Delanie Fischer chats with author, men’s body positivity advocate, and founder of Notoriously Dapper, Kelvin Davis, about the struggles facing modern men. They explore social conditioning, mental health challenges, and deep-rooted insecurities, as well as guidance for moving beyond the “nice guy” act and cultivating emotional maturity, authentic confidence, and healthy masculinity. Episode Highlights: Cut The Crap: Nice Guy vs. Good Man How Men Feel About Not Being "Needed" for Survival Porn, the Rise of OnlyFans, and Fake Intimacy Cultural Differences: Vulnerability and Mental Health Support Let's Talk About It: Incels, the Manosphere, and Violence Why Women Feel "Done" with Dating Apps (and Dating in General) Love Is Blind: Toxic Masculinity on Display—and What Lies Underneath Why Men Might Dominate Conversation in Social Settings Transforming Entitlement and Fear into Genuine Connection More about Kelvin Davis: ⁠https://notoriouslydapper.com/⁠ This episode contains sensitive topics, listener discretion is advised. IF YOU NEED TO TALK, CRISIS LIFELINE: https://988lifeline.org/ ____ A quick 5-star rating means a lot! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Get free Self-Helpless goodies: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes now on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: It’s Not a Mental Health Crisis: Human Reactions to a Loneliness Epidemic with Dr. Jody Carrington: ⁠https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2d626d7b/its-not-a-mental-health-crisis-human-reactions-to-a-loneliness-epidemic-with-dr-jody-carrington⁠ Oversharing vs. Undersharing: How Revealing Too Much (or Too Little) Shapes Health, Relationships & Career with Leslie John: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/2b851839/oversharing-vs-undersharing-how-revealing-too-much-or-too-little-shapes-health-relationships-and-career-with-leslie-john Keep Choosing Life with Sav Clements (Depression, Self-Harm, Suicidal Ideation & Attempts, And Getting Support): https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/23fec197/keep-choosing-life-with-sav-clements-depression-self-harm-suicidal-ideation-and-attempts-and-getting-support Exploring Masculinity with Pete Lee: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/bbdfac0b/exploring-masculinity-with-pete-lee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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