Sex With Dr. Jess

A Rant About Micro-Cheating

07 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This is a six minute quickie! And it’s a bit of a rant about micro-cheating. From deep-liking to chatting with an ex, what behaviours are considered...

How to Manage Infidelity As A Couple

31 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

George’s wife cheated on him — twice. He still remembers the smell of the room they were in when she told him 13+ years ago. George joins us to sh...

Kink, Energy Orgasms & Multi-Dimensional Body Scans

24 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Evguenia joins Jess & Brandon to share her personal experience with kink play, polyamory, and energy orgasms. She shares a short erotic story (The Dec...

Amazing Anal & Prostate Play

17 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Author & Sex Educator Carlyle Jansen joins us to discuss anal sex, prostate pleasure and sex toys. Carlyle shares her insights and tips regarding: ...

Specific Strategies for Talking to Teens About Sex, Sexting & More

10 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Author and sex education expert, Dr. Karen Rayne is a wealth of information and has developed specific and actionable strategies to help you talk to ...

Sexual Values Questionnaire Part II

03 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Jess & Brandon complete the Sexual Values Questionnaire and continue learning about themselves and one another. They discuss how they feel about the p...

How to Better Understand Your Sexual Values (And Your Partner’s)

27 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we use the Sexual Values Questionnaire to explore our own sexual values. Brandon shares his experiences learning about sex and gender...

The Most Common Couple Fights & How to Manage Conflict This Holiday Season

20 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What are the most common issues couples fight about? How can you argue less and effectively manage conflict? How do you find middle ground when it com...

Full-Body Orgasms & How to Be Grounded in Your Body

13 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

M'kali-Hashiki has a complex sexual history including personal experience with polyamory, non-monogamy, BDSM, and achieving mystical states during sex...

Fat Sex, Topping & Bottoming and How To Be a Dominant in Bed

06 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nikki DaVaughn joins Jess to share insights on Domination, dirty talk, fat sex and body confidence. We cover: Scripts you can use if you want to...

Learning to Love Yourself — Especially When Dealing With Loss, Grief & Shame

29 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Ava Cadell shares her journey from growing up in an orphanage and surviving assault to working as a nude model and becoming one of the most well-k...

Holiday Kink, Rewiring the Brain, ABDL & Setting Boundaries

22 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Licensed therapist Carlos Cavazos is a firecracker and an incredible source of insights and easy-to-use advice for more fulfilling relationships and ...

How the “Passion Interview” Can Improve Your Relationship

15 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The Passion Interview is a tool used for couples to spark passion, improve understanding, and deepen intimacy. It’s designed to shift the conversati...

In(Compatibility): When You Want an Open Relationship & Your Partner Doesn’t

08 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How do you approach your partner about an open relationship? What do you do if one partner wants monogamy and the other wants consensual non-monogamy?...

Sex & Disability – A Personal Journey

01 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How do we define disability inclusively? How does disability affect sex and relationships? And why should we consider incontinence a public health iss...

How Does ADHD Affect Sex & Relationships?

25 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How does ADHD affect sex, communication and intimate relationships? How do you break break the “parent-child” dynamic in relationships so you can ...

Expand Pleasure, Navigate Trauma, Manage Anxiety & Have More Fulfilling Relationships

18 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Interdisciplinary sex therapist, Jamila M. Dawson, joins Jess and Brandon in to discuss how sexual pleasure can be part of healing from trauma, the el...

Porn as Activism, Fetishes & Parenthood As a Porn Star

11 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Porn performer and Master Fetish Trainer, King Noire, joins Jess and Brandon to share his story as a community activist, porn star, hip hop artist and...

Touchless Orgasms

04 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Nikki Morgan shares insights to help you consider new ways to approach orgasm using your breath, movements, thoughts and more. She discusses ways to s...

PechaKucha: Kink & BDSM with Honestly Nae

27 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How do you practice safe, sane, consensual kink “in color”? What is fire-play? How do you navigate master-slave relationships? And how do you unde...

Jet Setting Jasmine: Mother, Porn Performer, Director & Licensed Therapist

20 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jet Setting Jasmine is a licensed clinical therapist, co-owner of Royal Fetish Films (an adult film production company), and an adult entertainer. She...

How to Deal With Insecurities, Neediness and Apologies

13 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Sex therapist Shamyra Howard joins Jess to talk about how to have happier relationships — with yourself, family, friends and partner(s). She talks ...

How to Have Happier Relationships: JODO, Boundaries, & 5 Questions to Keep You On Track

06 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Austin-based sex therapist, Adam Maurer, joins Jess to share straightforward insights for happier relationships. They discuss JODO, setting boundaries...

Overcome Sexual Fear, Open Up and Share Deeper Intimacy

30 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jess discusses emotional vulnerability, sexual shame, strategies for discussing sexual needs, why some people cheat and the Madonna/whore dichotomy wi...

Technoference & Cheating

23 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How can you reduce the negative effects of technology on your relationship? And how can you move on and rebuild after you’ve cheated on your partner...

Sex & Intimacy After a Baby – Insights From A New Dad

16 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Our old friend Mikey Singer joins us to talk about how to prioritize intimacy and sex after you’ve had a baby. Parenthood changes the household dyna...

Overcome Sexual Repression

09 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

  We’re grateful for your support and we appreciate you. If you’re shopping for products to help you feel more connected, confident, or curiou...

Bringing Fantasy to Reality: Public Sex

02 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jess & Brandon address a listener who wants to “convince” his wife to fulfill his fantasy. They discuss the appeal of public sex and how you can b...

Emotional Literacy & How to Handle Rejection

26 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Karen B.K. Chan, joins Jess and Brandon on the podcast to discuss rejection. How can we manage rejection? And when we feel rejected, how can we embrac...

Sex & Pleasure After Sexual Assault

19 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Julie Peters, author of Want: 8 Steps to Recovering Desire, Passion, and Pleasure After Sexual Assault, shares her insights regarding recovery and the...

Dr. Donaghue on Toxic Monogamy, Body Neutrality & Erectile Disappointment

12 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Loveline's host, Dr. Chris Donaghue joins Jess and Brandon to share insights from his latest book, Rebel Love: Break The Rules, Destroy Toxic Habits a...

What We Fight About & 3 Ways We Resolve Arguments

05 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we talk about a fight we had the other day and our top three strategies for resolving conflict in our marriage. We also discuss Airpo...

How to Prepare For Marriage, Get Over an Ex and Repair a “Broken Relationship”

28 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon weigh in on listener questions related to breakups, rough patches, managing jealousy in the age of social media and wedding planning ...

Dating, Confidence, & Sex Appeal – A Burlesque Dancer’s Perspective

21 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Burlesque sensation, Pastel Supernova, joins Jess and Brandon to talk about her experiences with dating, love and relationships. She shares insights ...

Foot Fetishes, Sex Smells, Dating Profiles & Creating Relationship “Distance”

18 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we develop fetishes and how can you talk to your partner about a fetish? How can you discuss spending time apart with a new partner after you’...

Emotional (Un)availability: How to Get Your Partner to Open Up

07 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon discuss what emotional unavailability might look like and they challenge the “fix-it” mentality. They share specific strategies f...

Help! I Can’t Orgasm With My Partner

31 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon respond to a listener who can orgasm on her own, but not with her partner. They share tips, insights, personal stories as well as pra...

Vaginismus: Painful Sex

24 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What are the causes, symptoms and treatment options for Vaginismus? Jess shares resources and chats with her friend Meredith who shares her story of s...

How To Talk To Your Kids About Porn

17 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon talk about celebrity relationships (again!). Then Nadine Thornhill joins them to share practical advice on how to talk to your kids a...

Why We All Seek Attention & Feel Insecure: The Ayesha & Steph Curry Case

10 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a partner who craves attention? Do you love getting attention? How do you feel when your partner gets attention from outside sources? Jess...

Ambiamory, Polyamory, Open Relationships

03 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Are you monogamous? Consensually non-monogamous? Ambiamorous? Polyamorous? Have you explored all of your options? And what can you learn from relation...

Here’s How Diet, Sleep, Superfoods and Lifestyle Choices Affect Your Libido

26 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Naturopathic doctor, Dr. Olivia Rose, shares insights on how diet, supplements, herbs, acupuncture and sleep affect your sex drive and overall hea...

Defensive Partners, Toxic Relationships, Shrinkage and Porn Habits

18 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How do you deal with a defensive partner? How do you manage a partner who lashes out in arguments? Is shrinkage real? What are some signs of a toxic r...

Body Language in Dating & Mating

12 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How should you adjust your body language during an argument with your partner? What strategies can we use to become active listeners? What role does b...

Sex Q&A: Anal, Hot-Wifing, Sexless Marriages & Much More

05 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon answer your questions: Is it normal to want your wife to be a hot-wife? Should I use an enema before anal? What should I do if I can’...

38 Sex Questions Answered

29 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

  It’s our 100th episode! We’re answering rapid-fire questions on everything from jealousy, uneven breasts, and birth control to penis flavour...

Sex Dolls, Semen, Squirting and Nervousness

22 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Jess and Brandon answer listener questions about swallowing, squirting, nervousness, physical affection and sex dolls. Today we’re talking ph...

Dating Advice with Dr. Donna

15 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How much should appearance matter in dating? How do you overcome fears of rejection and develop high self-worth? How do we address racism, colorism an...

Blow Jobs, Crushes, Sex Education & Cheating Clauses

08 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How important is oral sex? Is it okay to have a crush on a co-worker if I’m married? Are ‘cheating clauses’ healthy for relationships? How do I ...

Sex-Positive Parenting & How To Talk To Your Kids About Porn

01 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How do you talk to your kids about porn? How do you teach consent from a young age? How do you have awkward conversations about sex? What does it mean...

Sex & Dating With Herpes

22 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Courtney Brame joins Jess and Brandon to talk about sex, relationships and dating after an STI diagnosis. He shares insights on how to disclose, provi...

Dating Dilemma

08 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What should you do if your partner says one thing, but does another? How do you talk about the fact that they're avoiding sex? How do you address soci...

Celebrity Relationship Advice – Good, Bad & Ugly

01 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Steve Harvey says you should act like a lady & think like a man. Taylor Swift suggests playing games. Jada Pinkett-Smith says she’s nobody’s watch...

Getting Naked For Love!

18 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you love your body? Loving your body is a radical statement in a culture and economy that feeds on body insecurity. Dr. Jess and Brandon want you t...

How To Use Gratitude To Improve Relationships

14 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon discuss how they’re feeling in light of their dog’s cancer diagnosis and talk about the role gratitude plays in their lives and r...

Listener Questions on Hygiene, Sexual Compatibility & How to Be the *Best* He’s Ever Had

04 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How can I ensure I’m the BEST he’s ever had? How do we know if we’re sexually compatible? How do I bring up hygiene before oral sex? How can I m...

The Best Gift Ever (For Your Lover)

21 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon talk about love languages, the holidays and their reaction to “You May Want To Marry My Husband”. They also share the dating prof...

Holiday Harmony Tips

14 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon answer listener questions about how to have a happier relationship this holiday season. This podcast is brought to you by Desire ...

Touch-Workshops, Couples “Cruising” and an Alternative View of Swinging

07 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

They sold everything and moved to Mexico. They’ve touched over 6000 people. And they’ve been swingers from the start. Lauren and Richard, from the...

Q&A with the Relationship Nurse

30 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

LaDonna Wright, creator of the adult game, Secret VII, joins Jess to address relationships and sexual health questions. Secret VII can be purchased...

Adult Film Star Kendra Lust on Confidence & Modern Relationships

23 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Former Registered Nurse and Award-Winning Adult Film Star Kendra Lust shares insights and lessons on sexual confidence, working in porn, and how to ha...

Sex & Cannabis

16 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you curious about sex and cannabis? Do you understand between the difference between THC and CBD? And did you know that you can experience cannabi...

A Glimpse Into Jess & Brandon’s Relationship – Part II

09 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon continue the “partner interview” and share details about their greatest fears, fondest memories, where they hope to be in ten yea...

A Glimpse Into Jess and Brandon’s Relationship – Part I

02 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon interview one another in an attempt to better understand their own relationship. They talk about their initial attraction and what th...

All About Polyamory

26 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Is polyamory on the rise? Are throuples the new norm? And what’s the difference between polyfidelity, non-hierarchical polyamory, and relationship ...

Face-Sitting 101

19 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Dee H. Black & Ladyee Vee join Jess in Atlanta to talk about their interactive Face-Sitting workshops. They share tips and techniques for this powerfu...

Secrets of a Phone Sex Operator

12 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Sex educator Domina Franco, a former semi-pro wrestler and phone sex operator, joins Jess and Brandon at The Sex Expo in Brooklyn. They discuss phone ...

Killing Kittens Sex Party

05 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you curious about sex parties? What can you expect from a woman-focused sex party experience? Do you have to get naked and/or have sex? And what’...

Getting Kinky With Bex

28 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

What is kinky sex? What goes down at kink camp? And how can you kink up your sex life? Bex Caputo joins Jess and Brandon to share his experience, insi...

A Bisexual Couple’s Story

21 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Bisexuality, Double Standards & The Lifestyle: A Couple’s Story Thank you for supporting our work by using our discount code DRJESSVIP when shoppi...

All About Tantra (Bringing Dr. Jess to Tears)

14 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Amina Peterson joins Jess to discuss the practice and philosophy of tantra. What is tantric breathing and meditation? How can a body scan improve your...

Sexuality & Gender Terms Defined

07 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Pansexual. Cisgender. Sapiosexual. Gender Queer. Gender Fluid. Agender. Aromantic. Demisexual. Gender Non-confirming. Transgender. Award-winning activ...

What Can We Learn From Celebrity Relationships?

31 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are on-again-off-again relationships healthy? How can we break bad relationship habits? How do you recover after cheating? And how do you know if your...

All About Anal

24 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

All About Anal Play: Pleasure, Prep & Pro Tips If you’re interested in anal sex facts and curious about the butt and its potential for pleasure, tu...

How to be Happy After 51 Years of Marriage

17 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Uncle Mike (Captain Lyn - @lyn.mike) joins Jess and Brandon to share his insights on marriage after 51+ years. Have a listen! With age comes wisdom an...

How to Talk About Sex, Sex Webcams & More!

10 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess & Brandon model a “how-to-talk-about-sex” conversation in response to a listener’s question — they share their unprepared responses on th...

Single Girl Problems

03 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Single? Dating? Coupled? Whatever your relationship status, it’s time to take responsibility for your own happiness. Andrea Bain, host of the “Sin...

Online Infidelity

27 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon share their insights on what constitutes online cheating and how to handle disagreements about chatting with exes and others online. ...

Sex Q&A: How to Get Your Partner to Open Up, How to Manage Mismatched Libidos, Anal Sex & More!

20 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon team up to answer listener questions about anal sex, discrepancies in desire, how to get your partner to talk about fantasies and mor...

Why We Misread Our Partners & What We Can Do About It

13 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Liz Powell joins Jess and Brandon to discuss how “hot thoughts” sabotage relationships. They also discuss friendships, gender roles and share ...

What Do Your Neighbors Fantasize About?

06 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you curious about your friends, co-workers and neighbors’ fantasies? Of course you are! Dr. Justin Lehmiller was curious too, so he asked over 4...

Stop Looking For A Soulmate!

29 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess & Brandon talk about how the soulmate myth is bad for dating and relationships. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts.

Digisexuals, Teledildonics, Relationship Anarchy and More

22 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Markie Twist (sex therapist) & Professor Neil McArthur (ethicist) join Jess to discuss various relationship arrangements including relationship an...

How Do I *Convince* My Partner to Swing?

15 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Jess and Dr. Nancy join forces to answer the question, “how do I convince my partner to swing?”. The short answer is that you don’t conv...

Q&A: Affair Sex. Sexual Fantasies. Healing After Cheating

10 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Should I have sex with a married woman? How do I get my partner to open up about fantasies? Once a cheater, always a cheater? Jess (and Brandon) answe...

How To Dirty Talk Like A Pro

25 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Jess invites professional sex educator (and professional pervert), Carly S., to the podcast. The pair discuss why dirty talk is such an imp...

Sexual Dry Spells & Male Sex Myths

18 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon chat about their current sexual dry spell and male sex myths. Brandon opens up about some personal concerns and Jess comments on rece...

“In-Between” Relationships & Why You Should Talk About Cheating

11 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

What can we learn from Tristan Thompson & Khloe Kardashian’s cheating challenges? Why do we stay with partners who cheat? And what conversations are...

Clothing Optional Cruising!

04 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess & Brandon are in Italy aboard the @DesireResorts Cruise - a clothing optional experience for open-minded couples. Tune in to learn more about t...

Advice from a Dominatrix

27 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Goddess Lola Jean joins Jess on the podcast this week. Lola shares her perspective on life as a pro and lifestyle dom, and fetish wrestler. She also g...

How Professional Success Affects Relationships

20 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Winning an Oscar triples your chances of getting divorced. And though you may not be in the running for an Academy Award, your personal and profession...

How to Seduce Your Lover

13 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want to seduce your lover with confidence and finesse? Marla Stewart can help. She joins Jess to talk about the “Seduction Learning Approach"...

Let’s Talk Threesomes!

06 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Luna Matatas joins Jess to talk about threesomes. From how to snag a unicorn to how to navigate those awkward moments, we’ve got you covered. Fol...

How A Pelvic Floor Therapist Can Change Your Life!

30 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Do you pee when you laugh? Is sex sometimes painful or uncomfortable? Is orgasm rather elusive? A pelvic floor therapist might be able to help with th...

How to Manage Insecurity in Relationships

23 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel insecure with your partner at times? We all do. Brandon and Jess team up once again to share personal experiences and anecdotes about how ...

Jess & Brandon Answer Sex & Relationship Questions

16 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

How do you prioritize sex? How do I stop myself from starting fights when I’m on my period? How can I get my partner to be more romantic? And would ...

How to Feel More Confident in the Bedroom

09 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The Princess of Porn, Tasha Reign, joins Jess this week to discuss sexual confidence and reflect on her experience as an adult actress. She shares her...

Sex, Dating & Relationship Questions & Answers

02 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

How do you get over your partner’s sexual past? What is 'Ski-Poling’? How can you ensure that your family likes your new partner? And what should ...

Sex & Depression

23 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess is joined by licensed psychotherapist Miyume McKinley who answers listener questions about sex and depression. Tune in for insights on how to ta...

Amateur Porn Star, Harper The Fox, Talks Camming, Porn & Real Sex

16 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jess is joined by the brilliant and funny amateur porn star, Harper The Fox. Harper is a digital entrepreneur whose unedited sex tapes feature her hav...