PSR Podcast

Insights from a Brother in Recovery

12 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Recovery from sexually addictive patterns takes time. But is this long road of recovery worth it? In this episode, we learn from one brother who share...

Best of 2020: Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex Addiction

05 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Program originally aired: April 14, 2020Do you struggle with answering the "why" question surrounding your sexually addictive behaviors? What ...

Best of 2020: Helping Husbands Learn & Practice Empathy

29 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Program originally aired: March 10, 2020 When a husband has betrayed trust in his marriage, there is a lot of healing his wife must go through. But is...

Best of 2020: Helping a Wife Heal

22 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Program originally aired: February 4, 2020 When a wife has faced the painful trauma of sexual betrayal, what can her husband do to help her heal? In t...

The Challenge and Benefits of Vulnerability in Marriage

15 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Every marriage has many challenges to building intimacy. But often we assume that if we just "love each other" then everything will magically ...

Allies: Helping Parents Navigate Sexual Topics with their Kids

08 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Parents today are wondering how to help their kids navigate the sex-saturated culture we live in, and how to do so with confidence and hope. In this e...

What Does Your Language Say About Your Thinking?

01 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How does your language (how you talk; about yourself, about God, about others) reveal your inner thoughts? And why is this important? In this episode,...

What is Healthy Masculinity?

24 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What is healthy masculinity and why is it important? The essence of "manliness" is under severe attack in the western world. But God created m...

Journey to Healing from Sexual Betrayal

17 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It is right and good for a wife to get help when she has experienced sexual betrayal by her husband. But very few ever end up getting the help they ne...

Dealing with Loneliness & Fear in Your Marriage (Part 2)

10 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In many marriages there is one spouse who struggles more with loneliness and the other struggles more with fear. In this last of two episodes, Stephen...

Dealing with Loneliness & Fear in Your Marriage (Part 1)

03 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In many marriages there is one spouse who struggles more with loneliness and the other struggles more with fear. In this first of two episodes, Stephe...

The Image of God and Sexuality

30 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to be made in God's image as male and female? Are humans just a higher order of species in the animal kingdom, or is there a tru...

How to Learn (and Respond to) Your Fear System

27 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When is the last time you "talked" to your fear? If this seems like a strange idea, you will likely learn something new in this podcast that c...

Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?

20 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Can the church be a safe place for those who struggle with unwanted sexual desires and behaviors? How do we walk with sexually broken people in a grac...

4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage

13 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The old saying goes, "Insanity is doing the same thing, but expecting a different result." This is the story of many marriages; using the same...

Embracing God's Image in Gender

06 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Will you now?" This was the question God asked KathyGrace Duncan years after she had been living as a man, and years after she had placed her...

Three Purposes in Life

29 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Life is filled with patterns that help us understand what it is truly all about. In this episode, Jonathan and Stephen unpack three fundamental purpos...

How to Fight for Love in Your Marriage

22 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Porn is a devastating cancer to a healthy marriage. Do you know how to detect the warning signs and what to do to heal? In this episode, Rosie Makinne...

6 Reasons Kids Search for Porn

15 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Why do kids search for porn? And why is this important for parents to know? In this episode, John Fort shares 6 main reasons that kids search for porn...

What is Sexual Discipleship?

08 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do sex and discipleship go together? What is the difference between knowing the facts about God's design for sex and how to integrate these truths...

Growing a Stronger Marriage Even When It's Difficult

01 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Every couple who enters counseling voices the same problem: we don't communicate. But this isn't actually true. Marriage reveals the truth abo...

Hope and Help for Women Struggling with Unwanted Sexual Behaviors

28 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Kimberly Johnson faced heartbreaking trauma in her childhood and spent 23 years engaging in sexually addictive behaviors as a result. But she has a st...

Replacing Escaping & Hiding with Healthy Thoughts & Behaviors

25 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Why does it take so long to recover from sexually addictive patterns? What does it mean to "play the long game"? In this episode, we dive into...

Pastors on Porn

18 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Does failure automatically and permanently disqualify Christian leaders from effective ministry? If not, how can leaders "walk with a limp" an...

From Broken Home to Broken Sexuality to Wholeness in Christ

10 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Janet Boynes never intended to live a lesbian lifestyle for 14 years, but that is where her childhood chaos and sexual brokenness took her. This episo...

Finding Rest by Speaking Out Your Deepest Fear

04 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Addiction never creates restfulness. In fact, it does the exact opposite. So, how does an addicted person discover true rest for their mind and soul? ...

How Are You Processing COVID Stress?

28 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do you respond to difficult moments and seasons that you can't predict? Such as the COVID-19 pandemic? These are unusual and unique times for ...

Hope for Families in South Africa & Around the World

24 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We have Brendan Botha from South Africa back with us again to talk more about the damaging effects of porn and how families can break free from its in...

A Story of Hope & Freedom in South Africa

21 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We have a special guest on the program today. Brendan Botha was raised in a broken home in South Africa, and was introduced to porn at an early age. I...

The Intimacy You Crave

14 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Lucille Williams has ministered to couples and families for over 25 years. She has a strong desire to safeguard marriages, especially when it comes to...

Good Questions for Women to Ask Men

07 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you a single woman who desires to be married, or maybe are already in a dating relationship that has potential for marriage? Then this episode wil...

Freedom & Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse

30 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Many women have faced the terrible trauma of sexual abuse and rape. How can a woman heal and recover from such deep pain? In this episode, Joy Skarka ...

The Third Talk

26 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Our kids view over 14 billion porn videos every year. What can parents do to protect their children from being swept away by the online porn epidemic?...

When (& Why) Do Men Escape to Porn?

23 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When do men go looking for porn or some other kind of sexual escape? And why do they seek it out? Finally, how does a man change this unhealthy patter...

Online Care Groups for Wives

16 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

For wives facing the difficulty of sexual betrayal trauma the journey to wholeness travels along a continuum of healing, growing, and serving. And it ...

An Unexpected Journey to Hope

12 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when a couple realizes that porn addiction is not merely a "problem" to be fixed? What if there is far more to it than that? How ...

Sexual Betrayal and Spiritual Battle

09 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual betrayal trauma has a profound impact on a wife emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. The impact can shake the faith of the most deeply roote...

A Biblical Framework for Emotions

02 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Did Jesus have anything to say about understanding our emotions? Human beings are rather predictable when it comes to our emotional systems, yet we of...

Why Jesus?

26 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Why do you and I need Jesus? In times of crisis and disruption (or temptation) our priorities are exposed, whether good or bad. In this episode, Jonat...

Helping Teens Talk About Difficult Topics

19 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There is truly nowhere on earth that sexual struggles don't exist for teens. But this doesn't mean we need to be fearful or hopeless as parent...

Are Sex Offenders Modern Day Lepers?

15 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Is there hope for someone labeled a sex offender? This is a heavy and hard subject to address. But in this episode, we hear from a wife who has travel...

Understanding Therapeutic Disclosure

12 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How can your marriage survive sexual betrayal (of any kind)? And how important and helpful is counseling to this process? In this episode, our guest D...

The Power of Community

05 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The big question a porn addict must answer in order to recover is: Do you really want to be free and sober? In this episode, our special guest Carl Th...

A Dangerous Mix: Alcohol and Sex

01 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A listener reached out to us to address how alcohol and sex combined can be detrimental to intimacy in marriage. Our guest, Mark Denison, will help us...

Relationship Insights from a Marriage Counselor

28 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There is a Proverb that says, "Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise." (13:20) Stephen Cervantes has been an excellent marriage counselor f...

About Recovery and Asian Culture Shame

21 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How much does one's culture shape their sexuality? And how does that aid or hinder recovery from sexual addictions? Sam Louie is an Asian-American...

Going Deeper: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Sex Addiction

14 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you struggle with answering the "why" question surrounding your sexually addictive behaviors? What is underneath these compulsive actions? ...

The Harms of Negative Talking

07 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us don't pay much attention to how we talk. Especially if we have a "negative talk" template. In this episode, Jonathan and Stephe...

Gateway Insights #16

31 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Since 2008 hundreds of men have experienced our Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. Powerful transformation has occurred in many men's li...

Talking to Your Kids About Sex: What Works and What Doesn't

24 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Parents, you are the most influential person in your child's life. This means there is no one who can guide and mold your child like you can. But ...

Preparing for Your Wedding Night

17 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)One of our soon-to-be-married listeners sent us a question on how he can be "ready" for the wed...

Helping Husbands Learn and Practice Empathy

10 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When a husband has betrayed trust in his marriage, there is a lot of healing his wife must go through. But is there anything the husband can do to hel...

Learning, Unlearning, and Learning Anew

03 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)How do we learn our unhealthy sexual attitudes, patterns and behaviors? And why is it important to know...

Is There a Cure for Loneliness?

25 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Everyone has faced loneliness of some kind in their lives. But now we are experiencing loneliness at un...

Fighting Fears of Talking to Your Kids About Sex

18 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Let's state the obvious: parenting is scary! And when it comes to teaching our kids about sex, it can be very scary, especially in today's hyp...

Lessons from Portugal

11 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Stephen recently traveled to Portugal and he has some insights from this trip that he wants to share with you and me. Learn some history about the Tem...

Helping a Wife Heal

04 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When a wife has faced the painful trauma of sexual betrayal, what can her husband do to help her heal? In this episode, Barbara Steffens helps us navi...

What Can You Learn from Your Anger?

28 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Anger is a powerful emotion that reveals what we value, whether good or bad. And anger has the potentia...

Jesus and The 12 Steps

21 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do Jesus and the 12-Steps belong in the same sentence? Some Christians may say no. But what if God is bigger than any singular recovery process, and t...

Explaining God's Design for Sex to Your Kids

14 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

God invented sex. On purpose! But how can parents teach their kids about one of the most basic elements of life? This episode unpacks 5 keys teaching ...

Best of 2019: Lust-Free Living for Men

07 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Originally aired: June 11, 2019Many men are living lust-FULL lives rather than lust-FREE lives. And so many struggle to fully enter "real recovery...

Best of 2019: 6 Hours that Will Transform Your Marriage

02 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Originally aired: April 23, 2019What if we told you that it only took 6 hours a week to radically transform and improve your marriage? You might think...

Best of 2019: Laurie's LGBT Journey

31 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Originally aired: April 2, 2019Laurie grew up in the church. Laurie knew what God's Word said about sexuality. But Laurie struggled with sexual fe...

Best of 2019: Struggling to Come Clean and Find Rest

26 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Originally aired: July 9, 2019The starting point of recovery is getting honest about our brokenness and sin. But this isn't an easy thing to do. W...

Best of 2019: A 7-Day Challenge for Emotional Growth

24 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Originally Aired: January 8, 2019Every man can grow in emotional maturity. But such growth does not occur organically, or without effort. It takes foc...

What Men Need to Know About Female Sexuality

17 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Many men think women are just too complicated to understand, especially when it comes to sex. But is this necessarily true? In this episode, Jennifer ...

Marriage Advice 101

10 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)If you're married, you know that relationship is difficult and messy. But we believe marriage is st...

Thoughts from a Closed Husband

03 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Nearly every husband we have served over the past 16 years could be described as "closed" emoti...

Help, My 11-Year-Old is Looking at Porn!

26 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Special Guest: Mandy MajorsAdditional resources at NextTalk.orgParenting for Purity Online Course at PureLifeAcademy.orgAdditional podcasts at PureSex...

4 Key Principles for Personal Growth

19 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Growth of any kind doesn't happen randomly. There must be certain conditions and "ingredients&#...

3 Things We Know About Every Sex Addict

12 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)What if you knew that there were foundational realities to sexual addiction? Could that help you get to...

Navigating the Revelation of an Affair

05 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Is there really hope for restoration after an affair? Our special guests, Steve and Lisa Goldberg, share their story of brokenness and restoration to ...

What Every Woman (and Man) Needs to Know About Male Sexuality

29 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jonathan presented this session at the Reclaim Conference, hosted by Authentic Intimacy. Discover God's design for male sexuality, how sin (and es...

Being a Single, Sexual Man

22 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Oftentimes when the topic of biblical sexuality comes up there is this idea that it only really applies to married people since that's the "ap...

Healing Your Brain

15 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Your brain is an organ in your body that can break down, especially when there has been trauma or chaos...

A Letter to My Resistant Husband

08 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Sometimes husbands who are bound up in sexual sin are riding the fence between their brokenness and emb...

About Your Emotional Connecting Skills

01 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Relationships are hard! Actually, healthy relationships are hard. It's easy to be selfish, stupid, ...

The 7 (Or More) Pillars of Emotional Growth

24 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Why do we keep talking about emotional growth on a program titled Pure Sex Radio? What's the connec...

How Do You Say 'Thank You' to God?

17 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We live in a world that is increasingly ungrateful. Being offended has become a national pastime. But by God's grace we have much to be thankful f...

Healthy Sexuality After Betrayal

10 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How can a couple who has experienced sexual betrayal rebuild healthy sexuality? Can such restoration even take place? In this episode, we invite back ...

Helpful Thoughts About Sexuality

03 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Sometimes on the program we sit down and just go through lots of questions and ideas that we come acros...

Understanding Fear and Sadness

27 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Fear is a feeling we all face. But do we know how to understand it and respond to it in healthy ways? I...

One Man's Growing Up Story

20 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)Every man who takes an honest look at his sexual brokenness recognizes there is a need to "grow up&...

The 7 Steps of Forgiveness

13 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

No human can go through life without being wounded. These hurts, if left unforgiven, will rot one's soul with bitterness and anger. But how do you...

How God Redeems Our Brokenness to Help Others

06 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Is there hope for transformation and purpose when your life has been devastated by secret sexual sin? In this episode we have Matt Galbraith with us t...

Why Invest in SILS?

02 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Special Guest: Daniel Weiss (BrushfiresFoundation.org)What is SILS? It stands for Sexual Integrity Leadership Summit, and it is a collaborative effort...

Grace to Love Well

30 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This episode of Pure Sex Radio is taken from our Grace-Based Recovery webinar training which outlines the 9 key principles in the Grace-Based Recovery...

What's the Ultimate Goal of Recovery?

23 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Is the goal of recovery to simply stop acting out? Or is there something bigger, something deeper? In this episode we invite Josh Glaser, executive di...

Helping Husbands and Wives Go All In

16 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual betrayal is devastating to a marriage. But it doesn't have to be the final chapter. How does a couple really heal and restore from such bro...

Struggling to Come Clean & Find Rest

09 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)The starting point of recovery is getting honest about our brokenness and sin. But this isn't an ea...

Hope After Betrayal

02 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Wives who have faced the trauma of sexual betrayal by their husbands wonder if hope is possible -- for herself, for her marriage, for her future. In t...

10 Biblical Truths to Transform Your Emotional System (Part 2)

25 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)We've been working over the past few years to really learn how to understand and heal our broken em...

Grace to Grow Up

21 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This episode of Pure Sex Radio is taken from our Grace-Based Recovery webinar training which outlines the 9 key principles in the Grace-Based Recovery...

10 Biblical Truths to Transform Your Emotional System (Part 1)

18 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Co-host: Stephen Cervantes (HopeCounseling.com)We've been working over the past few years to really learn how to understand and heal our broken em...

Lust-Free Living for Men

11 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Special Guest: Jay HaugMany men are living lust-FULL lives rather than lust-FREE lives. And so many struggle to fully enter "real recovery" an...

From Hope to Helping Others

07 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Here is a bonus episode taken from a talk Jonathan gave on 4 key elements of success he has learned over 20 years of recovery and growth. Listen in to...

Peer Support for Betrayed Wives

04 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Why is it important that wives who have experienced sexual betrayal receive help from other women who have experienced the same kind of betrayal? In t...

Grace to Forgive

28 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This episode of Pure Sex Radio is taken from our Grace-Based Recovery webinar training which outlines the 9 key principles in the Grace-Based Recovery...

Finding Rest for Your Marriage

21 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Marriage is stressful! A couple may love each other and want to spend their lives together, but once they enter the covenant of marriage they discover...

Working Through Marriage Challenges

14 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What does it look like for ministry leaders to "practice what they preach" in their own lives and marriages? This episode is a conversation wi...