Sex With Dr. Jess

Year-End Reflection Questions for Fulfilling Relationships

30 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we share (and try out!) a simple 3-step exercise to reflect upon 2021 and plan for a happy 2022. Coach Sonia Zarbatany also joins us to tal...

The Best Gift Ever 2021! It’s Free & Last-Minute Friendly

23 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We’re doing it again! There is almost nothing better than sharing how you feel about your partner, and this “dating profile” gift is a simple, ...

Ethical Non-Monogamy & Open Relationships

17 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know if opening up is right for you? How do you tell your partner that you’re interested in ethical/consensual non-monogamy? What’...

Fetishes, Pleasure In Pain & Masturbation

10 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We’re answering your questions this week including: Can you please talk about fart fetishes? Should I be worried that my new boyfriend finds...

Emotional Expression: How To Open Up

03 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we discuss therapy and emotional expression with the mental health practitioner and author of Man, Just Express Yourself, James Harris. He s...

Hand Job Tips & One Hotwife’s Story

26 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

  Want to give a hotter hand job? Check out our quick tips, and then join us as we switch gears and have a candid discussion with a Hotwife couple...

Finding Pleasure in Liberation: Gender, Body Image & Communication

19 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to be non-binary? How about gender fluid? And queer? Why does language matter? How can we reconnect with our bodies? How...

Pegging, Fetishes & Sex Toys

12 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is pegging, and how do you get started? How do you choose the right harness and strap-on? What are the best positions for pegging? Why do you los...

Camming, Mental Health & Motherhood

05 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Harper The Fox joins Jess & Brandon to share her story — 2 weeks postpartum. She talks about her work in camming, cartoon cam models, working on Onl...

How To Seduce & Make Sex More Pleasurable

29 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We love hearing from you, and this week, we answer your sex and relationship questions including: How do I help my partner relax and enjoy hotter...

Porn Literacy, Communication & Setting Boundaries With Loved Ones

22 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sex educator Justine Ang Fonte joins us to talk about porn literacy, how parents can talk to kids about pleasure, and how we can set boundaries with f...

Date Night Special & Sex In South Beach

15 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Sonjia, the author of the best-selling book Sex in South Beach, joins us to talk about the intersection of sexuality and medicine, how to have bet...

Trauma Triggers In Relationships

08 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is a trauma trigger? How does it show up in the body? How can you recognize your triggers and communicate your needs to your partner? As...

Tantra with Tyomi

01 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Superstar Tyomi Morgan shares her advice and insights on Authentic Tantra and how you can integrate the practice into your life for more pleasure an...

Sexuality: Activism, Anarchism & Academia

24 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Maggie (our student intern), interviews Dr. Ryan Conrad, an activist, artist, and scholar. They discuss activism within academia, issues within queer...

How To Manage Rejection

17 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Can you handle rejection? Have you practised this essential life skill? What can you learn from rejection? And how can you check your avoidance behavi...

The Body Scan

10 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling tense or distracted? Looking to feel more connected to your body and/or more present in the current moment? Carve out a few minutes to reset w...

Happy Vaginas, Fibroids & Discharge

03 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Board-certified gynecologic surgeon and author of This Is How You Vagina, Dr. Nicole Williams joins us to share her knowledge and wisdom on the follow...

How To Let Go Of Resentment

27 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you holding onto resentments? Is resentment holding you back from being present and full of joy? Do you have difficulty expressing how you feel or...

The Business of Sex: How To Become A Sexologist

20 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we flip the scripts and our intern, Maggie Lee, interviews Jess about her journey into the field of sexuality. They talk education, equity,...

The Relationship Check-In

13 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we share our relationship check-in -- short(ish), sweet and unscripted. Most couples invest in the start-up phase of their relationships ...

Ruined Orgasms, Sleep Climaxes & Tasting Yourself: Your Questions, Answered

06 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Letting Go of Shame & Embracing Pleasure In this episode of the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, Dr. Jess and Brandon explore your questions on ruined orga...

Does Size Matter?

30 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for being here and exploring with us. If you’re looking to treat yourself (or your partner), please check out our affiliate links and save...

Better Boners: Erection Facts, Fiction & Advice

23 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Urologist, Dr. Denise Asafu-Ajei, joins us to answer your questions about erections: How can you prevent erectile dysfunction? How do you trea...

Sexual Communication Tips: Erection Loss, Libido Issues, & Pressure

16 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app for couples and singles where they're a pioneer in allowing couples to explore dating together a...

Threesomes: Who, What, Why & How?

02 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Most people fantasize about threesomes, but not many people actually dive in. In part I of our Threesomes podcast, we dive into the data and get som...

Polyamory, Coming Out & Emotional Consent

25 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sydney Rae Chin joins us to share her personal experience as a closeted queer woman who grew up Chinese-American-Catholic. She shares some really valu...

The Ultimate Guide To Dirty Talk: 60+ Tips & Examples

18 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for engaging and learning Dirty Talk with us! We’re so glad you’re here (for real). If you’re looking to experiment with something new...

Signs Of Enmeshment In Relationships (And what you can do about it)

11 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Lexx is a phenomenal sex therapist, educator, and media consultant. The #CouplesClinician runs The Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy, LLC and i...

How Much Does Sexual Compatibility Matter?

04 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

On this week's podcast, Jess & Brandon discuss sexual compatibility and share their personal experiences while addressing these Qs: How do know k...

Anal Play: Positions, Prep & Pleasure!

28 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Be sure to check out our affiliate links and use our discount code DRJESSVIP at checkout to save when shopping. We appreciate your support! ...

Kinky Sex, Race & Social Justice

21 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Ali Mushtaq joins us to share his journey from a conservative upbringing to leather title holder and discusses how BDSM education can be more incl...

Solo Sex, Dating, Edging & More

14 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

To celebrate Masturbation May we’re joined by Dr. Megan Stubbs, author of Playing without a partner, a single’s guide to sex, dating, and happines...

Exes, Erogenous Zones & Erotic Massage

07 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we explore surprising hot spots on the body including the Million Dollar Mark as well as a variety of erotic touch techniques from the Liq...

Sexual communication & research with Dr. Shemeka

30 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Shemeka Thorpe is a brilliant sex researcher, post-doctoral fellow and the founder of the Minority Sex Report. She joins us to talk about her late...

Erections, Orgasms & More! Advice from a Pelvic Floor Specialist

22 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Got sexual and pelvic health questions? We’ve got answers! Dr. Rachel Gelman, Doctor of Physical Therapy and pelvic floor specialist returns to answ...

Eroticize Daily Interactions: 20 Actionable Tips For Busy Couples

16 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you keep things exciting amid a repetitive routine? How can adults be more playful (because playfulness is associated with happier relations...

Sex After Childbirth: Techniques & Strategies From a Perinatal Therapist

09 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What are the causes of pain postpartum? How can you soothe your own pain and what exercises and massage techniques can help? What does self massage en...

How to Forgive Yourself After You’ve Cheated

02 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A listener shares their story and feelings after having had cheated on their long-term partner. They ask for help managing the guilt and shame and Jes...

Fetishes as Healing & How to Build Attraction

25 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Adam Maurer joins us to crush on Brandon, sass Jess (with love) and answer your sex questions including: How do I pick between partners — a saf...

Fetishes, Butt Play & Does Size Matter?

19 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The brilliant Luna Matatas joins us to answer your sex and pleasure questions including: How do you stimulate the prostate? What are the best ...

How to Break Up With A Friend

12 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Shari Nicole, Psychologist and Key Consultant of Everyday Psychology, joins us to talk about the importance and challenge of adult friendships. We...

What You Don’t Know About HIV

05 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Thanks to medical research and breakthroughs, we now have the tools to end the HIV epidemic. Unfortunately, we’re still a long way off on account of...

Trauma Responses in Sex & Relationships

26 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How are trauma and liberation linked? How does trauma show up in the body? And how can you begin to heal? How does trauma play out in sex and re...

Reproductive Justice: Power, Positions & Pleasure

19 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The unapologetic sexologist, Michelle Hope, joins us to chat about HIV stigma, forced sterilization, COMMUNITYx, reproductive justice and more. We als...

The Apology Languages, Sexual Initiation Techniques & Communication Tips

12 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week Jess and Brandon discuss a new project with Walgreens related to PrEP, medication that reduces the sexual transmission of HIV by over 99%. T...

Polyamory, Toxic Monogamy, & Ethical Non-Monogamy: What Therapists & Practitioners Need to Know

05 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Kevin Patterson & Dr. Liz Powell join us to talk about their new course, Unf*ck Your Polyamory Pro — for both individuals, couples, groups and profe...

Dating with Herpes: Disclosure, Stigma & Healing

29 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Courtney Brame founded Something Positive for Positive People after his own herpes diagnosis and through his non-profit and podcast, he shares real st...

Somatic Therapy, Sexual Healing & FGM/C

22 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Psychotherapist, Farzana Doctor, joins us to discuss her latest novel, Seven. She shares her own story as a survivor and an activist and discusses the...

Yoga Nidra, Rest & Sleep Habits: How They Affect Sex & Relationships

15 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we explore the research that connects sleep and rest with sex and relationships. Dionne Roberts joins us as we discuss: How your sleep ...

Overcome Shame & Oppression in the Name of Self-Love & Pleasure

08 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How does a survival mindset affect sexuality? How does history and oppression shape sexuality for Black women? How do you learn to love your body and ...

G-Spots, G-Zones & Squirting

31 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for being here to find out more about G-Spots, G-Zones and Squirting. We appreciate you. Explore our affiliate links and use discount code ...

The Best Gift Ever! It’s Free & Last-Minute Friendly

24 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There is almost nothing better than sharing how you feel about your partner, and this “dating profile” gift is a simple, but powerful gift that ke...

Former Playboy Advisor Weighs in on Full-Body Pleasure

18 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

After 46 years of writing about sexuality and the more than 12,000 sex questions answered, Michael Castleman is well positioned to weigh in on all thi...

Food Fights, Orgasms & Mindful Masturbation

11 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we chat about our own issues with food as a couple — fights from our past, lessons we’ve learned, and the ways in which individua...

Technoference: How to Talk About Tech & Ditch Bad Habits

04 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you talk about the role technology plays in your relationships — for better or worse? This week, we discuss some of the ways in which technology ...

Attachment Styles, Overcoming Anxiety & How to Feel More Secure

27 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Psychologist Dr. Gina Di Giulio joins us to discuss Covid anxiety, CBT, and the ways in which attachment styles affect our relationships. She walks us...

Bisexuality, Religious Shame & Might-As-Well Relationships

20 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sexologist Ashely Cobb joins us to talk about her new program Hoe and Tell as well as to answer a ton of sex & relationship questions including: ...

Sex Clubs, Open Relationships & Setting Boundaries with Taylor Nolan

13 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We talk labia, penis size, public relationships, consensual non-monogamy and more with Taylor Nolan. Taylor is a psychotherapist who appeared on A...

All About Your Penis: Pleasure, Curves, Diet, Erection & More!

06 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How’s your penis doing? How’s your diet and how does it relate to the pleasure you experience? And how can you have better anal sex? Sexual Medici...

Lingerie Humiliation, Sex Sans Erection & Sexual Worthiness

30 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The brilliant Dr. Lexx Brown-James joins us to share their insights and answers your sex & relationship questions including: How to deal with fee...

Astrology of Sex & Relationships

23 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Author and Astrologist Mecca Woods joins Jess and Brandon to weigh-in on whether or not you should consider your Zodiac sign in dating, and shares her...

Pleasure Mapping, Clitoral Response & Redefining Healthcare

16 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist and sexuality educator. She joins Jess & Brandon to discuss all things s...

Vaginismus, Delayed Ejaculation, Penis Health & Posture: Change Your (Sex) Life Via Your Pelvic Floor

09 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We’re joined by pelvic health physiotherapist, Michiko Caringal, who answers all of our questions about how the pelvic floor affects sexual health i...

Intensify Pleasure & Orgasms!

02 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

TL;DR: Sexual Wellness Is a Full-Body, Whole-Life Conversation OBGYN Dr. Nicole E. Williams joined us on the SexWithDrJess podcast to answer your rea...

“I Love You, Man.” Tantra, Emotional Expression & Opening Up

25 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Emeka Menakaya joins Jess & Brandon to talk about how his studies in tantra have opened him up to improved relationships all around. He shares his i...

Starting Over After A Breakup

18 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Amira de Vera joins Jess on the podcast this week to share her experience after a breakup with a long term partner at the age of 34. They discuss how ...

Stripping, Strap-Ons, Porn & Digital Intimacy

11 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Andre Shakti joins Jess and Brandon to share their journey and story as a stripper, sex worker, educator and activist. They discuss: What Andre l...

Jeannie Mai On Forgiveness & Living Happily Ever After

04 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Emmy-award winning, Jeannie Mai, host of The Real, joins us to talk about love, relationships, and moving on via forgiveness. She is newly-engaged (to...

Sex Talk With My Mom: Cougars, Confidence & Grieving The Loss of a Spouse

28 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Mother-son duo Karen Lee and Cam join Dr. Jess and Brandon to share their story of loss, love and podcasting. They chat about: Grieving the loss ...

Top Tips for Oral Sex, Riding & Sliding Into DMs With Grace

21 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Samia Burton, founder of Sexual Essentials, joins us to share her unique experience and insights as an unconventional sex educator. We discuss: ...

WAP: Wet AP & How To Be Your Best Sexual Self

14 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sexologist Shamyra is back and she’s here to share her knowledge and thoughts on Cardi B’s WAP and so much more including: Mysogynoir Pick...

Brandon Answers Your Sex & Relationship Questions

07 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve compiled some of your questions for Brandon and he weighs in sharing his personal experiences in response to the following: You’ve open...

Navigating Interracial Relationships: One Couple’s Experience

31 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jess is Chinese-Jamaican-Irish-Canadian. Brandon is Canadian of British descent. Race and culture have always been central topics in our relationship ...

Dealing with Trauma, Learning to Love Your Body & Flirtation Techniques

24 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Jess teams up with April Lampert and Amy Baldwin from the Shameless Sex Podcast to tackle listener questions including: 1. How can I dea...

Painful Sex Is NOT In Your Head: Holistic Solutions From a Pelvic Pain Doc

17 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual pain is not in your head. Dr. Sonia Bahlani, founder of PelvicPainDoc.com and author of The Holistic Guide to Navigating Pelvic Pain joins ...

Testosterone, Muscle Memory & Lasting Longer in Bed

10 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Testosterone, Muscle Memory & Lasting Longer in Bed Thank you for reading and listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast — from both of us, Dr. Jes...

The 11 Sex Personality Types

03 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for being here and for listening to the SexWithDrJess podcast. We appreciate you and if you’re looking to explore pleasure products, find ...

Cannabis, Endometriosis & Sex

26 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Antuanette Gomez, CEO of Pleasure Peaks joins Jess & Brandon to talk about sex and cannabis. Pleasure Peaks is a sexual health company that develops p...

The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: An Exercise for Singles and Couples

19 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Marla & Jess wrote a book, The Ultimate Guide to Foreplay & Seduction! They’re having a virtual launch party to celebrate: Wednesday, June 24th at 7...

Empathy Is A Superpower: How to Cultivate Trust, Have More Fulfilling Relationships & Work Through Trauma

12 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Marriage and family therapist Shadeen Francis joins us to talk about X-Men, therapy, vulnerability and emptying the jug. She helps us to explore the f...

Modern Whore: One Sex Worker’s Story & Insights

29 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Andrea Werhun, author of Modern Whore, joins Jess and Brandon to share her personal story as a sex worker, performer and author. She discusses her bea...

Sex Ed The Musical & Sexual Golden Tickets

22 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Wendy Miller, host of Sex Ed The Musical Podcast, joins us to discuss her experience as the former Head of Production with PlayboyTV. She shares stori...

Your Diagnonsense: How to Break the Avoidance Cycle & Set Your Own Relationship Goals

15 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Therapist Todd Baratz joins Jess to discuss the costs and potential benefits of avoidance behaviours. He shares his thoughts on: The ways in whi...

How to Overcome Sexual Shame

08 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Messages related to sexual shame are ingrained from a young age and they affect how we feel about our bodies, how we interact with sexual partners an...

Pelvic Floor Health: Perineal Massage, Postpartum, Peeing & De-Stressing Your Vagina

01 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Pelvic floor physiotherapist, Kate Roddy, joins Jess to answer questions and share advice for keeping your pelvic floor as healthy as possible. They d...

A Conversation for Lovers

24 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jess & Brandon try one of the “Lovers Inquiries” from her new book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewa...

The Good Sex Diet

21 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s talk about food and sex and dismantle diet culture. Food and sex have so much in common and so many of us (Jess included) consider food an imp...

Can Conflict Save Your Relationship?

17 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you avoid or lean into conflict? Do you fight to win or fight to understand? Do you speak up when you’re unhappy? This week, CrisMarie Campbell ...

How to Get in the Mood for Sex

14 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

In this quickie episode, we chat about the fact that our interest in sex has declined since the onset of social isolation. We discuss strategies for c...

Top Tips for Digital Dating

10 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dating coach and matchmaker, Carmelia Ray joins Jess and Brandon to discuss: What holds most people back from finding a great match How dating...

Do You Get a Say in Your Partner’s Porn Habits?

06 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Since we’re trapped at home in isolation, we decided to record an extra episode this week. We talk about a fight we had yesterday and how stress lev...

How We Manage Our Relationship in Isolation

03 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve been isolating at home in Toronto for 19 days now and we thought we’d share how we’re doing as a couple — what’s working and what isn’...

Getting Naked With Tova Leigh: Monogamy, Motherhood & More

27 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Getting Naked with Tova Leigh: Tova joins Dr. Jess to share her journey as a mother, woman and author of Effed at 40. They discuss: How she g...

Your Quaran-Team: How to Manage the Stress of COVID-19

18 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Therapist and writer, Jake Ernst, joins Jess and Brandon to discuss: Strategies for assembling your support team (AKA quaran-team) during this st...

What We Can Learn from Equine Horse Therapy

13 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How can equine therapy with horses help couples improve communication? How can horses support survivors of trauma? What is vaginismus and what are som...

Core Erotic Feeling, Gang-Bangs & Spankings

06 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Award winning sex educator, Tristan Taormino, joins Jess to talk about spanking, gang bangs, eye candy, social justice and mind-effing. Why you mig...

Why We Love Dirty Underwear!

28 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast about dirty underwear and why we love it! We’re grateful for your curiosity and openness! If you feel like sh...

How to Help Someone in an Abusive Relationship

21 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The toll of intimate partner violence struck close to home this week and with this weighing on her mind, Jess discusses nine strategies for supporting...

Orgasmic Meditation: A First-Hand Report

14 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sex writer, Suzannah Weiss, joins Jess to share her personal experience with orgasmic meditation. She discusses: An alternative view of orgasm ...