Why is it SO easy to flirt with someone you don’t really care about, but the second you actually like someone, suddenly you forget how to be a human? 😂In this episode, I’m joined by Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, to break down how to ACTUALLY flirt without performing, overthinking every interaction, or making your entire dating experience about one question: “Do they like me?”Because when you struggle with dating anxiety or anxious attachment, attraction can feel incredibly high stakes. You’re analyzing their texts, replaying the date in your head, wondering if you were too much, looking for signs they’re pulling away, and trying to figure out exactly what to say or do to keep them interested.But what if flirting isn’t about convincing someone to like you?What if it’s simply about becoming comfortable expressing attraction, creating connection, and staying curious about whether YOU actually like them?Benjamin breaks down what people misunderstand about flirting, why anxiety can kill our natural ability to connect, and the actual anatomy of good flirting, from eye contact, teasing, compliments and physical attraction to creating emotional, spiritual and energetic connection.We also get into how flirting differs across cultures, whether flirting can be learned if you’ve always considered yourself awkward or “bad at dating,” masculine/feminine energetics during dating + how those dynamics can look different within LGBTQIA+ relationships.If you’ve ever left a date thinking, “Did they like me? Was I awkward? Did I say too much? Why haven’t they texted me?” Then this episode is for you.In this episode, we get into:✨ Why you suddenly forget how to flirt when you ACTUALLY like someone✨ How dating anxiety and anxious attachment interfere with attraction and connection✨ The biggest misconception people have about flirting✨ How to stop obsessing over “Do they like me?” and start asking “Do I like THEM?”✨ How to flirt if you feel awkward, shy, anxious or terrified of rejection✨ Eye contact, teasing, compliments, touch and other ways we create chemistry✨ Emotional, spiritual, energetic and physical ways of connecting w/someone✨ Why flirting can look completely different across cultures✨ Masculine and feminine energy in dating, courtship and LGBTQIA+ relationshipsHow to heal the fear of rejection and the fear of uncertainty in early stages of datingFlirting doesn’t have to be a performance designed to make someone want you.Sometimes it’s simply having the courage to say, “I’m attracted to you. I’m going to let you see that. And I don’t need to know exactly what happens next.”If anxiety or anxious attachment keeps showing up in your relationships, even when love is there, your body may still be living in the past. I am an anxious attachment specialist & trauma informed somatic coach who helps people heal their anxious attachment using somatic healing & nervous system regulation.I have 4 spots open for 1:1 somatic support for people who are ready to reduce their anxiety/anxious attachment patterns. Somatic work helps your nervous system release old survival patterns that were formed before you had words, patterns like fear of abandonment, constant scanning, or feeling like you have to hold everything together to stay loved.When your body feels safe, connection no longer feels like something you have to earn.Book your free discovery call here to see if we’re a good fit to work together: ⁠https://calendly.com/freedomwithvalerie/discovery-call⁠Connect with Benjamin on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/p/DWFFiVZk8jj/⁠Follow Benjamin's podcast here: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/3Ti023cM762SVaQOZrdWlv?si=dd2c0f32a18046dd⁠Check out Benjamin's products/1:1 here:⁠https://stan.store/benjamincamras?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAcGRvZgJleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZA85MzY2MTk3NDMzOTI0NTkAAafWP1g89CSX1XN-_QGtPHgEcKAD_SB8MUodbtwMlkruinxpJo30N4Qheo23oA_aem_O2j3FSLm8xQvgRE4XnBwjA⁠

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