Ruwando Podcast

The Winner Effect [History of Man Podcast, Ep 0 teaser]

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This is a preview of Ep 0 of History of Man Podcast.Check out the first two episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Substack:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podc...

Poor Genghis... [History of Man Podcast teaser]

04 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The History of Man podcast just released. Here's a little preview of Ep 1.Check out the first two episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Substack:https://...

I Sticks and Stones: Prehistoric Violence and the Birth of Warrior Ethos

31 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Episode I starts with the first skirmishes between hunting parties in the Paleolithic Era. We cover the relationship of economics and violence, and th...

0 The Winner Effect: Testosterone and the Origins of Male Competition

31 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode covers the roots of male competition from single-celled asexual species all the way up to modern day stock brokers.It’s more biology th...

The Winner Effect (Ep 0 preview)

30 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This is a preview of Ep 0 airing tomorrow. (We’re also testing our RSS feed.)Real episodes come out tomorrow! Get full access to History of Man Podc...

147 - Escorting the Soul: On the Anima, Creative Unconscious

29 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Anima (Jung) is the feminine soul of a man. It is the source of creativity, well being, intuition, and inner peace. This episode shares how you ca...

146 - MindWar: On Influencing & Unifying Realities

10 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On changing another's perception of reality. This episode goes into the more active side of mind control... as benevolently applied to relationshi...

145 - Danger and Mortality: On Living "Raw", Unfilitered

03 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A feature of 21 Century First World life is that reality is largely filtered for you. Society protects you from both autonomy and consequences through...

144 - Humane Stoicism: How to Resist Taming

24 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

To be "tamed" is to be conditioned to be more fearful, less free, or weaker in some way. There are many "taming forces" in modern soc...

143 - The Myth of Identity: On Resetting Who You "Are"

17 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You are not who you think you are.... Identity is not a static thing. Which means who you "are" can be changed, for better and for worse. This...

142 - Do What Thou Wilt: The Virtue of Selfishness

10 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This episode explores the Aleister Crowley's maxim "Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law"-- exploring the taboo idea of putting...

141 - Five Stages of Male Psyche: Slave to King myth, Red Pill, Nietzsche Metamorphoses

03 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Men go through different stages. In each stage there are different drives, pitfalls, and keys to fulfilment. This episode covers the five stages from ...

140 - Slave to King: Nice Guy Transformation feat. Patrick H.

27 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Patrick H. is a client from Germany who went through some pretty intense Nice Guy sh*t a year ago. He tells his story of transformation, overcoming mo...

139 - Semantics & Sanity: How To Know What's "True" (Pt2)

20 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know what you "know" is true? This episode explores Sanity from the lens of General Semantics (how we translate events into percept...

138 - Semantic Consciousness: Abstraction Intelligence & How Language Creates Reality (Pt1)

13 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

"Semantic Consciousness" is the layer of our perception responsible for rationality, intelligence, and symbology (meaning-making). This episod...

137 - Achieving Escape Velocity: How to Leave Old 'Normal' Behind

06 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In physics, Escape Velocity is the minimum speed an object needs to leave the orbit of a planet. In life (metaphor), it's the minimum psychologica...

136 - Depths of the Collective Unconscious feat. James Kalupson

30 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

James is a graduate student in clinical depth psychology at Pacifica, where I was considering getting a PhD. We discuss a Jungian take on the recent s...

135 - High Polarity Relationship Principles

21 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A high polarity relationship is one where each partner willingly "specializes" more into either masculine (testosterone/dopamine/noradrenalin-...

134 - Advice to My 23 Year Old Self feat. Noelfry

16 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Noelfry asked me what advice I'd give to myself 10 years ago. Conveniently, he's exactly 10yrs younger than me. I share the things that have a...

133 - Ultimate Fulfillment & Welcoming Death

09 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I had COVID this week. It wasn't too bad.But in my feverdom I had an old recurring dream where I am forced to accept my death.And it reminded me o...

132 - Enter the Dog Brain: Emotional-Territorial Consciousness, Status, Hierarchy, Inclusion Deservedness

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Your default tendencies when it comes to Status/Power, Deservingness, sense of Connection/Belonging, Trust is a function of your pre-conscious nervous...

131 - Should I Stay Or Should I Go? Relationship Dilemmas feat. Jeff B.

04 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

When things aren't ideal in a relationship it's normal to wonder, "should I try to make this work, or move on and look for something bette...

130 - Inner and Outer Games feat. Miiska Van Renterghem

28 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

It's one thing to be confident and secure when everything is going your way. But if you're challenging yourself that won't always be the c...

129 - Language Games feat. Patrick P.

21 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Peace is hard earned."Patrick is a friend and former client. We speak about my recent Dark Night of the Soul, fatherhood, Socrates, and how l...

128 - Dark Night of the Soul: How to Realign with the Unconscious

14 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Dark Night of the Soul is a stage in the individuation process where one gets the opportunity to re-align with the unconscious.It's often asso...

127 - Unify Your Household: How To Maintain Harmony and Polarity in Relationship

05 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Polarity and harmony tend to be at odds in relationships — Obviously, the more different you and your partner are, the more likely there will be mis...

126 - The Virtue of Curiosity: How To Win The Inner Game

29 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

'Inner Game' is often synonymized with confidence, but its original usage refers to a game you can play... and win. And winning the inner game...

125 - How To Get Good at Telling The Truth

22 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Last week I spoke about why I've stopped using "vulnerability"... and why being truthful is a prerequisite for control of your reality. Bu...

124 - Beyond Good and Evil Morality: How to Own Your Reality feat. Noelfry

20 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Goodness is something to be chosen. When a man cannot choose he ceases to be a man." (Anthony Burgess, A Clockwork Orange)Noelfry and I discu...

123 - Why I've Stopped Using 'Vulnerability'

15 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Vulnerability" is one of the most misused and misunderstood terms. Here's why I've stopped using it, and what I use instead.#highfide...

122 - Body Language and Trauma Release: What Determines How You Look

01 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"A man's beauty represents inner functional truths: his face shows what he can do." (Albert Camus)Trauma (inhibitions to normal function) ...

121 - Beyond Attachment Theory: Why Men Need to Pull Away

29 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Inevitably in a relationship there will be a point of tension where one partner wants to pull away when the other wants to keep connecting. In a SECUR...

120 - The Fool Archetype: Welcoming Chaos

24 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Fool Archetype is the aspect of the psyche that takes nothing seriously, welcomes uncertainty, and always finds a way to break into laughter...In ...

119 - Orpheus Archetype: How to Integrate Your Romantic Side (without being cringe 😬)

22 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of guys dissociate from their romantic side. So it ends up coming out in cringey ways. The best lessons on integrating this come from the Greek ...

118 - Why Humor is Important For the Human Mating Ritual

17 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The man making the woman laugh is a critical part of the human mating ritual. This episode breaks down why, along with some principles that allow her ...

117 - Taboo Stuff: Overcoming Compulsive Thinking, Archetypes, Cortisol, feat. Tim Jack

15 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"All the taboo stuff comes out on your podcast" - Tim.Tim is a former client whom I recently demoted to friend. (His joke, not mine.) He share...

116 - Physiological Toughness: Conquer Your Inner Weakness

10 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Toughness is the ability to endure and thrive in stressful conditions. We often think of 'Toughness' as a purely mental ability. But it can ac...

115 - How to be Masculine While in Love (Don't Lose Yourself in a Relationship)

08 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many guys fear intimacy because when they fall in love they lose their masculinity. Hormonally, love increases oxytocin which has some opposite effect...

114 - Lambs and Eagles: Nietzsche on Nobility, Master vs Slave Morality, Conquer Your Inner Weakness

03 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nietzche's concept of Nobility is a set of traits that have one have a greater control of his reality. In this episode we break down the Master an...

113 - Getting Off on Every Stroke (Existential Kink)

27 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Getting off on every stroke" is a skill of turning unpleasant experiences into enjoyable ones. On the one hand it's a nice metaphor for a...

112 - On Polarity: How to Get Her Into Her Feminine

25 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

According to Jung, an intimate relationship actually involves four entities: The man's masculine and feminine sides, and the woman's masculine...

111 - The Virtue of Obsession: Move From Mediocrity To Eminence

20 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"There is no female Mozart because there is no female Jack the Ripper." (Camille Paglia)Obsession is a male tendency. It's why boys are mo...

110 - Target Panic: How to Overcome Fear of Success, Self-Sabotage feat. Andy D.

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

"Target Panic" is an experience archers sometimes get when they lose the ability aim properly. My buddy Andy brought it up as an excellent met...

109 - 5 1/2 Guiding Principles for a Man's Life: My Personal Moral Code for Life Decisions

11 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Last weekend a friend and I did a David Goggins-inspired challenge: 4km every 4 hrs for 48hrs.During it we had a lot of philosophical discussion and c...

108 - On Dominant Realities feat. Noelfry

04 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we talk about different perspectives on realities (subjective vs. objective reality), how we build our own reality, who sets the norms...

107 - How to Release Regret

29 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Regret is a type of shame-- One of the worst kinds since it allows the past to continually F up your present.This episode covers some of my recent exp...

106 - How to Be Attractive to Women (While "Being Yourself")

22 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Actual abundance with women doesn't come from learning a bunch of social tricks. It comes down to who you are.Here I boil down what makes a man at...

105 - Dark Masculine 2: Freeing the Beast

13 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The 'Dark Masculine' is the set of testosterone-driven traits that have been evolutionarily beneficial, but not accepted by modern society. (H...

104 - On the Lover and Dark Feminine feat. Noelfry

09 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Q&A episode on the Lover Archetype, Dark Feminine, and Culture. Featuring Noelfry.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full acc...

103 - The Magician Archetype

30 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Magician Archetype is the part of the psyche responsible for creativity, making meaning, and spirituality. It's the part of you that "writ...

102 - Integrating Dark Masculine in Heart Connection feat. Miiska Van Renterghem

25 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Last week I coached a listener of the podcast on integrating the Dark Masculine archetype—I invited him on the podcast to share his experience with ...

101 - Dr. Cam Sepah: Dopamine Fasting, Maximus

16 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Cam Sepah is a psychology, professor at UCSF Med School, and the founder of a number of startups including Maximus, a telehealth service for men&#...

The Road of Trials: How to Transform During Hard Times

09 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The Road of Trials is a stage in the Hero's Journey where the hero powers up between "Meeting the Mentor" and "Apotheosis" (god mo...

100 - Nalaya Chakana: On Making Love, Co-Variant Polarity

05 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Nalaya Chakana is my beloved. She's also an intimacy coach and has been on the podcast before. We speak about maturing archetypes, dating, and a b...

Solving the Ambition/Acceptance Dilemma

25 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Should you "Go hard" or "Embrace where you're at?"Each of these two impulses have a time when they are useful but also negative fa...

How to Overcome Apathy

04 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Apathy mutes your ability to experience life. It blocks you from enthusiasm, connection, creativity, and even knowing what to do with yourself. I spea...

How to Alchemize Frustration (Arousal Control Technique)

21 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I had a moment (few hours) of very ungrounded little b*tchness due to a DMV-like experience. But then I remembered a somatic technique to transform th...

Independent Frames

07 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why don't men like being told what to do? Some may call that "fragile masculinity" or some insecure need for dominance. But actually there...

First Kill: Slaughtering a Chicken, True Nature, and Responsibility

05 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I slaughtered one of my roosters yesterday. It was my first time killing something that I had raised and it felt important. I share the different phas...

099 Mollie McGlocklin: Sleep is a Skill

31 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The last few months I've realized how important sleep quality is for testosterone, and therefore energy, mood, strength, libido, and success in li...

Lover Archetype: How to Have Heart Without Losing Polarity

29 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of men lose their masculinity when they catch feelings for the feminine. (But it doesn't have to be that way.)As voted on, and inspired by r...

How to Deal with Women's Anger

24 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

If a woman you're intimate with is throwing anger at you, it's not necessarily a bad thing. Actually, it might be a good sign. And an opportun...

098 Jack Donovan: The Way of Men

10 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jack Donovan is author of The Way of Men, Becoming a Barbarian, and A More Complete Beast. We speak about the tactical virtues of masculinity, honor c...

Gnosis: Creating From No-Mindedness

08 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Gnosis" is the name for a mental state that you've probably experienced before, if only accidentally. This state is a solution to anxiety...

On Loving Fearlessly

03 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I recently spoke with a guy who realized that he walled up his heart to prevent sadness... but it also blocked him from feeling joy and real intimacy....

Sexual Shadow: Integrating Darkside, Overcoming Madonna-Whore Complex, Bringing the Beast to the Bedroom

01 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The Sexual Shadow is the set of pre-conscious impulses that stimulate the libido but counter your morality. Dissociation is common in men and seen in ...

097 Christian Graugart (BJJ Globetrotter)

26 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Christian Graugart is the founder of BJJ Globetrotters, a community for people who travel and do jiu-jitsu. We speak about the tribal nature of humans...

Steel Sharpens Steel: On Male Bonding, Warrior Ethos in Daily Life, Men's Groups

24 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"We're a generation of men raised by women. I'm wondering if another woman is really the answer we need." (Tyler Durden, Fight Club)Th...

096 Sarah Steel (Let's Talk About Sects): Cult Psychology

19 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sarah Steel is the host of Let's Talk About Sects, a podcast about cults. I was on her show just recently in episode on OneTaste (premiers today)....

Warrior Archetype

17 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The Warrior Archetype is the set of testosterone-driven impulses that have a man develop his competence and courage. It's also associated with agg...

Why Commitment is a Masculine Virtue

12 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"There is a lot of correlation between rough childhoods and fatherless homes. But there is also a negative effect on the FATHER shirking his respo...

Going Out On Your Shield: Embracing Failure

05 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Come back with your shield - or on it" ~ Spartan mothers to their sons before battle (according to Plutarch)Queen Gorgo says those words to L...

Avatar State: Balancing the 4 Elements (Neurotransmitters)

03 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Many ancient traditions and mythologies speak of the "4 Elements" which represent 4 neurotransmitters: Fire - Dopamine, Serotonin - Water, Ace...

Dominance Hierarchies

15 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Our Emotional-Territorial brain evolved to 1) connect as social groups, 2) determine place in the 'dominance hierarchy'. Much of our self-este...

Changing Your Filter on Reality

08 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

"Reality is a controlled hallucination" (Anil Seth)This episode explores the different layers of reality perception. The goals and vulnerabili...

095 Craig Parkin: Experiencing Wealth

01 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Craig Parkin is the author of Experiencing Wealth, a book on the psychology of deservedness (my interpretation). He and I met in Thailand. We've h...

Breaking Social Construction of Reality

15 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Most of our perceptions of reality come from our social conditioning.Your recurrent states like confidence, connection, inner peace are often a result...

094 Nicole Brenny: Psychomagic

10 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nicole Brenny is a vedic astrologer, YouTuber, and coach. She and I used to host a pirated radio show under the train tracks in Brooklyn. She recently...

Overcoming Cyclical Depression, Suicidal Impulses

07 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When I was 15 I tried to kill myself. Since then I have had cyclical depression. It's been an ongoing journey that has led many beautiful things a...

093 Anish Patel: Feminine Cleanse

03 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Anish Patel is a men's coach who has worked with Dr. Robert Glover and others. He shares with me an interesting practice called the Feminine Clean...

Self-Validation & Assigning Meaning to Goals

01 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On my weekend detox trip a friend had a powerful experience regarding self-validation.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full acc...

092 Nalaya Chakana: Daring to Love, Conscious Celibacy

27 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nalaya Chakana is an intimacy coach who helps people experience real love and connection. She and I met in Peru some years ago. I had to ask her about...

091 Dr. Harrison Schultz: On Anarchy, Deviance, and The Left

20 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Harrison Schultz is an activist and was a leader in Occupy Wall Street. He shared his views on the state of the world, economic solutions, and ana...

Father Nature, King Archetype

18 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The King Archetype is the aspect of masculinity that expresses responsibility, fatherhood, and security. In modern society, many men are lacking expre...

090 Victoria Redbard: New Paradigm Intimacy

30 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Victoria Redbard is a somatic sexologist and founder of The Institute of New Paradigm Intimacy. We speak about polarity in society, sex magic, and int...

The Unshakable Abundance Reality

28 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Abundance and Scarcity are states of the psyche that affect our nervous systems, mental health, and ability to experience objective wealth (be it with...

Antidotes to Nice Guy Syndrome

23 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Nice Guy Syndrome is a set of maligned characteristics that have been conditioned into most men to some degree. It usually shows up in dating, relatio...

088 Michael Pariser: Nice Guy Hero's Journey

16 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Michael Pariser, PsyD is a therapist and author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: The Hero's Journey, a guide that takes men through a process of overcomin...

089 Laurie Handlers & Om Rupani: Tantra Meets BDSM

15 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Laurie Handlers and Om Rupani teach Tantra Meets BDSM, a class for real intimate polarity (something many are particularly challenged by in quarantine...

087 Jeremy Lipkowitz: Rewiring the Mind, Addiction, Mindfulness

09 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jeremy Lipkowitz is a meditation teacher and emotional intelligence coach. We speak about his journey from porn addiction into discovering mindfulness...

Dark Masculine: How To Overcome Sexual Shame

08 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Internalized shame is a killer of self-esteem, libido, and a person's spirit. More than ever before, collective morality shames authentic masculin...

Overcoming Compulsive Behavior: Porn Addiction, "Laziness", etc.

07 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Compulsive behavior is anything that you do against your higher intentions. (Doing what you don't want or not doing what you do want.) These behav...

Reality Dominance

02 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ruwan discusses Reality perception in this live discussion.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ...

086 Ivan Zoric: Mixed Movement Arts

25 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Ivan Zoric is a movement mechanic and founder of Momentum Phangan, a movement gym/placespace in Koh Phangan. We speak about his 4 Corners philosophy f...

085 Mantak Chia: MultiOrgasmic Man, Universal Healing Tao

27 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Mantak Chia is the grandmaster of the Taoist lineage of energy cultivation. He is the author of over 50 books including The MultiOrgasmic Man. In this...

084 John Gray: Beyond Mars and Venus, Hormones, Polarity

20 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On the threshold of my recent breakup, a friend lent me the book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.At first, I resisted at it. I knew the book. ...

083 Marc Lewis, Ph.D.: The Biology of Desire

13 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

2012 introduced me to the darkness of the unconscious.I fell in love with a hardcore drug addict. I didn't understand addiction. I thought she jus...

082 Carolyn Elliott: Existential Kink

06 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Carolyn Elliott is the author of Existential Kink, a method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't. She and I met in OneTaste ...

Rick & Morty & Archetypal Masculinity

05 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Rick and Morty is one of the most popular TV shows due to great writing and clever plotlines. But one of the reasons for its diehard male fan base may...

Prometheus Rising: 4 Neural Circuits of Consciousness

30 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Drawing from Robert Anton Wilson's Prometheus Rising, we dig into Timothy Leary's Eight Circuit Model of Consciousness. The first four circuit...