Going viral taught me the internet is broken — but fixable | Deja Foxx
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You're listening to TED Talks Daily, where we bring you new ideas and conversations to spark your curiosity every day. I'm your host, Elise Hu. Deja Fox was 16 years old when she went viral online, and it turned her life upside down. In her talk, the activist and content creator shares the good and bad sides of online fame and how it led her to recognize the importance of women-owned and led social media platforms. To create a safer, more equitable, and more inclusive online world, Deja says we must build the girl internet of the future. After her talk, check out my interview with Deja on this feed. We sat down while on site at the TED conference in Vancouver in 2025 for our Beyond the Talk interview series to learn more about her work.
I was born and raised in Tucson, Arizona, by a single mom. And when I was 15 years old, I moved out because of her struggles with substance abuse. The next year, 2017, while living with my boyfriend and his family, my senator voted to strip the funding that I needed when I walked into a clinic with no money, no insurance and no parents to walk out with the birth control I needed to take control of my body. my future. It was personal, and I told him so at a town hall meeting in Mesa. I asked, if birth control was helping me to be successful, reach for higher education, why would he deny me the American dream? Millions of people saw that video overnight. I had gone viral. My life went from private, to public, requests from CNN rolled in to go live.
The Washington Post called me the new face of Planned Parenthood. Social media put me, a 16-year-old girl working at a gas station, on even footing in the public discourse with a United States senator. My world has opened up in unimaginable ways because of social media, both good and bad. And in the nearly decade since, it's made possible things I couldn't have even imagined. But I've seen the dark side of insidious algorithms and the ways that companies profit from them. Like the day in 2021 when a stranger labeled me the enemy. Four days later, hundreds of thousands of impressions, 60,000 likes, 4,000 retweets, 600 replies later, and this cybermob had filled my DMs and comments across all social media platforms.
And now I need you to be in my shoes for a second. 20 years old, isolated by an ongoing pandemic, and to reach for your phone first thing in the morning because it's also your alarm. To wake up to threats to your personal safety and information. Have a notification center full of comments about how you look and speculation on an identity that you yourself are only just coming to build. Social media platforms didn't have a solution for the hate that they facilitated, but young people in my community did. Maya and I met on Instagram through Gen Z Girl Gang. That's the digital collective I founded out of my dorm in 2019. And ever since, we've been committed to redefining the practice of sisterhood in digital spaces.
How did Deja Foxx's viral moment change her life?
In 2021, we had never met in real life. But when I needed her, she was there. She sent me a text, a lifeline. If I can be honest with you, send me your passwords. She went in and deleted hateful comments and DMs before I could ever even see them, knowing that otherwise I would be forced to open, experience and clear each and every one alone. We deserve respect for our rights, privacy and safety by design, not as an afterthought.
What are the challenges of online fame according to Deja Foxx?
and clear protections against hate and harassment that are informed by our experiences, standing up for ourselves and our friends. I've seen countless gestures like this one in my time running this digital collective. In our pandemic support chats, girls who had never met volunteered their stimulus checks to help a long-distance bestie in need. They've shared thousands of internships, job opportunities, fellowships that have become career-making moments, first jobs for women they may never meet.
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