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Chapter 1: What led Julie to explore group sex and BDSM?
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Chapter 2: How did Julie's marriage impact her sexual exploration?
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She's not really into, she doesn't really have a fetish, but Julie is into all kinds of things. She's very into... kink kind of BDSM I mean she likes a lot of pain she talks about that she talks about how she got started and really opened herself up to all kinds of sexual experiences she was only dating women early on she had a 10-year marriage with a woman and a baby she talks about that
And when that didn't work out, she solely started dating guys and she was just looking to like explore herself sexually. She got into group sex, play parties, and then pain, CNC scenarios that she's really into. And she just is a very much, she calls herself like a nerd.
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Chapter 3: What experiences did Julie have at her first play party?
She loves education and being educated and really sort of like looking into things deeply. And she does all her sexual experiences that she talks about, her pain and her pleasure and why she's into it and what it means to her and how she's, how therapeutic it's been for her and in what way. And it's like really super interesting. She's great. She's interesting. You're going to love her story.
So I'm just going to get right to it and be right back on with Julie.
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Hi, Julie. Welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you today?
Oh, hi, Katie. I'm good. Actually, it's a night here.
Oh, my God. Wait, I got to tell people we were talking before we started taping. You're like, oh, yeah, I grew up in Russia, but I moved to Bali. I was like, oh, my God, you've got my fantasy life.
Like, I feel like all of like regular people like me, you know, whenever we're going through stress or something, we're just like, I just wish I could like give it all up and live on an island someplace beautiful. You're like Bali. You know what I mean? Like, I know people that do that, but I would never do it in my life. But I admire you. You know, how long you live there for?
Almost four years now.
Is it amazing?
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Chapter 4: How does Julie define her relationship with pain and pleasure?
Should we start with like your dating girls or like going back? to like that part of your life? Yeah, sure.
Well, I will start a bit earlier.
Okay, good, good.
Yeah, I grew up in Russia and like usually what you get in Russia about like sex education or things like this, it's like nothing. The only thing I was told by my mom, like use condoms. That's the only thing. Do whatever you want, but just use condoms. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like nobody explain you stuff, how, when, like, yeah, you know, nothing. And you kind of explore yourself.
And I had a few relationships with guys that were monogamous, vanilla, very conservative and everything. And then, as I'm a very rebellious person, I don't like to be told what to do. I don't like to fit in a box or something like this. I was like, okay, let's explore girls.
Yeah, interesting. How old were you when you realized you wanted to explore women? Do you remember around then?
21 okay cool 22 yeah something like this first it was like oh forbidden fruit and something from this part and then I started to have like a relationship with a few girls and like the last relationship I had for Six and a half years. Like, technically, we were not married because, as you know, in Russia, it's illegal. So, yeah, but we had a family and we eventually had a kid together.
And, yeah, so... It was it turned out to be a very serious journey for 10 years.
How does it work with two women when you're having a baby? Like, do you use both eggs to get a couple different embryos? And then like you did one embryo with one person's egg first, and then you're going to do it with someone else's second? Like, how did you decide? Do you mind me asking? I'll edit it out because I did surrogate and I did, you know, my own shit.
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Chapter 5: What role does communication play in BDSM relationships?
Yeah.
But it didn't work. And then we tried at home. He just gave us his sperm and she inseminated me. Wait, was it like a turkey baster?
Yes. You know, listen, there was like this crazy story recently in the news, maybe like a year ago. I don't know where literally because listen, you know, I would be like, how could you get pregnant from a turkey baster?
But there was this story in this prison where two prisoners, male and female, actually like the male, like jerked off and somehow sent his sperm like through the pipes to the girl. And she actually got pregnant by inseminating. Oh, my God.
But if you could take your sperm and send it through the pipes and inseminate someone like, you know, if the guy's right there and he gives it to your girl and he puts it right in, boom, you're pregnant. That's like amazing and cheaper than doing IUIs and IVF and all that shit. I did all that when I need to get pregnant because I was doing it on my own.
Yes, yes, yes. It's like when you have a guy there, like it was our friend and we could use him like anytime. So it was like, and like at home, it's like the atmosphere is more calm. You're not nervous and you're with your partner. And like, then you lay legs up. And that's it.
Yeah, yeah. I was thinking you were gonna say you like had sex with him, because you're like, whatever, let's do it that way. You know, I didn't know. Okay. But anyway, let's get to your life. I might edit that all out, just because you have so much to talk about it. That's so much. People are like, get to the fucking sex. Who cares about the baby? Yeah. Okay, so let's all right.
So you're married to that woman. And the whole time? Are you guys monogamous in that relationship? Yes, yes.
We had like in the beginning of our relationship, I was like testing the ground. I was exploring Shibari a bit. And when we met, she was like, oh, if you're into this shit, like we're not going to be together. Oh, okay.
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Chapter 6: How does Julie navigate her identity as a switch in BDSM?
I was like, oh, very, very, very, like very conservative person. And I'm like, okay, I'm in love here. And I want to... proceed with her right and I was like okay I can push down whatever I have and like just be with her but what I figured out you can't push down like this type of desires and they eventually came up Oh, really? Yeah, it was a problem.
Because after some time, like, we spend a lot of good time together and we had a baby. And like, you know, when the baby's growing up, like he's one, two, three years, you just spend a lot of time like family stuff.
Yeah.
And then I was like, okay, but what's, what's next?
Yeah. You eventually get back to yourself when you have a kid, you know, there's a while where you're just like so focused on the baby, but eventually you get back to yourself and you're like, and that's when you were like, well, what about all these kinds of desires that you have?
Yes. And sexually we were very disconnected. Like personally wise. Yes. Everything was great, but sexually it's like we were looking different directions for sure. And like, and yeah, By that time, I couldn't talk about it very clearly. I couldn't express what I want. And I started to tell her, maybe we try open relationship. And we even went to couple therapy.
And it seemed like it was working, but it wasn't because she was not ready to open and be very honest about it. about it, so it ended up she was cheating on me. And it was like the most ridiculous thing ever. I was like, I'm offering you. Yes. I'm like, I'm offering you with another girl.
So, yeah. This vanilla girl. You're the horny, non-vanilla one that wants to try all these things, and she's the vanilla conservative one, and she's the cheater. Terrible.
Well, yes, but like now I appreciate this move so much because otherwise we would be together maybe much longer and we would suffer more. So it was a good thing.
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Chapter 7: What therapeutic benefits does Julie find in her kink experiences?
I believe that. I've never, you know, I look back on every, even the most devastating things that happened to me were a blessing, right? Oh, yeah. And it's great to work through that. Okay. So now when you leave and you get divorced from her, what happens? Because you have all these desires. I'm assuming you get at it. You get to it.
Yes. Well, yeah, I was like, okay, let's see what is in this world. And I just started with dating apps. Like first it was just Tinder or whatever, like simple things. I was just like seeing what is out. And then, uh, I was going to some events here. We don't have much happening here, but, uh, we have a community like kink BDSM community.
And people were talking about like sex parties, DSM parties. And I'm like, okay, that's interesting. And I started to go, started to talk, started to participate, like looking. And I started to meet men because like somehow I didn't want, anything to do with girls, not like anything to do. I still think I'm bisexual. I'm attracted to girls. But I wanted sex with a man.
Yeah, maybe it was something different. You know, you had been with a woman for 10 years. Right?
Yeah, yes, yes, yes. Yes. Yeah, I've been with women. But now it's like, I don't even know how to explain it. But like, I wanted this like man energy. And I just started to meet just random people from apps just for sex to experience things.
So random guys is what you're talking about right here, for sure.
Yes, yes, yes. Well, like, I mean, they're random, but we were, like, connecting, like, chatting and whatever. But, like, mostly it was for sex. Sometimes it was, like, one night stands or something. But for me, it was very interesting because, like, when I was younger, I didn't have this opportunity.
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Chapter 8: How does Julie advocate for de-shaming kinks and BDSM?
I was always like in a relationship or something, but now I was like, okay, let's see.
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I started to visit sex parties here. Like in the beginning, it was like, oh my God.
Now let me ask you this. Did you go looking for the sex parties or did you like happen to meet a guy, one of the guys that you were hanging out with and he like turned you on to it? Or was this like something that you went looking for? I mean, it doesn't make a difference, but I'm just curious how you wound up at your first one.
So I was going to this Shibari events. Like people were gathering once a week and just tying clothes like doing shows. And there were people that were talking about sex parties and I was sitting next to them and like, tell me, tell me what is happening there. Oh, you just go there. You just talk, you just meet people. And I'm like, Oh my God, how it's possible. You fuck in front of other people.
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