RealPositiveGirl - Weekly Encouragement & Mental Health

How to Trust God With Everything in Our Lives

07 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Trust is a hard thing. It’s difficult for some people to trust those closest to them, even without any fault to their name. I can see how it would f...

He Knows Best - Letting Go of Control & Letting God Move

02 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It sounds good to be in control, right? You are making sure everything is going well around you, doing your best to help others be their best and maki...

You're Really Important to God - Your Differences Matter

30 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I know I’m not the only one that has ever felt less than or not as great in what I do or that I don’t matter. And that’s why I am doing this epi...

Being a Role Model Who Reflects Christ - Positive Influence

26 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We have the opportunity to be impactful everywhere we go.The Bible puts a big emphasis on being a positive example to others, as we are all called to ...

Who Are Your Friends? - Evaluate Who Influences You

23 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I want to share some questions with you today on what to consider when evaluating your current friendships and moving into new ones. But first, please...

What's Your Downfall? - Resisting Temptation & Sin

19 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I recently read a definition for repentance: “a change of mind; a turning from sin, accompanied by a turning to God”Matthew 18:3, “Th...

You Don't Have to Be Perfect to Start - God Gives You Strength

16 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:God wants us to surrender our lives to Him & ask for His help.But, we often live to impress the world instead of honoring the Father of...

Who Do You Depend On? God is Always Faithful

12 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I know it’s important to be confident in who we are & to believe in ourselves, but we cannot rely on ourselves more than we rely on G...

Why Are You Holding Onto Pain?

09 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:Beyond the fear of the unknown, getting emotionally attached & wanting validation and sympathy from others I experienced, there are sev...

Are You Forcing the Timing of Your Life?

05 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:The timing of our lives often doesn’t go as we planned. We make plans, create strategies and feel in control of how our lives are gonna g...

Are You Taking Action or Hiding Out? - Mindset Skills

02 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:Do you find yourself taking action on things you say you’re going to do? Or are you more likely to say you’ll do something but actually...

Do You Have the Right Perspective??

26 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:Do you have the right perspective? The reason I ask you this question is to challenge you to really think about the answer. Do you believe ...

Your Top 5 Excuses For Not Seeking Personal Growth

22 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:We often will consider our own excuses to be reasons because we don’t want to admit that we aren’t doing what we should be or that a mi...

How to Become More Grateful for Everything - Gratitude Practice

15 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:Gratitude is helpful on several levels. It can help strengthen relationships, help reduce stress, healthier physical body because you might...

Are You Focusing On the Right Things? Defining Your Current Priorities

12 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:“To magnify something is NOT to make it bigger. Magnification doesn’t change the size of the object. Magnification is the process where...

How to Accept People You Don't Like - Allow People to Change

08 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:Making the decision to accept & tolerate someone you don’t care for is really a grown-up decision to make. It’s real maturity to ju...

How to Go Through the Problem, Not Around It - Learning to Persevere

05 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:"God may not always remove challenges, but He will ALWAYS provide a way THROUGH them.”This is an Instagram quote I saw recently. And...

You Have More to Give - Dispelling Self-Doubt

01 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:You have more to give than you think. We all do.I was recently sitting at my desk, thinking about how amazing it is that people are connect...

Your Guide to Confidence - Being Confident Everyday

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I’m here to share with you not necessarily HOW to be confident, but what to EXPECT when you want to be confident. I looked up some verse...

What We Say Matters - Our Words Contain Death & Life

24 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:The words we say to ourselves and to others carry heavy things.Those heavy things can be really good and encouraging and helpful, but it co...

How to Become More Productive - Get More Accomplished

21 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:When we think of being productive, it’s often the picture of someone going above and beyond what is asked and sometimes making others loo...

5 Tips for When You're Struggling with Uncertainty - Fear, Worry & Anxiety

17 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When we feel uncertain, we are dealing with not knowing what is coming next. We are sometimes anxious about the future we don’t know & what coul...

The Journey of Personal Growth - 8 Steps for Self Improvement

14 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You can spend time seeking out all the growth tips you want, but if you don’t take the time to personalize the knowledge you find, you won’t feel ...

Your Top Toxic Traits in Relationships - 7 Red Flag Behaviors

10 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I definitely was the dependent one in relationships. That was my biggest toxic trait. Sometimes it still is.I was a people pleaser, so it w...

How to Set Personal Boundaries & Why It's Important - Emotional Wellbeing

07 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:It’s important that you know how important personal boundaries are & how integral it is for every single person in the entire world t...

How to Preview the Week Ahead - 5 Tips for Preparing Your Mindset to Succeed

03 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I used to have this weird mindset where I didn’t want to think about the week ahead too much because I was afraid of jinxing it or manife...

How to Review the Past Week - Reflect On What You Loved, Learned & Lacked

31 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I didn’t start doing this well until I got into college. I was doing this as early as childhood because it’s necessary when your life i...

5 Questions to Guide You Through Tough Times - How to Get Through Problems & Struggles

27 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:Emotion, emotion, emotion. That was my whole thing when I had to deal with a sucky situation. It’s because I never learned how to properl...

How to Sleep Better When You're Stressed & Overwhelmed - Relax & Refresh

24 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:Growing up I fell asleep to the radio. Really any kind of music because my whole childhood was filled with music constantly and it’s why ...

Judging Others Reflects Your True Self - What Your Judgments Say About You

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

As someone that grew up using manipulation as a way to survive my abusive life, I knew how best to use judgments. The best way to use judgments was to...

How to Love Yourself More - Loving Yourself As Much As Others

17 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I didn’t start REALLY loving myself until we bought our first home.It’s difficult for me to remember what age I was, but I knew it was ...

Why It's Important to Love Ourselves As Much As Others - Because You Matter

13 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I don’t really have a personal story to share specifically about this topic, except that I am a recovering people pleaser. But I did take...

Why It's Important to Keep Promises to Yourself - Foster Self Trust & Confidence

10 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The biggest reason to keep promises to yourself is the added effect of becoming more confident while doing so. I'm sharing more about that & ...

How to Manage Distractions Getting in the Way of Working On Yourself

06 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We all know that distractions just get in our way of completing whatever needs to get done, but despite knowing this, we STILL allow distractions to t...

Too Distracted to Work On Your Healing - Make Time for Yourself

03 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes:I would often create as many excuses (that I liked to call reasons but we all know those weren’t reasons) as possible to not have time to...

What It Means to Struggle With Self Abandonment - Neglecting Ourselves

27 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When we decide to neglect everything about ourselves & ONLY focus on others, it isn't some selfless deed. It's actually self-abandonment...

How to Shift From Unhealthy Habits Into Healthy Habits - Habits Dictate Your Life

24 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Unhealthy habits often prevent us from achieving our goals & becoming our best selves every day. Taking action to shift your unhealthy habits into...

Your Habits Dictate Your Life - How to Create Habits that Align with Your Goals

20 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know that it's NOT our choices that dictate our lives, but our HABITS?? And for this to work the best it can, we need to figure out our h...

What to Do When You're Feeling Stuck In Life - Mindset Shift

17 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You aren’t actually stuck in life. You’re just focusing on the wrong things for THIS season of life & you’ve outgrown the way you experience...

You Can't Rely On Only One Person For Everything - Unhealthy Dependencies

13 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We cannot expect only one person in our lives (including our spouse) to shoulder all of our problems, struggles & burdens. It's too much to b...

You Get What You Tolerate - Stop Putting Up with Other People's Crap

10 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Any time you have questioned why things are the way they are, the answer is usually because you are tolerating it. You are doing nothing to contribute...

How to Quickly Shift Your Mindset - Stop Obsessive Thoughts

06 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Instead of allowing ourselves to keep obsessing over something that has happened & takes up so much space & emotions in our minds, it's b...

How to Manage Your Anger - Anger Isn't a Bad Thing

03 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Anger isn't a bad thing if it's expressed in a healthy way. But if we don't know the best way to manage it, we can allow it to control ...

How to Know Where Your Anger Comes From - Origins of Anger

29 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Learning how to deal with your anger is really important, but you'll be able to manage it better if you know where it originates from. Here are 5...

How to Manage Your Insecurities - Don’t Be Controlled By Fear or Fixed Mindset

27 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Learning how to manage your insecurities will limit distractions from self-growth, getting in the way of changes we are making, and accomplishing your...

How to Know You're Insecure - Understanding Insecurities

23 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we don't even realize we are experiencing insecurities because what we are going through feels so normal or not a big deal. But the soo...

How to Manage Anxiety as a Mom - 5 Tips for Dealing with Anxiety

20 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

These tips may not be wildly different than ones I would give in a generalized chat about anxiety, but it's all about the perspective that we see...

Struggle with Anxiety as a Mom - The Causes of Anxiety in Motherhood

16 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Anxiety can be a struggle for anyone, but it can be helpful to drill down on why anxiety is a struggle by seeing it from your specific perspective. Th...

How to Trust Your Gut - Learning to Trust Yourself

13 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Instead of relying on others to tell you what you should do & being addicted to external validation, it's best to develop trust in yourself t...

How to Become More Likable - Being Approachable & Friendly

09 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There is a difference between NEEDING to be liked & wanting to be likable. One is based on wanting to develop relationships & the other is mor...

How to Leave Your Pain in the Past - Allow Yourself to Be Free

06 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Instead of allowing your past pains & traumas to hold you hostage & get in your way of achieving new goals & having new experiences, decid...

How to Plan Your Best Year - Being Open to Change & Growth This Year

02 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

After you create your goals for the year, let me give you 5 tips on how to plan for your best year & accomplish those goals, while also being ment...

How to Create Better Goals for the New Year - Resolutions & Intentions

30 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's easy to write down a list of things that would be NICE to accomplish and that would impress others. But wouldn't it be BETTER if you cr...

How to Disagree With Others Respectfully & Confidently

26 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Instead of getting in a fight or not sharing your opinion at all because of not knowing how to do it respectfully or with confidence, take these 5 tip...

How to Improve Relationships - Relationships Need Work Not Pain

19 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we think we are doing the work to better our relationships but actually are creating more burdens for us to bear to not get out of having ho...

Admit When You're Wrong - Take Responsibility When You Do Something Wrong

16 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The fear, shame, guilt & worry that can happen when we do something wrong can get in our way of admitting it sooner or finding a way to not take r...

5 Tips on How to Accept Yourself - Self-Acceptance of Who You Are Right Now

12 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We are often giving grace to others & being more open & understanding of what other people go through & struggle with. But we don't d...

How Are You Doing? - 5 Tips On How to Check In With Yourself

09 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We spend so much time asking other people how they are, but how often are we asking OURSELVES how we are doing? Not enough. Here are some tips on how ...

How to Ask for Help - Allowing Other People to Help You

05 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It could be fear or our ego & pride or past experiences that prevent us from asking for help, but if we are able to push past those things, we can...

7 False Beliefs We Have About Our Emotions - Emotional Growth Tips

02 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's easy to get caught up in false beliefs if it's the way we grew up or were told was true, either innocently or not. But it's import...

10 Ways to Have the Best Week Ever - How to Have a Great Week

28 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is not about meal prepping or organizing or laundry prep for the week ahead. I am sharing ways more focused on mindset & emotional ma...

Dealing with Toxic Family Members - Unhealthy Family Relationships

25 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Just because they are family doesn't mean you have to deal with their disrespect, expectations & projected pain. Here are some tips for deali...

How to Deal With People You Don't Like - Holidays & Everyday

21 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes we can freeze up & not know how to deal with people we don't like or that bother us. I have some tips on how to manage those intera...

How to Deal With Disappointment - Feeling Disappointed

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Disappointment is another emotion we need to face head-on and not just sweep under the rug. If we don't honor & try to understand it, we coul...

You'll Annoy People & That's Okay - Emotional Growth Behaviors

11 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's worth it for people to become annoyed or to be all bent out of shape because you start exhibiting behaviors & mindsets that demonstrate ...

Are You Fulfilled? What It Means to Be Fulfilled

07 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Fulfillment isn't just being happy, it's deeper than that. It 's connected to your values & your true self. Here are some tips on h...

How to Handle Stressors- Healthy Coping Skills

04 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We need to make sure we are using healthy methods of coping with our stressors & traumas and not coping mechanisms that end up making things worse...

Take Responsibility for Your Life - How to Stop Being a Victim

31 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Here is your part 2 from how to know you struggle with victim mentality to knowing what to do to stop being a victim. Living life with a victim mental...

No One Is Coming to Rescue You - A Victim Mindset

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Waiting around for someone else to take care of your problems isn't going to change anything for you, isn't going to help you grow & bec...

You Can Be Angry - Being Honest About Your Emotions Helps You Heal

24 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

No longer feel shame or awkwardness of expressing an emotion that is something other than happiness because being angry/sad/depressed/anxious or whate...

Procrastination Station - What to Do When You Procrastinate

21 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Procrastination is a waste of your time & space in your mind. It's better to find your way to the other side of whatever it is than to wait u...

What It Means to Let Go - Letting Go for Your Good

17 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When we let go of something or someone it can be easy for us to immediately blame ourselves as the reason it happened. Which sometimes is true, but mo...

Body Confidence vs Self-Esteem: How to Strengthen & Understand the Differences

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Self-esteem can sometimes be seen as an umbrella for all the feelings & emotions & beliefs we have about ourselves when it's really a lit...

Is Your Self-Worth Dependent On Other People's Appreciation? - Feeling Insignificant

10 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling invisible & insignificant is soul-crushing. But there is a way out of this mindset by focusing on growing your self-awareness, leaning int...

Worrying vs Planning: The Difference Between Being Scared & Being Prepared

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Instead of convincing yourself that you are only being a top-notch planner instead of the intense worrier that you are, come learn the differences bet...

The Pros & Cons of Change - Change is Good & Annoying

03 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Change is going to happen whether we like it or not. And I don't think we have to like it when it happens, but it's important to understand ...

Why Are You So Busy? - Staying Busy to Feel Worthy & Accepted

30 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You can be busy because you got a lot of stuff to do, but often we will keep ourselves busy, on purpose, because we believe it serves us in some way. ...

How to Stop Focusing on Your Limitations

26 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You are only limited by what you allow to limit you. There may be a few things that you can't do (right now), but mostly you can figure out a way...

7 Lies We Tell Ourselves on the Regular

23 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We filter in so much on a daily basis but don't always filter out what isn't necessary. This can turn into us adopting mindsets & belief...

How to Take Responsibility for Your Emotions - You Decide How You Feel

19 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I know it SEEMS like other people's actions & circumstances are to blame for how we are feeling, but it's really us deciding to feel tha...

Self-Defeating Beliefs - Stop Getting in Your Own Way

16 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Self-defeating beliefs = negative views you hold about yourself & how life happens around you.  But I want to share what these beliefs are so you...

Thoughts Are Not Facts - Your Mind Lies to You

12 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We can't always trust our minds. We filter so much into our minds on a regular basis that isn't based in fact, but only opinions or purposef...

How to Live In the Present - Learning to Enjoy Right Now

09 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It can be so easy to miss really great moments happening right now because we are so caught up in what we need to do for the future or what has happen...

How to Rest & Reset Your Mind - Give Your Brain a Break & Boost

05 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It can be helpful to give our minds rest & a reset before jumping back into our busy lives. It can also help prevent feeling overwhelmed & bur...

How to Accept What You Cannot Change - Help with Control Issues

02 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Accepting does not mean you have to like what is happening, but you do need to move on. It can be difficult to do so when you have control issues, but...

How to Improve Your Weaknesses - Personal Growth is a Strength

29 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If you believe your weaknesses are preventing you from exceling in other areas of your life, then making the decision to improve upon those things can...

10 Things That Are Perfectly Ok to Do - Live Your Life

26 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I have 10 quick things to remind you of that are perfectly acceptable to do & experience, despite what anyone else's insecurities is trying t...

How to Build Self-Esteem - Taking Action & Live Your Best Life

22 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Self-esteem can determine what decisions you make, how confident you are in your abilities & your sense of belonging among others. Which is why it...

How to Improve Your Negative Body Image - Shifting Your Mindset

19 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Since seeing yourself negatively will affect your self-confidence, how comfortable you feel in life & your desire to persevere, we need to underst...

How to Be Nice When You Don't Feel Like It - Kindness Despite Mood

15 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There are times when we know we need to be nice but it seems like the most difficult task because we're in a mood or we're enduring negative...

You Can't Make People Change - How to Inspire Change & Help Others

12 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You can't make anyone change unless they decide to change & take action on their own. But you can still support them when they need it & ...

How to Go from Fixed Mindset to Growth Mindset - You Can Change

09 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Having a growth mindset doesn't mean everything is positive, it means you are open to being flexible about your growth & not letting setbacks...

Are You Growing or Getting in Your Own Way? - Fixed vs Growth Mindset

05 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Let's determine if you're struggling with a fixed mindset where you think you are only capable of things that come natural to you or you are...

How to Stop Stress in the Moment - Dealing with Stressful Experiences

01 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's helpful to know how to deal with stress after the fact to help you relax & reset & even what to do to prevent feeling overly stresse...

What Is Draining Your Energy? - How to Identify What's Keeping You Down

22 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You wonder why you're tired all the time, you feel overwhelmed & are slowly lacking desire to work towards your goal but have yet to identify...

How to Be a Bright Spot in the World - Being a Role Model for Encouragement & Positivity

18 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We are all role models whether we like it or not, but we forget we can also be one for ourselves, too. Being a role model can keep you accountable to ...

How to Work On Unhealthy Guilt & Shame - Boundaries & Vulnerability

15 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Shame & guilt feel like a part of who you are as a person, but thats a lie. It just feels that way because we allow these mindsets to run the show...

The Differences Between Guilt & Shame - Real Life Examples

11 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's important to know the difference between guilt & shame to know what needs your attention to work through. Today we are comparing guilt &...

5 Types of Sneaky Negativity - Be Aware of What Controls You

08 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We may think some emotions & behaviors are harmless or protecting us, but really these have us in a tight hold that we don't even realize we ...

How to Get Past Limiting Beliefs - Your Mindset is Holding You Back

04 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We have more power over our mindsets than we believe, which includes the beliefs we have that hold us back from doing things outside of our comfort zo...