shift happens | personal growth, self-reflection, and stories that shift your perspective
Episodes
EP 70 | shift happens. saying goodbye
18 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 69 | when the ladder isn’t the life w/ lindsay yellin
11 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 68 | let's talk menopause (+ it's connection to entrepreneurship?) w/ kelly hill
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 67 | everything washed away (twice) and honestly? that’s when the real shift happened w/ Sass Schaeffer, Head Coach of Team Positive
20 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 66 | listen… you can dodge the mirror all you want, but the bill always shows up.
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 65 | "speak from your scars, not your wounds" a conversation with judy esteves
13 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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the one where i actually practice what i preach (a quick update + a reminder for you too)
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 64 | from meds to mediumship: kat’s shift story
06 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 63 | if you met you today, would you be inspired or annoyed? the truth about your growth era.
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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you’ve been haunting yourself 👻 SHIFT STARTER 64 halloween special
31 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 62 | dogs. healing. and the wildest awakening story i’ve ever heard w/ heatherleigh strom
30 Oct 2025
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EP 61 | for shelbi🪽
28 Oct 2025
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EP 60 | love your people, embrace change. mickie murphy’s story of resilience
23 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 59 | jessica maren breaks down what neuroplasticity really means in real life
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
did this episode hit home? click here to send us a text, and you might hear your name!🤍resilience isn’t just a mindset... it’s science. in this...
EP58 | it was time for a heart to heart... let's chat.
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 57 | booze, blow, and pancakes breaking free from the masks we wear w/ yvette salva
09 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
did this episode hit home? click here to send us a text, and you might hear your name!🤍WATCH THE VISUAL VERSION HEREwhat happens when the life you’...
EP 56 | why motivation sucks (and what actually works)
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 55 | fear is normal, hiding from it isn’t w/ mary poffenroth, ph.d. + OUR FIRST VISUAL EP🥳
02 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
did this episode hit home? click here to send us a text, and you might hear your name!🤍fear shows up for everyone. it whispers, it paralyzes, it ke...
EP 54 | the postpartum conversation every mom needs to hear w/ keerthi karnati
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 53 | when you don’t get a choice but to sink or swim w/ ronda marsh
25 Sep 2025
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EP 52 | miscarriage, motherhood, and turning shattered pieces into something beautiful w/ khrystyne jaspers
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 51 | choosing peace over the courtroom: how one mom walked away from a decade of legal warfare
19 Sep 2025
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EP 50 | motherhood isn’t what they promised: cheyenne tells it like it is👀
18 Sep 2025
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EP 49 | the other mother... what coparenting ACTUALLY looks like in 2025 with my kiddos' stepmom👀
16 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP48 | the truth about teen motherhood no one talks about w/ deatriz (dee)🤰🏻
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP47 | how do you grieve when you still have to make dinner? w/ emily mcvey
11 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
did this episode hit home? click here to send us a text, and you might hear your name!🤍grief doesn’t clock out when you become a parent. in this ...
EP 46 | one woman’s story through the spectrum of motherhood emotions we’re taught to hide w/ the honorable minister dr.martine monroe
10 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP45 | for the moms who are trying to hold the house, the healing, and the business together w/ krystal casey❤️🩹
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 44 | motherhood is both beautiful and brutal (and if we only talk about one side, we’re lying👀)
08 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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EP 43 | leaving the 9–5 to actually live. how kathryne labella bet on herself and won💸
05 Sep 2025
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EP42 | elicia ybarra on why self-defense isn’t what you think👊🏻
04 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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ep 41 | this perspective might change your whole parenting game w/ libby azzarello💭
03 Sep 2025
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EP 40 | if you’ve never heard of a peacock parent before… you will after this ep w/ christine landis🦚
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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WELCOME TO THE MONTH OF MOTHERHOOD🥳
01 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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SUMMER CLOSER shift happens IRL | the art of falling up w/ darci l. graves | EP39
28 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
did this episode hit home? click here to send us a text, and you might hear your name!🤍sometimes life just hits. hard. cancer, loss, heartbreak, bu...
shift happens IRL: life just hit an unexpected note...now what? w/ paola zamora | EP38
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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shift happens IRL: she went abroad to act, left with a story nobody expected w/ kelli chu | EP37
21 Aug 2025
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shift happens IRL: the mirror inside… healing the wounds no one could see w/ jessica farrugia burke | EP36
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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shift happens IRL: three breakups, three bankruptcies, zero regrets w/ AmyNicole Ellis | EP35
14 Aug 2025
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shift happens IRL: "you're not broken, you're becoming." the power of the messy middle w/ christina lott | EP34
12 Aug 2025
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shift happens IRL: what do you do when life wipes the board clean? 5 truths that’ll shift your perspective w/ dr. lynda namey | EP33
07 Aug 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 63 | hustle culture distracts you from asking the hard questions
06 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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shift happens IRL: “from meek to me” + the pivotal transformations that got her there w/ katie | EP32
05 Aug 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 62 | the brutal truth about “just be yourself” + what i want you to do instead
04 Aug 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 61 | how to stop your mind from being your worst enemy
01 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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shift happens IRL: when the old you can’t come back, who do you become? (+ the surprising tool that got her through identity shattering moments… yes plural) w/ cindy rowe | EP31
31 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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SHIFT STARTER 60 | how “fake it till you make it” is killing your authenticity👀
30 Jul 2025
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shift happens IRL: the moment you realize your “prescribed life” is a lie w/ katy ripp | EP30
29 Jul 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 59 | what if the version of you you’re defending… is the one that’s been holding you back?
28 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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SHIFT STARTER 58 | who are you trying to save... and what part of you feels responsible for their chaos?
25 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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shift happens IRL: how a family doc cracked the code on healing beyond medicine w/ elisa peavey, DO | EP29
24 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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SHIFT STARTER 57 | what if you finally stopped romanticizing the hard way?
23 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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shift happens IRL: what if the nudge you keep ignoring is your soul trying to save you? w/ carisa clark | EP28
22 Jul 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 56 | what if closure is just your ego begging for a prettier ending?
21 Jul 2025
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shift happens IRL: when the child you love disappears. the brutal truth of estrangement w/ heidy | EP27
17 Jul 2025
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shift happens IRL: how to lead yourself when life’s been a war zone w/ veronica taylor | EP26
15 Jul 2025
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surprise drop👀 the mirror doesn’t lie (and neither do i)
12 Jul 2025
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shift happens IRL: from fashion to fulfillment - how to own your environment (inside and out) w/ renee murphy | EP25
10 Jul 2025
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shift happens IRL: what happens when the road ahead is nothing but darkness? w/ jenn bethune | EP24
08 Jul 2025
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honestly? this might be the best mistake i’ve ever made…👀
05 Jul 2025
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ep 23 | we know her as the author of veil of eden, but this is the real story of andra larkin
03 Jul 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 55 | what are you waiting for...a breakdown or a breakthrough?
28 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 54 | what shift are you stalling because it would expose your own self-abandonment?
27 Jun 2025
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ep 22 | we all know SHIFT happens... but what about when SPLIT happens? interview w/ divorce coach naomi cao
26 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 53 | if you tracked your time like your money, would it show investment or debt?
25 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 52 | who are you without the story of being the hurt one? and does that scare you?
24 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 51 | what part of your truth have you edited so often, you don’t even recognize it anymore?
23 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 50 | what would happen if you treated your goals like promises you owe yourself (not just ideas)?
21 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 49 | emotions you bury alive don’t die... they just control your decisions from the basement.
20 Jun 2025
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ep 21 | “is the weight you’re lifting heavier than the weight on your shoulders?” guest ep w/ caroline thao
19 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 48 | are you making decisions based on what you want, or what you want to avoid?
18 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 47 | what part of your past are you still letting run your present like a ghost?
17 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 46 | what if the "bad days" are just the price you pay for real change?
16 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 45 | what’s it gonna be? a move? or just another lap around your own thoughts?
16 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 44 | how many times are you gonna hit the same wall before you admit it’s you building it?
13 Jun 2025
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ep 20 | the real secret to happily ever after (spoiler: it’s not what you think) w/ monica tanner
12 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 43 | how often do you let feelings vote when only discipline should decide?
11 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 42 | are you avoiding peace because you’ve only ever trusted the chaos?
10 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 41 | you outgrew her...but are you still "wearing" her?
09 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 40 | hoarding knowledge ≠ actual growth... let's talk about it
07 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 39 | comfort is the cage... and you’re choosing it daily🙃
06 Jun 2025
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ep 19 | when the scary decisions start to pay off w/ emily hardy
05 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 38 | the real reason you keep starting over...
04 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 37 | healing isn’t a vibe. it’s a bridge.🌉
03 Jun 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 36 | are you healing... or just hiding behind self-help?👀
02 Jun 2025
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ep 18 | 6 hard-won mental health lessons that don’t expire with a hashtag.
29 May 2025
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UNDER PRESSURE | the assistant prinicpal
25 May 2025
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UNDER PRESSURE | the preventative mental health professional
24 May 2025
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UNDER PRESSURE | the speech language pathologist
23 May 2025
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UNDER PRESSURE | the groomer
22 May 2025
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UNDER PRESSURE | the special education 1-on-1
21 May 2025
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did this episode hit home? click here to send us a text, and you might hear your name!🤍in this raw, unfiltered convo, cheyenne shares what it'...
UNDER PRESSURE | the therapist
20 May 2025
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UNDER PRESSURE | the teacher
19 May 2025
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UNDER PRESSURE | trailer
18 May 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 35 | what’s the tiniest action you can take today that will prove to you things can change?”
17 May 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 34 | 👀 this convo’s long overdue....and it’s with yourself.
16 May 2025
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ep 16 | “my mess to carry, won’t be yours to clean up” — trauma, healing, and co-parenting w/ shelby wallace
15 May 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 33 | who are you becoming when no one’s watching?
14 May 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 32 | who taught you love had to hurt (and why are you still proving them right)?
13 May 2025
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SHIFT STARTER 31 | who would be uncomfortable if you showed up fully (and why do they still get a vote)?
13 May 2025
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