Have you ever felt like you’re always on guard in relationships — scanning every tone shift, bracing for abandonment, or waiting for the other shoe to drop? That’s hypervigilance: the body’s survival response that makes love feel unsafe, even when nothing is wrong.In this episode, I’m joined by Kieran Pollitt, Transformational Alchemist, for a deep conversation on what hypervigilance really feels like in the body and how to begin rewiring your nervous system so safety, not danger, becomes your baseline.Together, we explore:✨ The lived experience of hypervigilance — why your body feels like it’s “buzzing” with threat✨ How childhood survival strategies (like monitoring every mood shift) follow us into adult love✨ The hidden ways hypervigilance seeps into work, friendships, and even being alone✨ Practices that help the nervous system learn to rest, regulate, and receive love✨ What a supportive partner can actually do (and what to avoid)✨ The most important truth to hold onto if you’ve ever felt “too much” because of your hypervigilanceIf you’ve struggled with anxious attachment, panic when a partner pulls away, or exhaustion from always being “on,” this episode will remind you: hypervigilance is not who you are — it’s what happened to your nervous system. And healing is possible. 🕊️Connect with Kieran here: https://www.instagram.com/kieranpollitt_/Connect with Valerie here: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

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