REAL AF with Andy Frisella
968. Q&AF: Misunderstood By Family, Convincing The Unmotivated & Scaling Smart
24 Nov 2025
Chapter 1: How do you handle being misunderstood by family?
What is up, guys? It's Andy Priscilla, and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. Now you can submit your questions a couple of different ways. DJ, go ahead and tell them how they can do that.
Yeah, guys, you can email your questions into askandydandyforsella.com. You can also submit your questions using the link in the description below for your chance to be on the call-in shows or drop your questions in the comments of the YouTube episodes.
If this is your first time listening, We have shows within the show, all right? If you tune in tonight at seven central,
will be able to watch live cti that is cruise the internet that's where uh we put topics on the screen over here we speculate on what's going on we have some laughs we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in the world other times throughout the week we might have real talk just 5 to 20 minutes of real talk and then we have 75 hard verses that is where people who have completed the 75 hard program come on the show they talk about how they were before
how they are now and how they use the 75 hard program to straighten out their lives. All right. If you're unfamiliar with 75 hard is the world's most famous mental transformation program in history. And it's the initial phase of the live hard program. All right. You can get those programs for free at episode two zero eight on the audio feed.
You can also go to andyfrasella.com and get the book on mental toughness. The book on mental toughness has the entire Live Hard program plus a whole bunch of other content regarding mental toughness, what it is, how to cultivate it, and how to use it to build your ultimate life. All right? Now, we do have a fee for the show. The fee is very simple.
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Chapter 2: What strategies can inspire change in unmotivated individuals?
All right. That's every show. That is every show.
Not just like one. If you find value in this episode right now, share it right now.
Yeah.
Yeah, that's right.
And then tonight, show that shit too.
You guys should join us for the stream tonight. It's fun, man. It's a lot of fun. Yeah, bro. I do have a big announcement, all right? You guys know that I've been talking about the MFCEO project coming back for a very long time. We are very, very, very close to that coming back. There is another product that I have been working on for the last three years with my amazing team.
to help solve this problem that's going on in the world. And if you want to find out about what that product is, there's only one way to do it. You have to go to andyfrusella.com forward slash MFCEO and register, and you will be notified exclusively when the show drops, and then you will be one of the first people to understand how we're going to change the entire world, all right?
There is no other way to get it. If you do not register, you will not get it. If you register, you will get it. And that's that. So if you're interested in that, which you should be, because it's probably going to be the biggest thing that ever, ever, ever has been created. And I mean that. I think it's the biggest product in human history.
You have to go to andyfrasella.com forward slash MFCEO and register. So go do that right now and then listen to the rest of the show. All right? Hell yeah, bro.
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Chapter 3: How can you build effective systems for a growing business?
So what's up? I got a big announcement. Oh, yeah? What's up? I got three good ones for you.
There's a lot of stuff going on today. We got so much stuff going on.
Oh, that's CTI. Yeah, that's CTI. I mean, there is a lot going on, actually. Actually, you know what? Let's just do CTI real quick. Yeah, no shit. No, man. CTI is fun. Hey, have a great time. I feel like we got to wear an outfit tonight. We got to do something.
All right. Well, we'll figure it out. Yeah. We'll do something special.
I mean, with all those super chats.
Yeah.
Might not have to wear anything.
Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Shit, dude. Everybody's like, let me see this. This ain't OnlyFans, dude.
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Chapter 4: What are the challenges of pursuing ambitious goals alone?
That's what I'm saying, man. We got standards here. That's right. All right. They're low, but.
They are low.
Yeah, man. Well, guys, it is Monday. Beautiful Monday. As always, we like to make some people better. We do got some good questions here. So let's go ahead and get going. We got our... Let's start with a call. Let's get Patricia on the call.
All right. Let's do it. Hello? Patricia.
Hey, how's it going?
What's going on?
Not much. I'm excited to talk to you guys.
How are you, Patricia?
Good. What's up, Andy?
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Chapter 5: How do you motivate others who lack ambition?
I'm amazing.
Where are you calling from?
Canada, Alberta.
Oh, shit. All right. All right. Got some freedom up there.
Okay.
Now, before you ask, I'm not sure we know how to escape. So give us a little background of what you got going on up in Canada.
So what I'm doing currently is I am studying full-time to be a game developer. So I'm working out daily, and I'm at home currently. I take care of the home and my grandmother, who has cancer. So I help her out, but I'm going to be going to college this January and pretty much just pursuing what I love and my goals.
Awesome.
Yeah.
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Chapter 6: What are the signs of a toxic work environment?
I don't drink at all, never been to a club in my life, don't smoke, and I have a very strict mindset. As a result, I find hanging around average teenagers a bit irritating. I only have a handful of friends, but this actually doesn't bother me at all, that I often don't fit in.
And I can tell my parents seem to feel bad for me seeing me as a loner or lonely, but I feel perfectly fine pursuing my goals with you people around me. I'm just very picky and selective with who I make friends with. And my parents may find me abnormal, I think, and like there's something wrong with me. And sometimes it makes me feel alien-like.
And so my question to you is, is it okay to be a loner in pursuing your goals? My parents want me to hang out with groups of people my age, but I've always felt too mature and dislike their mindset.
Okay.
Yeah. So, all right.
You have to realize that... Here's what I'll tell you, all right? When you're young and you're ambitious, it is extremely lonely, all right? Because most young people... believe that they have all the time in the world, and they do have the most time, right? You're just entering the phase of being a full-blown adult and A lot of people just aren't taking their future seriously.
And while that's very pronounced at a younger age, that doesn't really change. It's always going to be that way. And as you get older, it starts to present itself in different ways.
know people start to find the what i call the quote unquote uh rules right go to school get a job get the house get married have kids and that's the norm and anytime you do anything outside the norm no matter if you're 19 29 39 59 people are going to look at you weird and they're not going to understand it and here's the thing that i would want to put into your mind is that
You don't want to be understood by people who are destined to be just normal people who go through life when you have ambitious goals. Kobe Bryant said this very clearly one time in an interview. He's like, look, I don't want to be like them. I don't want to be around them. I don't want to know what they do. I don't want anything. I want to be around this. I'm a driven person.
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Chapter 7: How do you instill accountability in young employees?
I want to kick ass. I want to be a champion. And I don't want anything to do with that. And you know what? That's okay. And by the way, not only is it okay, it's actually required. All right.
Because if you surround yourself with people who are doing things in life that are not aligned with what you're trying to do, just because you want to be around people, you'll end up absorbing their mindset and their worldview and their motivation and their discipline levels, which will water yours down.
Yeah, that's not what I want.
Right. So you have to be very comfortable moving down the path alone, at least in the beginning. All right. And what's going to happen to you is you're going to continue to be ambitious. You're going to continue to chase your goals and build your life.
And you will eventually start to naturally find other people of that mindset that you could be friends with that share that same ambition, drive and care for their future. And whenever you find those people, you're gonna feel like, okay, I've got a good set of friends. And you have now, I call this no man's land, all right?
You go from the beginning where you're just setting out to become successful and you start to move down the path
and these friends that you had back in the day they don't go with you so you're ended up going on this journey alone and then eventually you find a group of friends or a group of peers or colleagues or however you want to call them that share the same mindset and those people instead of dragging you down instead of dragging you trying to drag you out or put doubt in your mind they'll start to encourage you and they'll start to push you and they'll start to collaborate with you and you will find more success
And then what happens is if you continue to push down and want to do more and more and more, the same cycle repeats itself again. So you will move past that group of friends and then you will feel lonely again until you get to that level of the next level. And you will find a new group of people to work with. And your friend group,
as an ambitious person will change over time many times because you will always settle within the people that want your level of success at the time. So every time you level up, you're going to go through this process. And it sounds like you're mentally equipped to go through it already.
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Chapter 8: What are the keys to scaling a business without losing quality?
So you don't want to be someone who has to have people around in order for you to be happy. I'm not like that either. I don't mind being alone. In fact, I kind of prefer it. And I really hate spending time around people Meaningless conversation, small talk, all of these things that other people gossip, drama. That's not that's the language of poverty, man. And we're trying to get past that.
So I don't think that you should feel bad at all. In fact, I think it should be encouraging to you that you are in the mindset that you are so early. And if you continue to move down that path, you're going to find yourself much more successful than all of your peers because they're likely to waste their entire 20s hanging out, partying, and then they'll get to be 30 and they'll say, well...
i should have done this and i should have taken this more seriously and and still at that point most people don't make the change they just say well they say well you know this isn't that bad and i i could probably get it going when i'm 35 and they start to kick the can down the road and eventually they find themselves you know in their mid-40s wasting 25 years working a job they hate earning money they hate with no way out
So you can either, it's really about delayed gratification, right? You could either put in the work now and be way ahead later, or you could do what they're doing now and be in a situation later where it's much, much worse. It's much harder. And they can't see that because when you're 19, you don't have that perspective. There's no way to have it. You haven't lived that life.
You haven't grown up. You haven't seen your friends that you used to have settle for a mediocre existence and and i've seen all that stuff over and over and over again anybody who's my age who who's built things or done things or become successful knows exactly what i'm talking about but when you're 19 20 years old you can't see it because you've never seen it.
And so to put your mind at ease on this, it's really simple. No, you're not weird. No, there's nothing wrong with it. In fact, I think it's very encouraging. And I think you need to like, if you really want to relieve that pressure from your parents, just have a conversation and say, hey, look, I know you guys worry about me, but here's the thing.
I'm doing this and this and this, and I want to do this. This is what I want to do with my life. And these people aren't doing that.
and i still have fun i still feel good i i enjoy the friends that i do have i just don't want to do what everybody else is doing and it doesn't mean i'm broken and just tell your parents that directly um you probably have right yeah i mean i let them know that i'm not suffering mentally in any way i don't feel lonely i've never had depression i'm not anxious like i feel
completely secure and mentally healthy doing what i'm doing yeah and and you know why because you're doing things yourself that make you feel productive and proud of yourself and you don't need the external validation most of these people that need the external connections uh the mass approval the you know most friends they can have that's just all that is is
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