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Strictly Anonymous Confessions

1433 - Jess and James Recently Started Hotwifing

20 Apr 2026

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Chapter 1: How did Jess and James's sex life change before hotwifing?

0.031 - 19.164 Kathy Kay

If you want to be on the show, it's called Strictly Anonymous because I change everybody's voices and everyone's name. So if you have an interesting, naughty, secret life, or even just regular, not so naughty life that you want to talk about while remaining anonymous or not anonymous, if you're out and proud, that's cool too. You can be on the show.

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19.204 - 38.398 Kathy Kay

I also look for like health related stories now. I If you have any kind of interesting health story, I love stuff like that health and fitness story. You could send me an email at strictly anonymous podcast at gmail.com or just go to my website, strictly anonymous podcast.com and click on be on the show.

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38.459 - 59.19 Kathy Kay

If you have a naughty confession that you want to leave on my confessions hotline, you could do that 24 seven. The number is 347-420-3579. That's 347-420-3579. 420-3579. Some of those confessions make it onto a confessions episode and I talk about them. The rest of them all go up on my Patreon. My Patreon is a great place.

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59.21 - 77.052 Kathy Kay

Listen, if you're annoyed with these beginning intros and you don't want to hear effing ads and you want to see a hot picks of all the females who have called into my show, plus take part in all of the polls and questions and contests we have over on my Patreon, join my Patreon for just $7 a month. That's like super cheap. I also throw in a complimentary...

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77.032 - 98.652 Kathy Kay

link to my private discord uh my discord is great we're having the annual dick pic contest coming up so you want to join so you could take part in the infamous dick pic contest last year i we did the dick pic contest we got like 250 dick pics okay winner is going to get 300 bucks okay so if you want to join that you got to get into my discord i do throw in complimentary

98.632 - 128.065 Kathy Kay

access to my private discord if you join my patreon like i said it's just seven dollars a month and you could cancel at any time or you could buy my book i have a book it's called strictly anonymous confession secret sex lives of total strangers it's like 17 stories from my show told in the third person they're quick short stories think like penthouse forum letters or naughty true stories all in one book it's available in e-back format paperback format and finally the audio book is available

128.045 - 146.39 Kathy Kay

coming out August 25th, but you could pre-order it now. And if you buy my book in any format or pre-order it, send me a screenshot of your order and I'll also give you complimentary access to my private Discord. My Discord is effing great. That's where you could go in and post your own stuff. My Discord is super fun. People get very naughty on there.

146.43 - 166.854 Kathy Kay

We have lots of contests, tons of different channels with all kinds of content, but it is private and I only give links to either my guests, if you call into the show, You get a link to my Discord or get my book or join my Patreon. You get it from all that. Last thing I want to tell you about is if you are looking to get into the lifestyle, the site I recommend to everybody is SDC.com.

167.015 - 173.822 Kathy Kay

SDC.com is like the world's largest online adult dating site, but it's so much more than a dating site.

Chapter 2: What led James to bring up his hotwifing fantasy to Jess?

173.862 - 184.933 Kathy Kay

It's more than a pickup place, okay? You go on there, you're going to learn everything about the lifestyle. They have live events. They have educational stuff that you can learn on there. They also will tell you where all the gang bangs and swinger clubs and

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184.913 - 210.162 Kathy Kay

orgies and parties that are going on in your area and your neighborhood or if you're traveling you can find out what's going on there too that's what's great about sdc it's like a one-stop shop for the lifestyle and if you use my code 37712 you're gonna get a free trial so you could check it out so go to sdc.com use code 37712 or just go to the description and click on the link all the links everything i told you about including my patreon is in the description so

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210.142 - 230.944 Kathy Kay

Anyway, today I have on James and Jess. They are super fun. Oh my God, there was a couple times with James and I'm just like, what the fuck? He's so funny. There's a couple of things that I was like, oh, I can't believe it. But it's a fun conversation. James has this wife, Jess, who I'm like, oh, my God, she's so much nicer than me. She's married. They've been together for a very long time.

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231.225 - 246.544 Kathy Kay

And, you know, he was always a super jealous, like Latin guy, very possessive of her and stuff. But eventually he started like a lot of guys, like kind of getting into watching videos online of like guys, wives with other guys. And he started getting into that.

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246.524 - 268.583 Kathy Kay

kink which was so even surprising for him right because he's like a super jealous guy and then he eventually and he tells the whole long-winded story I'm just telling you the short version he eventually tells her she eventually decides to be okay with it and try it out and they wind up doing it she's definitely into black guys they explain why she's calls herself like a queen of spades hot wife now and

268.563 - 286.764 Kathy Kay

She has had a bunch of experiences and they go through the first one and then the second one and they talk about all their rules that they had. That's where I go off on James. Wait till you hear one of his rules he had for her and how nice she was about it. And they talk about how it has affected the relationship and how things have changed. They eventually did start an OnlyFans and an Instagram.

287.264 - 306.005 Kathy Kay

I will put the name of it and they give a shout out to it at the end. But their whole story of how they went from being like a vanilla couple and they had actually, I forgot about this, In the beginning, after they had kids, they did have issues with Jess really not being into sex. And she eventually went on testosterone therapy. And she talks about that as well.

306.125 - 307.387 Kathy Kay

And that's super interesting, too.

Chapter 3: How did Jess transition from reluctance to embracing hotwifing?

307.427 - 321.402 Kathy Kay

So anyway, their whole story is interesting. They're a fun couple to talk to. They both called in together. I have hot pics of Jess over on my Patreon. You could sign up there to see pics of her and all my other guests. But anyway, I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with James and Jess.

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321.382 - 340.983 Kathy Kay

Hi, James and Jess, you guys are both sitting in a car ready to talk to me that I can't tell you how many people are doing that. I always make jokes that people are either cheating adults, the only things they do in their cars drive to their destination, cheat with a partner or they're calling into my show. This is what adults are doing in their car. So many couples are calling me from the car.

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341.003 - 358.054 Kathy Kay

It's so funny. So is your James and Jess, Jess is the hot wife, queen of spades, hot wife. Okay. Whenever I put that in a title, people go crazy for it. I don't know. The whole interracial thing is really a big, you know, but anyway, I have you both on the call, right? Just the claims to say this.

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358.034 - 383.198 Kathy Kay

seems to think she's a bad storyteller but we'll we'll see okay just we definitely want to hear from you okay so make sure to chime in and talk but like where do you guys want to start first of all tell me first you guys like how long you've been married and how long you guys been together and how around how old are you okay so we're in our mid 40s in our 40s and uh she's slightly a little bit older than i am you like the older women yeah

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384.511 - 409.303 Kathy Kay

uh i don't know that that's what it was she pursued me i would say oh i like it so jess is not a good storyteller but she's aggressive we've been married for 22 years okay and so before you guys got into this what was your like you know life in the bedroom like so so our so our bedroom like it's

410.127 - 421.782 James

How can I say it started off spicy when we first when we first met, we were having sex everywhere. Like it was just, you know, by the by the lake in a car.

422.163 - 424.426 Unknown

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

424.446 - 430.454 James

In the car during the day. Yeah. You know, in front of my parents house, you know, crazy like that.

430.474 - 434.158 Kathy Kay

You just couldn't keep your hands off each other. I feel like that's how it should be in the beginning. Right.

Chapter 4: What rules did Jess and James establish for their hotwifing experiences?

434.539 - 436.962 James

Right. Right. And then kids.

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437.245 - 463.658 James

know the whole kids thing oh i know uh yeah and then for many years i would say uh it was just we were kind of just going through the motions you know yeah how many kids did you have it was so good yeah i mean it wasn't bad sex was good but it wasn't great i would say it wasn't the way it is now where it's just like amazing right but so and i used to be a super jealous person right the typical story

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464.11 - 488.65 James

is i was a super jealous guy like if anyone even ogled your girl would you get pissed off oh yeah yeah oh yeah yeah yeah i was i was constantly looking to see who was looking at my girl you know she's a latina with a big old booty you know she's yeah so you know guys are checking her out exactly and i was young and dumb you know full of testosterone you know that yeah and and you're latina too you're a latin too

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489.018 - 489.278 Kathy Kay

Me?

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489.298 - 489.779 James

Yes.

489.839 - 495.947 Kathy Kay

So it's your culture, don't you think, a little bit? Exactly. To be very possessive and jealous and hot-headed. Yes.

496.748 - 500.172 James

Yeah, possessive for sure. I saw her more as like a possession.

500.232 - 504.498 Kathy Kay

Yeah, yeah. I think it's a part of your culture a little bit. Exactly.

504.658 - 517.675 James

Yeah, it's a bad thing. And I guess the older that I got, I just started realizing certain things. Stuff like that is just nonsense, you know? Yeah. But yeah, so yeah, I was super jealous.

Chapter 5: How has hotwifing impacted Jess and James's relationship?

542.967 - 567.152 James

and and so it just went on that way and we got to a point where i noticed that we were having sex but it was mainly for me i could feel like she was she was just doing it for me she wasn't trying to get off and i was good at first and then i was and then later i was like no i don't i don't like this i i want her to get off like that's my whole thing is

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568.448 - 578.62 Kathy Kay

I think most guys are like that. That's what I say all the time. And I think it's very true. People tend to think guys are super selfish. But typically, I think men really want to please a woman. It feeds their ego, right?

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579.481 - 606.439 James

For sure. So she would tell me that she had very low energy. She's like, I want to have sex with you, but I just don't feel the drive. And I think I had listened to your podcast before. And then other podcasts as well. And, you know, they were talking about getting women on testosterone. And I take, you know, you're going to frown on this. You're going to frown on this big time. Oh, no.

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608.302 - 626.473 James

But, well, I don't know that we started this way. But anyway, I did have her go to the doctor. And the doctor is a buddy of mine. And we kind of, you know, told him the whole thing. And he agreed, you know, to get her on test. And so, so I started and she was okay with it. I was super nervous about that.

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626.513 - 633.461 James

Like even bringing that up to her because I thought she was going to shoot it down and she was going to be like, no, no, no. You know, she was open to it.

633.501 - 636.364 Kathy Kay

Jess, you were like, you were down. You wanted to get your sex drive back.

636.825 - 641.05 Jess

Yes. Yes. Because I mean, like you said, it was super hot at the beginning.

Chapter 6: What experiences did Jess have with her first hotwifing encounters?

641.09 - 654.845 Jess

And then of course, you know, I became a mom and we had kids and, and I still wanted to please him because I've always been the type of person that's like, You know, they say happy wife, happy life. But no, it's happy husband, happy wife, happy life. Everyone needs to be happy.

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654.945 - 655.486 Unknown

Yeah.

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655.766 - 668.343 Jess

Yes. You keep him happy and he's going to, you know, do everything to make you happy. Totally. And so I always try to make him happy at home. And it was just hard because I didn't have the energy. I didn't have the drive, but I wanted to please him.

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668.723 - 674.511 Kathy Kay

And all that is testosterone, especially because you're saying energy, too. You know, that's all testosterone. That's right.

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674.491 - 691.339 Jess

Yeah. So as soon as I mentioned it to the doctor, I said, I don't really have a six drive. I said, and I'm just tired. And he said, you're low on testosterone. And I said, you know what? That's what my husband said. I made you blood work. And sure enough, he put me on testosterone and And it was great. It was great. Immediately. It was great.

691.359 - 695.005 Kathy Kay

How did you take your testosterone? Was it a cream? Was it a? No.

Chapter 7: Why do Jess and James prefer black men for their hotwifing?

695.265 - 718.913 Jess

Like in between the thighs. And I was on that for a couple of years. After a while, I started kind of not working as good. And so I went back and he said, you know what? We need to do like an injection. And he said, it'll be very minimal. And I was just afraid of the side effects, you know? And so at first he had me on quite a bit. So I was having the side effects. What were the side effects?

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719.354 - 721.698 Jess

Well, the breakouts and the just.

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721.718 - 722.099 Unknown

Oh, yeah.

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722.119 - 741.221 Jess

That's how you know. You know, certain things like that. Yep. And we we backed off a little bit. And so finally, I think I'm at the point where I'm good now because I don't have the breakouts anymore. And, you know, everything else. Because you got to dial in. Yes. And so, I mean, I take very little, but we were taking it twice a week.

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741.241 - 745.495 Kathy Kay

But what was I going to hate you for? You haven't told me yet. Did you just start dipping into her injections or something?

745.735 - 768.098 James

Well, I forgot that we did go to the doctor and all that, but there was at a point where I think she stopped the cream and she used a little bit of my testosterone. Oh my God. Maybe that's why she was breaking out. Listen, Kathy, I know you frown on that, but listen, it's the exact same thing. Mine's prescribed as well.

Chapter 8: What are Jess and James's future plans for their hotwifing lifestyle?

768.72 - 772.488 James

And It's the same bottle. You know, you just give her less.

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773.09 - 785.397 Kathy Kay

I know, but when you look at the formula, sometimes it's like five milligrams of this amount. I can't explain it, but it's okay. You're past that now. She's being dosed by the doctors, right? I'm an expert at this stuff.

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785.377 - 813.088 Kathy Kay

so then I did mention it to the doctor and he said if you want to try a little bit of your husband's like a little one he told me stop I can't even handle doctors that say shit like that yeah and so I said okay we'll try it and we tried it and sure enough and it works amazing okay no I cannot promote anyone using anyone else's medication but I can promote yeah no no I can promote testosterone for women it does work and it was a game changer for you right

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813.068 - 826.012 Kathy Kay

Yeah. Yeah. It saves women's lives. It's really great. And men too. It saves marriages too, I feel like. Yeah, for sure. For sure. Okay. So now you're on testosterone, you're back to being horny. Yes.

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826.853 - 832.343 James

Yeah. So then our sex just, you know, was back to normal again. Well,

832.812 - 861.504 James

above normal it was she was wanting to in the mornings and at night every morning and every night thanks and it was great yeah and so i would still so i would still watch porn every now and then you know you know because obviously we're you know we're parents and sometimes one parent is angry you know it's not always still watch porn separately i mean i think it's more normal Yeah.

861.524 - 865.249 James

Well, you know, and at the time she was still a little bit against it.

865.269 - 869.235 Jess

I was against it because I felt like I should be the one turning you on and I should be.

869.255 - 872.88 Kathy Kay

Oh, my God, that has nothing. It doesn't mean it doesn't mean that he's not turned on.

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