Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
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It's a small and big question at the same time. What makes for a meaningful life?
Chapter 2: What makes for a meaningful life?
In this beautiful archive talk, social psychologist Brian S. Lowry explores three ideas tied to the experience of meaning and shows why simply pursuing personal achievements isn't the best way to find it.
Life is amazing. Life is incredible. The experiences we have, the possibilities of personal achievement. You could summit Everest. You could create a huge, successful business. You could give a TED Talk. And when you're successful, it feels incredible. Success, the flush of excitement, the celebration, and you should celebrate.
congratulations, the posting on Instagram, wherever you put your stuff up, it all feels great. But when that fades, when that starts to fade, sometimes slowly, sometimes all at once, a question comes up. Is this it? Is this all there is? And so I'm going to tell you a little story about myself to give you a sense of this. So for those of you who don't know, I'm a professor at Stanford.
When I got my job, I was elated, elated, and a little bit terrified. And I was terrified because when you get a job like that, you know you're going to be reviewed in about seven years. And either you're going to be given tenure, more or less a job for life, or you're going to get fired.
It's a little bit like that movie, Gary Glenn Ross, the scene where Alec Baldwin's character goes in to give the motivational speech, and he says, it's going to be a competition. First prize, Cadillac Eldorado. Second prize, set of steak knives. Third prize, you're fired. It's a little bit like that, except there's no second prize.
And it turns out, as you might imagine, that has a way of focusing your mind. So I was really, really focused on doing good research, getting my papers published, doing well in the classroom, and all the other little things you need to do to get tenure. And seven years later, I made it. I made it. Thank you. And it was a huge relief, and I was so excited. I was so excited.
But that question came up. Is this it? Is this really all there is? And I reflected back, and I thought about the time I spent in undergrad, five years in grad school, the tears, and there were a lot of tears, the seven years of trying to get tenure. And I had expected, I had hoped that when I made it past that, when I succeeded, when I went through that threshold, life would feel different.
I would feel fulfilled. It would feel meaningful to me. My life would feel meaningful. But it turns out that wasn't what happened. Now, when psychologists talk about meaningfulness in life, what they're talking about is a sense that our lives matter, that the world makes sense, that we are more than the sum of our minutes, days and years on this planet.
Now, the research on meaningfulness in life suggests there are three big ideas associated with meaningfulness in life. The first big idea is coherence. The world needs to feel coherent. After winter comes spring, after spring comes summer, you get up in the morning, you brush your teeth, you have breakfast, you get the kids off to school, you go to work.
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Chapter 3: How does personal achievement relate to meaning?
Now, the third big idea, that many consider to be the most important, is significance. And the way I like to think about significance is the sense that you can transcend yourself, that you are more than what you are right now, that you will continue to matter into the future beyond this moment. this is where I think personal achievement falls short.
By definition, personal achievement focuses on you, to focus on the self. And if that's all there is, it's difficult to have significance. So when I want to think about meaningfulness in life, and significance in particular, it brings to mind a quote attributed to Leonardo da Vinci. Some of you might know it. So Leonardo da Vinci was purported to have said on his deathbed,
I have offended God and mankind because my work did not achieve the quality it should have. Now, I wasn't there, so I don't know if he said that exactly in that way, but here's the thing. You can imagine it. You understand it. You understand what it means to have even the most glorious achievements and still ask, is this enough? Is this it? Is this all I add up to?
When I look back and think about my time early on in my career, I think about when did it feel meaningful? What gave me a sense of meaning? What I think about were my PhD students. So one of the things that faculty do is train the next generation of faculty.
And so you have PhD students, and you have them for a significant amount of time, often it could be five to six years, and the relationships are pretty intense. So let me tell you about my first student, Miguel Enzueta.
So Miguel was born in El Paso, Texas, in a relatively low-income area, really smart kid, does well in school, ends up at the University of Texas at Austin, which is a great university, does well there, eventually ends up in the PhD program at Stanford. So Miguel gets there the year before I do, and by his own account, he's having a tough time.
It's a little rough, and it's rough in part because he doesn't have the cultural capital that many places like Stanford have. He doesn't understand how the place works, so he's struggling a little bit. Now, when I arrive, I'm really impressed because he's so smart, he's ambitious, and he's asking questions and interested in things that I'm interested in. So I'm really excited to work with him.
And so we started to work together, and again, it's really intense. I'm working with him for four years. We see each other almost every day, almost every day for those four years. And some days, we're working together 10 to 12 hours a day. So it's a very intense experience. And what I remember about that time was that I was really worried about doing enough to make sure he would be successful.
I was concerned. Am I being a good advisor? Am I giving him what he needs? Am I helping him in his story? Now, keep in mind, I want to get tenure. I still think I'm going to get fired. So even with that fear, I'm worried about what do I need to do to make sure Miguel can continue in his story and his journey. And by the way, he's been great. He got a job.
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