Chapter 1: What struggles did Sheryl Lee Ralph face on her journey to success?
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You're listening to TED Talks Daily, where we bring you new ideas to spark your curiosity every day. I'm your host, Elise Hu. Happy New Year. We are continuing to share a handful of talks, conversations, and podcast episodes from the TED Archive to inspire you for 2026. Over the past week, we have explored themes of introspection, curiosity, regret, and more.
Today, it's fitting to explore how to love and believe in ourselves. We couldn't think of a better talk to share than this one from Emmy Award-winning actor Cheryl Lee Ralph. Cheryl is a force, delivering iconic performances on stage and screen. But she didn't always know if she'd make it big.
In a lively talk sparkling with actionable advice and Cheryl's unmatched charisma, she shares how her struggles taught her what it takes to believe in herself and how we can all find... the self-confidence to keep moving forward.
I am an endangered species, but I sing no Victim song I am a woman I am an artist And I know Where my voice Belongs Now, you might have heard me sing that song. It was September 12th, 2022, right after Amy Poehler and Seth Meyers said, and the winner is Cheryl Lee Ralph!
I had just won the Emmy Award for Best Supporting Actress in a Comedy for my role as Mrs. Barbara Howard on your favorite TV show, Abbott Elementary. Oh, yes. And I was shocked, as the children would say, shooketh, into disbelief. Oh my goodness, it was my first time at the Emmys, and I won! Yes!
And I've got to tell you, in that moment, I was so stunned into disbelief that I don't know how I got up on the stage. There I was, just listening to that roar of applause, and my whole career flashed right there in front of me, starting with 19-year-old Cheryl Lee in her first movie being directed by the great Sidney Poitier. Oh yeah, you can clap that.
Followed by 10 years of no after no after no. before the next film role came about. But I filled in that time with TV and more no's and more rejection, until I made it big on Broadway in what has become the iconic musical of the 80s, because I say so. Dreamgirls. And boy, did I learn a lot of life lessons there. And I mean, after so many moments of doubt, disbelief, there I was.
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Chapter 2: How did winning an Emmy impact Sheryl Lee Ralph's self-belief?
Number one, first, We need to see ourselves. I mean really, truly, deeply see ourselves for who and what we are in order to believe in ourselves. I'm a child of the 60s, and that was hard. Ooh. In the third grade, I tested out of public school into a fancy private school. where the only black person I saw every day was the one who looked back at me in the mirror.
I was by myself, and I was all alone. And the things that were said to me, and I'm not talking about just the kids, but the adults too, And when I would come home from school crying the ugly cry, my immigrant Jamaican mother would sit me down in front of the mirror and ask me, do you see an N-word? Do you see a liar? Do you see a big-lipped monkey? No!
So dry your eyes, and when you go back to school, remember, you are rubber, they are glue, and every ignorant thing they say about you bounces off of you and sticks to them. And I believed her. And it didn't hurt so much. Because I believed. Number two. We've got to think. Think about ourselves in order to believe in ourselves. Growing up, my dad had a sign on his desk, and it said, Think.
Ooh, I did not know how valuable and powerful the simple act of thinking was until I came back to Hollywood from my triumphant run on Broadway, and I had this meeting with a big studio Hollywood casting director. Oh, I was so excited. I walked in, and he looked at me, and he said, Everybody knows you're a beautiful, talented black girl. But what do I do with a beautiful, talented black girl?
Do I put you in a movie with Tom Cruise? Does he kiss you? Who goes to see that movie? I could not believe that that man had just said that to me, to my face. And he hurt me. He hurt me so deeply, I was actually thinking about quitting. Until ... I started to think. And I thought about what he said. He said that everybody knew that I was a beautiful, talented black girl.
And that I deserved to be cast in movies with the likes of Tom Cruise, and he should kiss me! So what was meant to break me did not break me. It built me up. I believed that man. I believed what he said. And I walked out of there giving myself permission to take up space in Hollywood knowing that I belonged there no matter what anybody thought about me. Thirdly,
We got to act like we believe in ourselves. Oh, yeah. Because when we believe in ourselves and act on it, we create possibilities that never would have been possible had we not just believed. OK, so I will tell you another story.
I will never forget walking to one of those crowded Hollywood rooms, and I see Harry Thomason, producer Harry Thomason, who is married to Linda Bloodworth Thomason, writer-creator of the series Designing Women. I walk right up to Harry, and guess what happened? I got cast as Etienne Toussaint Bouvier, Las Vegas showgirl turned Anthony's wife for the final season of Designing Women. Oh, yeah.
Against all odds, once again, I gave myself permission to take up space, believing that I belonged. I believed that if Cheryl Lee did the work of honing her craft, building solid relationships and stayed ready so she didn't have to get ready, anything was possible. Heck, winning an Emmy, a Grammy, an Oscar, a Tony. He got it, baby.
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Chapter 3: What are the three essential steps to believing in yourself?
And if you can't respect it, then encourage it. If you can't encourage it, empower it. And if you can't empower it, please be kind to it. The greatest relationship, the greatest one, you will ever have is with yourself. Believe me. Have faith in yourself, believing that faith can make broken wings fly and we deserve to soar. Remember,
Maybe one of these days when you pass the mirror and you catch a glimpse of yourself, remember I told you this. That is what believing looks like.
Chapter 4: How can seeing ourselves clearly help in building self-confidence?
And don't you ever, ever, ever give up on you. I am Cheryl Lee Ralph, and I love you just the way you are. Believe in yourself as I believe in you. Thank you!
That was Cheryl Lee Ralph speaking at TED 2023. If you're curious about TED's curation, find out more at TED.com slash curation guidelines. And that's it for today. TED Talks Daily is part of the TED Audio Collective. This talk was fact-checked by the TED Research Team and produced and edited by our team, Martha Estefanos, Oliver Friedman, Brian Green, Lucy Little, and Tansika Sangmarnivong.
This episode was mixed by Lucy Little. Additional support from Emma Taubner and Daniela Balarezo. I'm Elise Hu. I'll be back tomorrow with a fresh idea for your feed. Thanks for listening.
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Matt Wilson spent years doing rounds at children's hospitals in New York City.
I had a clip-on tie. I wore Heelys, size 11.
Matt was a medical clown.
The role of a medical clown is to reintroduce the sense of play and joy and hope and light into a space that doesn't normally inhabit.
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