The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

How to De-Escalate Someone Immediately - Jayson Gaddis - 556

24 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

How do you de escalate someone in the moment without making things worse? Jayson breaks down how to calm someone down quickly by staying regulated, en...

I Don’t Want to Feel - Jayson Gaddis - 555

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Why do so many of us avoid our feelings until they force their way out? Jayson shares his own experience with not wanting to feel and the cost of supp...

My Role as Husband and Father - Jayson Gaddis - 554

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson reflects on his role as a husband and father and the responsibility he once resisted. Why do some men pull back from commitment or shy away fro...

The State of the World - Jayson Gaddis - 553

24 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What kind of world are we creating right now?Jayson talks about the men in power and what they are modeling for our sons. He asks what happens when a ...

The Courage to Be Oneself - Jayson Gaddis - 552

28 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson explores what it really takes to be yourself in relationship and in life. Why does hiding who you are come at such a high cost? What kind of co...

Does the Masculine-Feminine Frame Work? - Jayson Gaddis - 551

30 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson examines why the masculine feminine framework often creates more problems than it solves. How can this framing be harmful for men? Why does try...

How to Spot an Elder - Jayson Gaddis - 550

23 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you recognize someone who has actually earned wisdom? In this conversation, Jayson breaks down what makes an elder an elder. He explains why it...

Your Strategy Is Draining - Jayson Gaddis - 549

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you spend your life trying to be the good one, the agreeable one, or the one who never makes waves? Jayson breaks down the hidden ex...

Extreme Ownership - Jayson Gaddis - 548

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. H...

Putting the Pieces Together - Jayson Gaddis - 547

22 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What makes securely attached families different? Jayson explores how self-examination and meaning making play a vital role in healthy relationships. H...

Knowing What to Work On - Jayson Gaddis - 546

14 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know what to actually work on in yourself or your relationship? Jayson explains how to identify your pain points, avoid vague or unhelpful ...

Suffering & The Human Journey with Keith Kurlander - 545

08 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Keith Kurlander joins Jayson to explore why people suffer and how we can move closer to authenticity. Is personal development ever narcissistic? Why d...

Stop Avoiding Difficult Conversations (Do This Instead) - Jayson Gaddis - 544

01 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Avoiding hard conversations doesn’t make them go away. It builds resentment, distance, and unresolved tension. In this episode, Jayson unpacks why a...

The World I Want to See - Jayson Gaddis - 543

17 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In the wake of the Charlie Kirk shooting and the Evergreen High School shooting, Jayson reflects on the wave of hatred and blame that erupts online af...

The Disservice of Reassurance - Jayson Gaddis - 542

03 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson breaks down the hidden problems with reassurance. What’s wrong with saying “it’s going to be okay”? When is reassurance actually approp...

I Don’t Want to Bring It Up - Jayson Gaddis - 541

28 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson explores the dynamics of conflict avoidance and why so many people are scared to speak up. What childhood roots contribute to staying silent? W...

Secure Attachment vs Falling in Love - Jayson Gaddis - 540

21 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson unpacks the difference between secure attachment and falling in love. Can you have secure attachment in a brand-new relationship? Why do people...

No One Is Broken - Jayson Gaddis - 539

13 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson explores why no one is truly broken. What should you do when a client feels like they are? Why can’t you get rid of any part of yourself - an...

How to Coach Men Effectively - Jayson Gaddis - 538

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How should you coach men effectively? Jayson unpacks the impact of male social conditioning and what it means for therapy and coaching. What’s diffe...

How to Get Over Your Anger With Your Parents - Jayson Gaddis - 537

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson dives into the challenge of getting over anger toward your parents. Did your parents drop the ball in ways that still affect you today? How doe...

Group Work, Healing, and the Role of the Facilitator with Christian Pankhurst

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Christian Pankhurst joins Jayson to talk about group work. What does “healing” really mean? What do transformative arcs in group therapy look like...

Coaching Someone Whose Partner Isn’t Doing the Work - Jayson Gaddis - 535

16 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How should you coach someone whose partner isn’t doing the work? Jayson breaks it down. How should coaches and therapists get their clients to focus...

Psychedelics: Revolutionary Healing Tool or a Spiritual Bypass? - Dr. Will Van Derveer - 534

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Will Van Derveer joins Jayson to discuss the uses and misuses of psychedelic drugs. He shares his background, his work in integrative psychiatry, ...

The Victim Triangle - Jayson Gaddis - 533

01 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck in victimhood? Jayson breaks down how to invert the victim triangle and make the shift from victim to author. What’s the difference be...

Evolved Coaching with Navy Seal Mark Divine PhD - 532

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What if today were your last day on Earth? Jayson is joined by author and retired Navy SEAL Commander Mark Divine for his 3rd time on the show to disc...

Signs It’s Time to Fire Your Therapist or Coach - Jayson Gaddis - 531

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Is it time to fire your coach or therapist? Jayson breaks it down. Do the sessions you attend feel more like coffee dates? Is your trauma going unaddr...

Coaching Reframes and Context with Master Coach John O’Connor

10 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to follow your deepest calling? How do you get clear on what actually matters and act on it today? Jayson sits down with executive c...

The Core Inner Conflict

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson breaks down the problems with one common strategy—people-pleasing and how it relates to the core inner conflict. What are the childhood roots...

50 Years As A Therapist- Sage Advice for All Coaches & Therapists - Duane Mullner - 528

27 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson sits down with Duane Mullner to talk about the role of the therapist or coach. Why is the here and now so important? Can clients help their coa...

Coaching Yourself with AI - Jayson Gaddis - 527

20 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson breaks down how to coach yourself using AI and shares a variety of example prompts. Can AI offer constructive criticism? What can it do with as...

Will AI Replace Coaches and Therapists? Jayson Gaddis - 526

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson discusses the role of AI in the therapy and coaching space. Will AI replace therapists and coaches? Can it ever be better than a real coach or ...

User Error- How to Be a Great Client - Jayson Gaddis - 525

06 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you want to get the most out of therapy or coaching, it’s important to know how to be a great client. In this episode, Jayson shares his experien...

Therapy & Coaching Advice from Alexandra Solomon - 524

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Clinical psychologist Alexandra Solomon joins Jayson to offer valuable advice for therapists and coaches. What are the unique challenges of working wi...

Introducing: Integrated - Why Being a Team Is So Hard

25 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson and Ellen have started a new podcast!Integrated is for entrepreneurial couples who want both a high-impact career and an exceptional partnershi...

Understanding Over Solutions - Jayson Gaddis - 523

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What’s wrong with going into fix-it mode when someone shares their problems?Jayson explains why it’s better to offer understanding rather than jum...

Coaching Someone Who Wants a Successful Relationship - Jayson Gaddis - 522

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How should you coach someone who wants to be in a successful relationship? Jayson breaks it down. Do you need to have successful relationships yoursel...

Coaching Using Motivational Interviewing - Jayson Gaddis - 521

08 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson breaks down motivational interviewing. What is it? Can you force your clients to change? What should you do if a client is ambivalent about cha...

Pros and Cons of Coaching - Jayson Gaddis - 520

02 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson explores the pros and cons of coaching. Is coaching more effective than therapy? He discusses the lack of standards in coaching, the absence of...

Pros and Cons of Talk Therapy - Jayson Gaddis - 519

26 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson breaks down the pros and cons of talk therapy. Where does talk therapy come up short? What are its strengths? What kind of therapy should you p...

Your Main Job as a Coach - Jayson Gaddis - 518

19 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is your main job as a coach? Jayson discusses the importance of giving your clients permission to be messy, finding key relationships where they ...

What It Means to Love Our Clients - Jayson Gaddis - 517

12 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson talks about what it means to truly love a client. What is the real definition of love? Why is being challenged so important? How do we “accep...

The Foundational Principle To Have as a Coach or Therapist - Jayson Gaddis - 516

05 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson shares his #1 principle for coaches and therapists. Learn how to empower your clients instead of treating them as fragile. It’s time to stop ...

How Humans Operate in Relationship - Jayson Gaddis - 515

27 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is the role of therapy and coaching? In this overview episode, Jayson explores how humans navigate relationships. Why do we betray ourselves in p...

Big Changes: The Future of This Podcast (for now) - Jayson Gaddis - 514

19 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Big changes are happening at The Relationship School Podcast! In this special update, Jayson Gaddis shares the new direction of the show, now called T...

Bypassing Your Relational Needs - Coaching Session - Jayson Gaddis - 513

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this coaching session, Jayson works with Becca, a woman navigating a relationship with a partner who doesn’t acknowledge her feelings. How should...

How to Increase Your Self Worth - Coaching Session - Jayson Gaddis - 512

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Sharon, a woman struggling with self-worth and feelings of not being enough. How can you stop repeating ...

How to Face an Addiction: Coaching Session - Jayson Gaddis - 511

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Susan, a woman who has identified her spending patterns as problematic. How do you know when a behavior ...

Anxious Spiritual Guy vs. Avoidant: A Live Coaching Session - Jayson Gaddis - 510

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Derek, an anxious man struggling with an avoidant partner. How should couples balance the need for space...

3 Upcoming Trainings to Change Your Life - Jayson Gaddis - 509

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Jayson introduces three powerful trainings designed to transform your life and relationships.  First, explore the Communication ...

Communicate Like You Did When You Fell in Love - Jayson Gaddis - 508

30 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you wish you and your partner still communicated like you did when you first fell in love? In this episode, Jayson delves into the science of infat...

Teens, Screens, and Mental Health - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 507

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson and Ellen delve into the complex relationship between teens, screens, and mental health. Is it okay to use screens to help kids calm down? Are ...

Setting Boundaries With Dysfunctional Family Members - Terri Cole - 506

02 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole shares some creative (and funny) strategies for handling problematic family relationships.   Timestam...

AMA: Phone Snooping, Sexual Trauma, Emotionless Partners - Jayson Gaddis - 505

25 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson answers listener questions: How should you deal with trauma responses in intimate situations? Should your partner have access to your phone? Wh...

Advice for Anxious Fathers & Their Wives - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 504

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson and Ellen offer advice for anxious new dads. Why do many new dads struggle to enjoy parenting? What happens when men become aware of their rela...

Trauma–Peter Levine’s Heartbreaking & Inspiring Story of Healing - Dr. Peter Levine - 503

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson talks with Dr. Peter Levine about the subject of trauma. Peter shares the harrowing story of what happened when his father testified against th...

How to Handle Hurt Feelings - Jayson Gaddis - 502

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What’s the #1 mistake people make after getting their feelings hurt? Jayson discusses how to handle hurt feelings, his experience with shutting down...

Helping Teen Girls Thrive - Johannah Reimer - 501

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ellen Boeder interviews Johannah Reimer to find out how women can help teen girls. They discuss the unique problems that teen girls face today, the ev...

My Experience with Cancer - Men Listen Up - Jayson Gaddis - 500

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson opens up about his recent prostate cancer diagnosis. He talks about the causes of cancer, letting people’s care in and his recommendations fo...

When to Stay or Leave + True Love - Annie Lalla - 499

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

IN THIS EPISODE, You will learn: To see your partner as a sacred mirror and sanctuary for the growing your greatest actualized self The true cha...

The Cost Of Stress In Your Primary Relationships with Dr. Gabor Maté - 498

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. G...

Advice for Couples, Therapists and Coaches - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 497

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you attending couples therapy but feeling like you're not making progress? Jayson and Ellen delve into why couples often find themselves spinning ...

Polyamory vs Monogamy - Irka & Eugene - 496

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Irka and Eugene join Jayson to talk non-monogamy. Is monogamy inherently restrictive? Do people in polyamorous relationships have boundaries? Is non-h...

28 Years Strong Even After Affairs - Satyen and Suzanne Raja - 495

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In this podcast, I interview Satyen and Suzanne, both long-time students of David Deida. These two are super honest, loving individuals, and wow have ...

My Take on Andrew Huberman and His Relationship Issues - Jayson Gaddis - 494

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson shares his thoughts on the controversy surrounding popular podcaster Andrew Huberman. What can we learn about ourselves and our relationships f...

The Purpose of Relationship Pain - Jayson Gaddis - 493

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you’ll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you’ll run away and ...

Dan Savage On Being Monogamish - Dan Savage - 492

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you simply defaulting to monogamy? Have you ever genuinely asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Dan Savage, an aut...

Conflict, Communication, Fixing, Problem Solving - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 491

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson and Ellen discuss conflict, communication, and problem-solving versus understanding. What's the issue with being a conflict-avoidant couple? Wh...

Couples Coaching: Anya & Bodhi Part 2 - Jayson Gaddis - #490

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson coaches the couple, Anya and Bodhi. The last time this couple appeared on the podcast was in episode #364 when they were in the midst of decidi...

Teen Talk: An Intimate Conversation With My Son - Jayson & Lucian Gaddis - 489

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson is joined by his son Lucian for a conversation about the unique challenges of being a teenager in high school. What are the challenges of being...

The Trap of Falling in Love - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 488

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is it possible to truly love someone while you’re still infatuated with them? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk about the trap of falling in lo...

Dealing with Division and Getting Unstuck - Jayson Gaddis - 487

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson talks about dealing with division in the world, digital minimalism and getting unstuck in your relationship. Can solving division in the home h...

Coaching Session: From Being Ghosted to Self Love - Jayson Gaddis - 486

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jason coaches two women live on the podcast. How should you deal with the experience of a long-term partner ghosting you? What should you do when you ...

Allowance, Chores, Family Economy & Empowering your Kids with Money - James Ure - 485

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Helping children learn to be financially responsible is one of the most important jobs that parents have. James Ure joins Jayson to talk about how a f...

Working With Men in Coaching and Therapy - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 484

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson and Ellen team up to talk about working with men in coaching and therapy. How can you tell when a man is ready to grow? How does couples' work ...

How Therapist Bruce Tift Helped Me Have the Balls to Marry My Wife - Bruce Tift - 483

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Bruce was one of THE pivotal factors in helping me marry my wife before she slammed the door shut on me. Hear that story in this episode and why it’...

What’s Wrong With Wanting a Healthy Relationship? - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 482

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What’s wrong with wanting a healthy relationship? Jayson and Ellen are here to break it down. "Healthy" is a poorly defined concept, which can creat...

How Menopause Changes You and Your Relationships - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 481

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ellen joins Jayson to discuss menopause and its impact on relationships. What is menopause? Do women in non-western cultures experience menopause diff...

Challenging Sensitive Kids - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 480

02 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson and Ellen share valuable insights about nurturing antifragile confidence in sensitive children and offer practical tips for creating a supporti...

3 Simple Tips to Optimize Your Health, Snoring, and Breathing - Sachin Patel - 479

26 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Jayson is joined by best-selling author and functional medicine practice success coach Sachin Patel. Do you or your partner struggle ...

Common Misconceptions About Secure Attachment - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 478

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone wants to be in a securely attached relationship, but what does secure attachment really look like? In this episode, Jayson and Ellen talk abo...

Leadership and the Longing to Belong - Jerry Colonna - 477

12 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jerry Colonna joins Jayson to discuss leadership and the longing to belong. How can parents help get their kids to adulthood? Why is it important for ...

7 Signs of the Spiritual Narcissist and How to Know if They Are Truly Healing - Jayson Gaddis - 476

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson explores the seven revealing signs of spiritual narcissism and the journey to authentic transformation. Join Jayson for insights into recognizi...

Decoding the Meaning of 'Doing the Work' - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 475

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re in the personal development space, chances are you’ve heard the term 'doing the work' thrown around often, but what does it really mean?...

Epic Personal Growth Tips From the Masters - Brian Johnson - 474

21 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson sits down with author, philosopher and CEO, Brian Johnson, to talk about how you can reach your heroic potential. Brian shares Seven Objectives...

A Few Words of Encouragement - Jayson Gaddis - 473

14 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you need to pick yourself back up? Jayson has a few words of encouragement for you today. All of us have an inner warrior that has go...

Boundaries: Relationship Tool - Lisa Dion - 472

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Lisa Dion joins Jayson to talk boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most important tools in intimate relationships. How much you struggle to say no c...

Entrepreneurs, Their Relationships, and What Fuels Them - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 471

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson and Ellen talk entrepreneurship. What inspired Jayson to create The Relationship School? What is it like to be in a relationship with an entrep...

4 Powerful Questions if You Are Feeling Off, Lost or Depressed - Xavier Dagba - 470

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Xavier Dagba is a coach who focuses on shadow integration and trauma informed transformation. He has an inspiring story that emphasizes the power of l...

Why You Need 2 of These Types of Friends in Your Life - Jayson Gaddis - 469

17 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Friends are some of the most important relationships in our lives, but some types of friendships help us grow more than others. Jayson explains why yo...

Agreeing to a Mediocre Relationship - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 468

10 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why do people get complacent in long-term relationships? Jayson and Ellen discuss a situation where a couple mutually decided to put their marriage on...

Staying in a Dead Marriage for the Kids - Jayson Gaddis - 467

03 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is a pretty charged issue. On the one hand, some people really believe divorce is one of the major causes of problems in children. On the other h...

The Surprising Difference Between Divorced People and Married People - Mark Manson - #466

26 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What can you learn from divorced people and what can you learn from people who have been married for a decade or two? What are the main differences? T...

The Misattuned Camper & Not Getting The Impact of Our Behavior on Others - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 465

19 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Explore the wilderness of Colorado with Jayson and Ellen in this upcoming episode. Their backpacking adventure takes an unexpected turn which leads to...

Human Development, Spiritual Growth, & Consciousness - Mark Divine - 464

12 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This week Jayson welcomes back a returning guest and good friend, Mark Divine. Together, they discuss the stages of human development, emphasizing the...

Thoughts About Your Human Journey - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 463

05 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Join Jayson and Ellen as they discuss insights from a transformative two-day retreat. From conflict management to embracing the unknown, they uncover ...

A Complete Guide to Finding a Good Coach or Therapist - Jayson Gaddis - 462

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Jayson discusses the importance of finding the right coach or therapist. He also explains why you should identify your readiness for ...

The Art and Science of Relationship Coaching - Jayson Gaddis - 461

22 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Uncover the captivating blend of art and science in relationship coaching. Join Jayson as he guides the way, painting a masterpiece of understanding, ...

Your Relationship with Food, Body, Exercise, and Health - Dr. Layne Norton - 460

15 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In our latest episode, Jayson talks with Layne Norton, a distinguished figure in health, fitness, and personal development. Listen to their candid dis...

Victim Consciousness and What to Do About It - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 459

08 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you ready to break free from the chains of victimhood and embrace empowerment? Join Jayson and Ellen in this episode as they dive deep into the co...

A Couple's Vulnerable Story of Falling Apart and Getting Stronger - Tripp & Alyson - 458

01 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A brave, smart couple shares their darkest period and how they worked through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years and then adds in a child...