Sounds Fake But Okay

Ep 381: Sex Toys

05 Apr 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're learning about sex toys. Specifically, the ones that are defined by google as "weird" but... good...

Ep 380: Birth Order Determines Sexuality?

29 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we dive into research that shows strong links between someone's birth order and sibling composition and their sex...

Ep 379: Reddit Rabbithole (AITA) pt. 23

22 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week ask ourselves the age-old question: just what IS happening over on Reddit? Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: htt...

Ep 378: Heteropessimism

15 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we dive into Heteropessimism and make the case for MORE attention to be paid to heterosexuality? We know how it so...

Ep 377: Dating Tips for the "Libido Crisis"

08 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we learn that there's apparently a libido crisis going on. News to us. We read what Them has to say about the...

Ep 376: Winter Olympics Recap

01 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're recapping the 2026 Winter Olympics and talking about everything from cheating scandals (the romantic an...

Ep 375: Reddit Rabbithole (AITA) pt. 22

22 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what’s up hello! You know it. You love it. This week we’re back on Reddit and asking the important questions: can I sue my friend for no-showi...

Ep 374: Aromantic Art feat. Zachary Trebellas

15 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, in honor of Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, we're chatting with aromantic artist Zachary Trebellas about ...

Ep 373: Aplatonic

08 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're exploring aplatonicism — what it is, what the aplatonic experience might feel like, and why it can be...

Ep 372: Listener Lore pt. 7

01 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back reading YOUR wild Reddit-style stories. This week - Alfredo disasters, accidental relationships, and more ca...

Ep 371: Queerbaiting

25 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk Queerbaiting - what's the real definition is, what queerbaiting isn't, and if celebrities themse...

Ep 370: Reddit Rabbit Hole (AITA) pt. 21

18 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Second episode of the year and we're already back in the Reddit trenches. This time - wedding seating chart mayhem and ...

Ep 369: Heated Rivalry

11 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We are BACK and we are talking about GAY HOCKEY — why is everyone (including us) obsessed with it? Donate: patreon.com/so...

Ep 368: Same Podcast, One Year Apart (The Sixth Year)

07 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! For our last episode of the year we're returning to our annual tradition of recording the same episode one year apart, ...

Ep 367: Aromanticism and Asexuality at Work

30 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about what it's like being aromantic or asexual at work. We discuss whether being aspec puts you at a...

Ep 366: Writing Aspecs

23 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we look at harrowing posts from r/menwritingwomen and talk about what it takes for straight people to successfully...

Ep 365: Sex in Horror Movies (feat. Stepdean)

16 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about spooky horror movies. Why do the characters who have sex always get killed? And what does...

Ep 364: Are Single Folks Punished Financially?

09 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about ~money~, and the evergreen question: are aspecs, single folks, and those in non-normative...

Ep 363: Reddit Rabbit Hole (AITA) pt. 20

02 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back on Reddit, and you can't stop us.Content warning: graphic descriptions of poop and unhygienic behavior ...

Ep 362: Listener Lore pt. 6

26 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! More listener lore m'lord? This week we've got large game, horrifying gifts from crushes, pepper spray, annoying d...

Ep 361: Tops, Bottoms, and Queer Heteronormativity

19 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Ace Week! This week’s ep could not be less about that. It IS, however, about heteronormativity in how we talk about queer sex, and also a Twit...

Ep 360: True Love's Kiss and the Science of Kissing

12 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss the mythos of "true love's first kiss," why it's a lazy plot device, and why humans...

Ep 359: Reddit Rabbit Hole (AITA) pt. 19

05 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back with Reddit stories about hair bears, vegan drama, and picking up the check. Plus, a passionate rant about M...

Ep 358: Sexualized Music

28 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we explore the modern-day influx (or is it?) of sexualized music. Somehow that also turns into a discussion of how...

Ep 357: Aspec Smut Writers

21 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we explore why acespecs are so good at writing smut and why arospecs are so good at writing romance.Episode Transc...

Ep 356: Hot Takes

14 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're sharing our hot takes and yours! Feel the burn of the hottest takes about evolution, lesbianism, historical...

Ep 355: People in Relationships are Treated Better

07 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about how people who are in relationships are treated differently than single people. It's like coupl...

Ep 354: Reddit Rabbit Hole (AITA) pt. 18

31 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we are back on our Reddit Rabbithole BS. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbit-hole...

Ep 353: AI Relationships

24 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss people having AI partners.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/ai-relationships Donat...

Ep 352: Listener Lore pt. 5

10 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back telling YOUR wild stories from high school relationship drama to pigeon rescues.Episode Transcript: www.soun...

Ep 351: 8th Birthday Q&A

03 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We are back and it is time for a Q&A for SFBO's 8th birthday! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcript...

Ep 350: Pride 2025 and Biphobia

29 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As June wraps up, we reflect on Pride 2025 - the lack of corporate pride, aspecs at pride events, and rampant biphobia. And ...

Ep 349: Could Changing for a Crush Be a Good Thing?

22 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we look at examples of times when changing your interests or look for the sake of a crush actually turned out to b...

Ep 348: Choose Your Own Adventure

15 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we play romance and dating choose your own adventure stories on chooseyourstory.com! Spoiler alert: it goes about ...

Ep 347: Can Womanhood and Aspec Identities Coexist?

08 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss how society's current conception of womanhood clashes with asexual and aromantic identities. Can g...

Ep 346: Reddit Rabbit Hole (AITA) pt. 17

25 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We are back and so are the people who make so many bad decisions and then post about them on Reddit.Episode Transcript: www....

Ep 345: Pets Boost Wellbeing More Than Partners

18 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about a new study that found that having a cat or a dog to keep you company could boost your we...

Ep 344: Portalmania by Debbie Urbanski

11 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're joined by Debbie Urbanski to talk about her excellent collection of short stories, Portalmania. Portalm...

Ep 343: On Queer Women Loving Boy Bands

04 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss the phenomenon of queer women loving boy bands and yell from the mountaintops about how you can be a bo...

Ep 342: Listener Lore pt. 4

27 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're reading some more lore submitted by our listeners.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts...

Ep 341: Trans Aspec Solidarity

20 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss the overlap between transphobia and aphobia and the importance of trans aspec solidarity.TW: transphobi...

Ep 340: Making Assumptions

13 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about making assumptions about people. They really do make an ass out of you and me. Episode T...

Ep 339: Doing Things Alone

06 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about doing things by yourself when they are normally done as a couple or in a group. Episode ...

Ep 338: Reddit Rabbit Hole pt. 16

30 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You know what time it is.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbit-hole-pt-16  Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: ...

Ep 337: Beauty Standards

23 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we talk about the morning shed, appealing to various gazes, and other such beauty standard shenanigans. Episode Trans...

Ep 336: Non-Allo Major Life Events

16 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we have LOTS of house to keep. Then, we talk about the importance of celebrating major life events that aren't al...

Ep 335: What to Give Up for Lent

09 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Some people are giving things up for Lent. We have ideas. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/what-to-giv...

Ep 334: Reddit Rabbit Hole pt. 15

02 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back reading Reddit stories with a heavy detour to Bologna Fest.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcr...

Ep 333: Inclusive Sex Ed feat. Dee Whitnell

23 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're chatting with Dee Whitnell about their new book Beyond Bananas and Condoms: The LGBTQIA+ Inclusive Sex ...

Ep 332: Aro Week feat. AUREA

16 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're celebrating Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week by chatting with Rachel Levi and Kerry Chin, two of the a...

Ep 331: Emophilia

09 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about emophilia - a psychological trait that describes people who fall in love easily, quickly, and often....

Ep 330: Gen Z Dating Slang

02 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about (alleged) Gen Z dating slang. And the moon, apparently.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfake...

Ep 329: Listener Lore pt. 3

26 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're reading some lighthearted and silly stories submitted by you!Content Warning: Sex traffickingEpisode Tr...

Ep 328: Google's Year in Search

19 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We are back and just as mediocre as ever. This week we're answering the internet's most burning relationship quest...

Ep 327: Same Podcast, One Year Apart (The Fifth Year)

15 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! For our last episode of the year we're returning to our annual tradition of recording the same episode one year apart, ...

Ep 326: Reddit Rabbit Hole pt 14 (Kids Edition)

08 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! For our penultimate episode of the year, we're heading back to Reddit to react to some wild stories involving kids.Epis...

Ep 325: Hallmark Christmas Movies

01 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're TOGETHER coming at you live from Kayla's hometown. We talk all about Hallmark Christmas movies fro...

Ep 324: Listener Lore pt. 2

24 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back with another edition of Listener Lore. We give some updates on last time's stories and then get into mo...

Ep 323: The 4B Movement

17 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the Korean 4B Movement and how it could  or could not be applied to the US post-election...

Ep 322: Conjugal Visits

03 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about conjugal visits - what they are, their history, and what they mean for the importance of ...

Ep 321: "Hear Me Out" Cakes

27 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discussing the concept of "Hear Me Out" cakes and asking the age-old question: are the allos okay?Epi...

Ep 320: Listener Lore (AITA)

20 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week instead of heading to Reddit to find wild stories about love and life, we're getting our stories straight fro...

Ep 319: Would You Rather - Aspec Edition

13 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're playing a good old-fashioned game of Would You Rather - aspec edition.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfak...

Ep 318: Public Displays of Affection

06 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we're talking all about PDA and just how much Sarah hates it no matter what. Also please write Vote FWD letters with Sarah or else she&...

Ep 317: Reddit Rabbit Hole pt 13

29 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Once again we are in the Reddit and Am I The Asshole trenches.Content Notice: Discussions of gun violence, abuse, and police...

316: Unconditional Love

22 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about unconditional love - Is it real? Should it exist? What problems does it cause? We also talk a lot ab...

Ep 315: Cishet Men are Homoerotic

15 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about heterosexual men, and how actually... homoerotic they are? Content notice: Brief mentions...

Ep 314: The Don't Should Philosophy

08 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about our famous "Don't Should" life philosophy. Episode Transcript: www.soundsf...

Ep 313: Sexuality is Fluid!

25 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about sexuality (and gender) are fluid, the idea of being "born this way" and honestl...

Ep 312: Reddit Rabbit Hole (AITA 12)

18 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! You know that time it is. The artist formerly known as Am I the Asshole is back — this week we come to you with Reddit sto...

Ep 311: Trad Wives and Ballerina Farm

11 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we are talking about trad wives by way of the Ballerina Farm controversy. What are they? Why are they? Are they ok...

Ep 310: Yapping

04 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We are back and ready to utilize our hard-earned PhDs in yappology. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/ya...

Ep 309: Do Romance Tropes Actually Work in Real Life??

30 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about common romance fiction tropes, try to decide if they would actually work in real life, and decide ho...

Ep 308: Aspec Origin Stories

23 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about ~aspec awakenings~ and our own SFBO lore. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/aspe...

Ep 307: Am I The Asshole pt. 11

16 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! You already know what time it is.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/am-i-the-asshole-pt-11   DONATE TO ...

Ep 306: The "Medium Ugly" Phenomenon

09 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about the influx of discussions around "medium ugly" men, the related category of "hot rode...

Ep 305: Boy Moms

02 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about the illustrious boy moms. Can we fix them? No. But will we psychoanalyze them to figure out what the...

Ep 304: Dating App Marketing

26 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! In light of the recent Bumble fumble, we talk about dating apps, how they attract new users, and why they should talk to lit...

Ep 303: Rating Historic Dating Customs

19 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we take a look through history and rate dating customs from the ye old days.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod....

Ep 302: Are Kids Growing Up Faster? Ruminations on the impact of the internet

12 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about the effects the internet has on how kids age and develop. We try to decipher why it feels like kids ...

Ep 301: Am I The Asshole pt. 10 (Tiny Man Edition)

05 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! You know what time it is, kids. This week we are faced with a disproportionate amount of small, small men, and we WILL tell ...

Ep 300: Government Recognition of Asexuality feat. Ash McCullough

28 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what’s up hello! For this week’s very exciting 300th episode we’re chatting with Ash McCullough about their advocacy work with the Australia...

Ep 299: Gold Star Asexuality and "Actual Asexuals"

21 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about the concept of gold star asexuality and the harm and confusion caused by a community of "actual...

Ep 298: The Rise of Smutty Books

07 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the mainstreamification of smutty books, our desire for a rating system in books, and how...

Ep 297: Body Count

31 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the very stupid concept of a body count AKA how many people you've had sex with and ...

Ep 296: Am I The Asshole pt. 9

24 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! You know what time it is — it's time to prowl the depths of Reddit to figure out what on Earth is going on out there....

Ep 295: Couple Privilege

17 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the evil that is couple privilege and how it disadvantages single people AND couples alik...

Ep 294: Q&A - aspec activism, friendship, the allos, & more!

10 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're taking the time to answer your questions about everything from aspec activism to our favorite places to...

Ep 293: Can AI Help You Date?

03 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about how artificial intelligence has invaded the world of dating from AI dating coaches to AI dati...

Ep 292: Separating Aromanticism from Asexuality

25 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As Aro Week 2024 comes to an end, we talk about the way aromanticism is often linked with asexuality and how that can ultima...

Ep 291: Am I The Asshole pt. 8 (Asshole Edition)

18 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back reading r/AmITheAsshole. Some of them may be fake but oh boy are they full of assholes!Content Warning: Ment...

Ep 290: Hating Your Partner

11 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Just in time for Valentine's Day, this week we're talking abou the phenomenon of straight people hating their part...

Ep 289: The Other Significant Others feat. Rhaina Cohen

04 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking to author Rhaina Cohen about her book, The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendsh...

Ep 288: Compersion

28 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about compersion. What is it? Where did the term come from? Is only for poly folx?Episode Transcrip...

Ep 287: Celebrity Sexuality Speculation

21 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about the pop culture phenomenon that is speculating about celebrity's sexualities, demanding ...

Ep 286: Am I The Asshole pt. 7 (Aspec Edition)

14 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back from our long winter's nap and ready to judge some assholes!!! This time, we're reading some aspec...

Ep 285: Same Podcast, One Year Apart (The Fourth Year)

10 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! To wrap up another year of the podcast, we're back recording the fourth edition of "same podcast, one year apart&q...

Ep 284: This Author Loves Butch Orcs

03 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we manage to talk about everything and nothing at the same time. Toxic old men named Gerry, wedding presents, butc...

Ep 283: SFBO the Audiobook Sneak Peek

26 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We finally have an audiobook! Read in our own voices!!! As a special treat, today we give to you a sneak preview of chapter ...

Ep 282: Am I The Asshole pt. 6 (Wedding Edition)

19 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back with another fan favorite Am I The Asshole but this time it's all about weddings.Episode Transcript: ww...