Sounds Fake But Okay

Ep 182: Fuck, Marry, Kill (But Aspec)

09 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're playing the asexual/aromantic version of the class classic game "fuck, marry, kill" - stuck i...

Ep 181: Accessibility and Asexuality feat. Liam O'Dell

02 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we chat with Liam O'Dell, an amazing activist focused on deafness and disability, about accessibility and how the...

Ep 180: Aspec Headcanons for Game Characters

25 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're rating the asexual and aromantic vibes that different classic game characters give off! Get ready for s...

Ep 179: The First Gay Bachelor and the Pressure to Conform

18 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Recently Colton Underwood of the Bachelor fame came out as gay. We're not huge bachelor fans, but we wanted to discuss ...

Ep 178: Asexuality and Drag feat. Venus Envy

11 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we chat with the lovely Venus Envy, an incredible asexual drag queen! We discuss how her asexuality interacts with...

Ep 177: International Asexuality Day

04 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss International Asexuality Day which is on April 6th! We share some of the exciting events happening and ...

Ep 176: Answering Questions for Couples

28 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! It's date night with Kayla and Sarah. This week, we answer some ~deep~ questions that couples use to get to know each o...

Ep 175: Incel Culture

21 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss incels, incel culture, and the vast difference between people who are aspec and people who identify as ...

Ep 174: Discovering Demisexuality feat. Chantel Houston

14 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we chat with Chantel Houston, an amazing director, content creator, and former member of Buzzfeed Ladylike about her d...

Ep 173: Pre-Date Rituals

07 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Recently we read an NPR Life Kit Article about dating advice, and it suggested having "pre-date rituals!" So today...

Ep 172: Being an Older Asexual/Aromantic feat. Barefoot Backpacker

28 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we spoke to the lovely Barefoot Backpacker about their experience as an older member of the aspec community. We ta...

Ep 171: What Is Aromanticism?

21 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we're giving you a full rundown on what aromanticism and the aro spectrum is. If you are aromantic and strug...

Ep 170: Romantic Activities To Do Alone

14 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This Valentine's Day season we're discussing traditionally romantic couples activities and why they actually might...

Ep 169: The Perks of Asexuality and Aromanticism

07 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As we all know, you can choose your sexuality! So this week, we tell you why you should choose to convert to asexuality and/...

Ep 168: Asexual Parenting feat. David Jay

31 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we chat with David Jay (and a second mystery guest) about having a child and parenting as an asexual person. We al...

Ep 167: Things that Aspecs Don't Owe You

24 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we list out just a few things that people on the asexual and aromantic spectrums DON'T OWE YOU!Episode Transc...

Ep 166: The History of Bi/Ace Solidarity

17 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we take a dive into the long history of bi/ace solidarity. We explore how our communities interacted in the past a...

Ep 165: Boyfriend vs. Best Friend

10 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, Sarah takes the ultimate test. Does she know Kayla better than her boyfriend Dean does? Listen to find out.Episod...

Ep 164: The Medicalization of Asexuality

03 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about how asexuality is viewed in both the medical and mental health world. We take a look at the DSM-5 an...

Ep 163: Choosing the Allo of the Year

27 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! For our last episode of 2020, we will be naming someone the Allo of the Year. Listen as we read this year's weirdest st...

Ep 162: Dungeons and Dragons and Gender and Sexuality feat. Perry Fiero

20 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we are excited to have our amazing friend Perry on as a guest. We chat with Perry about Dungeons and Dragons and t...

Ep 161: Rewriting Songs About Romance and Sex

13 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As we've always said, there are just too many songs about romance and sex. So today, we take it upon ourselves to rewri...

Ep 160: Same Podcast, One Year Apart (The First Year)

06 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we take a page from Billie Eilish's book and we begin the journey of recording the same podcast episode and a...

Ep 159: An Asexual Perspective of No Nut November

29 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As November comes to an end, we reflect on the ever-present No Nut November. What's the point of this challenge? Who pa...

Ep 158: Rating Your Aspec Vibes

22 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we rated the aspec vibes of the pictures and memes YOU submitted. Will bats pass the test? What about our man Plum...

Ep 157: Aspec Activism feat. Gentle Giant Ace

08 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we chat with Marshall aka Gentle Giant Ace about how he became an ace activist.Episode transcript: https://www.sou...

Ep 156: Ace Week Celebration feat. YOU!

01 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! To celebrate Ace Week, we hosted a livesteam and read some of your submissions. Submissions included poems, questions, and a...

Ep 155: Revealing Victoria's Secret

25 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today, we answer the age-old, time-weary question - what is Victoria's Secret?Episode transcript: https://www.soundsfak...

Ep 154: How To Be Ace feat. Rebecca Burgess

18 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we talk to Rebecca Burgess about their new graphic novel "How To Be Ace." We discuss comics, mental hea...

Ep 153: Having Confidence in Your Sexuality

11 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk broadly about being confident in your sexuality and navigating the questioning phase. We also discuss how ...

Ep 152: Being Non-Binary feat. A Friend

04 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we fulfill a wonderful patron's request! We chat with our friend Ina about what it's like being non-bina...

Ep 151: Anti-Gender Reveal Parties

27 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! We've known for a long time that gender reveal parties are stupid, but this year they reached an all-time level of ridi...

Ep 150: Sex-Repulsed vs. Sex-Averse

20 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss the difference between being sex-repulsed and sex-averse and explore the importance of the words we use...

Ep 149: ACE by Angela Chen

13 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we are joined by Angela Chen to discuss her new book ACE: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the M...

Ep 148: 46 Unsexy Things to Do in Bed

06 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! For some reason, everyone thinks of the bed as a super sexy place. But what if you don't want to be sexy in bed? What i...

ANNOUNCEMENT! Sounds Fake But Okay Goes to UK Ace Con

02 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Have you heard of the UK Asexuality Conference? Well, we're paneling for it and you should definitely attend.Episode Tr...

Ep 147: Asexual Representation feat. Repl(Ace) the Media

30 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss the importance of having asexual representation in the media. We are joined by special guest Zaine from...

Ep 146: How Babies Are Made (Wrong Answers Only)

23 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Have you ever wondered where babies come from? Usually when you ask people say "sex," but we aren't too sure ...

Ep 145: Sounds Fake But A OK! feat. Courtney Lang

16 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Our second guest of Auguest is Courtney Lang from our sister podcast A OK! Listen in to hear a couple of podcasters talking ...

Ep 144: The ~*~Two~*~ Genders

09 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Sarah is writing the description and she's bad at it. We talked about how there are definitely only two gende...

Ep 143: Loveless feat. Alice Oseman!

02 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we are honored and excited to chat with Alice Oseman about her new book Loveless! Loveless follows the coming out ...

Ep 142: Reasons NOT to Have Sex

26 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! A couple of episodes ago, we talked about all of the reasons people choose to have sex. This week, we give you some excuses ...

Ep 141: The Ace Ring

19 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk all about the ace ring: its history, what it is, why people wear it, and if we have ever worn one!   Don...

Ep 140: Reasons to Have Sex

12 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Last week, when we mentioned that there are a lot of reasons to have sex besides being sexually attracted to someone.  Toda...

Ep 139: Sexual Acts Do Not Equal Sexuality

05 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Did you know that the sexual acts you partake in don't define your sexual orientation at all? Well if you didn't t...

Ep 138: Things to Put in Movies Other Than Romance

28 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Since we had the honor of being on Bacon and Eggs: A Movie Lover's Podcast this week, we wanted to keep with the movie ...

Ep 137: Asexuality Does NOT Equal Heterosexuality

21 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! In the past week, we've seen quite a bit of aphobia which of course included people saying asexuality isn't actual...

Ep 136: Weird Sexual Innuendos

14 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about the weird phrases that people use to say sex without really using the word. To be honest, most of th...

Ep 135: BLACK LIVES MATTER

07 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week's episode is going to be a little different. It's hard right now to talk about anything that isn't the racial injustice that&...

Ep 134: Navigating Virtual Pride

31 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss pride month and what it might look like in the time of Coronavirus. Sarah also gives two (2) manifestos...

Ep 133: Wikipedia Rabbit Hole pt. 2

24 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we're back playing the Wikipedia game! How many clicks will it take for us to get to the asexuality page and ...

Ep 132: An Interview with Daniel from Slice of Ace

17 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we interview Daniel from the YouTube channel Slice of Ace! We discuss dating as a homoromantic asexual, Animal Cro...

Ep 131: Our Relationship With Our Bodies

10 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

*DISCLAIMER: If you are sex repulsed or are uncomfortable with discussions of genitals this may not be the episode for you.Hey what's up hello! T...

Ep 130: Reclaiming Romantic Songs

03 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we talk about classic romantic/sexual songs like My Heart Will Go On and Careless Whisper. Can these songs be rec...

Ep 129: Being AroAce is a TALENT

26 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we discuss how aromantic and/or asexual would fare on different reality TV shows. From The Bachelor to The Amazin...

Ep 128: An AroAce Review of Sexy and Romantic Things

19 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we discuss things that the world has deemed as traditionally sexy and romantic. From chocolate syrup to underwear...

Ep 127: Aceness in the Time of Coronavirus

12 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we talk about being ace and/or aro in the time of Coronavirus and specifically loneliness. Shout out to @AceGentl...

Ep 126: We Wrote an Aro Ace Movie

05 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we take one hour to write the plot of the next hit aro ace movie - Noodles: Aromcom. Listen in to hear this drama...

Ep 125: Your Questions Answered by Our Allo Expert

29 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we bring in our resident allo expert (Kayla's boyfriend) to answer your questions about what it's like ...

Ep 124: What To Do While Stuck at Home

22 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, we bring you a joyous, fun-loving list of things to do if you're currently stuck at home. This list does NOT...

Ep 123: What If We Had Different Sexualities?

15 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we try to think about what it would be like if we had different sexualities and romantic orientations. Sarah tries...

Ep 122: Aros and Aces Need Safe Queer Spaces

01 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, Sarah delivers a manifesto about the need for queer spaces that are safe for aros and aces. We're searching ...

Ep 121: What to Do When Someone Comes out to You

23 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we give you some very serious and wonderful options of things to do when someone comes out to you as aro, ace, or ...

Ep 120: Dating in High School???

16 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Happy Aromantic Awareness Week! In true aromantic fashion, Sarah discusses the concept of dating in high school and how it m...

Ep 119: Unromantic Activities to Do for Valentine's Day

09 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Valentine's Day is right around the corner but for many of us aromantic or asexual people, this holiday is pretty worth...

Ep 118: The Demisexual Experience

01 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk all about demisexuality. What is it? What does it feel like to be demisexual?Episode Transcript: www.sound...

Ep 116: DON'T OUT PEOPLE

19 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! In light of Nikkie Tutorials being forced to come out recently, we decided to talk about being outed and outing other people...

Ep 115: Little Women, Aromanticism, and Asexuality

12 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about Gretta Gerwig's new adaptation of Little Women. Jo March, the main character of the story, is s...

Ep 114: A Decade in Review

29 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! It's our last episode of 2020! And the last episode of the decade! We go over what happened to us this decade as well a...

Ep 113: Our Favorite Things - Forgiveness, Games, etc.

22 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week is an all "juice" episode where we talk about our favorite things from video games to friends to forgive...

Ep 112: Pet Peeves of Asexual People

15 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Are the allos okay? Sometimes there are things that allosexual or alloromantic people do that just don't make sense.  ...

Ep 111: Sex Shouldn't Be a Social Taboo

08 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about how sex is a social taboo. Why is it a taboo? We don't really care. We just know it's harm...

Ep 110: Dealing With Family During the Holidays

24 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! As the holiday season approaches, we know some of you might have to deal with questions from your annoying Uncle Carl or Gra...

Ep 109: How to Find a Mate

17 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! On today's episode, the Cosmopolitan Snapchat story teaches us how to flirt with a guy at the gym. We're not so su...

Ep 108: Self-Partnered

10 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about Emma Watson's Vogue interview where she talks about being "self-partnered." Is the te...

Ep 107: Crushes vs. Squishes

03 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about having crushes on teachers and try to figure out what the real difference between a squish and a cru...

Ep 106: How Witches Represent the Asexual Experience

27 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss Sarah's theory that all witches (and skeletons) are asexual. Through an asexual lense, we look at ...

Ep 105: Asexuals Play the KFC Dating Simulator

20 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we play KFC's new dating simulator game but in an ~asexual~ way. We learn that Colonel Sanders is kinda hot a...

Ep 104: National Coming Out Day feat. Sarah's Sister

13 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! Today we celebrate National Coming Out Day by talking with Sarah's gay sister. Sarah and her sister compare their comin...

Ep 103: Dating While Asexual

06 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about dating as an asexual person. We discuss our own experiences with dating as well as advice for people...

Ep 102: Word Association

29 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we have another stunning episode for you. We find random words in the (German) dictionary and try to relate them b...

Ep 101: The Bachelor From an Aro Ace Perspective Pt. 2

22 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about Sarah's experience watching Bachelor in Paradise as an aromantic person. Turns out, it actually...

Ep 100: 100th Episode Extravaganza!

15 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah celebrate the 100th episode of Sounds Fake But Okay! They listen and react to their very first epi...

Ep 99: Relationship Anarchy

08 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah talk about the merits of Relationship Anarchy. Is it possible to be a relationship anarchist? How ...

Ep 98: How to Not be Aphobic

01 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we give you many VERY helpful tips for how to not be aphobic. From lobotomies to talking to Russian bots, there ar...

Ep 97: Asexual Culture and Community

25 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk all about ace culture and community. What even is ace culture? What do we think of the ace community? List...

Ep 96: Everything is Fake

18 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah talk about everything that seems fake in the world. From dicks to antelopes to grapefruit, the gir...

Ep 95: Reviewing "Sexy" Things

11 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah review media that's supposed to be ~sexy~. They look at everything from 50 Shades of Grey, to...

Ep 94: Matchmaking for Asexuals

04 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah talk about whether they think matchmaking websites could work for asexual people who are looking t...

Ep 93: Characters Who Are Definitely Asexual pt. 2

28 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah talk about more characters that they believe are definitely asexual and some who are definitely NO...

Ep 92: Mental Health and Sexuality

21 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah talk all about mental health and how it relates to sexuality. Why is it that queer people are more...

Ep 91: 36 Questions to Make You Fall in Love

14 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah talk about the 36 questions. Psychologists at UC Berkley came up with a set of 36 questions that y...

Ep 90: Why Are Millennials Having So Little Sex?

07 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about the article Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? by The Atlantic. How have millennials ruined ...

Ep 89: Reactions to Pride and Taylor Swift's Video

30 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about the commercialization of pride and what it means for companies and the queer community. We also watc...

Ep 88: Reading Sarah's Childhood Novel

23 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week, Sarah reads the novel she wrote when she was 8 years old, and Kayla reacts. By some twist of fate, the novel is n...

Ep 87: What Is Asexuality?

16 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week’s episode is very special. It’s a full rundown of what asexuality is. If you are asexual and struggle to give ...

Ep 86: It's the Year of, like... Realizing Things

09 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah do a 6-month check in on their New Year's Resolutions! Did they give up on their goals after ...

Ep 85: Queer Education in Schools feat. A Friend

02 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah are joined by special guest Amanda (Sarah's sister's girlfriend) to talk about what it&a...

Ep 84: Wikipedia Rabbit Hole

26 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah go down the rabbit hole and play the Wikipedia game! It doesn't take many clicks to get from ...

Ep 83: Personal Growth and the Future

19 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Hey what's up hello! This week Kayla and Sarah talk all about their growth over the past four years and what the future will hold now that they g...