REAL AF with Andy Frisella
971. Q&AF: Leading Vs. Delegating, Dealing With Judgement & Balancing Gratitude And Growth
01 Dec 2025
Chapter 1: How can effective delegation improve leadership?
What is up, guys?
It's Andy Frisella, and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today, we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions, and we give you the answers. You can submit your questions, and we'll give you the answers. a plethora of ways. DJ, go ahead and tell them how they can do that.
Yeah, guys, you can start by emailing your questions and to ask Andy at Andy for seller.com. If that doesn't work for you, you can check the link in the description below and submit your questions for a chance to be on our call lens. If that does not work for you, you can always leave your questions in the comments on the Q and a F episodes on the tube.
That's Q and a F. Now tomorrow. Well, actually tonight you're going to see a CTI. All right. CTI is where we cruise the internet.
Chapter 2: What strategies can help leaders balance control and delegation?
That's where we put topics on the screen. We speculate on what's going on. We joke around. And then we talk about how we need to solve these problems going on in the world. And again, that's live now. And you will see that at 7 p.m. tonight. So tune in tonight and you will see that. Then throughout the week, we're going to have Real Talk. Real Talk is just 5 to 20 minutes of Real Talk.
We do this occasionally. We don't do it every week. And then occasionally as well, we have 75 Hard Verses. That's where people who have completed the 75 Hard Program come on the show. They talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they used the 75 Hard Program to become the ultimate version of themselves.
Chapter 3: How should one handle judgment from close friends and family?
If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it's the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which is the world's most popular mental transformation program ever. And you can get that for free at episode 208 on the audio feed. Again, that's 208 on the audio feed only. There's also a book. The book is available at andyfercella.com. It's called The Book on Mental Toughness.
It has the entire Live Hard program plus a whole bunch of other chapters on mental toughness, why it's important, how to cultivate, and how to use it in your life to become the ultimate version of you. That book is not free, but it is very in-depth, and people seem to really like it. So if you're the kind of person that needs to know all the ins and outs, that's definitely the route to go.
But again, you can get it for free also at episode 208 on the audio feed. There is something here that we haven't asked. The ask is very simple. If you like the show, if it gives you good value, if it makes you laugh, it makes you think, if it gives you a new perspective, if you think it's entertaining, do us a favor and don't be a hoe. Share the show. All right.
Chapter 4: What is the importance of balancing gratitude and ambition?
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so yeah i'm not i'm not same same yeah i'm not down with the with with that kind of snow yeah it does get dirty yeah it's a little then you know when it freezes you gotta be careful because you got the the ice out there that's right that black ice that's right the racist ice get it yep yeah that's the one that's hurting all the people the black ice you never hear white ice people fall down half of the hospital fall injuries comes from black ice
13% of the ice is creating 70% of the violent falls. Anyway, that's for tonight. Let's get serious. This is a serious show.
Yeah, this is make people better, dude.
I do have a serious announcement. I do have a serious announcement. The MSCO project that you guys have been wanting back for the last however many years that we've been working on for the last three years. is coming back. And if you're interested in getting that podcast, it will not be hosted publicly. It will be a private podcast.
You can get on the list for that if you go to andyfurcella.com forward slash MFCEO. And we will be notifying you this Sunday, December 7th, about all the details regarding that.
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Chapter 5: How can leaders cultivate an environment for team development?
So keep an eye out for that. And you need to go get registered if you're interested in that because we won't be posting it publicly. And the only way to get it is to be on that list. Yeah, it's going to be so fucking sick. AndyVercela.com forward slash MFCEO. It's going to be great. Yeah, it is going to be great, dude. I'm excited.
You know, when we switched over to Real AF, it was because I recognized that the environment of our ability to become successful was being drastically affected by a lot of this push for control and Intentional poverty and all of these things have happened over the last five years or so. And we're getting back to the point where everybody's aware of it.
And I'm not saying we're not going to quit doing Real AF. We really enjoy it. But it's time to get back to some real tactics and getting people, you know, doing the things that are going to make them successful, not just making them realize that they are the... answer to the problems they see in the society.
Chapter 6: What are the pitfalls of micromanaging in leadership?
So it's going to be really, really cool. There is, there is, it's not just the podcast, dude. We've been building this project for the last three years, obsessively to what I believe will be the, one of the biggest products in human history when it's all said and done. So I'm very excited to show it to people. And we will be, talking to you about the first phase of that Sunday.
So this coming Sunday. It's going to be great. So again, andypersella.com forward slash MFCEO. Exciting, man. It's going to be fucking great.
I'm excited too. It's going to be awesome. Guys.
um to no surprise yeah i have three good ones for you all right good yeah we're gonna do a little og got some good write-ins man we got uh no call-ins today no call-ins we'll do some write-ins and uh but we got some really good ones for you bro so uh let's make some people better guys andy question number one andy i created a system to make the company better in my free time and was promoted for it
Chapter 7: How does societal pressure affect personal ambition?
Things are going great, but on projects, I'm told to scale back on the work that I do. How do I find the balance between leading from the front and not delegating enough? So I guess now you got a leadership position. Is delegation the true, like, is that the best thing to do when you become a leader?
I mean, it's a part of it. You know, I think a lot of people try to do one or the other. They either try to do everything themselves or they try to delegate everything. And neither one of those are that effective, okay? It's about finding the right balance between
what to delegate, how to delegate, who to delegate it to, and then understanding how much input and how much oversight these people need from you with the goal of eventually getting them to the point where they do these things automatically and they understand what needs to be done. So if you run into a situation as a leader where you're constantly jumping in, you're constantly
fixing all the problems, you're constantly calling all the plays, what happens is that your team never develops, okay? Your team never learns why we do certain things.
Chapter 8: What mindset shifts are necessary for achieving greater success?
And when you don't allow them to develop their own expertise, you end up with just a bunch of doers and not a bunch of effective autonomous members of your organization that can solve problems and do things at scale. Okay.
And this is micromanaging. Yes.
This is a big problem with most small business owners because they cannot find that right balance. The opposite of that
is that when they delegate everything, because let's say they want to be detached from the business for whatever reason, and you don't provide any of the insight, you end up with ideas and decisions that are made that may not align with where you're trying to go because they don't understand because you're not putting in any input, all right?
So there's pluses and minuses to both sides, but the idea that you ultimately need to come to, the realization that you ultimately need to come to is that this is a balance of both of these skill sets, and it's not one or the other. It's knowing when and why and how to delegate. It's also knowing when and why and how to put your hands on things to make sure they're going the right direction.
And this becomes... Increasingly difficult for people who are not the founder, owner, equity partner, CEO, operator of the business because they start to believe, at least initially, that if they make the wrong decision that they're going to be punished for it. And so you have to...
cultivate an environment where decisions are allowed to be made, but also with enough oversight for you to teach them along the way, right? And we just have very few leaders that understand that because typically either they want to do everything because I know best and my way is the best and I can do it better than you, which is not good leadership. It doesn't allow people to develop.
It doesn't allow people to become owners of the project, meaning they did the project, they feel good, they develop, they build the confidence, which makes them better. And then the opposite of that is also true. When you let them run without any oversight at all, they also don't get any better because they don't have the experience, they don't understand what's trying to be done, big picture.
And so what typically happens is they make decisions that are based in how they feel right now versus what the big picture game plan is. So this is a big balancing act, so to speak, that you have to learn the nuance of in order to become an effective leader, whether that's you're at the top or the bottom.
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