We all compare ourselves to other people—our friends, coworkers, strangers on the internet—and most of the time, it makes us feel like shit. But why do we keep doing it? In this episode of Solved, we dig into the uncomfortable truth behind social comparison, how it quietly ruins our self-worth, and why most of what we envy in others is a projection of our own insecurity. We also get into the brutal paradox of success, the toxic loop of chasing status, and how the constant measurement of our lives against others is one of the dumbest things we do as a species. If you’ve ever felt not good enough, or like you’re falling behind, this one’s for you. We also put together a free companion guide for this episode with all the takeaways, references, and tools to help you get your sh*t together once and for all. Download it here: https://solvedpodcast.com/socialcomparison Ready to stop listening to podcasts and actually start taking action? Join Momentum, a community of like-minded people who are taking small steps every day to make big changes in their lives: https://findmomentum.com/socialcomparison Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Chapters: 00:00:00 Introduction 00:05:29 Chapter 1: Evolutionary Roots 00:16:20 The Emotional Toolkit 00:20:18 Chapter 2: Philosophy and Social Comparison 00:23:31 The Buddhist Path 00:24:58 Aristotle 00:34:34 Stoicism 00:36:24 Existentialism 00:40:06 Myths 00:48:37 Chapter 3: The Psychology of Social Comparison 00:58:54 Downward Comparison 01:22:19 Chapter 4: Digital Technology and Social Comparison 01:44:20 Chapter 5: The 80/20 of Managing Comparison 01:57:40 Hidden Costs 01:58:48 Takeaways Follow me: https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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