PSR Podcast

What's Your Failure and Rejection Management Plan?

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Failure is part of life. But how many people have a “Failure and Rejection Management Plan”? I would guess very few.In today’s episode, Stephen ...

Healing, One Brushstroke at a Time

18 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s guest is Sheila Harkins. Sheila was on the podcast a couple years ago, May 19, 2020, to talk about how to help teens talk about difficult to...

Whole Man Recovery (Pt 4): Spiritual

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s final episode in our 4-part series on Whole Man Recovery we will explore the Spiritual element.We will attempt to answer the following qu...

Whole Man Recovery (Pt 3): Emotional

13 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode we will explore the Emotional element of Whole Man Recovery.We will attempt to answer the following questions about this element:...

Whole Man Recovery (Pt 2): Physical

12 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode with Matt Wenger we will explore the Physical element of Whole Man Recovery.We will attempt to answer the following questions abo...

Whole Man Recovery (Pt 1): Intellectual

11 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Earlier this year I had today’s guest, Matt Wenger, Clinical Director of Boulder Recovery, on the program and we touched on the four elements of Who...

Connecting Theology to Sexuality

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is the connection between theology and sexuality? And why does this matter?My guest today is Jonathan McLatchie. He is a biologist by training, b...

Embracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal

30 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When a wife discovers that her husband has been unfaithful, it is devastating and life-changing. No woman wants to experience betrayal trauma. Today’...

Why Don't Men Go Deeper?

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Every day we are inviting men to embark on a journey of personal growth, especially in the area of emotional growth. This is an essential part of brea...

Brain Defense Digital Safety for Kids

20 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Kids today of all ages are influenced by sexual messages coming in every direction from screens all around. The most impressionable ages are 7-11. Man...

The Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma

13 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Every day we are helping wives who are experiencing the devastating effects of sexual brokenness and sin. It is always a mess and it is always traumat...

Hope and Healing After Abortion

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest today is Karin Barbito. She is the Special Projects Coordinator at Support After Abortion, an organization whose mission is to end the deman...

15 Rules of Emotionally Detached Men

30 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, we unpack a list of 15 rules that emotionally detached men tend to live by, and why it’s important to know this. Here is a sam...

Racism and Sexual Brokenness

23 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s guest is Ashley Jameson, the Associate Director of Women’s Groups at Pure Desire, and she has a powerful story and message related to raci...

The Immanuel Approach in Recovery

16 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest on today’s program is Kristin Cary, co-founder of Living Truth, a ministry dedicated to helping those struggling with sexual brokenness to...

What to Do in the Moment of Temptation

09 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You will be tempted. It is a fact of life. And some of those temptations will be sexual temptations. How can you respond to such temptations with conf...

Understanding Male Sexuality

02 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s topic is “Understanding Male Sexuality.” Someone once said that male sexuality can be like handing a shotgun to a 12-year-old! So, how a...

Helping Parents Teach Healthy Tech to Kids

26 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest today is Chris Kaspar, founder and CEO of Techless, a different kind of tech company that is helping people understand how powerful technolo...

Surviving Infidelity: Hilarie's Story

19 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest today is Hilarie Barry, author of the book We Survived Infidelity: An Unexpected Life Lesson and founder of the support group Infidelity C...

Affair Recovery Through a Trauma Lens

12 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s program, we explore how married couples can recover from infidelity and why exploring trauma issues is important to this healing process....

The Importance of "Whole Man" Recovery

05 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s guest is Matt Wenger, the clinical director of Boulder Recovery in Boulder, Colorado. Matt has a heart for helping men overcome all kinds of...

The EPIC Challenge for a Great Marriage

28 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Damon shares a robust definition of marriage, why this matters in both the marriage relationship and the world, and the EPIC int...

Sexually Stupid Comments by Men

21 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Stephen and I will unpack a number of sexually stupid comments by men. Here’s just a sampling of some of these comments: “I...

Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your Story

14 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Stephen and I draw from Donald Miller’s book, Hero on a Mission, to help you better understand your own story and take your ne...

Sex, God, and the Chaos of Betrayal

07 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s guests are Roane and Eva Hunter, counselors and co-authors of the book, Sex, God, & the Chaos of Betrayal: The Couples' Road Map of ...

Betrayal Healing Phases

31 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, our guest Tammy Gustafson shares her story of sexual betrayal in her marriage and the healing and restoration that followed. Thr...

Matt's Recovery Story

27 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is a special bonus. Our guest is Matt Riley, the development director of our ministry. Matt will share his story of sexual brokenness and...

Why Men Struggle to Love

24 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s program, we have one of our fan-favorite guests back with us, Dr. Eddie Capparucci. Eddie is certified as a licensed professional counsel...

8 Comments from Men Struggling to Pursue Integrity

17 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Stephen and I share multiple comments from men who are on the journey to pursue greater integrity. Some of these comments are:“...

Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World

10 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s program, our guest is Mandy Majors, founder of Next Talk and author of the new book Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World: A Solution that...

Becoming the Type of Man Who Doesn't Look at Porn

03 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s program, our guest is Matt Dobschuetz, host of Porn Free Radio podcast and author of the book Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Doe...

How Do I Help My Wife when She Falls into a "Pit"?

26 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s episode is for husbands. We are aiming to answer this important question: “How do I help my wife when she falls into a ‘pit’?” In u...

The Heart Cry of an Old Saint: I Want to Be Clean!

19 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, Stephen brings some wisdom to us from a man who has been on a journey of sexual wholeness for a while. What can we learn from an...

Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope

12 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s guest is Shelley Martinkus, speaker, author, group facilitator, coach, and founder of Redemptive Living for Women. She is passionate about h...

Understanding the Visual Nature of Men

05 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, we unpack the visual nature of men. Like it or not, believe it or not, there are differences between males and females. Male bra...

Helping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and Sexuality

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest today is Sara Sery. She is a mom and ministry leader who cares deeply about helping parents, especially moms, to understand God’s design f...

When Shame Gets Real (with Carl Thomas)

22 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

My guest today is Carl Thomas. Carl is the founder of Live Free Ministries, which provides resources like the Live Free Community app for men who hung...

Love Triumphs: Mary Ann's Story of Grace, Truth, and Hope

15 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, our guest is Mary Ann Otley. She has a powerful story of sexual abuse, addiction, and the healing power of Jesus. Her abuse planted s...

Overcoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity

08 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s guest is Matt Cline, the Director of Restored Ministries in Edmonton, Alberta. He is a speaker and coach who considers it an honor to tackle...

How Do You Handle Pain?

01 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, we talk about pain. We know this isn’t a topic most of us like to talk about, but all of us will face pain of various kinds th...

3 Levels of Sobriety

22 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Stephen and I unpack what we are calling the 3 Levels of Sobriety, especially focusing on the third level. These categories are broke...

The Last Relapse with Sathiya Sam

15 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest today is Sathiya Sam. He is the creator of DeepClean, a systematic process for overcoming pornography, and the author of a new book entitled...

7 Traits of Effective Parenting

08 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest today is Dr. Danny Huerta, vice president of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family. He oversees Focus’ initiatives that equip mothers...

Rebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual Betrayal

01 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Our guests today are Jorge and Danisa Suarez. They are marriage counselors and sex therapists providing therapy together and individually to couples a...

The Freedom Fight with Ted Shimer

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

My guest today is Ted Shimer, author of The Freedom Fight, a research-based discipleship curriculum that equips men and women to break free from porno...

How Does Faith Fit Into Recovery?

18 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, counselor Stephen Cervantes shares with us one man’s ups and downs of his journey of recovery – especially the ups and downs...

Do Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?

11 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In today’s episode, we talk about beliefs and how they affect the way you live and interact with others. We especially focus on beliefs about emotio...

Best of 2021: Outgrowing the Porn Pacifier

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Originally Aired: July 6, 2021Drew was a kid who loved Jesus and hated porn, but still couldn't stop his unwanted behavior. Are you a man who can ...

Best of 2021: Helping Wives Recover from the Aftershock of Sexual Betrayal

28 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Originally Aired: January 26, 2021Sexual betrayal is a tidal wave of pain, confusion, and grief for a wife. It can feel like the very underpinnings of...

How Parents Can Leverage Their Story of Brokenness to Help Their Kids Pursue Integrity

21 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today my guest is John Fort, the Director of Training at Be Broken and also a family care specialist. John brings a background in education and addict...

Helping Wives "Detach with Love" in a Difficult Marriage

14 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

My guest today is Karla Downing, the founder of ChangeMyRelationship.com. She is a speaker, author, counselor, and Bible teacher.Karla grew up in a dy...

How (False) "Grace" is Perpetuating Abuse in the Church

07 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

So many stories have come to the surface over recent decades about pastor after pastor who has been living a double life that has hidden all kinds of ...

Why Men Need to Practice Sadness

30 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There is one simple starting point for men who want to work on emotional development: practice sadness. This may be overly simple, even simplistic. Bu...

How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

My guest today is Linda MacDonald. She is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with over 30 years of counseling experience. She has written nume...

A Journey from Addiction and Control to Faith, Hope, and Love

16 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

My guests today are Michael and Heather Norgren. They are the founders of Triggered.app. For much of his life, Michael struggled with an addiction tha...

Breaking Free with Russell Willingham

09 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In 1999, I began my recovery from over 13 years of porn and sex addiction. One of the first books I read was Russell Willinghams’ foundational work,...

Finding Peace, Grace, and Jesus in Our Changing World

02 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Can you relate to stress and anxiety in a constantly changing world? Do God’s promises of peace and joy still apply in the world today? How can you ...

Unoffendable: How Your Response to Criticism Affects Your Emotional Maturity

26 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The world seems to always be ready to criticize and complain. What happens when those criticisms and complaints are directed at you? How well do you r...

Out of the Dust: One Couple's Story of Radical Restoration

21 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Chris and Steph were high school sweethearts who were "following all the steps that the typical southern church would have spelled out." They ...

Reframing How the Church Views Sexual Purity

12 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

God calls his followers to live a life of sexual integrity (see 1 Thes. 4:1-8). Sometimes this is also stated in the phrase "sexual purity," w...

Gateway to Freedom is Returning to Pennsylvania

08 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our ministry has entered a partnership with TFC Global that will allow us to bring the Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for men back to the northeast...

Overcoming the Fear that Lives in My Head

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Fear is natural and fear can be good; it's a kind of warning system. But what happens when fear goes beyond a healthy warning system and traps you...

Porn, Technology, and Self-Control

28 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Jon Wilkes is a tech guy. He also struggled with porn. This is his story of how his struggle and skill set turned into an incredible tool to help indi...

How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex

21 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sex is everywhere in our culture. Pornography has been normalized. With such societal saturation of sexual topics and struggles many parents feel over...

How to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature

14 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We say all the time that our deepest need is to be known and loved. But when it comes to being known, how well do you know yourself? Are you knowable?...

50 Things to Do When Your Core Fear Gets Triggered

07 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all live with a core fear of some kind, a belief deep in our soul that states we aren't worthy or that we will be rejected or make a mistake an...

How to Speak Unpopular Truth in Love

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sexuality can be extremely confusing, even apart from all the brokenness and confusion that can surround it. In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery helps ...

Help and Hope for Women to Heal from Sexual Abuse

24 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Countless women suffer in silence from past sexual abuse. Are there any safe places within the church for women to tell their stories and heal from pa...

Guy Thoughts on Emotional Awareness and Maturity

17 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we need an episode to just pour out thoughts and ideas to help men understand their own thoughts and engage their own emotions more successf...

Are You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?

10 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do others see you when it comes to emotional growth -- are you open or closed? Are you open to growing and learning and maturing, or are you close...

Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of Life

03 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Does porn affect men the same at different ages and stages of life? Today's guest, Vern Tomke, will walk us through how porn affects men in each s...

Total Freedom for Women Struggling with Porn

27 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many women struggle with porn and other unwanted sexual patterns in silence and secrecy. In this episode, Crystal Renaud Day joins us to share her sto...

"Best Of" PSR: Healing Your Brain

20 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Originally Aired: October 15, 2019Your brain is an organ in your body that can break down, especially when there has been trauma or chaos in your hist...

"Best Of" PSR: Healthy Sexuality After Betrayal

13 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Originally Aired: September 10, 2019How can a couple who has experienced sexual betrayal rebuild healthy sexuality? Can such restoration even take pla...

Outgrowing the Porn Pacifier

06 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Drew was a kid who loved Jesus and hated porn, but still couldn't stop his unwanted behavior. Are you a man who can identify with this vicious cyc...

Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World

01 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Most parents don't feel "bold" or confident when it comes to helping their kids navigate the landscape of porn in the culture. In this epi...

How to Experience Excellent Emotional Connections

29 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We are made in God's image. Reflecting God will require we go on a journey of emotional healing and growth. In this episode, we unpack 6 insights ...

Life and Hope After Divorce: Reese and Sharon's Story

22 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when a marriage ends due to porn and sex addiction? Is all lost for hope and healing? And what about the children? In this episode, Reese...

Helping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit

15 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Men who are tired of porn often think that the goal of quitting is just to not view porn anymore. But is that all there is to true recovery? Or is fre...

A Hopeful Mom Shares How to Have Difficult Conversations

08 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Barb never expected her son would get hooked on porn. But he did. No parents hope for their children to get swept away by porn. But what happens when ...

Understanding Your "Flipped Out" Brain

01 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do anxiety and worry affect our lives, our sexuality, and even our biology -- especially our brains? In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Degler helps us...

Avoiding the Fantasy Bubble

25 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The realities of life can be difficult and painful. We want relief, but we often seek it in the form of escape into fantasy. In this episode, we explo...

A Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual Sin

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"The danger is that for men and women in ministry there is little to no training, guidance, and supervision that is ever offered specifically in t...

Recovery by the Power of God's Word

11 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Can any good come out of a 30-year sex addiction? Is God willing and able to use such a life for redemptive purposes? Thankfully, yes! In this episode...

Discovering Truth and Grace in a Mixed-Orientation Marriage

04 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Every marriage has challenges related to sexual brokenness. In this episode, Matt and Laurie Krieg share their story of what can be called a "mixe...

What are Your "Sexpectations"?

27 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

God designed sex to give us a physical picture of what He desires in relationship with us: unbroken, unhindered intimacy. In this episode, Dr. Carol w...

A Family Game Plan for Responding to Porn

20 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The number one request we get from parents is how to respond to discovering their child looking at porn. In this episode, John Fort shares about our n...

The Goal is Connecting

13 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What if what you thought was your sexual brokenness problem isn't the actual thing that needs to be "fixed"? What if the solution ran much...

Breaking Free from Your Secret Habit

06 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Millions of men view porn every day. Many of them don't want this to be part of their daily life. They want to break free from this secret habit. ...

Answering Questions Wives Have About Sex and Intimacy

30 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of Christian wives carry terrible burdens of shame and confusion over sexual intimacy in their marriages. In this episode, Tiffany Hardenberg he...

How to Help Someone See Their Brokenness

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

All of us have a broken emotional system. There are many factors that contribute to such brokenness. And friends and family might recognize this broke...

Men, We Need to Talk

16 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes on this program, we just turn on the microphones and cameras and cut Stephen loose to share all kinds of thoughts and insights and questions...

Restored to More: Clinton and Charity's Story

09 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Clinton and Charity didn't get married with the goal of facing the pain of sexual addiction and the difficulty of restoring their broken relations...

Essential Truths to Heal and Mature Your Broken Emotional System

02 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

One aspect of being made in God's image is that we are emotional, feeling beings. But our emotional systems are broken due to the presence of sin ...

God Made Boys and Girls

23 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Gender is a hot topic in today's world, and parents are struggling to know how to navigate this issue with grace and truth. In this episode, Marty...

Best of: What Can We Learn from our Lust?

16 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Originally aired: April 14, 2018If you struggle with unwanted sexual behaviors, have you ever examined your lustful fantasies to understand your broke...

A Thank You Letter from a Repentant Husband

09 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What does "waking up" look like for a husband who is recovering from sexual sin habits? And how can this waking up cause him to respond radica...

Am I a Werewolf?

02 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A man at Gateway to Freedom, our 3-day weekend workshop, once said, "I think I am a werewolf." What an alarming statement! What he meant was h...

Helping Wives Recover from the Aftershock of Sexual Betrayal

26 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual betrayal is a tidal wave of pain, confusion, and grief for a wife. It can feel like the very underpinnings of her life have been destroyed; kin...

Is There Hope After Divorce Due to Sexual Betrayal?

19 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How does a homeschooling mom of 4 young children find hope and healing after divorce due to her husband's long-term sexual betrayal? In this episo...