Ruwando Podcast

How to Patriarch: Your family = a micronation

15 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Most fatherhood advice sucks. It's often coded for political stock characters.A few years ago, expecting my daughter, I made a running doc of fatherho...

Atonement to the Father: Solving Conflicted Masculinity | 168

08 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you often oscillate between opposites:You’re too hard or too soft.Overconfident one day. Self-doubting the next.It may come down to your Father W...

Lambs and Eagles: Nietzsche's Master vs Slave Morality

25 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Each of us have a Master and Slave archetype within us. They represent two opposite ways of evaluating reality, and therefore making decisions. The mo...

Why she makes no sense in arguments (and soon you won't care)

20 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

You've been here before: She's upset and talking nonsense. Every male instinct in you wants to correct her contradictions (and prove YOU are right). I...

Freedom from Shame | 218

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Your social brain "thinks" that if you are extra hard on yourself it will motivate you to do better.But the opposite is true: The more you make yourse...

Evolution of Men's Personal Development

19 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

"Men's Personal Development" wasn't a thing even one generation ago. It became so due to shifts in culture and technology. It also is a lens on the ch...

John Gray: Beyond Mars and Venus | 084

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

After a weird COVID relationship, a friend lent me a copy of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.While dated in terms of style, I was shocked at h...

Formula for Magnetism | 216

05 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Is there a formula for getting your way (with people or circumstances)?In my experience, there are certain qualities that make someone particularly ma...

Rising into the King Archetype feat. Patrick H | 166

29 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Patrick was in a dark place when met—ultra Nice Guy submissive tendencies, deep feelings of undeservingness, enmeshing Mother Complex, and acting ou...

How to Help Her Into Her Feminine | 148

22 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dropping an old favorite in honor of my anniversary today.How to Help Her Into Her Feminine covers what a man can do to help a woman move from her com...

Spiritual Perimeter: Containing the Feminine | 170

18 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The literal need to "protect and provide" is mostly obsolete in modern day. But women still desire to be contained when it comes to emotions, and to l...

The Manic Pixie Dream Girl is a trap

12 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When I was 23, I fell in love with a drug addict. She was sexy and interesting. But more than that, she was WILD. If my life was a movie, she was cas...

Belle vs. Moana: Who's the better role model for women?

02 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Disney princesses are different today. So is our culture's Feminine Ideal.Mrs. Meepagala and I debate on how these different female role models are im...

The "Problem" of Love

27 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What makes one psychologically ready for a committed relationship?Jung’s essay, “The Love Problem of a Student”, discusses the early stages soci...

Important Update: Consolidating Podcast with Substack

26 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A recent epiphany has made me decide to move off visual media consolidate my podcast with substack.It shouldn't change anything for you, though th...

Woman as Soul (Jung's Aspects of the Feminine)

20 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Here I read an essay by Carl Jung, "Woman As Soul", + give my commentary on what it means and how we can use it.This is part of the source m...

How To Bend Reality (Like a Cult Leader)

13 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Reality is a set of agreements.This is a reading + commentary on a new post on substack on the nature of subjective reality: The process of brainwashi...

How To Brainwash Yourself w/ ORGSM, A Memoir: Inside the Matriarchal Cult of OneTaste

28 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

My book publishes Oct 31. You can get it at a discount + free bonuses:1. How To Brainwash Yourself course that pulls mind control principles from my c...

What Kind of Woman Do Men Really Want? w/ Sascha Haert

18 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

I connected with Sascha over a post he made of “why women in their 40’s are the unhappiest ever.” Whether that’s true or not, it’s food for ...

Horses Can Teach You To Be A Man?

04 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Working with horses is the most profound thing I've done in many years. Most recently I've been training with Sergio Faerman.Sergio is a forme...

Metabolic Health, Hormones, Fertility with Justin Nault

05 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Justin Nault is a nutrition therapist. We have a fascinating discussion on metabolic health, hormones, nutrition, and the mind.Justin on IG: @justinna...

Adolescence (Netflix): Window Into the Male Collective Unconscious | 207

09 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Netflix’s Adolescence has sparked much debate around masculinity. Is it feminist propaganda? Or an important awakening around the “manosphere”? ...

Why Women Like Possessive Men: Dating VS Relationship, Male Insecurity, Overcoming Grief | 206

22 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Why do women like possessive men? Miiska returns to the podcast to discuss dating and relationships. Plus, his major life changes: his new found fame ...

Former Female Pickup Artist on Game, Authenticity, Social Skills | 205

25 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Lucilla was once Denmark's top female pickup artist. Now she's a worldwide midwife (and the wife of Andreas from last episode). We discuss her unusual...

Pickup Coach Turned Worldwide Psychologist | 204

11 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For many men, their introduction to personal development was the infamous “pickup community”. My friend “Worldwide Psychologist” Andreas and I...

Higher Consciousness Through Sex (Neurosomatic Circuit) | 203

29 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Higher consciousness through sex? If you've ever felt in an altered state from falling in love, taking MDMA, or really great sex, then you may have ex...

Saving Your Relationship After Breakup w/Kris & Lily | 202

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

My friends Kris and Lily came back from a breakup to coming back together and now happily married with two kids. In order to do so, they both had to d...

Body Language and Trauma Release | 122 (republish)

07 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

"A man's beauty represents inner functional truths: his face shows what he can do." (Albert Camus) Trauma (inhibitions to normal function) shows up in...

How to change your stress response | 201

26 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why do you get nervous? Do you “choke” in important moments? i.e. Meeting someone you’re attracted to, public speaking, conflict or competition?...

A Surrendered Woman w/ Nalaya | 200

19 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Mrs. Meepagala rejoins the pod after 100 episodes. (She was on ep100 before we had kids). We speak on power dynamics and imbalance in relationships, m...

Why is there a political gender gap: Conservative men, liberal women | 199

12 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A few months ago the Economist wrote an article on the political gender gap— how men are becoming more conservative, and women more liberal. While t...

Brain-mapping and Plant Medicine w/Luke Jensen | 198

05 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Marine heals PTSD with brain mapping and plant medicine. Brain-mapping is a relatively new technology that trains a person to recreate neural patterns...

Heart vs. Mind Dilemma: when to follow your heart and not your mind | 197

30 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Almost all internal conflict can be described as the Heart vs. Mind Dilemma— Your thoughts want one thing and your feelings want another. The episo...

How to be a more dominant male (without being a jerk) | 196

22 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The desire for dominance is within all men. A man has to be connected to his dominance in order to be a useful lover, father, leader, teammate. But ho...

How to Integrate your Darkside | 195

16 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There is power in the masculine dark side— The thoughts, feelings, and instincts that don't fit in society's morality. But what is your dark side? H...

How to Battle an Ideology w/ Joshua Lisec (Unhumans: The Secret History of Communist Revolutions) | 194

07 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How powerful is language manipulation? I originally invited Joshua Lisec on to discuss writing, but we ended up speaking about his most recent book, U...

Hans Comyn: Western vs. Eastern Dating Culture | 193

26 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is there a difference between Western vs. Eastern dating culture? Last time Hans Comyn was on the podcast he shared a controversial opinion that ruffl...

How to be Passionate about your Goals | 192

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we have resistance to certain goals? Especially the ones that are really important to us? This episode covers how to be passionate about your ...

Guru Pashupati: Hanuman, Energy Cultivation, How to Train with Gada | 191

11 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Guru Pashupati speaks on the philosophy behind hanuman, how to train on gada, and other life wisdom. 00:00 - Intro 01:12 - Spiritualism and Martial A...

The Magician Archetype: Belief, Meaning, and the Creative Process (republish)

24 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Magician Archetype is the part of your psyche that makes meaning, abstracts reality, and creates your life-- whether you take that literally or fi...

Warrior Archetype: Conquer Your Demons (republish)

13 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Warrior Archetype is the part of the psyche for overcoming obstacles and winning zero-sum competition. It's become the most suppressed aspect of m...

Prometheus Rising: Circuit Model of Consciousness (republish)

01 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This book totally changed how I view human behavior, and perception of reality. I focus on the first 4 "non-spiritual" circuits of Timothy ...

5 Stages of the Male Psyche | 141 (republish)

24 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Men go through five distinct stages, each with their own drives, pitfalls, and keys to fulfillment. This episode covers each stage through the lenses ...

Road of Trials: Transform Yourself During Hard Times | (republish)

17 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The Road of Trials (Hero’s Journey) is a stage of life where the hero (you) are forced to engage in conflicts to gain power. In the movies, it’s t...

Warfare of Morals: How to build a strong family culture w/ Noah Revoy | 190

04 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Modern society is amidst warfare of morals: Family vs. Globalism. Nature vs. Culture. Noah Revoy speaks on the war of perception and information, ho...

What does it mean to be the “Rock” in a relationship | 189

28 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to “be the rock” in a relationship? Having a man you can depend on is something every woman wants. But what does that actually...

Can you Prepare for Fatherhood w/ Dan Doty | 188

21 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can you prepare for fatherhood? Dan Doty from Fatherhood Unlocked speaks on how fatherhood is changing, how fatherhood shifts your focus in life, the ...

NPR on NoFap: Society encourages men to stay boys | 187

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

NPR recently wrote a piece criticizing p*rn abstinence as somehow misogynistic. I break down the positives and negatives of NoFap, and also how this p...

Yoga Was Made For Fighting? Tom Billinge From War Yoga | 186

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Tom Billinge and I speak on WarYoga, yoga's violent origins, the Rig Veda, Indian wrestling, martial arts and culture, masculine philosophy vs mod...

Masculine Health Solutions w/ CJ Rodriguez | 185

09 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

CJ Rodriguez from @masculinehealthsolutions podcast comes on to speak on male enhancement, natural bodybuilding, fatherhood, rebelling against moderni...

How to Overcome the Mother Complex

29 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

According to Phub data, interest in "milf" skyrocketed last year. This says something about the male collective conscious via what Jung wou...

Male Female Power Dynamics in Sexual Relationship w/ Om Rupani and Joseph | 184

19 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How much can women "control" men's emotions? Om and Joseph return to the podcast to discuss an experiment testing this. Also the power d...

Mystical & Scientific Therapy: Psychedelics and Psychology w/ James Kalupson | 183

11 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

James Kalupson is a psychotherapist who facilitates psylocybin retreats in Jamaica. We speak about Jungian vs. shamanic vs. traditional clinical appr...

Hans Comyn: How To Stay Free In a Relationship | 182

04 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hans Comyn rejoins the podcast in a different stage of life. He speaks on the Freedom vs. Commitment Dilemma that many men feel when in a relationship...

Why Narcissists Abuse Randomly (Manipulation Technique)

28 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why do narcissists inflict random punishments? And more importantly, why are so many drawn to it? This video uses my favorite scene from the Sopranos...

Steven Kessler: The 5 Personality Patterns | 181

21 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In our first years of life, we each develop methods for feeling safe. These methods eventually shape our personality and how we behave in overwhelm, ...

Fear of Money is the same as Fear of Women (Overcome Scarcity)

15 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Money and Women are the most primal desires of men (Survival and Replication), and therefore the deepest triggers to self-worth and identity. And psyc...

Is Narcissism actually a disorder? feat. Om and Joseph | 180

08 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

NPD is a hot topic in the pop psychology world, but is it really a pathology? Might there be an evolutionary purpose. I discuss this with my friends O...

Authentic Flirting: How to know what to say and do

30 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Flirting = speaking with the subtext, "I want you." When authentic (and therefore easy), it comes from your instincts, not your thoughts. U...

How to Develop Sexual Confidence as a Man | Breaking Bad

22 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How a man behaves in the bedroom largely depends on how he behaves outside of it... down a physiological level. Here we break down some scenes from B...

A Female Perspective on Men w/Reece & Efia | 179

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Since raising a daughter, I’ve become more sensitive to women’s experience in dating men.So I invited on my friends Reece and Efia to get a bit of...

How To Lead Your Family w/Josh Hatcher (Manlihood) | 178

20 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Josh Hatcher of Manlihood and I connected earlier this summer to discuss about man stuff. But once I found out he was a father of four adults (and gra...

Why Monotheism is Making a Comeback

12 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I was raised both Buddhist and Catholic. Neither really stuck.I spent my twenties being “spiritual but not religious”. And otherwise prioritizing ...

Breaking Down Ideological Conflict

04 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Muslim and Christian families uniting in protest shows us a historical pattern of ideological conflict. Read article version at ruwando.substack.com G...

177 Yuval Mann: Sex and Culture

17 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual desire is one of the few places where individual nature will hold out against collective culture. (Comedy being the other big one.)Most of my l...

176 Vicente Alonso: Iboga Quest

27 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I’m joined by my friend Vicente, one of the psychotherapists who run Iboga Quest, an ibogaine treatment center in Mexico. This conversation was shor...

How to Handle a Woman's Emotions

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

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175 Religion, Discipline, Masculinity (Issa Ibrahim)

10 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Religion seems to be making a comeback. Whereas most self help and pop psychology of the 90’s was more about blaming religious oppression, now it se...

Why Men Don't Want Relationships (and What Can Be Done About It)

03 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships are expensive. And men with options have less reason to be in one than ever before.This episode is on 1) how women can reverse that tren...

174 Brian Begin: Overcoming Grief, Recreating Your Life, Quantum Leaps

27 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

My old friend Brian Begin, of TrueCourage (formerly Fearless Man), joins us in a pivotal moment of his life.He shares about recent grief and the lesso...

This is What Happens When Men Learn to Fight

21 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

I’ve done a lot of things in the world of men’s personal development.But there’s nothing that has positively impacted me as much as combat sport...

173 Puer Aeternus: Peter Pan Syndrome feat. Patrick H.

06 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Culture encourages us to stay “young” (because then we make better consumers).This can be especially troublesome for men. And most men (including ...

172 How to Live Life Like a Movie: Nikhil Pandey (Captain Sinbad)

15 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Captain Sinbad is my favorite Youtuber in the personal development space. So I hired him as a coach. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.su...

Dokkodo: Musashi's 21 Rules for Life

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Last month I noticed my mind was going in a bad direction.At moments I thought I was depressed, and maybe I was. But I realized there was a lot within...

171 Ancient Life Coach (Alex Petkas)

28 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Alex Petkas is the host of The Cost of Glory Podcast— which I discovered while researching for History of Man episodes III and IV and thoroughly enj...

170 Spiritual Perimeter: Containing the Feminine Reality

13 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How “truthful” should you be in your relationship?In a committed relationship, that’s actually the wrong way to ask the question…This episode ...

169 Ancestral Patterns & Family Systems feat. Noelfry

15 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Many of our patterns of behavior and feeling do not originate in us. They are passed down, through nature or nurture, from those before us.However if ...

168 Atonement with the Father: Completing Boyhood, Father Wound, the Godhead

08 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Atonement with the Father is a stage in Joseph Campbell's monomyth (Hero's Journey) where a man confronts 'The Godhead'. In doing so, he becomes compl...

167 On Havingness: How to Increase Self-Concept

02 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

(Apologies for the bad audio-- my main mic cut out.)Havingness (a.k.a. self-concept) is how much you subconsciously believe your deserve when it comes...

166 Integrating the King Archetype feat. Patrick H.

25 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up” Since appearing in episode 140 Slave to King: Nice Guy Transformation, I h...

165 Man Cave Summit: Fatherhood Philosophy

12 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Apparently last Friday was “Three King’s Day”— referring to the magi who visited baby J in the manger.It happened to coincide with a summit pl...

164 - How to Be a Rock, with Women and Other Important Things

29 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The last few weeks I’ve had a few discussions with guys about “being a rock”.In theory, it’s a nice manly image… but what does it actually m...

163 - Servant to The Muse: On Involuntary Creativity

14 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Muse: The part of the psyche responsible for involuntary creation.The Muse is like any woman. Her desires rarely make logical sense.Get in her goo...

162 - Anabolic Psyche: Building Strength of Soul

04 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I'm in some sh*t right now... of my own doing. I'm in a Netflix documentary coming out tomorrow on the cult I was in.A lot heavy things are co...

III With Your Shield Or On It: Greco-Persian Wars

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Greco-Persian Wars not only decided the future of world culture, but the Greek and Persian cultural differences helped determine the results of th...

161 - Transgressive Polarity: Skillful Violation & When It's Ok for Love to "Hurt"

29 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Polarity requires tension.Our reproductive instincts (attraction, lust, passion) sometimes need a little "transgression" to get going.This epi...

160 - The Virtue of Openness: Attracting vs. Repulsing What You Want

22 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Once in awhile we meet someone who changes our view of life, our model of reality. One of such people like that, for me, was my friend Daniel.He is bo...

159 - How to Fight with Your Partner

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We tend to fight the worst with those we love the most. While fights ought to be rare, when they do happen they are great opportunities for improving ...

158 - On "Manifestation": How to Desire without Attachment Outcome

25 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Being detached from outcome seems to attract what you want... In dating, in business, and possibly in unforeseeable ways in life. But how do you inten...

157 - Arthur Kwon Lee: Masculine Romanticism, Martyrdom in the Arts

04 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"All the ancestors before us refer to beauty as the sacred. They regard to that as pure beauty. You should get chills when you really feel beauty....

156 - The Superperimeter: How to Get Your Needs Met Without Violating Polarity

28 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Polarity means asymmetry of responsibility: There are some things the man does for the woman that are not necessarily reciprocated.But what about men&...

155 - Head of Household: How Contain The Feminine

20 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You already know that women need to feel their feelings. But that's only half of the equation...A man assuming the role of 'Head of the Househ...

154 - Slaying Your Demons: A General Semantics Approach to Sanity

12 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Your 'Demons' = Patterns from your past that limit your present. These emotions/beliefs/tendencies tend to re-appear right when you're abo...

153 - Fear of the Feminine in Men and Women feat. Nalaya Chakana

23 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Men have a new kind of "Fear of Women."It's the fear that the woman they are intimate with, won't want to be in her feminine.My wife p...

152 - Ken Blackman: 7 Stages of Expression

16 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Ken Blackman coaches people in relationships, sex, communication, and human dynamics. We met when he was the Head of Education at OneTaste. We reconne...

151 - On Boyhood Wounds: Love, Power, Expression

09 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Boyhood Wounds come from natural desires not met in childhood. When left open too long then turn into fantasy, delusion, and pathology. This episode e...

150 - Steve Mayeda: On Fatherhood

02 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Fatherhood has felt like a continuation of my previous pursuit to become a good lover... Similar traits apply. Which is why I wanted to speak to my fr...

II Chiefs to Kings: Solid State War in the Bronze Age

01 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

There was no such thing as “war” in the Stone Age. Only through certain social advancements was war made possible by the early states.This episode...

149 - Mac Lethal: How to Rekindle the Flame in Relationship

19 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Mac Lethal is a rapper, YouTuber, author, and recent Hindu convert (only partially kidding). We connected last month over an article I wrote regarding...

148 - How to Help Her Into Her Feminine

21 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Modern women have a difficult dilemma: the working world requires them to be in their 'Masculine' (competitive self) while fulfilling relation...