Sounds Fake But Okay

Ep 281: Being Ace feat. Madeline Dyer

12 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're chatting with Madeline Dyer about her new anthology Being Ace: An Anthology of Queer, Trans, Femme, and...

Ep 280: Romanticizing

05 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about romanticization - why we do it, the pros and cons of romanticizing relationships, and wha...

Ep 279: Aspec Quizzes

29 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! It's silly little aspec quiz hours. What kind of aspec are we? Will a random internet user simp for us? This week we as...

Ep 278: The Ick

22 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about "the ick." What is it? Is it real? And what gives us the ick??Episode Transcrip...

Ep 277: Cuffing Season

15 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! The weather is getting colder and it's time to cuddle up with your boo thang! Or so the allos say. Today we learn about...

Ep 276: Dating Later in Life

08 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, inspired by the first episode of The Golden Bachelor, we're discussing dating later in life (i.e. when you&a...

Ep 275: Dating Coaches

01 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about dating coaches. Are they a scam? What do they actually do? What does this say about late ...

Ep 274: Microlabels pt. 3

24 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We are back with our third (and final??) installation of the aspec microlabels series. Also, something about plantains. Epis...

Ep 273: Am I The Asshole? pt. 5

17 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Would you even believe that we're back with an r/AmITheAsshole episode??? Sarah's been saving up the best AITA the...

Ep 272: Aspec Shark Tank

10 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! In what might be our most chaotic episode yet, this week we bring you aspec Shark Tank. Sarah has come up with 11 of the bes...

Ep 271: Accidental Flirting

03 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about a fear that so many aspecs share - flirting with someone without realizing that's wh...

Ep 270: The Barbie Movie

27 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back from summer break which means it's FINALLY time to talk about the Barbie movie and the fact that Barbie...

Ep 269: Compulsory Heterosexuality

23 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're diving into a discussion on compulsory heterosexuality, the lesbian master doc, and how comp het, comp ...

Ep 268: Sex and Romance Trivia

16 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're doing sex and romance trivia. Will we finally learn how long sex is supposed to last????Episode Transcr...

Ep 267: Love Languages

09 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Supposedly we haven't done a full ep before about the love languages? Sounds fake. So we're doing it today!Episode...

Ep 266: r/RelationshipProblems

02 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're going back to Reddit once again to try to help people with their relationship problems as a couple of aspec...

Ep 265: Free From Desire feat. Aline Laurent-Mayard

25 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we have the absolute honor of talking to Aline Laurent-Mayard about their Tribeca Film Festival 2023 Audio Nonfiction ...

Ep 264: Just a Silly Little Q&A

18 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're doing a little Q&A! We answer questions about how the podcast has changed, the book, QPRs, and so much ...

Ep 263: Gender Detachment

11 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Gender detachment! What is it? Does Sarah experience it? Why is Kayla holding a betting pool on Sarah's gender and why is she refusing to allow S...

Ep 262: Celebrating Pride

04 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Happy pride! Today we talk about pride month and give you some unique ways to celebrate.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepo...

Ep 261: Aces in Racing feat. Michael Klein

28 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're chatting with Michael Klein, the first ever (out) ace racecar driver!!Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod...

Ep 260: Microlabels Pt. 2

21 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back for part 2 of our aspec microlabels series with an added bonus of would you rather!Episode Transcript: www.s...

Ep 259: Asking ChatGPT About Asexuality and Aromanticism

07 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we ask ChatGPT some questions about asexuality and aromanticism. The responses were of... varying quality. Episode...

Ep 258: Am I The Asshole? pt. 4

30 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back with yet another reading of r/AmITheAsshole. This might be the most assholey one of them all.Episode Transcr...

Ep 257: The Friendship Recession

23 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we're talking about the friendship recession. Is it real? What could be causing it? Let's talk about it...

Ep 256: I Have Beef With the Moon

16 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about everything and nothing.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/i-have-beef-with-the-mo...

Ep 255: We Are Changed to Deer at the Broken Place feat. Kelly Weber

09 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're joined by Kelly Weber to talk about their new asexual poetry book "We Are Changed to Deer at the Broke...

Ep 254: Ace Notes feat. Michele Kirichanskaya

02 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're chatting with Michele Kirichanskaya about her new book Ace Notes: Tips and Tricks on Existing in an Allo Wo...

Ep 253: What's In and What's Out?

26 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Spring is here, a new season has begun, and so it's time to decide what's in and what's out!Episode Transcrip...

Ep 252: Sex and Romance Mad Libs

19 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're doing sex and romance-based mad libs, because that's basically what allos sound like sometimes any...

Ep 251: Trans Rights

12 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about the trans rights violations currently on the rise in America.TW: Discussions of transphob...

Ep 250: Alcohol Consumption & Aspecs

05 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're theorizing about why aspecs have been found to have a lower alcohol drinking rate than allos. We talk about...

Ep 249: The TikTok Algorithm

26 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about the TikTok algorithm. Is it making us all gay????Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/tr...

Ep 248: Sounds Fake But Okay Book Preview!

19 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about our book Sounds Fake But Okay: An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, S...

Ep 247: Thinking About Sex & Romance (Or Not)

12 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we talk about what things aspecs and allos alike can think about instead of thinking about sex and romance. Because wh...

Ep 246: Taking Up Space as an Aspec

05 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we talk about how important it is to take up space as an aspec/queer person, how to advocate for yourself, and how lon...

Ep 245: Nudity in Art

29 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we talk about nudity in art. When is it art, and when is it porn? Is porn art?? Where is the line????Episode Tran...

Ep 244: Amatonormativity in Small Talk

22 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we have some small talk about small talk. We've noticed that all too often, small talk topics turn to dating...

Ep 243: Signs We Were Aspec

15 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we look back on our lives and search for overlooked signs from our past that we were aspec.Episode Transcript: www.sou...

Ep 242: Catfishing

08 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back! And to kick off the new year we're talking about catfishing - What is it? Why does it happen? And also...

Ep 241: Same Podcast, One Year Apart (The Third Year)

11 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! For the last episode of 2022, we're doing the third installment of same podcast one year apart where we answer the same...

Ep 240: Kink, BDSM, and Asexuality feat. Evie Lupine

04 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we chat with kink educator Evie Lupine about kink, BDSM, and the intersection of her kinky and asexual identities.Epis...

Ep 239: Are We Soulmates???

27 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we seek to once and for all find an answer to the age-old question: are Kayla and Sarah soulmates?Episode Transcript: ...

Ep 238: Aphrodisiacs

20 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we try to find out what aphrodisiacs are and if they even work in the first place.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepo...

Ep 237: Reading r/Confessions

13 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we return to Reddit to see what the wild people of r/Confessions need to get off their chests. TW: Discussion of sex a...

Ep 236: Aspec Microlabels Pt. 1

06 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're doing the first episode of a new micro series on aspec microlabels! Today we discuss the labels -flux, ...

Ep 235: The Split Attraction Model

23 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're revisiting a topic we very briefly and poorly addressed all the way back in episode 9 (NINE!) of this silly...

Ep 234: Aspec Culture Shock

16 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we're talking about the culture shock we have as aspecs from learning that Netflix and chill isn't just chil...

Ep 233: Writing Gay Porn feat. Dalton King

09 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Content Warning: If you are sex-repulsed, this may not be the episode for youHey what's up hello! Today we're talking to our friend Dalton K...

Ep 232: Relaxcast pt. 2

02 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey... what's up... hello. Today marks the valiant return of the relaxcast: motivational edition. Will it actually be relaxing? Or motivational, ...

Ep 231: Ace Voices feat. Eris Young

25 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we chat with Eris Young about their upcoming book Ace Voices: What It Means to Be Asexual, Aromantic, Demi Or Grey-Ace...

Ep 230: Rating Bad Pickup Lines

18 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! On this week's ~late night~ episode, two aspecs rank the worst and best(?) pickup lines.Episode Transcript: www.soundsf...

Ep 229: Refusing Compulsory Sexuality by Sherronda J. Brown

11 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! In honor of Refusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture by Sherronda J. Brown coming out...

Ep 228: r/AreTheStraightsOK?

04 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! You've read the title and you know what that means - we're diving back into Reddit! This week we answer the age ol...

Ep 227: Are Soulmates Real?

28 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about soulmates, starting with the chilling story of a woman who left her husband after meeting...

Ep 226: Allonormativity and Amatanormativity

21 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! On this week's episode, we define allonormativity and amatanormativity and share how we've experienced these in ou...

Ep 225: Libras Are Obsessed with Romance

14 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Sarah's an aro. Sarah's a libra. Libras are apparently romance-obsessed. Sarah doesn't like this. Let's ...

Ep 224: Ghosting

07 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Ghosting. What is it, why is it a thing, and why is Sarah an apologist? There's only one way to find out, besties. Epis...

Ep 223: Pet Names for Partners

31 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We are back, and we are talking about pet names. Why are they a thing, and why are they like THAT?Episode Transcript: www.so...

Ep 222: 2022 Corporate Pride Roundup

26 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As pride comes to an end, we're taking a look back at the best and worst (but mostly worst) corporate pride and rainbow...

Ep 221: Femcels

19 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! It's femcel summer (apparently?) and we're here to discuss what that means from an aspec perspective.Episode Trans...

Ep 220: Aspecs Describe the Difference Between Hot, Sexy, Pretty, and Cute

12 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! On today's episode, two aspecs try to explain the difference between a person being hot, sexy, pretty, or cute. What a ...

Ep 219: Breath and Sexual Arousal??

05 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! The internet tells us that our breath can tell us about sexual arousal. We know everything we read on the internet is true, ...

Ep 218: Reacting to r/ShowerThoughts

29 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we needed something silly, so we took to Reddit and reacted to the world wide web's shower thoughts about sex...

Ep 217: Weddings

22 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Kayla was in her sister's wedding last week and you know what that means! Time to talk about weddings and all their tra...

Ep 216: Aspecs Explain Romantic Tropes

15 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, Sarah and Kayla try to sell you on all the best romantic fanfiction tropes. Why? Because we love them. P.S. - PL...

Ep 215: Being an Aspec Outside Observer

08 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As aspecs, we can often feel like outsiders when it comes to things like sex or dating. While sometimes this feels incredibl...

Ep 214: On Being Biromantic Demisexual

01 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As some of you noticed, Kayla came back from our hiatus with a fancy new intro. Today, we talk about the difficulties of fig...

Ep 213: Am I The Asshole? pt. 3

24 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back once again to definitively decide if the people of Reddit are in fact assholes.Episode Transcript: www.sound...

Ep 212: We're Back!

17 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back after our long hiatus! We have so much to tell you about what's been going on :)(Apologies for Kayla&ap...

Sounds Hiatus But Okay

11 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As you can see from the title, we're taking a bit of a hiatus. We'll see you on April 17th <3Episode Transcript...

Ep 211: Analyzing Romantic Christmas Songs

26 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

TW: Mentions of human traffickingHey what's up hello! What started as a simple episode turning romantic Christmas songs into platonic ones quickl...

Ep 210: Why Is Christmas Romantic?

19 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As Christmas arrives, we can't help but notice how romantic society has made Christmas. Today we try to figure out how ...

Ep 209: Same Podcast, One Year Apart (The Second Year)

12 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We're back for the second installment of Same Podcast, One Year Apart a la Billie Eilish and Vanity Fair. Listen to hear what's changed and ...

Ep 208: Reddit Questions and the Statue of Liberty

05 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Chaos reigns this week, and so does the Statue of Liberty. Today we read from r/TooAfraidToAsk and go on a long winded tange...

Ep 207: Playing Mind Games While Dating

21 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! From playing hard to get to love bombing, there are a ton of games that people play while dating. Today Kayla teaches Sarah ...

Ep 206: Asexual/Aromantic Joy

14 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We all know that being on asexual and/or aromantic spectrum can be really hard sometimes. But that isn't the focus of today's relax-adjacent...

Ep 205: Reddit Confessions

07 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're heading back to Reddit, but this time we're checking out r/Confessions and r/Confession. What are the deepes...

Ep 204: Why Vampires Are Asexual/Aromantic

31 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! For spooookkky Halloween, we're hitting you hard with why vampires, ghosts, ghouls, demons, etc are aspec!Episode Trans...

Ep 203: Ace Week feat. Basil Langevin

24 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Happy Ace Week 2021! To celebrate this week, we're joined by Executive Director of Asexual Outreach and Ace Week organi...

Ep 202: Parasocial Relationships and POVs

17 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we start by talking about POV videos and y/n fanfiction and end by talking about parasocial relationships. It&apos...

Ep 201: Social Bonding with Sex and Romance

10 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As we all know, talking about sex and romance is a huge way that we socialize and create bonds with people. So what does tha...

Ep 200: 200 Ways We've Changed

03 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Is it our most chaotic episode yet? Possibly! To celebrate our 200th episode, we share 200(?) ways our lives have changed si...

Ep 199: Am I The Asshole? pt. 2

26 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We're back with another installment of "am I the asshole?" curtosey of r/AmItheAsshole. Come along on a magic...

Ep 198: Having a Type

19 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! By popular demand, this week we're talking about the concept of having a type. What does it mean to have a type? Why do...

Ep 197: Turning Love Songs Into Death Songs

12 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we take another stab (hehe pun) at changing up love songs. This time, we take the word love and change it into dea...

Ep 196: Dear Luke, Love, Me (Aspecs in Film!)

29 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk to Mallie and Caroline from the film Dear Luke, Love, Me. They discuss their awesome film, aspec represent...

Ep 195: Aesthetic Attraction & Gender - A Manifesto

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Sarah reads one of her classic manifestos. This time, it's about aesthetic attraction, how it's viewed b...

Ep 194: Google Autocomplete

08 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we play our own little version of the Google autocomplete game. What have people been Googling about asexuality? A...

Ep 193: The Perfect Aspec Birthday Party

01 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Welcome to our 4th birthday party! This week we take it upon our selves to plan the perfect asexual / aromantic birthday par...

Ep 192: BTS, Fandom, and Queerness feat. Padya Paramita

25 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we chat with friend of the pod Padya about how BTS helped them on their gender and sexuality journey.Episode Transcrip...

Ep 191: Giving Relationship Advice to Reddit

18 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we take another dive into Reddit but this time, we're looking at r/relationship_advice. From sex drive to bab...

Ep 190: Relaxcast

11 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! If you came here for educational aspec content, this is not the episode for you. Try the backlog. Today we're just rela...

Ep 189: Evolution, Sex, and Romance

04 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we get a bit ~philosophical~ as we talk about human evolution, how we interact with sex and romance, and what it m...

Ep 188: Sure Sex is Cool But...

27 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! It's our most chaotic episode yet. This week we share all of the thing that are way cooler than sex and romance. Beware...

Ep 187: Asexuality, Autism, and Comedy feat. Eliott Simpson

20 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This we we FINALLY chat with our good friend Eliott Simpson. Eliott is an amazing asexual and autistic comedian, so we spend...

Ep 186: Am I The Asshole?

13 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we take a dive into the Am I The Asshole (AITA) Subreddit and give our aromantic and asexual perspective on relati...

Ep 185: Pride Month Q&A

06 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Happy pride month everyone! To celebrate we did a pride Q&A. This week we answer your questions about pride celebrations...

Ep 184: Kink at Pride

30 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss a topic that comes up every year: is there a place for kink at pride? Is there any conflict between asp...

Ep 183: Mental Health and Sexuality

23 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss mental health / mental illness and how it impacts our orientations. Is it harder to figure out your sex...