight | Body Hatred: Part One
09 Feb 2023
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Episode Thirty-Seven | Part 2 with Patria Diehl Rector
02 Feb 2023
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Episode Thirty-Six | Meet Patria Diehl Rector, Kandace’s Story Coach
26 Jan 2023
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Episode Thirty-Five | Reenactments: Part Two
19 Jan 2023
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Episode Thirty-Four | Reenactments: Coming To Terms With Our Life Patterns
12 Jan 2023
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Episode Thirty-Three | Owning Our Story
05 Jan 2023
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Episode Thirty-Two | End of the Year Reflections: Regrets & Celebrations
29 Dec 2022
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Episode Thirty-One | Reconnection After The Rupture: Part Four
22 Dec 2022
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Episode Thirty | The Hope Of Repair: Part Three
15 Dec 2022
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Episode Twenty-Nine | The Role Of Regulation In Repair: Part Two
08 Dec 2022
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Episode Twenty-Eight | Rupture In Relationships: Part One
01 Dec 2022
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Episode Twenty-Seven | Gratitude, Holiday Dinners & Just Breathe
24 Nov 2022
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Episode Twenty-Six | Your Relationship With Grief
17 Nov 2022
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Episode Twenty-Five | Childhood Grief and Loss
10 Nov 2022
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Episode Twenty-Four | Laurie Further Explains Parts Work
03 Nov 2022
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Episode Twenty-Three | Meet Laurie Proctor: Sher’s Story Work Coach
27 Oct 2022
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Episode Twenty-Two | Understanding Parts Work
20 Oct 2022
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Episode Twenty-One | Healing An Insecure Attachment
13 Oct 2022
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Episode Twenty | Attachment: A Really Big Deal
06 Oct 2022
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Episode Nineteen | The Impact of Inner-Child Work
29 Sep 2022
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Episode Eighteen | Story Work Coaches Changed Our Lives
22 Sep 2022
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Episode Seventeen | Tools to Calm the Limbic Brain
15 Sep 2022
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Episode Sixteen | Understanding the Limbic Brain
08 Sep 2022
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Episode Fifteen | Meet Our Brave Story Group Sisters
01 Sep 2022
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Episode Fourteen | Story Groups: A Powerful Resource For Healing
25 Aug 2022
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Beginning September 19th, 2022, Kandace and Sher will be hosting their first online story group through Zoom! They would like to invite you to join th...
Episode Thirteen | Kandace's Story: Part Two
18 Aug 2022
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Episode Twelve | Story Work: Kandace Shares A Personal Story
11 Aug 2022
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Episode Eleven | The Invitation To Grieve Without Shame
04 Aug 2022
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Episode Ten | The Process of Healing Shame
28 Jul 2022
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Episode Nine | How Shame Feels
21 Jul 2022
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Episode Eight | Dismantling The Lies of Shame
14 Jul 2022
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Episode Seven | Why Sharing Our Stories Of Harm Matter: Processing Sher’s Story
07 Jul 2022
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Episode Six | Introduction To Story Work: Sher Reads A Story Of Deep Harm
30 Jun 2022
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Episode Five | Loyalty Structures: The Good And The Bad Of Remaining Loyal
23 Jun 2022
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Episode Four | Listening To Our Bodies To Bring Safety and Security
16 Jun 2022
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Episode Three | It's NOT All In Your Head
09 Jun 2022
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Episode Two | Why Dig Up The Past?
02 Jun 2022
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You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. In this episode, Kandac...
Episode One | The Surprising Power Of Kindness
23 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
You are listening to Processing Trauma Out Loud with Kandace and Sher, conversations about trauma and healing from two women who are doing the work. K...