A practical guide to taking control of your life | Cate Hall

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Tiesitkö, että joka neljäs yli 40-vuotias mies kokee virtsan karkailua? Se on todella yleistä, mutta siitä ei silti juuri puhuta. Tenamen suojat on suunniteltu erityisesti miehille. Huomaamattomat, varmat ja luotettavat. Ota tilanne haltuun Tenamenin avulla.

29.41 - 55.28 Elise Hu

You're listening to TED Talks Daily, where we bring you new ideas to spark your curiosity every day. I'm your host, Elise Hu. What do desperation and freedom have in common? In this deeply personal talk, entrepreneur Kate Hall shares her own journey from her battle with addiction to CEO, and how the gift of desperation, as she calls it, led her to finding once inconceivable kinds of freedom and purpose in her life.

55.28 - 78.601 Elise Hu

Hän muistaa meitä, että ei kuitenkaan mitenkään, mitä kokeilemme, jos pystymme oppimaan löytämään yksityiskohtaisia tuotantoja sisällä, voimme yhdistää ilmaisuuden ja vahvuuden. Viisi vuotta sitten olin rikollinen omassa elämässäni. Olin toivottavasti rikollinen.

80.423 - 107.238 Kate Hall

Joka aamu minä aloittaisin ulos, aloitin rauhoittamaan, ja sitten olin päivän jälkeen käyttänyt, paitsi ymmärrettäväksi, kun päädyin ulos uudestaan viikonloppuun. Kävin monta kuukautta tällä tavalla. Minulla ei ole paljon muistoja siitä aikaa, mutta yksi asia, jonka muistan hyvin selvästi, on tämä ongelmallinen tuntee ja rauha, jota tunsin, kun katsoin normaalia ihmisiä tekemään normaalia asiaa.

172.021 - 201.518 Kate Hall

I think what changed was even more fundamental. It was developing a sense of personal agency, which I think about as the capacity to both see and act on all of the degrees of freedom we actually have. It's about being able to find the hidden doors in the walls of life. I want to argue that when it comes to living a satisfying and meaningful life, agency is actually much more important than the things we usually think about as critical to success.

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kuten tietoja ja työtä, jotka ovat toisistaan useita, jos niitä ei tarvita, ja jotka tulevat olemaan vähemmän ja vähemmän tärkeämpiä, kun niitä lisäämme koneille. Näin viimeisenä Garyn Tanin puheenvuoron, Y-Kombinaattorin CEO, jonka tykkäsin todella. Hän sanoi, että tieto on nyt päällä, joten agenssi on vielä tärkeämpi.

224.435 - 254.32 Kate Hall

For all of the freedom that addiction took from me, I think it actually gave me an unnatural advantage when it came to cultivating agency. And that's because, while agency has many mothers, one of them is certainly desperation. Addicts call this the gift of desperation, actually. The willingness to do whatever it takes to change your life. To embarrass yourself by standing up in front of a room full of strangers and saying, my name is Kate and I'm a drug addict.

314.935 - 342.779 Kate Hall

Muistamisen tunteeksi auttoi myös oppimaan hyvin nopeasti. Minulla oli kärsimystä, mikä tarkoitti, etten aina ymmärtänyt asioita, eikä pystynyt vaikuttamaan siihen. Joten olin hyvä sanoa, että en ymmärrä, mitä aiemmin sanoit. Voitko selittää se minulle? Situatioissa, joissa olisin voinut ymmärtää asiaa aiemmin. Ylipäätään, ihmiset rakastavat selittää asioita. Se on täysin win-win.

343.285 - 356.178 Kate Hall

I have great news, which is that you don't need to ruin your life and then rebuild it in order to learn to be more agentic. I do think it helps to be some kind of desperate, but there's always something to be desperate for.

357.275 - 384.258 Kate Hall

I felt that during COVID, as friends and I watched low-income countries struggle with vaccinations because they lacked adequate cold chain storage. So we created a company that created a shelf-stable vaccine, and we let that desperation drive us into clinical trials in under six months, faster than any startup in history. I felt another kind of desperation early on in my marriage, when it seemed like there was an invisible wall between the two of us.

427.559 - 447.877 Kate Hall

I gave the example of learning to connect with my husband, but I could have just as easily spoken from personal experience about learning to be more optimistic or curious. I think most traits that people treat as fixed are actually quite learnable, if you both believe that they are and put the same kind of effort into learning them that you would anything else.

449.547 - 475.72 Kate Hall

Second, court rejection. We spend our lives carefully avoiding it, but if you're only aiming for things you get, you're doing yourself a disservice. In fact, sometimes you have to aim for things that feel unreasonable to make sure your instinct about what's reasonable is right. Last time I was applying for a job, I told a couple people, I'm thinking about starting an organization much like your own. Can I run yours instead?

477.813 - 504.745 Kate Hall

A little delusional, maybe. But the thing is, sometimes delusional works. Third, seek real feedback. Pretty much every one of us has something holding us back that we're completely blind to and that's obvious to other people. Don't you want to know what that is? The single best way to find out is to give people a way to tell you anonymously.

589.103 - 615.04 Elise Hu

If you're curious about TED's curation, find out more at TED.com slash curation guidelines. And that's it for today's show. TED Talks Daily is part of the TED Audio Collective. This episode was produced and edited by our team, Martha Estefanos, Oliver Friedman, Brian Green, Lucy Little, Alejandra Salazar, and Tonsika Sarmarnivon. It was mixed by Christopher Faisy-Bogan. Additional support from Emma Taubner and Daniela Balarezo.

615.04 - 619.883 Elise Hu

Olen Elise Hu, olen takaisin huomenna uudelleen uuden idean tehtävänne. Kiitos, että kuuntelit.

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Tiesitkö, että joka neljäs yli 40-vuotias mies kokee virtsan karkailua? Se on todella yleistä, mutta siitä ei silti juuri puhuta. Tenamen suojat on suunniteltu erityisesti miehille. Huomaamattomat, varmat ja luotettavat. Ota tilanne haltuun Tenamenin avulla.