Sexy Marriage Radio
Episodes
Episode 75: High and low isn’t gender specific
27 Mar 2013
Contributed by Lukas
There are lots of marriages where the man is the high desire partner for sex. BUT, this isn’t always the case. Being the high desire is not gender s...
Episode 74: Going from good to great
20 Mar 2013
Contributed by Lukas
Many of our shows are aimed at those experiencing issues or struggles in marriage. Not today. Today we’re talking about what it takes to move a good...
Episode 73: Orbiters in Crisis
13 Mar 2013
Contributed by Lukas
Whenever there’s a crisis in marriage, it’s common that one spouse becomes an orbiter of the other. While this is an understandable reaction, it’...
Episode 72: Worse before better
06 Mar 2013
Contributed by Lukas
Relationships evolve slowly over time. They ebb and they flow. But what about when you want things to get better? Do they get worse before they get be...
Episode 71: My Spouse’s Happiness Committee
27 Feb 2013
Contributed by Lukas
What do I do when my spouse won’t accept my compliments or statements about how good I think they look? Then their rejections squash my desire. Th...
Episode 70: When pressure leads to aversion
20 Feb 2013
Contributed by Lukas
Help, my wife has an aversion to sex so there’s little to no sex happening. And during the times in between, she thinks everything I do is about sex...
Episode 69: All Things Being Equal
13 Feb 2013
Contributed by Lukas
Several years ago research showed the importance of equality in marriage. That housework and roles to make a relationship work should be equal. Now ...
Episode 68: Help when my spouse isn’t interested
06 Feb 2013
Contributed by Lukas
There are times in married life where one spouse wants to address an issue or problem in the marriage and the other isn’t interested. This can be fr...
Episode 67: The Stages of Sex
30 Jan 2013
Contributed by Lukas
Expectations can ruin sex. In this episode Gina and I cover the differences between genders and our expectations for sex. Show topics: Differences bet...
Episode 66: Give Me Some Space
23 Jan 2013
Contributed by Lukas
There are many times in married life when you are too close to your spouse for too long. The saying is, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” And...
Episode 65: Sex and Chronic Illness
16 Jan 2013
Contributed by Lukas
Life is struggle. Stress, tragedy, and illness are bound to occur. And when it does, it impacts almost all areas of life. So what are some way to addr...
Episode 64: Dealing with expectations
09 Jan 2013
Contributed by Lukas
Expectations run rampant in marriage. Whether that be in roles, schedules, responsibilities or sex. Expectations really can ruin things. That’s wh...
Episode 63: My spouse may think I’m perverted
26 Dec 2012
Contributed by Lukas
I want to spice up our routine sex life. It’s good, and it’s gets the job done, but I want to add something else. How do I speak up about this whe...
Episode 62: Getting in the zone for lovers
19 Dec 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Anxiety is all around us. It also gets in the way of many things both in and out of the bedroom. That’s what this episode is all about. Show topics:...
Episode 61: I’m raring to go, she’s not
12 Dec 2012
Contributed by Lukas
There are times when one of you is turned on and raring to go … and at the exact same time your spouse is so far from that place. What can you do du...
Episode 60: Physical Attraction Issues
05 Dec 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Help! I don’t find my spouse physically attractive. Can I bring up the idea of plastic surgery for them? That’s what this episode is all about. Sh...
Episode 59: How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex
28 Nov 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Sex is a topic filled with anxiety, especially when you’re talking about it with your kids. But, it’s vital that parents talk about it with them. ...
Episode 58: Am I crazy?
14 Nov 2012
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you do all the “right” things for your marriage (and spouse) yet the results you’re looking for don’t follow? It’s enough ...
Episode 57: Thoughts For The Erotically Challenged
07 Nov 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Eroticism is something some people fear. At the very least, it carries with it some levels of discomfort … that’s what makes it erotic. So how can...
Episode 56: When sex is work
01 Nov 2012
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve done shows where we discuss high desire and low desire differences. But what about when one spouse simply can’t get in to sex and that puts ...
Episode 55: Past pain impacting present pleasure
24 Oct 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Pain from out past can easily impact our present. Especially in sex. Sexual pain, shame, guilt and frustration can dramatically decrease our present e...
Episode 54: Performance anxiety
10 Oct 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Ever had times when worry and anxiety derailed your sex life? What about when worry destroys any hope of reaching climax or even the ability to perfor...
Episode 53: Help for those hurting
26 Sep 2012
Contributed by Lukas
I’m struggling in my marriage, should I give up? That’s what this episode is all about. Show topics: Be honest Speak up Fight for it! __________ G...
Episode 52: Givers and takers
19 Sep 2012
Contributed by Lukas
There are both givers and takers in life. And sex. Sometimes, it’s the same person. That’s what this episode is all about. Show topics: Being a gi...
Episode 51: Can men and women be friends
12 Sep 2012
Contributed by Lukas
The basic question is this: Can men and women be friends? That’s what this episode is all about. Show topics: Importance of boundaries Differences b...
Episode 50: Thoughts for the young and old
05 Sep 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Is there any advice you guys have for those who are engaged or dating? What about the other end of the spectrum and thoughts for those of us experienc...
Episode 49: Q&A Potpourri
29 Aug 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Our inbox filled up over the past couple of weeks. In this episode it’s all about answering your questions. Show topics: How can I get my spouse to ...
Episode 48: Stress and sex
15 Aug 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Stress. It’s everywhere. What impact does stress have on sex? Marriage? And how can we stay connected in the midst of chronic stress? That’s what ...
Episode 47: Passionate, but sexually frustrated
08 Aug 2012
Contributed by Lukas
There are many passionate people. There are also many sexually frustrated people. What happens when this is the same person? That’s what we discuss ...
Episode 46: High desire wife, low desire husband
01 Aug 2012
Contributed by Lukas
There will always be a high desire and a low desire when it comes to sex (actually with every topic). Typically, the high desire spouse is the husband...
Episode 45: Self Image and Sex
25 Jul 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Life involves change. And no where does change impact us more than in our body image/self image. So how do you handle it when you’ve added a few pou...
Episode 44: When Your Spouse Won’t Go Down
18 Jul 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Oral sex. It can be a great part of foreplay, or even the main event. But what about when one spouse wants it and the other doesn’t? Or when you’r...
Episode 43: Does routine mean boring?
11 Jul 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Editor’s Note: There’s an issue with the master audio of this show – the last couple of minutes are missing. Sorry for this issue. Our last show...
Episode 42: Help, my spouse says I’m boring
04 Jul 2012
Contributed by Lukas
We all fall into routines. And many people struggle with the do what worked last time philosophy. But what do you do when all of this combines into b...
Episode 41: How Integrity Can Improve Sex
27 Jun 2012
Contributed by Lukas
There is one thing that drives all our lives. One thing that draws lines in the sand and boundaries for what we’ll tolerate. Integrity. Put another ...
Episode 40: Moving From Roommates to Lovers Again
20 Jun 2012
Contributed by Lukas
There are inevitable ebbs and flows in marriage. It is also possible that the relationship can evolve to where you’re more like roommates than lover...
Episode 39: Dealing with guilt about sex
13 Jun 2012
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we answer a listener email. How do you address lingering guilt feelings regarding sex. Plus, masturbation – right or wrong? Enjoy. _...
Episode 38: Is Unconditional Love in Marriage a Myth?
06 Jun 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Many people long for unconditional love and believe it’s part of what makes a marriage great. But is it possible? Is it even realistic? Or is it re...
Episode 37: What I wish I knew about sex and marriage beforehand
30 May 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Some things in life you can’t really know about until you experience them. Marriage and sex both fit in this category. So, after having now experien...
Episode 36: Sex Tips for the Shy Wife and the Nice Guy
23 May 2012
Contributed by Lukas
There are many people who don’t consider themselves outgoing or adventurous when it comes to sex and eroticism. These aren’t those with very littl...
Episode 35: Sex and kids
16 May 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone knows that a result of sex can be children, at least I hope everyone knows this. If not, we need to talk. What do you do when the subject of ...
Episode 34: Expectations and selfishness
09 May 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Every one of us have some sort of expectations. But do these expectations really help us? Or our relationships? And, every one of us is selfish in som...
Episode 33: How to increase your sexual confidence
02 May 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Confidence is one of the best predictors of great sex. Even great lives. But not all of us are born feeling confident about ourselves, our abilities, ...
Episode 32: Help! Sex is over too fast
25 Apr 2012
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve covered many topics on sex thus far – desire differences, fantasies, female orgasms, arousal, being sexy, and on and on. Sex is something ma...
Episode 31: Expecting sex simply because you’re married
18 Apr 2012
Contributed by Lukas
The main difference between a marriage relationship and all our other relationships is sex. But the other side of this topic, just because you’re ma...
Episode 30: Q&A, Sex toys, Dirty Talk, Fantasies
11 Apr 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Since the beginning of Sexy Marriage Radio there has been a regular stream of emails. Many of the questions are fuel for our shows, and some of them w...
Episode 29: Leading and Following in Sex and Marriage
04 Apr 2012
Contributed by Lukas
It seems in every area of life and marriage there’s a leader and a follower. In this episode Gina and I discuss the importance of playing each role,...
Episode 28: The un-arouseable spouse
28 Mar 2012
Contributed by Lukas
There is always a high desire and low desire spouse in every relationship, and in every topic within the relationship. So what about times when the lo...
Episode 27: Add spice to the routine of sex
21 Mar 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Humans are routine oriented creatures. We discover what works, then we often repeat the process. The problem with this, what happens when we do this w...
Episode 26: Gender Roles
14 Mar 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone has different roles they play in life. How much of the role is based on your gender? And is the idea of gender roles out-dated? Hear more abo...
Episode 25: De-compartmentalizing Sex
06 Mar 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Sex is a part of life. But it may also be seen as just a part of your life. What if it was seamlessly integrated into your entire life? That’s wha...
Episode 24: Great Sex But Bad Connection
28 Feb 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Is it possible to have great sex in your marriage but bad connection outside the bedroom? That’s what we discuss in this episode. Show topics: What ...
Episode 23: Marriage Help Gone Bad
22 Feb 2012
Contributed by Lukas
We offer a lot of ideas, tips and suggestions that will help create a better sex life … and marriage. Much of what we discuss is simple to understan...
Episode 22: Mistakes men make in sex
14 Feb 2012
Contributed by Lukas
So women aren’t the only ones who make mistakes in sex. Men do as well. And this show we cover most of them. Show topics: Importance of confidence S...
Episode 21: Mistakes women make in sex
07 Feb 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s face it, we all make mistakes. Even mistakes in sex. So rather than talking generalities, let’s just pick on the women. That’s what we do ...
Episode 20: Sexy Marriage Moves
31 Jan 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Looking for some sexy moves that will increase the sexiness in your marriage? Look no further than today’s show. Show topics: Fantasies 10-second ki...
Episode 19: What’s Your Sexual Legacy?
25 Jan 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Let me ask you this: What does your marriage teach your children? What did your parents marriage teach you? How does your sex life impact your family?...
Episode 18: How to Handle Feeling Powerless
18 Jan 2012
Contributed by Lukas
The simple truth is that every marriage has a high desire partner and a low desire partner. One spouse will want sex more than the other. This dynamic...
Episode 17: Keep your pants on
13 Jan 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to a Bonus Episode of Sexy Marriage Radio. Today’s show includes an interview with Kelly Chicas, author of Keep Your Pants On: Preventing In...
Episode 16: Sexual Mood Swings
11 Jan 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone has mood swings. One day you wake up with tons of energy, other days not so much. The same thing applies to sex. Sometimes you’re all jazze...
Episode 15: Masturbation and marriage
04 Jan 2012
Contributed by Lukas
Sex in marriage is a great thing, we think it’s the place where the best sex happens. But what do you do when one partner isn’t interested and you...
Episode 14: How to SCORE!
28 Dec 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Ready for 2012? After listening to this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, you’ll be ready to SCORE! Have a great New Year! __________ Got a question? ...
Episode 13: Mercy Sex and Marriage
21 Dec 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Sex in marriage is a great thing, we think it’s the place where the best sex happens. But what about times when sex falls into the category of mercy...
Episode 12: Female Orgasm: Unlocking the Mystery
14 Dec 2011
Contributed by Lukas
While we have been advocates of great sex and great marriages, we have often talked beyond technique and skills. Not today. In today’s show we explo...
Episode 11: In one ear, out the other
07 Dec 2011
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when both members of the marriage listen to our show, but one spouse simply doesn’t implement anything we discuss? Put another way, S...
Episode 10: Don’t just have sex, be sexual
30 Nov 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone has sex, or at least has had sex. But what if you moved beyond just having sex and were more sexual? That’s our show today. Show topics: Cr...
Episode 9: How to not be bored in bed
22 Nov 2011
Contributed by Lukas
What is it that makes some sexual encounters “through the roof” and others just okay? That’s our show today. Show topics: How to set a better mo...
Episode 8: Turn up your sexual energy
16 Nov 2011
Contributed by Lukas
According to the listeners of SMR, sexual desire and attraction are important topics to explore – especially when there are problems in this area of...
Episode 7: Listener Q&A
09 Nov 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Sexy Marriage Radio is a month old and we are absolutely loving this show! Hope you are as well! But what we love more than recording the show is hear...
Episode 6: How to be more attracted to your spouse
02 Nov 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Throughout the course of a marriage, attraction may ebb and flow. Part of this is natural as we each evolve and change. But what do you do when it goe...
Episode 5: Loosening up and being aroused
26 Oct 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Show topics: Listener questions from the feedback line How to be more engaged and aroused during sex Is it mental, physical, or both? _________ Got so...
Episode 4: Tips for initiating sex
19 Oct 2011
Contributed by Lukas
A continuation of our last show, should you ask for or initiate sex. Last time we covered the what and the why, this time we cover the how. Show topic...
Episode 3: To ask or initiate
12 Oct 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Show topics: If you’re interested in sex, should you ask or initiate? Different meanings placed on sex High and low desire differences ________ Got ...
Episode 2: Differences in desire
23 Sep 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Show topics: What to do with differences in desire in marriage Tips to use to improve your sex life Anxiety’s role in life and love In today’s sho...
Episode 1: Why Sexy Marriage Radio
17 Aug 2011
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to Sexy Marriage Radio. Show topics: Why there’s a need for Sexy Marriage Radio. Who are we What we hope to accomplish Listen to Sexy Marria...